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I am straight to the point, My advice is given based on my opinions of what YOU write. I may not always tell you what you want to hear but I am not here to sugar coat shit.
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i am a 17 year old girl who has feelings for my 21 year old step-brother and is it normal. i really need your help i dont know how i am going to tell him
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I personally do not find it normal behavior. Your stepbrother is now your family. Blood or not, He is still your family.
I'm adopted, Would it be normal if I were attracted to my sister? No. Move on and meet someone who is not in the family, No family needs that sort of drama anyway.
hi ya, i want the advice from guys please. my boyfriend says, ''we don't need a baby yet as we don't have a enough money to look after and we just can not afford the baby yet, he says.'' is he not want to,'never' or what does he thinking actually? we've been together for two years now. cheers.
He is not ready to bring a baby into this world, He pretty much told you that you both cannot financially afford to care for a child at this time. This does not mean he never wants to have a child, It means right now he is not stable enough to have one at this point in his life. It is smart of him to realize this before it were to be too late, It would be selfish to have a baby because you want one. It is for the best of the both you and the child to wait a few years until you both are more stable in your relationship.
So I finally have a boyfriend, which I havn't had for about 2yrs now. Iv only had "friends with benefits"... and I think I might be a little overdramatic because he hardly talks to me. I get like 2 txtz a day and no calls since we had sex. Am I being weird? I mean he works but he doesn't work all day, I even txtd him and he told me he was with friends, I said well txt me when u have time 4 me, and nothing... :(
He's not interested
Sounds like the guy just got what he wanted out of you and that was that. If he doesn't contact you, He has either loss interested or he has someone else. Don't let him use you as a booty call because likewise that is why he is in contact when he is.
How do I stop worrying about my boyfriends cheating on me? No matter the age, the boy, the situation, no matter what I always seem to get jealous of any of my boyfriends. This is my 3rd long term relationship and I have improved greatly from my 1st but I still have that last little bit of jealousy inside of me when he goes out sometimes. I can't stand it because it prevents me from living my life. I waste my time worrying about him when there is really nothing I can do about it. I try to tell myself that I shouldn't worry and he tells me he loves me all the time. He has never done anything to make me doubt his love yet I can't fully trust him. I want to more than anything and it would hurt him to know I don't. How do I let go of that last bit of jealousy? I know there's no magic cure but is there anything that helped you get over your jealousy? Something that calmed you down and got your mind off of it, even eventually forgotten about the situation?
Thanks so much!
You need to start trusting him and your relationship or you two won't be together much longer. Guys do not like being accused of cheating and neither do women. Unless this guy has given you obvious signs stop stressing over it. Constantly thinking the guy is cheating is going to strain your relationship and push him away from you. If you love him, Trust him. If you are happy, Trust your relationship. The guy is with you, Not someone else. You need to start seeing it that way, A relationship is 50/50 not a one way street. Chill out or you will soon find yourself out of the relationship. Jealousy is normal from time to time but you need to control it and not let it get of hand. I am also a jealous person but I know that my partner and I have a good trust and communication bond, I know that my partner would never do that too me and I have nothing to worry about at all. He is with YOU not someone else, Keep reminding yourself that and don't be that girl that ends up being controlling.
well. during my freshman year of high school, second semester, i started to like this guy and my crush went on for about 1year. during junior year of high school he got a girlfriend and i was pretty hurt so i tried to stop liking him or convince myself that i didn't like him anymore until i believed myself. so during the summer time, i wanted to ask him some question over something that had happened a while back. i didn't think he would actually respond since ever since he found out i liked him he would avoid me while before he would come and talk to me and joke around with me. anyway ever since school began (senior year) and after i asked him that question, he would start talking to me more and started to joke around with me a little bit. why would he start to do this now? and also everytime he comes near me, i start to get tense and uncomfortable, not wanting him to be around almost and i'm not sure why? what could this possibly be? hope you can help :)
It could be you confronted him, Sometimes guys can be just like girls. They wait until they are approached.
Edit: The tension could be from the fact that you liked him and he was aware of it and went in a relationship anyway, I forgot to ask....Is this guy still in a relationship? If he is, It could also be that too. It would be wrong of him to try and date someone else if he is already in a relationship.
help, me and boyfriend have been arguing a lot lately and he's just being extremely moody all the time. we live together. he used to say i mean the world to him but lately he's been saying, his son comes first no matter what and i asked him don't i mean anything to him, he replied by saying,'' my son comes first, how could you ask you mean nothing''? guys please help me, i don't understand what did he mean by this? if i'm right i reckon he's bored with me. thank you all.
I am going to assume that you are the same person who asked what to do when this guy told you to move on.
It sounds to me that you are being selfish by demanding all his time too you, When someone has a child that child should come first before anyone. This guy has the responsibly of being a parent and that will put his relationship on hold in a ways where he cannot give you all the attention you want. Demanding all his time is of course going to push him away. From the sound of his response too you this guy wants to focus on his son instead of a relationship right now. Perhaps he feels guilty about lacking time with his son. You need to respect his feelings, If he wishes to end the relationship then as painful as it is you need to respect that. You cannot force someone to be in a relationship when they don't want to be.
I emailed a guy and told him how I felt about him. He wrote back a few days later. Saying that he apologizes if he doesn't respond back in a timely manner. I then replied back telling him not to rush. Whenever you get the chance to get online again you could reply back then.
Sometime after I sent that email to him. He's been online and active but has yet to reply back to my email. What could be the reason as to why he hasn't replied yet? I'm a 26 yr old Leo female. Emailing an 26 yr old Virgo male. I sent him the email on September 15th 2011 now it's September 26th 2011. I hope I'm not reading too much into it.
If it took him awhile to reply back to your email, Then he likely sounds like the type that doesn't check his email often. I am online often too but I rarely check my emails because I either forget or I am too busy doing other things and don't think to check it. If he has another way of connecting with you online then I would try another way but don't be pushy about it. Be casual, You can express how you feel but don't be too forward.
hey guys ...i am 19yrs old girl.i am worried about my future.my cousin brother forced me to have sex when i was 8-9years old.if i dnt do so he use to beat me.he have sex with me 2-3 times but i didnt bleed.he use to lick n play with my pussy until i get menstruation(on 11).now i am worried if my bf got to know m not virgin..i dnt want him to knw since that was not my fault..help me out.do u think my bf will knw??
There is no way to tell if someone is a virgin or not, However I would be upfront and honest about your past too your boyfriend. Sexual abuse is a hard topic to discuss but if you plan on being sexually active with someone then you should at least let them know that way they are informed that it is a sensitive subject for you. I recommend if you haven't already to seek therapy to help you overcome this. Your cousins brother should be and needs to be caught as this is wrong and you shouldn't let him get away with it. Communication is important in relationships and there should be no secrets kept if you plan on being with someone long term. Be honest and let him know, He may help you cope with it even.
this is just a general question,if you are starting to see someone, is it ok to ask how their past relationshp ended? just to make sure your possible relationship won't end the same way?
I sort of agree with Krista
However, We all get curious I suppose but it's definitely not a subject I would bring up early in the relationship. If you and your partner have a good bond and good communication and the subject of exes just happens to come up then you could ask. However I'd skip out on randomly bringing it up because exes aren't exactly a persons favorite subject.
What does it mean when a person says that "your too close up on me" for the relationship?
Invasion of privacy, Invading space
Ok, so I'm 18 and am a virgin, and I got fingered for the 4th time tonight, and it still hurt!! I've never used a tampon, and never masterbated, so I keep telling myself that's normal for it to feel like that, but when he rubs down there, it doesn't even feel good! It actually hurts...anything he does, and he's only using one finger. He's super gentle, and yet, I can't help but squirm. I don't know what to do.....is there something wrong with me? Is it ever going to get any better? I'm really freaking out here, and my boyfriend is a little confused too because he knows what he's doing, and hes going slow and gentle.....so what's the problem? If anyone can give ANY adive, that would be awesome because I don't have anyone to talk to:/
Lubrication helps, It's about 8 bucks at Walmart. Also, You might find a difference if his nails are clipped down. Try that and let me know how it goes
When I wake up in the morning I weigh 140 and then later on in the day I weigh 144 or 146. When you wake up in the morning is that your real weight?
Generally they say you are supposed to weigh yourself the first thing in the morning without clothes on. (Clothes add an extra 5 or so pounds) The reason you weigh more throughout the day is because you are eating meals and have food in your stomach. So your weight would be what you weigh in the morning.
Currently I'm 15 years old and my boyfriend is 21, though our birthdays technically show we're 5.4 years apart. Anyways, we've been together for about 5 months now and we were wondering about statutory rape laws in Illinois. From what I've gathered, we can be together as long as we don't have sex or really anything close to it until I turn 17, which is the legal consent age for Illinois. I was wondering if there were any other parts of the law that I've overlooked. I really don't want to get him in trouble for being with me so I want to know all I can on the subject.
Okay you seem to be not possibly overlooking the law, You ARE over looking the law.
1, Your boyfriend is an adult, In many states the age of legally consenting to sex is 17. So is it statutory rape, Yes it is.
2, If your boyfriend where to ever get caught or charged he could be forced to register as a sex offender. It is soliciting of a minor and these charges nowadays are serious. My advise, Dump him and stay clear of the people who are over the age of 18 as not only you but they can legally get into trouble.
3, You are young and vulnerable, Older guys tend to take advantage of the younger generation for only one thing.
and I have a question for you, You seriously don't find it weird that someone that is 21 years old would want to date a 15 year old???? Think about that for a minute. If you don't want to be a victim then I would suggest finding someone your own age, No offense to you I'm sure you are a really nice person but com'on your boyfriend is a bit of a pervert
so today at a carnival my dad said wars on ur wrist n I said nothin thn my mom found out n said we r guna talk bout this later becuz I was with all my friends so what do I say when she talks to me because i am an emo
Okay I didn't quiet understand what you said but I'm going to assume that you cut yourself?
Cutting yourself is not being emo, It is an emotional problem that needs to be addressed. "Emo" is a style, People can dress emo but that doesn't mean they all cut themselves. I had a friend in High school that was what we used to call back in the day "punk" and no he didn't cut himself. Anyway, Yes if you were my kid and I saw cuts on your wrist I probably would of reacted the same way your parents did it's not normal behavior.
When a guy asks you if your single, and he stares at you whenever you walk by and smiles at you, is it normal ? im a senior, and this guy in my class stares at me and smiles whenever he sees me, i dont know if thats normal, i dont stare at him first or anything, sometimes i catch him starring, are guys just like that to be nice? were not very close but he did ask me if i had a boyfriend when we talked, were just normal friends "hey, bye , how are you, what are you doing on the weekend " laugh from here to there, but nothing like best friends.. another question is.. ever since i got out of my relationship ive become very self insecure and not confident, i dont know how to talk to him, i dont know what to ask him, i dont know how to even approach him.. and i get all nervous =/ i miss being social but my ex partner kept me so locked up from guys, any advice and help? thank you i really do appreciate it.
17/f.
Does he like you? Well yeah it's kind of obvious.
The best way to talk to a guy is too just be yourself, Go up too him and be casual "Hey, How are ya I was wondering if you are free on so and so night just wondering if you wanted to hang out if so here's my number text me" It's cool, It's simple and leaves his options open.
Trust me, I'd highly doubt you were being to forward if the dude likes you. Just ride it out and go with the flow
I`m pregnant, 6 months along. I started noticing recently something on top of my left rib, it moves ever so slightly but never from that spot. I was showing my mom, hoping she had an answer, she pushed on it (not very hard) and now it`s causing me pain. Do you have any idea what it could be? Or what I could do?
Normal
During a pregnancy your body expand, The belly grows your ribs can become sore. Nothing wrong, Just a normal part of the growing process.
I would like to know what anorexia does to your teeth
Anorexia can cause the body to slowly shut down due too it thinking it's starving. It can weaken the muscles cause hair loss, fragile bones, irregular heart beat, kidney and liver failure and most of all infertility and death.
I'm not really sure what it does too your teeth but I do know that bulimia can very well cause your teeth to rot and decay and I'm assume that anorexia could have the same effect. It's a deadly and very unhealthy thing and I would highly suggest seeking therapy for the problem.
my boyfriends birthday is on wednesday and he'll be turning 18 . We've only been dating for two months so I don't want to spend too much money but I really like him so I want to get him something nice. He plays guitar and loves football lacrosse and hockey.
Can never go wrong on a gift card
when your breast hurts what does it mean?and is it normal if you are not pregnant ,
I don't know why women automatically think they are pregnant when their breast are sore, It could be your period on the way.
I'm 13/f.Me and my current ex boyfriend decided to break up.But we promised we'd try and move on,and if we couldn't,we'd get back together.Now,I really wanna get back with him,but my mind and heart are saying two different things.My heart is saying yes,but my head is saying no.I'm really confused.What should I do get back with him,or don't?
If you don't think you and your ex boyfriend are right for each other, Then you don't date. You should never date someone because you both can't find someone else that is not what a relationship is about.
Relationships about caring, trust and loving one another. If you both don't have that connection then it is pointless to be together because even if you don't have someone else the relationship with your ex boyfriend wouldn't work out if you aren't right. It sounds to me that you just want the guy back because nobody else is available, Just be patient. You are only 13 years old and trust me there will be guys for you. Never date someone because you are bored, That is the worst thing to do.