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My wife has fallen out of love with me
My name is Ray 40 years old
We have been married 8 years and all of a sudden my wife told me she has fallen out of love with me. This was a big bombshell dropped on me. I am still deeply in love wife her.
She told me she started feeling this was about 3 years ago and she now has just told me.
I did not see this coming as I thought everthing was okay.
Is it possible for her to fall in love with me again?
We have had 3 kids. I believe her feelings started to change after our second child passed away at birth.
I have read many similar storeis and that it is possible to win her back.
Is it a common thing for a partner to fall out of love during a marriage? Is it a phase?
You go through good and bad times. Is this a bad time for her.
I am so shattered at the moment.
What do I do
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The death of your child could absolutely be attributed to the spark going out in your marriage. You have three options:
1 - Seek professional help. Sometimes if helps to talk in front of an unbiased person, and get all of your 'issues' out in the open so there are no secrets, nothing building up inside. She may resent you for the death of the child, even though you didn't do anything wrong. The mind works in crazy ways.
2 - Have a heart to heart with her. Let her know how much you love her, and how much of a shock this is to you. Tell her that in pains you to hear this, but you wish for her to be happy ultimately. Suggest some time apart, some time for her to collect her thoughts. Maybe all she needs is to see what she is missing to truly appreciate it. That works a lot, actually.
3 - Separation. Tell her that you want to do anything you can to make it work, and anything to bring the spark back. Ask her what she wants - if she wants a divorce, offer a trial separation in stead.
I truly wish you the best of luck, sir. You story really touched my heart - I hope it all works out for the advantage of all involved.
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Have you both received counseling for the loss of the child? It could be that your wife decided not too say anything because she was trying to make it work, Maybe she didn't want to except it.
You may want to sit down with your wife and discuss things over, I recommend giving marriage counseling a try too see if it will help things. Marriage counseling is usually the last straw before filing for divorce. I have never really heard someone expressing themselves to falling out of love being a phase but I suppose there may be a reason for everything. Communicate with her, If you need too then try and get someone to watch the kids and go out and spend a day with your wife and try and settle things. I really do not know how your wife feels but if someone isn't feeling it anymore then there really isn't much you can do too make them feel something. Talk to her about it
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