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two different countries! :/
so i like this guy. he was in my school and passed out this year. i am a year junior to him so i'll pass out next year!
i have been talking to him for quite a while now.. and i really like him. he likes me too. he asked me out recently.(though we both are confused on what to do because.. the problem is he is going to another country :/ for his college! and yeah well he would come back to where i live cause his family is here, but still i mean i dont know what i should do?)
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Choose what you want. He won't be there forever. Personally I'd go for it.
xoxo,
dottie4
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Dearest,
You should think this throughout. Is this guy really worth it.
If you think it is just another guy who likes you and will break
your heart, think about it. But if you are absolutely sure you and
him might get together and that you will always love him, then
it was meant to be. If he really loves you he will wait for you to
finish college too and then start seeing you. You could start seeing
him now and them keep in contact for the years in college.
Remember it is better to have loved and lost than to never have
loved at all.
-Ask Alice
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Deal with now. All you have is this moment and not the future. The future doesn't exist yet. If you want a relationship go for it. You never know what may happen with plans falling through or him coming back from abroad. It's better to enjoy the relationship now than to have not had it.
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To be honest with you, I probably wouldn't pursue this relationship if I was you.
If you start dating him, and then he moves, you have a very serious long distance relationship. You two haven't had the time to bond and get to know each other as a couple, so it will be very hard to sustain a relationship.
And he is going to a whole new place with new people. At some point he is going to be interested in other girls. Because you two haven't been going out for a long period of time, he doesn't feel so attached to you or like it's worth it to miss out on other opportunities.
Out of experience, long distance is hard. You get jealous, you feel left out, you feel lonely. The only reason I do it is because I really care and love my boyfriend, and it's worth it when I do get to see him. Could I see myself putting in this effort when we had only been going out 1,2,3, or even 6 months? Probably not.
I mean, there could also be the chance that he is the love of your life. It's a risk you would have to take.
I say just spend time with him while you can, but don't promise to be exclusive when he starts school. If you two have something special, he'll come back to you.
Good luck,
-Abby
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I've noticed you asked this to many people, so you probably have a lot of answers by now.
Anyway, I would just hang out with him, maybe go to dinner and see if there's any sort of spark. Don't get seriously involved because you'll be in separate countries, and long-distance relationships are hard enough when it's a 2 hour drive, never mind a plane ticket and passport.
It sounds cliche; but it's true. If you're meant to be together it'll happen later on, when you're both in the same country and readily available.
-LM
[19/f]
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hey there(: thanks for asking! I say if you reallly like him you need to go out with him. I'm sure he'll email, text you everyday! and when he can visit I know he will. He wouldn't ask you out and then never talk to you. So I say you should defintly stick with him if you really like him, just becuase he is in another country don't mean ya'll can't like video chat, email, text, call and even write to each other! and i'm sure he'll come back for hollidays! and even more than that especialy sense he has parents and hopefully if yall are together, you(: Well I hope I helped good luck(: If you need anymore help inbox me(:
-Madison xoxo
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There are few things to think about
1, You still have another year of High School left
2, He will likely be a few thousand miles away from you
If he goes to college in another country, How exactly do you plan to maintain a relationship? Online relationships are not the same as one in person. All an online relationship is just a person talking through a computer etc. Online relationships take 5X more effort to even make it work.
Really? I would seriously hold off on a relationship until you know he will be available to you and be able to see you. This guy asked you out but obviously right now on his behalf he isn't really available for a relationship. If you two are meant to be then just ride it out until he is back in town where you both can have a real relationship not one that is online. Your best bet is to remain friends in the meantime, Sure it sucks balls but here is reality: You can proceed to have an online relationship and know that it ain't going to work out...Or have a friendship you know will last forever or until he is back in town!
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I really can't suggest getting emotionally involved with a guy who's going out of your country for college. He's going to want some freedom, you're going to want some freedom.
Keep in touch. Keep it amicable, even flirty. Draw a clear line that says "we aren't in a relationship while you're out of the country".
Distance like that is just too emotionally traumatic to sustain a commitment.
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I would go out on a few casual friend dates. Nothing romantic for now because he will definitely want sex after and if he's leaving for a long time, there's a good chance he may find someone else. If you keep things as friends and keep writing while he's gone, you can see how things will be when he moves back home. A long distance relationship is hard on both parts. He's going to meet lots of new girls and possible want to date them because you're so far away. I hope this helps and good luck.
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This is one of those questions you should ask of one of the younger advisors or put out for all advisor to read and answer if they wish.
My thoughts are for now a date is just a date. Go ahead and date him until he leaves for school. Don't become a couple. Next year when he comes home you will know if you want to follow him to college and become a couple or if you have both moved on to others
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You could date & just see what happens. Worry about the future when it gets here. Lifes to short. While he is gone you could both be free to date others if you wanted to. If its meant to be, it will be.
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