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"Do not pity the dead, Harry. Pity the living, and, above all those who live without love" - Albus Dumbledore

Hi, I'm Laura. I'm a senior in college & I'm slowly deciding what I want to do with my life. I love Harry Potter, coffee, writing, and sleeping (amongst other things). I'll never claim to know everything, but I'm confident in my ability to help people with their problems. Feel free to send me an inbox question; I'll get back to you!

A few thoughts I've gathered from my teenage years (and being on this site for most of them!):
1. If you Google song lyrics, the song will come up 99% of the time.
2. Dress to fit your body type, and buy the size that fits. If you're a size 6, squeezing into a 4 won't make you look skinnier. It makes you look fat when you aren't.
3. You will never regret waiting to lose your virginity.
4. There is such a thing as a stupid question, but we're all allowed to ask them.

BU 2014 :)

wicked awesome conversations

^my forum, liven it up a little?

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how do you know when a friend is lieing?

You can kind of just.. tell. Especially if you're close- their mannerisms are different, they look at the floor, etc. Sometimes it's painfully obvious. It's just one of those things you know. Trust your gut instinct.

If you're not sure about something, ask them.

what are some websites where i can download music onto a ipod for free and not get any viruses on my computer? thanks.

Hmm.. now that would be promoting illegal activity, now wouldn't it?

But a couple sites you can get free music LEGALLY are:
- http://music.aol.com/songs/downloads/mp3_main
- music.myspace.com (certain songs/profiles)

how do you stylish in uniforms at school when your principle is very sricked and the colors are red white and gray

go trojans!!

How strict is the dress code? It is ANYTHING red, white and gray? You could have a lot of fun with that.

Some kids I know that go to Mount (a private school in my area) are only allowed black and white shoes/sneakers. So they all wear Chucks! Maybe try something like that? Loopholes are always fun!

Are you allowed accessories? Wear band pins on your collar or something to that effect.

Wear crazy socks. Maybe ones that go just to your ankle so they're not that obvious to administrators.

Earrings!!! Especially Christmas-ey ones (They'll be red and white!)

Paint your nails in a bright, vibrant color. Hands are one of the first things people notice about you.

hope I helped you! :)

Female - 16

Hi, in my art class at school we are using clay and it really dries out our hands. If I put it on my face where I am oily would it dry it out and make the blemishes go away? What else might happen?

Thankss

It will probably dry out your face TOO much. You could also break out from something in the clay.

However, clay masks that are actually MEANT for your face work extremely well :)

how come whenever i go onto a myspace tehres ActiveControl X and they almost never work and it says send or dotn send error report. its EXTREMLY annoying and i want to get rid of it!

HELLPPPPP.

Active X Control I've heard is a virus, similar to the one that changes your navigation links.

It's very easy to remove, you have to delete the javascript code from your info. I'm not sure of the exact location though.

Once it's deleted you should change your password too.

is there any program that like, when you zoom on in a picture and it gets all like pixelated and blurry, anything to make that go away? prefer it to be free.. thanks

no, it has to be either a really high-res picture, or be encoded in some weird format.

Or you could have an ultra-expensive program that law enforcement uses.

how do i defrag my computer? thanx

Start -> All Programs -> Accessories -> System Tools -> Disk Defragmenter.

Follow the on-screen instructions and you're golden! =)

my computer is runnning too slow how can i fix it?
-i already deleted unused programs and music
-i also hav fast internet(dsl) and it still lags
-i hav yahoo virus protecting so it should hav a virus
-wat can i do?
-i hav heard of downloading a disk cleaner should i do that

- http://www.download.com/Ad-Aware-SE-Personal-Edition/3000-8022_4-10399602.html?tag=pop.software

( if that link doesn't work, go to www.download.com and install Ad-Aware SE Personal)

Go there & download it. It's a totally secure site & the program is free, no strings attached. It'll get rid of unnecessary Spyware, Adware, and "cookie grabbers". It also alerts you of Trojans and can occassionally delete them!

Another Good program is SpyBot Search and Destroy.
- http://www.download.com/Spybot-Search-Destroy/3000-8022_4-10401314.html?tag=list

Don't rely entirely on Yahoo. Get yourself a firewall, and USE IT!! If you have XP, there should be one on your computer already. Activate it!!!

Additionally, defragment your hard drive regularly (if you don't know how, message me and I'll tell you how) and if you use LimeWire.. be really careful. Run virus scans frequently (you really should anyways!), and uninstall the program when you don't need it.

If all else fails, you may just need more RAM. Most (relatively) old computers have around 128-256 MB. 512MB-1GB cards are even better, and they're very inexpensive (under $100 for a 1GB, I believe) and that will help significantly as well.

good luck! =)

ok im really obssesed with Green Day and System of a down, how can i unobsses myself before i go ko-ko?THANKS!

Absolutely nothing wrong with either of those bands! :) I myself am a recovering Green Day addict; I own all but one of their albums and they were pretty much all I listen to.

If any band you like is in the area on tour, check them out! I saw Green Day live last year on the American Idiot tour, but they won't be touring for awhile. Not sure about SOAD, sorry.
Yeah, just check out some other bands! You can still listen to your favorite, just add some variety! It is the spice of life, after all. And nobody likes bland stuff! =)

Listen to other music! A couple suggestions off the top of my head:
-Three Days Grace
-Rock Star Supernova
-Incubus
-Nickelback
-Jack's Mannequin
-Breaking Benjamin

check myspace music & purevolume.com as well.
Also "similar artists" on iTunes.

good luck with your "addiction" =D

i have a biology question: why do cooks soak a head of lettuce in cold water before making a salad?

Not only does it clean it (by loosening dirt and such) it crisps the lettuce. This trick works to revive limp celerey as well.

okay so you know what aim is right? okay well i noticed how in the buddy info part, my friends have like colorful sayings that say different stuff. Okay I was wondering where they get them from? cause I want some but not the ones my friends have. So is there like a site I can get them from?? thankz..help is apreciated. =D

There are oodles of Xanga sites, or you can make one yourself:

-http://www.vex.net/~x/xfade/advanced.html

=)

K well my period is about a week late..

I had sex at the beginning of September and i
had a pregnancy scare, i was feeling sick every morning for 3 days straight and i got myself worried that i was pregnant.
Then later that month my period came, in October my period came but in November it didnt come and its now December.

I have not been under any stress, had a change in diet or more or less excercise than usual and my periods are always regular and on time.

So my question is what are the chances of being pregnant and getting 2 periods as normal, no difference in flow or anything, and then begin missing them? (it is possible).

Im beginning to worry here and thats the last thing i want to do as that may also cause my period more delay.

Honest truth please people

You're fine. It's normal to skip for no apparent reason.

If you're still convinced you're pregnant, take a test and/or see a doctor.

on a xanga, how do you make your weblog entry have a scroll next to it? like on the side of your page you have that thing where u click up and down, how do you get that on a weblog entry?

Put your entry in a scrollbox. Change the width/height as desired.

http://www.profiletweaks.com/scrollable.php

I want to get my haircut soon but I'm really not sure what I want it to look like.
People say I look like Keira Knightley and I'd really like a haircut that made me look more like her. I have a square-shaped face, big eyes, average-sized nose and a small mouth.
So if you know a haircut that would suit me would you please describe it to me and it would be really good if you could include a link to a picture of that haircut (from google images or something).
I want something longer than jaw-length but no longer than shoulder-length. Thanks, xxx

http://i10.tinypic.com/2ihmgyv.jpg

I think that's what you're describing.

Remember that saying "I want my hair to look like [insert celebrity here]" won't always get what you want. They change thair hair a lot & your face structure will inevitably be different than theirs.

Bring in a picture, or clearly describe what you have in mind. A good stylist will give you a cut similar to what you wanted, yet still compliments you.

I'm 15 years old. My hair is really thick. I get it thinned but it's still sooooo thick. Is there anything I could do about this problem. My hair is always poofy unless I straighten it before I go to bed and restraighen it when I wake up. Please let me know of anything to calm down my poof problem and some cute hair styles and hair do's.

I definitely agree with the person below me.

Also, try cutting in some layers. It'll make your hair seem less thick.. and if you don't like them, they grow out! =)

Pantene Smooth and Sleek, and Sunsilk for Kinky hair (purple bottle) work really well too. They make my hair less poofy & frizzy and just all that annoying stuff we don't like to deal with.

Hairstyles to try:
- half-up, half down in a ponytail (your hair may be too thick for a clip to hold)
- scrunched with hairgel and shine serum
- Low pigtails. Some people CAN actually pull this look off after the age of seven.. try it! Worth ten seconds, no?
- Side ponytail. Hopefully self-explanatory; this style is very simple and looks polished yet not overdone. It's really cute if your hair's curly.
- Try just straightening & nothing else. But only in the morning. It'll do a lot less damage to your hair that way.
- Always finish with a little hairspray. It'll set your style & keep moisture out (which will frizz your hair and make it seem thicker!)

hope I helped! :]

I have thick curly hair!! And i feel lucky that i do have it but............... my hair styles r so limited i want one that will not make me seem dull or to preppy or sporty. My constant hair style is half up half down snd its getting dull. Just ;ast night i cut my slef one side bang to add coolness but im still dull!! i need a few hairstyles i could do with my hair that wont make me half to straighten it.
HELP!!

Have you considered getting your hair layered? Layers get rid of some of the "bulk" without getting your hair thinned (Bad idea, btw. Thinning can very esily destroy your hair if it's not done right!) Also, it'll make your hair more manageable and add some bounce to it.

As for hairstyles, regardless of having layers or not:
1. Wear it down, parted either in the middle or off to the side slightly (depending on the shape of your face). Style it with hairgel & shine serum when it's damp & scrunch it (even though you already have curls, they'll look better & won't stick to your head & will dry more naturally)

2. Half-up, half-down. Most people can easily pull this look off. Just gather some of your hair starting around your ears & use either a hairclip or an elastic to hold it up. Always use a hair elastic, never a regular one. They'll pull out your hair!!
*This also looks cute if you straighten just the bottom section of hair (the part not in a clip/tie) My friend does this sometimes & its adorable.

3. Either style your hair curly (like in the first one) or straigt. Then, finish with a headband. It's a nice, casual look that doesn't take much effort to do.

4. If you're thinking about a more permanent change, consider some subtle highlights (and some strikingly bright ones too) Especially with curly hair, they give dimension & color (obviously) to even the most basic look & if done correctly, look totally natural.

5. Side bangs- in my opinion, are much easier to cut if your hair's straight. That way, when you're wearing your hair straight it doesn't look funky and uneven- unless that's the look your want, of course!

Lastly, don't worry so much about what other people judge your hair as. What's "preppy" one day could be "LYKE 0MG, s0oo0o0UNKEWLL!" the next. Style your hair in whatever way makes you feel confident.

I hope my suggestions help you! If you need more ideas/products (I have naturally curly hair as well, so I know about it haha) feel free to ask me to my inbox/IM =)

Can someone please tell me how I can get the photo of the album to show on iTunes. Because when I have a song that doesn't have an album picture it says "drag album art work here" well I've tried to drag the album cover there from iTunes but it won't work. How can I get the album cover to be there when there isn't one there?

There's two ways:

1. Save the album art on your computer, right-click the song and click "Get info" go to artwork, click add, and upload the file.

2. Copy the artwork from the web & paste it into the artwork tab.

A good site to get high-quality album art is amazon.com (search for the CD, then click "view larger image")

=)

In school, we are doing this thing where you get assigned a kid from a adoption home. You get to pick who you want out of a pile of index cards. On their index card they write their name, their age and what they want for christmas.
They live in an adoption home, they don't have parents so christmas isn't exactly what it is for people with parents.
I got a girl named Dawne age of 14. She wants a mp3 player, golden nameplate necklace,clothes, lotion or bath products and a gift certificut to walmart. I was planning to get her a golden name plate necklace her name is spelt differently and i cannot find it anywhere! Does anyone have any good ideas of what to get her or where to get a golden nameplate necklace?
PLEASE!!
Thanks for you help =]

Maybe you could find a store that sells blank ones. You could bring it to a jeweler's (or something of that sort) & they could probably engrave it very inexpensively. If you explain the situation, they may eve do it for free!

If you can't do that, get a nice chain at a craft store & some nice glass & porcelain beads and spell her name out on the necklace. It's not exactly what she asked for, but it'd still be nice.

hope I helped!
:)

whats really good hair straightener that is less than $25? i used to have this one:
http://www.conair-beauty-products.com/images/conair-hair-straightener03.jpg

but i want one that clamps like this:
http://images.amazon.com/images/P/B0009V1YR8.01.LZZZZZZZ.jpg

not nessessarily that kind but i want a straigtener like that, does anyone know which brands straighten hair really well and will stay straight?

I use Remington Wet2Style. It's a great straightener for its price range & works very well. Just make sure oyu use a protecting prodcut with it, since it's not ceramic.

I recommend VO5 Miracle Mist and a serum like Garnier Fructis or Paul Mitchell Super Skinny.

Also, Pantene Smooth&Sleek shampoo.conditioner really work! They'll smooth out frizz and make your hair smoother. Another good one is Sunsilk for Kinky Hair =)

With all these products together, my hair stays almost completely straight. And with everyone else that uses them (mother, friends, aunts that I've these same products on) their hair stays STICK straight.

Just make sure you wear a hoodie/coat/carry an umbrella, since moisture is your enemy now. Hairspray is great for this- personal faves are Bed Head Spoil Me ($17-19 at salons, but it's incredible) and Herbal Essences Max Hold Hairspray ($3-4 at CVS, WalMart, etc.- a budget-friendly option that works very well & doesn't get sticky)

if you want more product recommendations or anything (chances are good I've tried any product that comes to mind) feel free to ask!

How long does it take to burn fat?
IS it 30 minutes?
And How exactly does your metabolism work?
And what does it do?

Thanks a bunch!!

30 minutes a day is fine. Shoot for 4-5 days a week & you'll see results.

Metabolism is basiclly how quickly your body burns off what you eat, and at what rate. It's defferent for everyone & you can inherit it from your parents. However, this CAN be changed through good diet & exercise (or lack thereof) and isn't a "risk factor" or something you're stuck with, like a predisposition for high cholesterol. It can be managed and changed relatively easily.

:)

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