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Due to assholes on the site and people who have no idea what the hell they are talking about I have left the site. Ahem, Dangernerd...Who likes to make assumptions about people when they do not know them ;) Then has brass balls to go search up whatever information he can gather so he has back fire to use whenever he feels like starting a little hissy fit. Let me remind those who read this, Dangernerd has a nasty tendency of using what you post on the site against you if you where to ever have a problem with someone on the site. Mind you, He likes to gather false information in a way that he thinks will benefit him in the long run. This site is run by someone who doesn't have class, Who likes to pigeon hole people. The same guy who supposedly is running an "ADVICE" column but somehow has pre-teens asking about sex and how to do sexual things to their "partners" this site is also filled with people giving advice that is NOT helpful or use full in any form rather than most encouraging the young ones. Well lets get to the bottom of it, This site is a laughing matter. Dangernerd is a joke and couldn't be a bigger clown ;)
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There may be a possibility I'm pregnant, and I'm 15. I'm just curious about the abortion pill. Anyone know about it? Anyone ever had an experience with it?
Everything you need to know...
http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topics/abortion/abortion-pill-medication-abortion-4354.htm
've been at THIS job maybe 6 months.
I am a Marine professionally and a Caregiver in the cilivian world. This question relates to my caregiver job.
There's this older woman, Gilda, probably in her 50's, she & I rarely talk & even when I give her a report @ my shift-she acts like she's too busy to listen. There's a vibe about her, I do not like-so I keep it strictly business with her, other than "hi,good morning,ect."
Ever since I started working here, she has gone out of her way to make me appear that I don't know how to do my job.
She's constintly complaining to the assistant manager about nonsense.
Who then in turn "talks" aka accuses me of whatever outlandish bullshit she could think of that day.
(Whom by the way, the "AM" is one of her closest friends.
When they do come in-in the morning, they're either talking about one of the other co-workers or are too busy in their "bff world" to listen to the shift debriefing.)
I've been in the medical field almost 3 years, and tho that's not that long- I know what I'm doing and how to do my job effectively.
I'm the youngest one working there, I'm 24 and I think I've done pretty well with dealing with these types of people. I've been really nice & respectful to her and everyone else I work with, yet Gilda seems so set on finding something to nail me with.
Its getting so immature & ridiculous, its also starting to irritate me that the "AM" (assistant manager) just automatically sides with her or dosent even give me the benefit of the doubt when interrogating me.
Examples, I work in a group home working overnights-so we have to do EVERYTHING.
Anywho, one morning after I had gotten everyone up and dressed, did a shower and changed linen, there was a lot of laundry so I separated it into two piles & when I left there was clothes in both the washer & dryer. (Usually its only in the washer when I leave and I wrote it in the "communication book" that I left out for them to see it, bc sometimes I'm such in a rush to get out of there & get to class on time ill forget to tell them stuff so I write about occurances/info throughout the night. It wasn't done by 7am so I had no choice but to leave it in there.)
The next morning, Gilda makes this big long speach that I need to fold the laundry in the dryer.
I reminded her that it was in the communication book and that in fact I did tell her.
She just shook her head a remained silent. And the next day the "AM" had a talk with me & said when Gilda talked to me about it *I* was unresponsive and didn't seem to care.
Another example, we have an abusive, tyrant resident that I've had many, many issues with, nearly everyday.
One morning, she wAs flippin out about the house not having any cookies and apparently it was my fault. When I went into her room to make her roommates bed, she threw tissue boxes at me, kicked her walker, messed up her room, broke stuff, told me to get the hell out, ect... Again, I wrote it in the communication book and told Gilda that I couldn't make the beds in that room bc this resident was such and such blah, blah. She said ok and nodded her head like she understood.
That following Monday, bc this happened on a Friday, the "AM" "asks" if I remembered to make all the beds bc I had left two of them unmade Friday. I went to the communication book and my notes weren't there.
I tried to explain to him, but he didn't seem to care enough to listen to my side.
And of course that morning she didn't say anything to me.
Just resently, as in 5*14*2010 7am, Gilda asks if I have been changing a resident who is steadily declining and is refusing to help.
Now, I've written notes and talked to them in the morning (and so has the 3pm-11pm caregiver) that she's really hard to get up, yet its possible-easier with two, but possible with one none the less.
Gilda says when she goes to change her in the morning she's soaking wet.
Now, there is not a schedule for when someone urinates. Regardless being in this field or not, everyone who pees knows that its no gaurantee that just bc you take someone to the restroom dosent mean they're not gonna pee as soon as they get back to their room. I just looked @ her like, 'are you really that stupid.' While she accused with those eye brows and wide eyes, which nonetheless the AM was in the kitchen with us, he didn't say anything but you could tell he was listening.
She asked more stupid questions and gave out obvious facts, like 'she's not helping lift herself anymore' and she must be heavy and are you sure you're taking her. . Ect.
I told her what the first paragraph of this example says, and maintained an "non offended" face with good composure. Then as I left, I told them to check the cameras bc that's what they're there for.
As soon as I shut the door, I heard Gilda and the AM talking shit. And saying she dosent believe me, ect.
And the list goes on and on, did I empty the dishwasher? Did I clean the bathrooms, did I put cream on everyone, did I take the trash out, blah, blah, blah. All that is common sense.
NOTHING is ever a question, she asks me like she already knows, which really insults me, as a caregiver.
I know I'm doing my job and I know that people who are constintly complaining about others, are usually the ones trying to defer attention from themselves. Or whatever their intension. It only bothers me bc, like I said she's been there longer and she has really good relationships with the higher ups. And I need this job but am filling out other apps but til I find something else, I'm stuck.
Does anyone have any advise on how to deal with her better or shut her up at least???
No matter what job you hold, There is always one person that will test your patience.
Ignoring a co-worker while respectively responding to them is probably the best way to handle the situation. As it is not your job to mingle and create a friendship, It is your job to do what you got to do and do it right. Try talking to the assistant manager there is a clear path between stating opinions and harassing another worker. If I were in your position when I get the chance I probably would pull her aside and calmly as possible explain to her that you don't appreciate her complaining and insulting you. Not showing a reaction will eventually show her that you have your head held high enough and you have the maturity to handle stressful situations. At 24, A job in the medical field is a big accomplishment nor do some people are going to hand the job to you lightly there is always a challenge no matter what job you work. You could also try to transfer elsewhere but remember it only makes her get what she is looking for.
My daughter got caught shoplifting recently and I need to know if there are shoplifting lawyers or is there some other defense?
I don't know why she did it. In fact, She has NO idea why she did it. So she says, anyway. I am both furious at her and scared that a trifling bit of stupidity will ruin her entire life. Can anyone suggest a course of action?
Thank you!
I'm not sure if they have "shoplifting" lawyers but I do know they also have public defenders which are supposedly cheaper than a lawyer and almost just as good.
Depending on her age and the state she lives in If she is a minor it shouldn't be on her permanent record. As I speak from plenty of juvenile experiences I believe once she hits 18 her record is cleared of juvenile defenses but if she screws up again once she is an adult she will be hitting some serious trouble. If she is a minor at this time then she might get a break depending on how bad the charges are she could be facing possible community service, Juvenile or even a fat fine.
Sorry its so long :)
So my boyfriend 2 nights ago texted me while i was at work telling me about how this girl was hitting on him at the bar and asked me what he should do. I told him just tell her you have a girlfriend, and he said okay. When i get back from work, hes at the apartment, and so is this girl! Granted, another guy was there, but there sitting in the dark watching a movie and drinking some wine she brought over.
The other guy, Derek, told me that all night she was asking people if he had a girlfriend and that he never told her he did. Derek ended up telling her that Joe was taken, and after he told her that this girl, Susan still came over to my house.
I walk in and she got all pissed off that i was there, and she decided to leave. Derek offered her a ride home and she refused and when Joe asked if she wanted him to drive her she responded with a very fast yes.
So my boyfriend drives her home, comes back, and doesnt think he did anything wrong!
How can i make him understand that what he did was completely unfair. Im not a jealous person and i didnt say anything rude to this girl. All i want is to explain to him how he hurt my feelings.
How can i go about doing this? I dont want to yell or anything, so what is the best way i can go about explaining how he hurt me?
You don't need to explain, Your boyfriend was clearly in the wrong. It was wrong of him not to tell this girl that he was in a relationship with you and this could be a huge red flag that to maybe he was cheating think about it...."Why did he not mention he was taken?" When a female brings over wine to a guys house it means romance, and the big one is to enlighten the mood. It wasn't fair but it was also betrayal and completely disrespectful. I'm sure your boyfriend is well aware of the fact that you feel hurt by his actions but offering the girl a ride home should show you that maybe he doesn't care that much? I sure would get the impression if I were in your shoes, Hell not talking to him would do the job if he had such a nerve to continue egging her on while you were there. I think it's time to kick the boyfriend out the door, Talking to him may not do the deed...but the fact that he still had intentions while you were there. No, Don't put up with that crap. Show him what he did to you, Dump him and move on cause you are clearly to good for his unfaithful lies.
me and my boyfriend have been together a little over a year and 4 months. hes 18 and im 17. he jus recently like 2 or 3 weeks ago started night school. well today he uploaded a couple of pics on myspace and they are of him and 2 girls from school. there not touching there like sitting next to eachother like in class. but one pic one of the girls is wearing his hat. im not sure if im over thinking which i happen to do alot. but i remember how he used to post all these pics of him and these 2 girls that lived by him and him with a couple of his friends that are girls. hes one of those guys that every girl likes and he has a bunch of friends that are girls., but im like 99% sure he wont cheat on me. but lately alot we been fighting and getting into arguments and stuff so i been trying to stop acting all the way i been i kinda blame me cause i overthink way to hard about things that dont matter to him. i used to have a whole album on myspace of me and a buncha different guys and he never said anything about it cause to him it was just pictures. nothing more. and im not sure if im just over reacting like how i always do. someone please help me./ i dont want to mention anything to him cause it will jus cause more problems. he already thinks i dont like him having friends. =[ please help thanks in advance
I don't think it's a matter of him looking to tick you off, I think the guy just simply has friends that are female and you are a little paranoid about the situation which causes you to become defensive. If your boyfriend is paying less attention you, Ignoring you and not seemingly as affectionate as he was then there is a possibility that he may or is loosing interest in the relationship. Look for the signs of cheating without making accusations and jumping to the obvious by seemingly suspecting something is up. Study him, Are these girls all he talks about? How does he act when he does bring them up? Is is nervous? Does he act like he is hiding something? Quick to change the subject? If so then I would start to become suspicious to whether something is going on or not. Making assumptions when you don't really have much proof to go by (Not including what I just said) is only going to make him think that you don't trust him. Trust is 99% of a relationship, Until he starts giving you reasons to become suspicious chill out. Act like you are fine with it and it doesn't bother you but keep in the back of your mind that you are looking for clues and signs of cheating. You can do that without seeming so obvious and jumping to assumptions. If he is cheating, Then clearly he wasn't good enough for you and you need to end the relationship.
17/f, boyfriend is also 17 and we've been going out for just about 6 months.
Well, a few weeks ago was our 5 month anniversary and on that day I fell more in love with my boyfriend than I had ever been. We had really deep talks and we sat in a hammock under the moonlight and he told me that I was the most beautiful girl in the world. I was the happiest I've ever been. It was wonderful and perfect and I knew that we had never been closer than that night.
However, just a few days after that, a ton of bad things happened in my family. My uncle died, my cousin went into the ICU because of heart complications, and my parents started fighting nonstop because of funeral arrangements. Understandably, or at least I thought it was understandable, I was very upset. I didn't come to school for a few days and kept snapping at everyone, especially my boyfriend. I was also VERY prone to tears. I thought he'd understand because obviously losing somebody you're very close to, the possibility of losing another, and your parents yelling can really take a toll on your life! I thought wrong. My boyfriend is basically avoiding me. He says that he can't help me because I'm just letting the stress get to me and that I'm the only person who can make that go away. He used to write me letters, and kiss me, and tell me how much he loved me... lately he hasn't been doing any of those things. This has made me even sadder and more snappish. Yesterday he said something really scary.
Me: *RAWRMEANSTUFFRAWR*
BF: Well, I'm going to leave you alone because you're really pissed off.
Me: The only reason I'm pissed off is because you're pissing me off because you're not there for me!
BF: I'm still going to leave you alone now.
Me: Or leave me forever, that's what you mean, right? (Remember this was in the heat of the moment)
BF: If that's what you want, yeah.
Me: Well, you're probably not going to see me for a week. That's probably good... we both need to take a break from each other... but not a breakup break, just a thinking time.
BF: A long break.
So, we're not seeing each other, but we're still talking. The problem is, he rarely wants to talk to me and he's being really weird. I felt terrible for being so mean to him so I keep trying to make it up. I really regretted all the bad things I've said and tried to make it clear to him that they weren't anything to do with him, but rather, my life. I've apologized and told him that he truly means the world to me and that I don't want to break up with him. That this is one bad period out of months of wonderful ones... but he feels distant, cold, and agitated. It's like he doesn't want to be around me... I try to give him lots of space, but then he thinks I'm ignoring him. I feel like he's going to break up with me and I'm dreading it. I love this boy... When I tell him my fears, he says that I'm stupid and that I worry too much but he does nothing to help solve them.
I know you're going to say that if he doesn't see you through this, he's not worth it. Trust me, he's worth it. There's just a big wedge between us that I have to try and remove. I just want to go back to the way we were on our 5 month anniversary. I really really love him... and I'm far from ready for this relationship to be over.
That was terribly long... and I really thank all of you who took the time to read this. You have no idea how much it means to me.
Your boyfriend is a jerk, Sorry to be blunt but it's the truth.
A family member had passed away, Your parents are constantly fighting and right when you need your boyfriend the most he turns his back on you. Don't sound like a true boyfriend in my opinion. Someone who truly loves someone does not turn their backs on them no matter the circumstances. Although, Your boyfriend probably has his own issues to deal with instead of completely cutting the rope, Why can't he be your moral support from a distance? A phone call at least 3 times a day to let you know he is supporting you in some way. Relationships take work, In good times and in bad. If he is not willing to give you the mental support when you need it most then he is not worth your time. In fact, Now would be a good time to realize that maybe he wasn't the boyfriend you thought he was all along. No guy that says he loves you etc. and then suddenly turns his back when you need him the most is worth anyone's time. You have every right to be upset and you don't owe your boyfriend anything. Sure, Things were good for awhile but now that things took it's toll with your family he doesn't want nothing to do with you? ...I would rethink the situation and whether he is worth your time or not.
Every day I wake up, I have to think about a reason why not to commit suicide. I am married with children. I love my wife and my kids, but, the only reason I havent' commited suicide, is because I feel guilty about the financial burden it would cause. I have a spinal chord disease and every day is a struggle with unbearable pain and constant medication. I feel my wife is getting tired of me and my illness. My illness has caused me to lose my job and my home, I am bankrupt, I don't have a job or an income. What do I have to live for???? I just don't know what to do or what purpose there is to my life. I really wish God could just give me the strength to do it, so that I don't continue to suffer anymore. My relationship with my wife has deteriorated to the point where she doesn't respect me and, she's probably cheating on me...I wouldn't blame her if she is....Who wants to be with a cripple??? No one does. I really need to hear the right words, so that I can just get it done!!! I don't want to live anymore, but I just don't feel like I have the stregth to go through with it. I need to find a way so that I can do it without feeling guilty. Can you tell me how, please?
I'm sorry to hear all of this..
As often as you think of ending your life, Think about the reasons why you are living. You have children, Despite all of your wounds your children will always love you unconditionally. You are their Father, Their Hero and in my mind Mom and Dad are always god in the eyes of a child. Family in the end is what everyone has, They are the ones to support us and help us through our toughest obstacles life has in store for us.
Financially, Have you tried to apply for SSI/SSDI? Possibly collect unemployment? These are things you could qualify for, If you haven't you could look into it.
If you can't work, You could also try to apply for food stamps, As it would bring in food to the household
There is always a way, Never loose hope. When you feel down about things in life look at the good side, Your children will always be there and they will always look up to you.
i am wondering now if i made the right decision; to start with im 17/f and my x bfs 18. we were friends for a year before we started to date and we ended up dating for 4 months. he ended the relationship because he said he wasnt sure what he wanted anymore. i was really upset because i liked him a lot but i respected decision. he said he really liked me still and it would take time to get over me. i think the real reason was that he doesnt want a relationship, he never really lasts in relationships - i was his longest. more to the point; he asked if we can remain friends and at first i said yes. a few days later he text me and we were talking. it really hurt me speaking to him knowing that i can only be his friend so i told him i couldnt be friends with him for that reason. he seemed really angry and upset when i said this and he said he thinks i didnt care much about him to begin with. i know this isnt true but do you think i made the right decision to break off contact with him completely??
I would of probably said something along the lines of
"I agree that we can continue to be friends but I think I might need a few days to clear my head, I am still getting over the break up I think we should keep the contact to a minimum"
Rather than completely cutting off contact, I think he probably felt more hurt because you two agreed to a friendship and you cut the contact. Relationships are not easy, Both friendship and relationships take work. Most of all communication is the big key to working things out these days.
I would call him back and explain to him that you are sorry for what you said, You were confused and hurt. Take it from there
My daughter is in the 5th grade and doesn't interact with children her age. when anyone talks to her or asks her questions she just shrugs her shoulders. shes on depression medicine because of the loss of her grandparents years ago, she told the psychotherapist that she had feelings of killing her self she has a second grade reading level. I am needing help finding out what to do with my daughter. her medicine shes on is fluxen not sure on the spelling. and how to talk to her about her period.
How is your child doing in school? Grade wise.
If your child is in the 5th grade and has a 2nd grade reading level it could be that she has a learning disorder and takes her frustration on giving up. It is very well a possibility.
If she is on depression medication and is showing signs of depression and the medications don't seem to be working then maybe consult her doctor about possibly trying another medication
Her period is something that is good to explain at an early age, You should sit down with your daughter and explain to her what becoming a woman means and what to expect. How a period comes once a month, Every woman goes through it.
what are the birds and the bees? and dont tell me to 'google it' because i already did
Depends on how it is used
However, When someone says "Birds and the Bees" they are usually referring to something sexual.
Sometimes if a guy uses the term they are referring to their genitals.
13/f and im getting braces this month =(((( i want to know a few things. do they hurt being put on? are there any ways to soothe my mouth if they DO hurt? (foods, etc) what color(s) should i get them in? what color(s) should i NOT get them in? thanks for your help!
I had braces for 4 years, To be honest they do somewhat hurt when you have them put on. However, It's more of a sore feeling then pain. I would suggest NOT getting the colors Green or Yellow. Only because it looks like you have crap in your teeth. Try not to chew gum, From experience if you get gum in your braces you will have a hell of a time getting it out and it's NOT fun. For the first few days of getting your braces on eat soft foods (Salad, Jello, etc) Your teeth may be sensitive to anything hard. Try avoiding anything too cold, Sometimes eating things that are ice cold will make the pain worse.
In the past couple weeks, ive gained 10-12 lbs and i cant stop freaking out. My exercise and eating habits havent changed and i dont know why but i keep putting on more and more weight. I feel so disgusted with myself. Can anyone explain to me why ive gained all this weight all of the sudden? (No, im not pregnant.) I dont overeat. I actually burn all my calories. Any way i can lose all this weight because exercise and eating healthy arent working?
If you exercise then it could be muscle building up this very well could be the cause for the weight gain.
If you are drinking A LOT of water, By this I mean (Chugging a good couple bottles at a time) Then it could be possible you are gaining water weight
I would consult a doctor if this starts to become any more of a problem
Should I be worried that my husband still talks to his ex-girlfriend? I am trying to be okay with it but it still bothers me knowing that he talks with his ex. Mostly because she tends to call when I am at work and recently I woke up in the middle of the night and he was talking to her. It was almost 3 in the morning. There is a time change so it wasnt that late where she lives but still. My husband assures me that he is doing nothing wrong and that i need to be more understanding. Am I wrong for worrying or getting upset with him everytime he talks with her? He tells me what their conversation was about and tells me when he talks to her.
It certainly would raise suspicion, I understand that you are trying to be okay with the fact that he is in contact with his ex, However there should be a limitation to how much and why on heavens earth is he talking with his ex girlfriend at 3 in the morning!?! Something is suspicious here, Sounds like he may be hiding something from you and isn't telling the full truth. As I always said, Never have contact with the ex not only is it a load of drama but half the time it leads to cheating and lies. This is the part where you step up the plate, It's you or the ex, Don't be that woman that gets stuck in the middle. You are not as stupid as you look and don't let him play mind games with you. No, You are not being controlling you are laying down the ground rules, Ex is out of the picture. Listen, The fact is he is in a relationship and he is committed to you, Here is where your husband is wrong he is talking to his ex girlfriend, He is talking to her late at night. Talk to him, Let him know how it's making you feel and let him know that you are not going to tolerate any sneakiness and that if he wants to play mind games with you then he needs to make up his mind it's her or you.
I am a 26 year old female... Ok here goes... About two weeks ago I met a guy... We started talking on the phone and that following Friday we went out to a resteraunt... And afterwards he took me home and that was that... So the nextday he called and we talked heavy all day on the phone... I found out things about him and him me... And what I really liked was the fact that he was ten years older so quite naturally I felt that he was ready to settle down... So the next day which was Sunday night I came over his house and we watched a movie... And then I end up having sex with him... And afterwards I felt thaat it was way to soon and I felt stupid and cheap... But what made me feel better was, after he dropped me off he called me and we talked about an hour later... So I felt that he just didn't want sex he wanted more... I work and I go to medical school so I leave out of the house 7 in the morning and I'm not home to after eight at night... And so that Monday night I called him and he asked me to come over his house so I got in the shower put on clothes and then I came over... And again we watch a movie and we had sex... So everyday until today I have been going over his house doing basicly the same... But somedays I been over there I have been noticing things... He gets a lot of calls on his cell phone... And sometimes he'll go in the other room and I'll here him saying that he'll be over in twenty mintues... And this is at two O'clock in the morning... ?his phone is always on vibrate... And other times since I go to med school and I work I come home really hungry and when I get home I quickly shower get ready and go over his house... And so I'm hungry and he never offer to take me to a resteraunt or he never have any food in his home for me to eat snack on whatever but... It's times that before he pick me up from his house that he actually gets food and dont offer me anything when I'm on the phone complaining that I'm hungry... So since Monday threw Friday I'm so busy all day so I didnt mind spending time with him late at night... So Satuday no school no work so quite natrually I assumed that we will spend the day togeather going out to the movies or out to eat but... he barley answered his phone and when we did talk it was briefly... S about 9:30 to night I called him and he told me that him and his guy friend were at a resteraunt... And he told me later on he'll come pick me up to go over his house... OMG that reaally hurted my feelings here I am starting to fall for this guy and bascily I feel I'm not even worth his time... And the crazy thing is I never seem him in the day time... And I really dont believe he was even out with his friend... So from what you heard about my story how do you feel especially sinceit's almost twelve and I still havent heard from him yet and my feelings are so hurt... Please give me your advice... Ps: Thanx for listening because I need to know am I playing myself short...
Sigh..
You have just hit all the signs of cheating...When men cheat they try to "hide" it every way possible. They put their phones on vibrate, They don't answer it, They go in other rooms etc. These are the main signs. The thing you really messed up on is you really should not have given yourself away so soon. Some guys are willing to say and do anything to get what they want out of a woman and hun to be honest with you it sounded like he spoiled you to stroke your ego. Think about what I am about to say here....He was going somewhere at 2am and his phone was on vibrate? Unless someone he knew dropped dead on the floor there is no way in hell that isn't suspicious. Honestly, It's not that you aren't worth his time it is the other way around. He isn't worth your time, You are a successful young lady who deserves a man and someone who is going to respect you. A guy that strokes your ego to get a piece of the pie isn't nothing but old dirt. We all make mistakes, This is valuable lesson I hope you will take into consideration for the next one you meet. Never give yourself away so soon, Make sure the guy really respects you for who you are. All in all I think you should move on you are better than that.
first off, i'm 17/f. i RARELY ever get nightmares. maybe like 2 a year or so. but when i do have them, they scar me. seriously.
so the fact that i had two nightmares in 45 minutes, back to back, really frightened me. i can't remember the last time i was this scared. heres what happened:
(all of the following is a dream, so don't get confused)
i'm walking through really dark woods with two of my friends. we never talk anymore, so i found this odd. it was unusually dark and i couldnt see a thing, but i was still walking around. i noticed after a while that a chicken was following me. a black chicken. so my friends and i get separated in a path that leads through my back yard. the entire yard was turned in a complete 90 degree angle, so nothing was where it was supposed to be. but when i got separated from my friends, i found a crater in my yard (that isnt there, in real life) and i laid down in it. and the goddamned chicken came up and started walking all over me, looking me dead in the eye, and just standing there, staring at me. well, around this time i guess there was a transition. i was in my basement, still in pitch blackness, and i guess this chicken was making me lose my mind because i was running around screaming, and i called my other friend on my cellphone and was yelling at her, asking her to help me. meanwhile, i kept seeing some warning everywhere around me. i dont remember what it said, i think "mourning for you" but i cant remember. anyways, i was running around my basement, just freaking out. i lost my phone at some point and i could hear my friends voice yelling "dont leave! dont leave!" and anytime i saw one of my three cats, they would keep duplicating! exact copies! and anytime they'd do that, i'd think it was the black chicken. finally, i THOUGHT i woke up. i was on my couch in the living room, it was still dark, and then i hear this sound in the kitchen. i stay where i am, basically immobile. i couldnt move. and then the sound started getting closer, and my dad comes out with a giant fan, trying to cool down the room i guess. and then i keep trying to tell him to turn it off but i am incapable of talking, and then i try to get up to turn it off because for some reason, ireally hated that fan. i wanted it off. and then i start writhing on the couch and finally i scream "turn it off!" and he runs and turns it off, and then some force inside me makes me sit up on the couch, and i'm basically a ragdoll. something in side me is either picking me up as an outside force or controlling me from the inside, i figured. and then i start screaming "no! no! no!" and my dad is still staring at me like "wtf?" and then the force, whatever it is, THROWS me across the room and i land weirdly on the window sill and break my back. and keep in mind, i'm still thinking all this is real but i realize its not because my dad isn't freaking out that his daughter just broke her back and is seriously injured. THEN i finally wake up forreal.
anyways, as you might be able to tell, i was freaked out and if anyone might know what all of this means, that would be awesome. thanks :)
According to Dreammoods.com
Woods
To dream that you are lost in the woods, indicates that you are starting a new phase in your life. You are expressing some anxiety about leaving behind the familiar and what you know.
Lost
To dream that you are lost, suggests that you have lost your direction in life or that you have lost sight of your goals. You may be feeling worried and insecure about the path you are taking in life. Alternatively, you may be trying to adjust and get accustomed to a new situation in which the rules and conditions are ever changing.
Crater
To see a crater in your dream, indicates that aspects of your unconscious are being slowly revealed to you. This dream symbol is also symbolic of past memories and experiences.
Night
To have a dream that takes place at night, represents some major setbacks and obstacles in achieving your goals. There are some issues in your life that you are facing, but are not too clear. You should put the issues aside so you can clear your head and come back to it later. Alternatively, night may be synonymous with death, rebirth, reflection, and new beginnings
Fear
To dream that you feel fear, indicates that your achievements will not be as successful as you had anticipated. You are experiencing anxieties in various aspects of your life. The key to overcoming your fear is to discuss them and deal with them openly.
I can never remember my dreams! When I wake up I can remember I had a dream and that I REALLY wanted to (for example) tell somebody about it but I cannot recall ANYTHING about it really. I know I've been dreaming but I can never remember them and it's frustrating. Is it because I don't get very many hours of sleep? Should I see a sleep specialist about it because my best friend said that her dad had to go to one of those before for something...
I've been a lucid dreamer most of my life, From my personal point of view. I think dreams come when you don't try.
Dreaming comes with being aware of your subconsciousness, Your surroundings.
From my point of view:
Dreaming is a gift, Being aware in your dreams that you are dreaming helps dreams itself to become more powerful and easier to accomplish. You dream of things that bother you, You dream of things that you have not resolved in your waking life. Things that fear us, We dream to over come the fear. To dream comes with practice, Training and mind control. If you tell yourself "I'm going to dream tonight" the chances are you will not dream. If you are on medications, Sometimes that can also trigger dreaming because your brain is drugged. (As I've experienced the difference)
I don't know what happened but for the past two weeks my stomach has been growling so loud and so frequently. I haven't changed my eating habits and I do eat fairly well so I really don't think it's that I'm actually hungry! It's getting on my nerves because it's embarrassing to have a growling stomach near my friends. What am I doing wrong?! Should I go see a doctor about a constant stomach growl or something?!
I'm not a doctor, but there could be a number of reasons for this problem.
1) Irritable bowel syndrome
2) Gas, Constipation
3) Not eating enough, Drinking enough water
4) It could be an intestinal problem
Your stomach could be digesting itself also..
The only way to truly know is to consult a doctor.
I love my boyfriend. He's been my best friend for as long as I can remember. The only reason why I'm contemplating breaking up with him is because I don't find myself sexually attracted to him.
I'm a very sexual person, and it's important to me... But am I being shallow?
Depends
If sex is all you want and think about in the relationship then I would have no choice to say that is a shallow reason of breaking up with someone.
However, If it is NOT all you think about then no, You are entitled to a happy relationship just as much as he is. If that means you are not sexually attracted to him then you need to let him know that you feel that you may have fallen out of love and your feelings are just not there for him anymore. That is a fair way to say it and it's pretty straight forward. However, When you do break up with him bare in mind that depending on how hard he takes it you two may not be friends in the end. This is about YOUR happiness, It is not your job to pretend to be sexually attracted to someone, If you aren't happy then you need to let him know. Communicate with him
i went on a date with a guy i really like today. he was so sweet to me and kept putting his arms around me and holding me and stuff. he asked me what i would say if he asked me out, and like last time i responded by bein so sorry saying idk if im ready and i get so unsure. i kissed him today and he flipped out so happily and his face was so red i couldnt calm him down..
a reason may be hes never had a girlfriend, is younger, and i just got out of one of over a year relationship, over a month ago by my ex cheating on me but im over him.. i really like this guy but i have not a clue whats holding me back.. what could it be? also is it bad that i like him so much but i wont go out yet?
Cheating is a very hurtful thing. You might of moved on physically but it is still there mentally. A month ago is not a long time, The situation is still somewhat of a fresh issue.
Healing takes time, Breakups take time and what takes even longer...is moving on. It's great that you are attempting to date again but ask yourself one question..Are you really ready? Cheating is not only extremely disrespectful but depending on the person who is being cheated on it's like a stab to the heart. Open wounds don't just heal over night, Sometimes they don't even heal in a month. It takes time, You can't spit your knee open get stitches and then take them out in 30 minutes because the pain is gone. You need to heal first, Why do you feel like something is holding you back? Maybe you aren't ready just yet.
i'm a little upset right now. when my little sister had speech problems/delay, we knew something might be wrong with her brain development or functioning of the brain, or whatever. we thought she had autism. but we found out recently it wasn't autism, she has aspergers. she's 14 now, turning 15 in november, but i'm really worried about her future. she's really bright and is the absolute nicest person in the world, she'd never do anything wrong or hurt anyone on purpose. she's very sensitive and cries easily. at school she has friends, but she's homeschooled and goes to school only on fridays. she has no friends in the neighborhood. in her free time, she sits on the computer and watches shows and videos on youtube or paces around in her room. she NEVER LEAVES THE HOUSE unless its for school or church. and everyone at her school knows something is wrong with her, but they all think shes just weird, they dont know whats going on with her mind. basically, the best i can explain it, she has the mind of a 5-7 year old. you can hear it in the way she talks and walks and her body language, she's very different. it upsets me like no other when someone tells me that my sister is weird or she acts "strange" or that she's stalking some boy because she thinks he's cute. she doesnt realize that when she has a crush, she cant make it very obvious, so shes never had a boyfriend and from what i can tell, shes not going to get one anytime soon.
so after all this inside information on my sister, can anyone tell me if they know that her brain will eventually catch up to her, or if she's going to be like this for the rest of her life? she wants to get married and have children, but our whole family can't ever see her moving out on her own since she thrives on family and security. what can i do?
Aspergers is a form of Autism. I have dated someone for 5 years who also had it.
The good news, There are medications that the doctor can prescribe to help with the disorder.
The bad news, Aspergers is a mental disorder which can be treated but will never fully go away.
I don't know too much about Aspergers but I can say there are alternatives that can help your sister to have a better future. Counseling, Medications and even a Life Coach may be a good alternative for her. People who have aspergers are sensitive to light, noises (especially loud noises) and also tend to be more emotional. As far as living arrangements come for her future you could suggest to your parents that a group home for people with mental disabilities could be a good option for her but there are always ways, Another good alternative may be a living assistant environment.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Asperger_syndro