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I am straight to the point, My advice is given based on my opinions of what YOU write. I may not always tell you what you want to hear but I am not here to sugar coat shit.
I am honest, I am blunt, At times an asshole but one thing I can promise, I'll never lie.
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hi ya, me and my boyfriend have been dating for a year and we live together. he used to be very touchy-feely with me when we first started to going out. he says he loves me 2 or 3 times a day and he kisses me like every other day but just not touchy-feely anymore like he used to. is he loosing interest? when we argue, i said, don't you love me and he goes and say, 'if he wouldn't love me, he wouldn't be with me,' what does he mean by that? he a taurus single father and i'm a scorpio, never been married. thanks you all for answering.
While anything is possible, Not every person stays exactly the same after a few months in a relationship. In the beginning, Your relationship was new. You and your boyfriend have been together for a year, You have lived together and therefore you two have settled down.
Being clingy and expecting too much out of your boyfriend is only going to push him away, No guy needs a girl that is up their ass 24.7. This does not mean that the guy doesn't love you, It just means that you two are settled in and are no longer in the puppy stage of your relationship.
I'm now a sophomore in high school and it's so much harder then freshman year...I'm taking an AP world civ. class but for some reason when i sit down to study I can't keep my mind on what i'm reading and when i get done reading a big long paragraph I don't even know what it's about? How can i become more focused? I'm already failing the class I have a C- and it seems that almost everyone else is passing...How am I supposed to study and stay focused?
I have the same problem, This is why I have too read a book about 2 times just to remember what I read.
Have you ever been tested for ADD? No, I'm not saying you have ADD but I'm saying you may want to get tested for it. Another possibility is you may have a learning disability and not be aware of it.
Are you on any medication? Sometimes certain medications can cause someone to have trouble focusing. This would be something you would need to discuss with your doctor.
The only thing I can possibly tell you otherwise is make sure you are getting enough sleep, If you need to make notes about it and try to study when you are alone to prevent distractions.
I'm a 16 year old girl and I've noticed my attraction to the same sex since I was 14. I'm also attracted to some guys too but that's usually so rare I find it hard to define myself as bisexual. Or lesbian. I'm just undefined right now I guess. Last year, I came out and told my dad and my step mother I had feelings for other females while driving in the car one day. They're strict Catholics and I knew that they'd give me all this shit about, "being gay is a sin" and "gay people are forever banished heaven" also "gay people can't create children therefore an abomination." I was prepared for all that mess. I have my own mind and challenge written/spoken authorities. I also believe that it's not a crime to appreciate the same sex by love. That's what makes sense to me, and they hate that and preach to me every day about it. "Thou must honor thy father and mother....etc"
To this day they bug me about being baptized into the church. After I told them about how I felt they preached to me and denied my feelings. They told me that I was just confused without god in my life and that once I found him and let him in then I would lose my sinful "thoughts." (Yes.....they actually refered to them as thoughts. As if I hadn't ever explored my feelings before in order to verify them myself.) Since then they've been setting me up on play-dates with some of their friends kids who are guys. I'm not allowed to have any girls come over to the house anymore, or guys. Anytime they catch me looking at a girl in anyway they find unsuitable they ignore it or steer me in the opposite direction. I'm forced to attend church twice a week and sing at the shitty ceremonies. And get this.....if they do catch me checking out a dude that I find attractive or if I say I find a guy attractive they automatically assume that I'm completely straight again! (Like I was ever completely straight)
I talked one on one with my dad last night and again brought up to him that i was interested in girls. He stared blankly at me and then kept talking about the previous subject that we were on as if I'd said nothing. When we got home, we came across the subject again this time with my step mother too. She yelled at me for about a half an hour about how women were put on this earth to be with a man and blah blah blah. I'm just sick of them telling me that I don't have feelings for women and I DO! Not that I don't have them for men to, but I'm more attracted to women. My parents can't truely and completely love me until they accept what and who I am. What can I say to make them understand that I DO have feelings for the same sex?
You are bisexual, You have been for 2 years now. There is no "I'm not really sure what I am"
Is this wrong? No, Not at all. Now I may offend some people when I say this and I'm sorry if I do but the talk of being gay/lesbian/bisexual is a sin is just a bunch of bullshit. Life is too short to ban yourself from being happy in your life, I respect peoples religion but I find it rude how people state their opinions upon other people's beliefs.
You may not be able to have people at the house, Fine. Let your parents ban you from what is a "sin" the only thing they may be good at is getting you to possibly resent them for it later down the line. If you want to be with a female, Then why the hell not? You are entitled to your happiness just like everyone. Is it wrong for your mother to be with your father? No, Does EVERYONE in the world approve? No. Again, Everyone will have their opinions.
Anyway, I think you should be able to be happy with who you are and never ever let someone come between that. I firmly believe God loves all.....Well I won't get into the religion stuff as I'm sure you don't want to hear my boring views anyway. My Advise: It may be really hard to convince your parents that you are bisexual, If they are high class church goers then they may never really be excepting. The only thing I can possibly tell you is try to have a family meeting with Mom and Dad or is one is easier to talk too then sit down and try and talk to them. Explain to them that you feel it is unfair how they are putting their religion before your happiness. They may ban you from having friends at the house but they really can't ban what you do outside the house. If you are firmly on the bisexual topic then as much as it would cause them to hear it I may bring up that they are pushing you away.....
Good luck with it all
its been a month now i didnt get my periods after my boyfriend fingered me he fingered me last month on 2nd of august and as soon as he fingered me igot my periods tha day itself because my date was 5th of august...n this month i still didnt get it ...wats the problem 'm worried m 18 yrs old...plzzz let me know...
If you are having sex, You should take a pregnancy test. Delayed periods are caused from depression, dieting, excessive exercise, stress etc. This could be factor. If you don't get your period soon then make an appointment with your Gynecologist.
21 female
Last night me and my boyfriend started making out, which lead to us both being really horny. I took my shirt off and he started rubbing my boobs and licking my nipples. Then he pulled down his pants and I started touching his penis.
The thing is I've never given a hand or blow job before! So when i tried giving him a little hand job, it basically turned out horrible. My hands were clammy/sticky so my hand wasn't sliding right and it just seemed awful. Then I started feeling something come out of his penis and I thought it was cum, and it went on my leg. I freaked out a little bit because I made it clear I didn't want him to do that on me but then he said noooo it's not that I wouldn't do that to you. So I don't know what it was like pre-cum or what? So I basically made a fool out of myself and stopped.
I am terrified to try this next time. I want to do it so bad but I feel like i failed miserably. Should I use some type of lotion or at least Vaseline to make my hand move more smoothly? How cam I make next time better, I have no idea what I'm doing! :\ A little embarrassing.
Don't use lotion or Vaseline, This is not really sanitary. If you need something to make it easier then buy a bottle of lubricant. This can be found at Walmart in the same isle as the pregnancy test for about 12 bucks which would be a hell of a lot cheaper then a sex store. The first time is always hesitant the more you do it the more you will get used too it so basically it just comes naturally. The first time was embarrassing, Don't sweat the small stuff. This is someone you are intimate with, Laugh about it and let it go.
Im 15/F i never understand when people say he didn't finish in me or he used the pull out method. what does that mean!? like im guessing it when you guys fu*k and then he stops but i don't get it?
It means before he ejaculated he pulled out and finished outside of you.
I'm just going to point something out considering you didn't understand the whole pull out method. This does NOT always prevent pregnancy, The pull out method is not even a 50/50 thing. What it is, A risk you take. If you don't want to fall pregnant then use a condom that simple. This method fails all the time due to people "thinking" they are safe. This is in fact probably the worst way to try and prevent pregnancy and most certainly isn't the smart way. If you feel embarrassed about buying condoms then when you are at Walmart you can use the self check out isle. Condoms are only about 10 bucks, If you can't afford that then you are most definitely not ready for a baby. Don't be stupid!!
I have a question and its for both guys and girls. Would you date someone or be with them if they've had sex friends before?
Ive only been with one girl before and i waited till i was in love and saw a future and all that stuff but now (im in college btw) it seems like EVERYBODY is with a f buddy. Im all for love but sometimes it just takes too long to find it; so im asking girls and guys that have been in loving serious relationships would u date someone thats had f buddies before? Please put gender and age, thank u
That all depends
Some people would rather date someone who has experience in being in a relationship rather than having friends with benefits. One thing that would concern me if I dated someone who was like that is "How would I know they can be faithful enough to commit to me and not my friends?" I'm not saying they will cheat, I'm saying people who have had noting but friends with benefits their whole lives generally don't know anything but what it was. Friends with benefits earns it's title because the whole point of it is too remain "friends" and not develop feelings for the other person. If you think you can overcome the past and start fresh then go for it but if if you want peoples opinions......Mine would be probably not. I think people who get around and just fuck their buddies are really nobody that would take a relationship seriously when it comes to being intimate. Well, When it comes to certain things I tend to be a little rough around the edges so pardon my speech.
I tend to think people like that have a lack of respect for themselves because they would rather just fuck their buddies get it over with then to actually take the time to share it with someone they truly care about.
can a virgin get pregnant if u pre cummed on her vagina's hair ?
Unlikely
The only way to fall pregnant is if the penis comes to contact with the vagina or sperm makes it way up there.
If you don't want to become pregnant I highly advise you to take precaution because like I tell everyone else, Never say never.
how to do a first hug n wht to say at the time of hug to my fiancee????????
I'm really not completely familiar with the whole arranged marriage thing as I am from a different background..
The way I would do it is casually talk to her, Make her feel comfortable. Assuming you both are meeting for the first time take it slow as if you were just meeting someone. Get to know her, Let her get to know you. Once you two are comfortable with one another then you work your way into hugging her but whatever you do don't be too forward or pushy.
I've been seeing this guy for a month now. I'm 21 and he is 28. I'm in college and he is just getting started with a new job out of state. He likes the qualities I have, like school and that he thinks that I am a good person. But he keeps telling me I am just so young and that I have so much more to experience. I don't understand why our age difference is such a big issue. Someone, please enlighten me.
Age is just a number, You are an adult. It could be maybe he has never been with someone as young as you. I really don't know, You would need to ask him. However, If he wants to keep you around it may be a good idea on his part to stop treating you like a child. Implying you are too young for him is sort of insulting, I would understand if you were under the age of 18 or something but for heavens sake you are both adults. If you want to be together then what is preventing it? If he is dwelling so much on the fact there is a 7 year age difference then he's got other issues he needs to deal with.
I'm 13/f,and my boyfriend Derek 16/m and I have been dating for a week and four days.We talk alot,but don't get a chance to see each other,because of our busy schedules.We used to talk everyday,but it's been a week,since the last time we talked.We have time to talk,but we don't.Well,I'll talk to him,and he'll say hi,and he missed me,and I won't hear from him again,unless I talk to him again.I'm really confused.Does he still love me? Should we keep our relationship,or call it quits?Help!!!!!
I agree with Witty...
To label something a relationship it would need to be more than a week and a half, It sounds like this boy may of had a fling with you. If someone doesn't contact you, They likely lost interest. Someone cannot love someone in the course of a week and a half it takes months for someone to develop strong feelings for someone. I have been with my partner for a few years and I didn't even say "I love you" until at least the 6th month into our relationship. Forget him and move on he obviously left you hanging on the band wagon.......
I am a 14 yr old girl going into gr 9 and i have one friend who treats me really badly she went as far as to tells me i was ugly and so was my grad dress.(which she knew i loved) i dont know how much longer i can put up with her abuse (both pyhsical as well as mental) but dont know how a can not be friends with her and still be friends with my other friends, as they will most likly hang out with her.....
I agree with Tuscan
I'd would also rather have no friends then someone who pushes me around. This girl is not a friend, She is a bully. Personally, I would stop associating with her and try to make new friends. High school is MUCH different then middle school, People change and they start to go their separate ways. You will meet new people when you go into high school, It just happens. Old friends come and go and new friends come and go. If someone can't treat you right then they really shouldn't be associated with you. If the other friends decide not to talk to you because you stopped being her friend well then you need to know they weren't friends either. School starts soon, I promise you that you will make new friends.
There's this guy I met about a month ago at summer band camp. We started hanging out and he constantly flirts with me. I thought he might like me, but I found out that he acts like that with every other girl he knows. He got my number from somebody and started texting me. Earlier, he asked me if I like him. I don't know what to do. I kinda do like him, but sometimes I don't feel like he is serious enough for me to consider anything. I'm also afraid to answer because its questions like that have ruined previous friendships of mine with other guys. Plus, I don't even know if he does like me or just asked because he thinks that I like him. What should I do?
If the guy is a player then pass him up and try and meet someone eles. Players are always the ones that dont want a serious relationship and you would hate to find out if you ever did date him he would of had a backup. Forget about him
My name is Ray 40 years old
We have been married 8 years and all of a sudden my wife told me she has fallen out of love with me. This was a big bombshell dropped on me. I am still deeply in love wife her.
She told me she started feeling this was about 3 years ago and she now has just told me.
I did not see this coming as I thought everthing was okay.
Is it possible for her to fall in love with me again?
We have had 3 kids. I believe her feelings started to change after our second child passed away at birth.
I have read many similar storeis and that it is possible to win her back.
Is it a common thing for a partner to fall out of love during a marriage? Is it a phase?
You go through good and bad times. Is this a bad time for her.
I am so shattered at the moment.
What do I do
Have you both received counseling for the loss of the child? It could be that your wife decided not too say anything because she was trying to make it work, Maybe she didn't want to except it.
You may want to sit down with your wife and discuss things over, I recommend giving marriage counseling a try too see if it will help things. Marriage counseling is usually the last straw before filing for divorce. I have never really heard someone expressing themselves to falling out of love being a phase but I suppose there may be a reason for everything. Communicate with her, If you need too then try and get someone to watch the kids and go out and spend a day with your wife and try and settle things. I really do not know how your wife feels but if someone isn't feeling it anymore then there really isn't much you can do too make them feel something. Talk to her about it
my boyfriend and i split up after a little more than a year and a half, its a long story and forget who broke up with who but the main reason why we fell apart was because he felt too controlled and he wanted to be free and live his life, our past relationship had so many mistakes, and we split up for like 1 month and when he came back to me, i decided to do this right, he apologized and i tried to forgive him for the sake of the relationship, he asked for me back and tried to gain my trust back for a month, during that month ive told him im startin to really trust him and i would like to be together and he said \"ur rushing things, give it some time\"and i gave it time, and during that time we were fixing things how he was supposed to make it up to me, he treated me bad at times, gave me alot of attitude for no reason, for example we were supposed to go to this certain place, and he decided that maybe to keep us some company we should go somewhere else with his 2 friends that are a couple, i couldnt take a cab all the way there because i did not know where it was, so he told me to go over his firends house, which is that girl, and he would come pick me up with his guy friend, i barely even know her that well, so i \"breathed out\" hard cause i was nervous, im the type of person that just gets nervous fast because he kept raising his voice (btw, our relationship was mentally abusive, he wud always call me names and an idiot, but the reason why i held on so long is because when he treated me right i loved it and it was worth it\"anyway, when i breathed out and got mad that i didnt wanna go over her house and do all that(because where i live its not very safe)i told him im just mad cause hes basically making me do this and that and we didnt even agree on it, he was like \"dont come, what do you want me to tell you, dont come then\" im like no no ill come, hes like okay now take down this certain number, so i was in the bathroom and there was no pencil, and my mom doesnt know we talk so i couldnt get out so i grabbed a lipstick and started shaking and then it broke so im like \" i dont have a pen\" hes like Ohmygod.., im like ill jus call you back on this number,hes like its not even my phone, and he kept raising his voice.. so he shuts without sayin bye, so i call him and stood up for myself and said ive had it, ive been trying to be so nice and all you do is treat me bad, (even a couple of days ago,when he was trying to fix things he wud be like your an idiot your stupid, because i cursed by mistake or something (not at him, it was a word that sounded like a curse but wasnt) and hes like your fucking stupid) so i was like even a few days ago you kept yeling and cursing and i wrote you back saying \"lets be cool i dont wanna fight even though i didnt even do anythin wrong \" so i told him you fucked up my day im not gonna come you keep yeling and makin me all nervous so forget it, hes like just take the number im like no, you are so mean :s , so we shut, and i wrote him telling him idont know why you treat me bad, all i do is be nice to you and im trying to forgive you for leaving me for the free life, and you did so many things to me yet im trying to gain your trust, so after that we just talked normally the day after, and he told me he was going on a \"blind date\" funny huh? i told him why wud you do that were fixing things and youhave me hes like \" i dont have youu , and who said were together?\" i was like dont you think its time already i mean i trust you, i told you i do now, and you trust me.. whats missing? hes like i just dont feel it anymore.. we dont click.. i dont have feelings for you.. he hurt me again.. so bad.. im at this phase where i think \" i could have just went out with him when he told me to even tho he was treating me bad\" but idont know.. i didnt do anything wrong :s, i tried doing everything perfectly but he said after that argument he just doesnt see it working, but hes the one who started this argument.. hes the one who did all this.. my minds going round and round i dont know why i try blaming it on myself, what do you guys think about all this :(... im very mature and wise.. my mind just isnt in the right place so please just dont critize me or tell me im dumb.. just cope with me, my hearts broken. thank you so much for taking the time to read this..
You are wasting your time, Dump him
Calling someone names and putting them down constantly is not treating someone good. This guy obviously is an asshole who really needs a boot up his ass. If you were happy, You wouldn't be asking us what to do. Someone who loves someone does not call them names and raise their voice. Your boyfriend is abusing you and you need to leave him. Find someone who will treat you right, Love and appreciate you. As long as you keep crawling back to this guy you will never be happy. Dump him, Cut contact and move on
I 14 and about to turn 15 in a few months.My boyfriend comes over alot, and him and my mom have talk and alll that. But whenever he comes over we have to sit in the living room. But some times i want us to a little privacy.I havent said antthing to my mom about. Do you think we should be able to have privacy?
What you seem to be missing is you are in your mothers house.
As long as you live with your parents you will have to live by their rules. Your mother has the both of you on the couch for a reason, She wants to keep you both out of trouble. Do I think you should have your privacy? eh, It's her house and she has the right to make her rules. Once you turn 18, You can do whatever you wish.
how do i stop wearing my heart on my sleeve? all my life even when i was little i would try and still befriends with some one that has done me wrong, i always wanted to believe that people just make mistakes and not believe that the ones i care about would be this hate full towards me.
how do i teach my self not to care?
but as far as relationships go. and friend ships how do i stop being a push over? how can i toughen up and stop letting people walk all over me? my dad my mom and sister always tell me im to nice and people treat me the way they do because i allow it. and that nice people finish last, but how can i stop being who i am? my grandma always tough me to treat people the way i want to be treated but that doesn't work. I don't want to start any fights with people so I don't argue and the are usually bigger than me. I'm nice to them and they turn around and talk about me and call me zit face. I even cried when a group of girls started yelling at me calling me pimple face and everyone started laughing. It ruined my whole day. I already have self esteem issues cuz of my acne. People at school always beg and take my school supplies and they beg for my food. These girls in almost all of my classes talk about me for no reason, and I havent done anything wrong. I'm nice to everybody. Every single day there's a kid in all of my classes asking me for paper and pencils. Some people just talk about me to my face for no reason and call me ugly and their friends laugh at it. I always sit in class quiet because I dont want people bothering me. I dont think I can just stop being sensitive, Im one of those people that care about what people say about me. People always talk about me face and I just cant ignore it.Some people even take things out of my pocket, when they don't ask, and I don't say anything. If I dont give them what they want they will be mean and talk about me, it bothers me cuz im sensitive and might cry later on. I don't want people to hate me or try to fight me if I say no or tell an adult. Most of the kids in my first 2 classes cheat off of me, I hate almost all of my classes and I think i'm starting to hate school. Kids at school are just rude to me for no reason and I feel lonely all the time
After awhile, Someone gets tired of being walked on and they learn to stand their ground.
If someone is making fun of you, You walk away and ignore it. It shows them that you don't care what they say and it makes you the bigger person. Sometimes people are pushed to their limits and become fed up after dealing with people's crap.
No, You do not have to be an asshole to toughen yourself up. You learn to just not care anymore and let go. If someone treats you like shit, Then you stop talking to them. If they keep trying to talk to you then you grow it in you to tell them you will not be treated poorly anymore and that you are fed up and no longer want anything to do with them. Stand up for yourself and after awhile you may start too see that people will back off and start gaining a respect for you. Many bullies pick on the people that are easy targets. They love to pick on people that don't do anything, cry and show anger because they are getting a reaction out of them. If some people call you zit face, Just laugh and walk away. Too be honest with you calling someone a zit face is very immature anyway so who looks like the fool? Them. Grow some courage and confidence and believe in yourself. As long as you let people walk all over you, You will be a target. Stand your ground
Hello I'm 13.I was in Canada for the whole month of July becuase my grandmother died. I had to stay with my older cousin and fianse.
Well the night when my family found out my grandma died, my cousin went to bed really early.My cousin's fianse invited his friend over.The bad
stuff started to happen when I was watching TV.They sat down next to me and my cousin's fianse asked do you like me?I said yes. I thought my cousin and him were perfect for eachother.His friend moved closer to me,I started to feel uneasy.Then the next thing I know his friend starts touching me.I got scared so.I say i'm going to bed so I go upstairs and after I finished brushing my teeth I go to my room and I find them in there.I tell them to leave and his friend says aw the fun hasn't started yet.I say leave.Then his friend says SHUTUP B***** WE LEAVE WHEN WE WANT TO LEAVE.His friend pushed me on my bed and he goes on top of me.At that point I was really scared.He literly ripped off my shirt then he took off my pants.I was ready to scream when my cousin's fianse puts his hand over my mouth.Then that night I was forced to have oral, anal, and viginal sex with both of them after they were done his friend punched me in the stomach and said if I ever told anyone he would kill me.That night I cried myself to sleep.The next morning I couldn't even look at my cousin's fianse.He kept telling me he was sorry but I don't forgive him.I want to call the police,but i'm to scared.What am I supposed to do?
You were raped, You need to report it to the police and tell an adult you trust.
This is WRONG, They took full advantage of you and raped you. I would tell your cousin everything you told us above, Report it too the police and tell your parents about what happened.
I highly suggest you seek therapy and counseling to help you cope.
Yes, You need report it
I just wondered word dear have different meaning?
for instance when american person use it or english person use it do they have idfferent meaning? i just want to know
Dear does have two meanings when spelt differently
Dear - Would refer to a person
Example: I love you my dear, Or in the beginning of a letter you would say Dear ____
Deer - Is a wild animal that we generally see in the woods. Example: Did you see that deer cross the road!?
They sound the same but they have two different meanings and are spelt differently.
My name is Joy from Nigeria.I am 20yrs old and still a virgin.two days ago,i slept with my boyfriend but he didn't disvirgin me wen he released.Pls im scared if i will get pregnant
The only way to become pregnant is if the penis has contact vagina or sperm comes in contact with the vagina. If you both didn't have sex, Then you should be fine.