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My boyfriend is 5 years older than I am (statutory rape?)
Currently I'm 15 years old and my boyfriend is 21, though our birthdays technically show we're 5.4 years apart. Anyways, we've been together for about 5 months now and we were wondering about statutory rape laws in Illinois. From what I've gathered, we can be together as long as we don't have sex or really anything close to it until I turn 17, which is the legal consent age for Illinois. I was wondering if there were any other parts of the law that I've overlooked. I really don't want to get him in trouble for being with me so I want to know all I can on the subject.
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Statutory rape and the age of consent have nothing to do with one another. Statutory rape has nothing to do with sex and more to do with the fact that you two are together and that sex could happen. Then there is a Federal Law that comes in to play should the two of you cross a state line. The law is called the Mann act. This act in brief has to do with crossing the state line for the purpose of immoral acts. Here again it is a conceived purpose not necessarily an act.
Then there are lesser charges such as leading to the delinquency of a minor. Another has to do with interference with parental authority and there are more charges that can be brought if law enforcement wants to get really nasty with your boyfriend.
Why would they want to get nasty? For the simple reason that a 21 year old dating or having any type of adult relationship other than mentor, raises all kinds of red flags. The foremost is one of child predator. I'm not saying this is the case with your boyfriend, This is what we as adults see in a relationship such as you are having with this older adult. Law Enforcement will see this and more. Until you are 18 not 17 if you are with any male more than 4 years older than you, he is subject to all that I have written above. Your boyfriend being 21 should be well aware of these facts.
Question: Does he know you are only 15?
The one thing I noticed is you have not said if your parents are aware that you are seeing someone this much older than you. If your parents are not aware then it is them not us you should be talking to. Do not be surprised, when and if you do talk to your parents, which you should do, that they forbid you to see this person.
I realize to you having someone this much older than you, having a loving interest in you, makes you feel so much more mature than the rest of your friends. While I understand how you feel I have to warn you of the inherent dangers of this relationship. This man may have honest feelings for you. My age a maturity, as well as your parents tell us this is wrong and you could be in danger.
So please if you have not told your parents about him. Then do as they say as it is for your own best interest.
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Okay you seem to be not possibly overlooking the law, You ARE over looking the law.
1, Your boyfriend is an adult, In many states the age of legally consenting to sex is 17. So is it statutory rape, Yes it is.
2, If your boyfriend where to ever get caught or charged he could be forced to register as a sex offender. It is soliciting of a minor and these charges nowadays are serious. My advise, Dump him and stay clear of the people who are over the age of 18 as not only you but they can legally get into trouble.
3, You are young and vulnerable, Older guys tend to take advantage of the younger generation for only one thing.
and I have a question for you, You seriously don't find it weird that someone that is 21 years old would want to date a 15 year old???? Think about that for a minute. If you don't want to be a victim then I would suggest finding someone your own age, No offense to you I'm sure you are a really nice person but com'on your boyfriend is a bit of a pervert
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