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She treats me really badly...
I am a 14 yr old girl going into gr 9 and i have one friend who treats me really badly she went as far as to tells me i was ugly and so was my grad dress.(which she knew i loved) i dont know how much longer i can put up with her abuse (both pyhsical as well as mental) but dont know how a can not be friends with her and still be friends with my other friends, as they will most likly hang out with her.....
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if you have friends like that they are not really your friends once you step up to all of them they wont treat you that way anymore be strong and who cares about the rest make some new friends and don't be scared of anything
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Not only is this person a bully she is jealous of you. That's right,jealous.
Bullies pick on people for many reasons. At the top of the list is jealousy. This person is not your friend, she is a member of your group of friends and is jealous of you for many different reasons. It could be that your friends treat you differently than her, your dress is prettier than hers, you are prettier than her. You have developed faster than her. Boys like you better than her. I could continue with the list but I think you get the idea.
Bullies are not your friends and if she is picking on you she is probably picking on someone else in the group. The motto of a bully is divide an conqueror.
If dropping this girl from your friends list, so to speak, causes you to loose some friends. Then those friends weren't good friends to begin with. You will make new friends in high school no matter whether you stay friends with this group or not.
My advise: Tell this girl where to go and how to get there. When you stand up to a bully they generally back down for their power is in their ability to control you. Once they loose that power they move on to another target.
Tell this bully off and enjoy your school year.
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I agree with Tuscan
I'd would also rather have no friends then someone who pushes me around. This girl is not a friend, She is a bully. Personally, I would stop associating with her and try to make new friends. High school is MUCH different then middle school, People change and they start to go their separate ways. You will meet new people when you go into high school, It just happens. Old friends come and go and new friends come and go. If someone can't treat you right then they really shouldn't be associated with you. If the other friends decide not to talk to you because you stopped being her friend well then you need to know they weren't friends either. School starts soon, I promise you that you will make new friends.
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Personally, I'd rather have no friends than a friend like that. If you're worried about your other friends abandoning you if you stop being friends with this one girl - wait. She will likely display this behavior to one of your other friends once she doesn't have you to pick on any more. Bullies don't just pick on one person and be completely nice to everyone else. I'm sure she'll victimize someone else and the rest of your friends will realize what kind of person she is.
I would simply ask her why she is so cruel to you. Tell her that friends don't behave like this towards on another, and if she doesn't want to be friends, you're okay with that. If she DOES want to be friends, tell her she needs to alter her behavior because you refuse to deal with her drama.
I know it's easier said than done, but you need to stand up for yourself. Don't let some girl walk all over you and make you feel like dirt. It's about control. She wants to control you and you're letting her by allowing her comments to go unpunished. Speak up.
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