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First hj attempt went horribly..
21 female
Last night me and my boyfriend started making out, which lead to us both being really horny. I took my shirt off and he started rubbing my boobs and licking my nipples. Then he pulled down his pants and I started touching his penis.
The thing is I've never given a hand or blow job before! So when i tried giving him a little hand job, it basically turned out horrible. My hands were clammy/sticky so my hand wasn't sliding right and it just seemed awful. Then I started feeling something come out of his penis and I thought it was cum, and it went on my leg. I freaked out a little bit because I made it clear I didn't want him to do that on me but then he said noooo it's not that I wouldn't do that to you. So I don't know what it was like pre-cum or what? So I basically made a fool out of myself and stopped.
I am terrified to try this next time. I want to do it so bad but I feel like i failed miserably. Should I use some type of lotion or at least Vaseline to make my hand move more smoothly? How cam I make next time better, I have no idea what I'm doing! :\ A little embarrassing.
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Why did his cum or pre-cum going on your leg freak you out? It isn't going to hurt you and you can just wipe it off with a tissue or a towel.
As a guy, I concur with the other posts. Get some Astroglide and oil your dominant hand up and go to it. Keep the muscles in your hand limp so that it won't fatigue. When he starts to cum, don't touch the head, just milk the shaft as if it was a cow's teat. If you don't want the cum on you, just point his penis toward his stomach. You can also use your nails to lightly tickle his balls while you stroke him.
There are flavored lubes if you want to mix hand and mouth action.
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There is a first time for everything and your never perfect the first time you do anything.
The nice thing about sex is the intimacy. I'm sure your boyfriend appreciated your effort knowing this was your first time. Like everything else you will get better with practice. Yes, getting some massage oil or lubrication will make it better for both of you.
As a general rule here; a man cannot control his precum and there will come a point where he will not be able to keep from ejaculating. I would suggest the next time you and he are in bed together you keep a towel handy. The precum is a lubricant and is all protein with some sperm mixed in. It won't hurt you and should not spurt out but more come out in the form of leakage. If you want to bring your BF to completion tell him to tell you when he is going to cum, then hold the towel over his penis so when he ejaculates his cum hits the towel and not you.
I would also suggest that if you are not on birth control you consider getting on birth control. Why? At some point this activity will lead to intercourse, if you consent to it. Condoms alone are not as effective as you being on birth control. Even so he should use a condom as well.
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Don't use lotion or Vaseline, This is not really sanitary. If you need something to make it easier then buy a bottle of lubricant. This can be found at Walmart in the same isle as the pregnancy test for about 12 bucks which would be a hell of a lot cheaper then a sex store. The first time is always hesitant the more you do it the more you will get used too it so basically it just comes naturally. The first time was embarrassing, Don't sweat the small stuff. This is someone you are intimate with, Laugh about it and let it go.
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Im sorry about that but don't worry next time will be much better. Yes your going in the right direction with using lotion or vaseline, but instead of that you should just use lube. Before the next time your gunna do this again just swing by walmart and get normal ky jelly lube, it works fine and will make it alot easier to give him a hand job.
Other than that i would suggest you watch some porn videos with handjobs seeing as it would be kinda impossible how to tell you how to give a good one and even then it wouldnt help too much. Its funny but true that its like anything else you wont know what your doing the first time and just get better at it.
Tips:
. DONT try and grab it from almost the tip and go all the way down (unless hes like 4 inches it will hurt ALOT) and vice verca (no grabbing from the bottom)
. If your going to grab on tightish stay in the same area For example if your at the top before his head stay there, if your in the middle stay there, if your at the bottom stay there.
I recommended the lube because you dont have to worry about hurting him, youd be able to go all the way up and all the way down
Ummm i guess the last thing that most girls dont know is which parts are most sensitive (in a good way)
. when hes hard on the underside throughout his penis youll feel soemthign like a thick vein but its not.
. and second would be the underside of his head, if you make sure to hit this spot will you go up and down youll probably make him cum after a couple minutes
You said you dont want cum on you but there is nothing wrong with it, ha it doesnt stain you or anything, so dont worry too much about that
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