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How do i stop being so nice to people?
how do i stop wearing my heart on my sleeve? all my life even when i was little i would try and still befriends with some one that has done me wrong, i always wanted to believe that people just make mistakes and not believe that the ones i care about would be this hate full towards me.
how do i teach my self not to care?
but as far as relationships go. and friend ships how do i stop being a push over? how can i toughen up and stop letting people walk all over me? my dad my mom and sister always tell me im to nice and people treat me the way they do because i allow it. and that nice people finish last, but how can i stop being who i am? my grandma always tough me to treat people the way i want to be treated but that doesn't work. I don't want to start any fights with people so I don't argue and the are usually bigger than me. I'm nice to them and they turn around and talk about me and call me zit face. I even cried when a group of girls started yelling at me calling me pimple face and everyone started laughing. It ruined my whole day. I already have self esteem issues cuz of my acne. People at school always beg and take my school supplies and they beg for my food. These girls in almost all of my classes talk about me for no reason, and I havent done anything wrong. I'm nice to everybody. Every single day there's a kid in all of my classes asking me for paper and pencils. Some people just talk about me to my face for no reason and call me ugly and their friends laugh at it. I always sit in class quiet because I dont want people bothering me. I dont think I can just stop being sensitive, Im one of those people that care about what people say about me. People always talk about me face and I just cant ignore it.Some people even take things out of my pocket, when they don't ask, and I don't say anything. If I dont give them what they want they will be mean and talk about me, it bothers me cuz im sensitive and might cry later on. I don't want people to hate me or try to fight me if I say no or tell an adult. Most of the kids in my first 2 classes cheat off of me, I hate almost all of my classes and I think i'm starting to hate school. Kids at school are just rude to me for no reason and I feel lonely all the time
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ok i understand what your going through i went through it 2. If you don't want to end up with mean cheaters and fighters first observe every student in your class and see who is nice and not mean or a cheater. 2 if you don't want to feel like your getting stepped on just toughen up i went through this in 3 grade, i remember what kids did to me in school i cried a lot then i said i wont let this happen again so i observed student in my class if they were mean to me i had hatred in my guts and i looked really mean i speak mean to people who were mean 2 me and nice to people who were nice 2 me. toughen up by remembering what kids did 2 you and feel hatred. say something about them no one is perfect. and don't be afraid to tell the teachers if you are then kids will bully you all the time trust me every time they did something bad to you tell the teachers don't be afraid. if they call you ugly i will give you some tips on how to get better.
1. dress good, don't put 2 many clothing just a simple t-shirt and pants. check in the internet what people dress like and try to look like that.
2. if you can put some make up on if you cant then try to look beautiful, like some people have a good smile or great eyes figure out what is so special about you.
3. fix your hair do some cool styles or check in the internet. this is the best advice i can give you.
this really helped me at school nxt year everyone started to respect me and it was a awesome year.
p.s i am 13 plz still read it :)
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After awhile, Someone gets tired of being walked on and they learn to stand their ground.
If someone is making fun of you, You walk away and ignore it. It shows them that you don't care what they say and it makes you the bigger person. Sometimes people are pushed to their limits and become fed up after dealing with people's crap.
No, You do not have to be an asshole to toughen yourself up. You learn to just not care anymore and let go. If someone treats you like shit, Then you stop talking to them. If they keep trying to talk to you then you grow it in you to tell them you will not be treated poorly anymore and that you are fed up and no longer want anything to do with them. Stand up for yourself and after awhile you may start too see that people will back off and start gaining a respect for you. Many bullies pick on the people that are easy targets. They love to pick on people that don't do anything, cry and show anger because they are getting a reaction out of them. If some people call you zit face, Just laugh and walk away. Too be honest with you calling someone a zit face is very immature anyway so who looks like the fool? Them. Grow some courage and confidence and believe in yourself. As long as you let people walk all over you, You will be a target. Stand your ground
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