|
Engaged at a young age
Ok.. Im 14.. and I really love my boyfriend.. well.. last night.. we were talkin for a REALLY long time on the phone.. and he proposed to me. Its was really cute the way he did it. I of course said yes cause im so much in love with him.
What im wondering tho is: Do u think it can work out.. hes 16 and im 14... and also... do u think im too young to be engaged?
[ ]
Want to answer more questions in the Relationships category?
Maybe give some free advice about: Love Life?
I know everyone is saying you are too young and you have your whole life ahead of you. Thin about this. If you know he's the one, would you rather waste your life away from him before you realise there is no one else? I am 14 and on Febuary 6 I will have been with my bf for a year and I think he is going to propose to me. I don't think you are ever to young to make promises and come on, you get a free ring! Looking at when you posted this I'm guessing you are around 18 now, hope you and your bf are still together and maybe planning marriage! Good Luck! :)
]
I don't think you're too young! An engagement is simply a promise. It doesn't mean that tomorrow you're going to go get married...it means that you like the idea of spending the rest of your lives together.
Just think about this... depending on how long you've been together can effect how much you can love him. What I mean is that love is like a puppy. If you got a puppy, and it died two days later, you didn't have enough time to love it too much, but when you got it you were excited to have an new thing in your life. Whereas if you have it for a year and it dies, you had time to grow and adjust to it and actually love it, so you miss it more. Are you in the "new thing" in your life stage? Or have you been together long enough to call it love?
I'm 15 and engaged. I've been with my boyfriend since I was 12, and I'm definately in love. We're going to get married on my 18th birthday, since he's older than me so we couldn't do it on his. In case you're wondering, he proposed to me at my 14th birthday party at a Taylor Swift concert, the "old" way down on one knee.
]
Well, as for the age difference, I think it could really make things depend the two of you as people. As for being engaged at such a young age, I think it really depends on how you and your boyfriend view things. Ask yourself and be totally honest, Do you think that you could marry this man? Could you wake up everyday to his face, no matter how angry or happy you are with him? Are you sure about your answer? If not, then ending an engagement at your age is not a reason to break up at all. You don't have to end the relationship, you are merely making sure he is right for you, and there is nothing wrong with that. And make sure you take -everything- into consideration. I'm not trying to accuse him of being disloyal at all, but you might want to see if he has had relationships like this in the past? How honest is he everything else? How many relationships has he been in the las week before meeting you? month? year? 3 years? Make sure you know this guy and every part of him. Deep down, you know if you can last from now to when you can actually be married after high school.
]
yer i think it can work out im in a kinda same way cos my boyfriend ask me 2 marry him n i sed yer
]
Yes, it is very cute to think about but when you really think about it. Your 14! Your either still in middle school or just starting high school. Plus I don't even know if there is a place that will wed two people under 18. Also don't wait untill he is 18 because you will be 16 and thats illegal so just wait until you are both adults and KNOW FOR SURE you wanna spend the rest of your life with him. He proposed over the phone?
]
Lets see...is 14 too young to be engaged? um..yeah,i think so. Its cute to think about, but as a reality? Id say no. You have your whole life ahead of you! Do you really want to tie yourself down this early? plus, if break up with him after you are engaged, think about how hard it will be to get over him. I think you need to sit down and think this one over some. Use your head, but at the same time, listen to your heart. If you think you love him, then continue dating. But maybe a promise of marriage is a little too extreme. I hope it works out for you! Good luck sweetie!
]
you are only 14 yes that is too young to be ingaged! i understand that your boyfriend might be ready for that but i think your not and your just telling yourself you are because you want to be chances are you dont even know what love is! i know it feels like you do but...most people at age 14 dont!
good luck i hope i helped!
if you have a ? IM me on xbellabambinax69
xOx Emily
]
I personally think ur to young to be thinking about marriage... I mean 2 of my best friends are already engaged and their all between 15 - 18 but I would wait untill High school is over if yall can make the whole diffrent college thing and if your still together then it would be a good time for it but now in mid high school its to soon.
]
no but when is the wedding Because U might want to wait a few years before U get married U should just make it a promise ring!!
]
Yes. You have your whole life ahead of you. How can you know that he's the only one for you?!
]
A little....Your barely out of high school! You should wait.
]
*HAHAHAHA! OMG. That's funny. You are sooo young to be engaged. Your not as in love as you think you are. Wait until after a couple years, I mean come on your 14 and you need to date other guys and experience things. I promise you your relationship won't work so great.*
]
wow ur 14 and engaged. i definetly think thats to young. do you know when you're gonna get married? in a few months or in a few years? i think you should just be bf and gf until you're older so you can see how things go with you 2 without having a HUGE commitment like that. tell him that u do love him but u think you're too young to get engaged. and last night you said that because u loved him but now u really thought about it. if he doesnt listen or gets mad at you, he isnt the guy for you anyway. good luck, i hope i helped!
]
Ok well I actually think you are to young to be engaged, I mean think about it, you have a WHOLE life ahead of you. And do you really know what LOVE is? Plz don't get offended, hope I helped :)
]
i really dont think you should be geting engaged at such a young age your 14 and have your whole life infront of you , i really dont think you parents will aprove either , you may be only 2 years younger than him but its still alot , to tell you the truth he's probably more mature in many thing than you be cause he's older and alot can happen in 2 years , please dont take this the wrong way but i think you should go to college then figure out your love life , you shouldnt make a fool of your self , i dont think you even know what real love is
]
oh common, no offense, but hes just a sap. There is about a 5 percentile chance if your lucky you guys will be together by the time your at a good married age. You cant possibly be engaged.. i think you should give him the hints that thats just wrong. Im not trying to be mean at all but i've seen guys do this to girls and the next step is usually "lets have sex" so dont go there... gl hun.... srii if i sound harsh, didnt mean to
]
if you really love him then you should get married but you are to young to be married. to be married you have to be 18 years old or up. but if everything works out fine then you should get married.well anyways congrats!! i hopee i helped
>3kiLeE
]
Well, legally you have to be 18 in order to get married, and if you are under age you need your parents permission. Talk to your parents about it and see what they have to say. Personally, I think you are a little to young. When you are in your teens, that's when you are suppossed to be going out with a bunch of dif ppl to see what kinds of guys you want for a husband, and what kinds you don't. You shouldn't rush things because if guys are really into each other, then you will end up staying together long enough to be engaged without having to worry if you are too young. Good Luck and tell me how it goes!!
]
If u absulutly, truly love him then there is a good chance that it can work out. I do think that u r tooo young to be engaged. Ur still young u should wait a few years. But if it helpd CONRATULATIONS!!!!!!
]
wow that is young...i think you need to wait a little longer...i mean dont break up woth him if your really in love but i mean YOU FOURTEEN! i mean come on....you need more time to find THE ONE...like the person your SURE you want to marry i mean FOURTEEN....no affense but its kind of naive to think that you really are gonna get married and have a perfect life itll be way to stressful for you...i mean you have school and youll have to get a job if you want to live with him and are your parents really going ot approve?
]
youre WAYYY to young, do you think your parents will approve? i doubt it. i dont think it'll work. you have school, you have no job, you have no money. its cute that he proposed and its fine that you go on dates with him, but being engaged is a little to much.
]
Well you are a little young, and you cant really get married without your parents signature because you have to be 18, unless you're emancipated which in the case of you getting married you would be, i'd suggest waiting to actually make a commitment like that, people tend to change, not saying that you or your boyfriend will but i'd personally wait until I were atleast 18
]
Well, you are very lucky to have been proposed to. but i think that you are too young mabie things are happening to fast and u dont know what to do . u can be engaged but i would wait untill ur at least 19 to get married
]
your probably gunna hate my answer but.... YES YOU ARE WAY TO YOUNG TO BE ENGAGED! and you will need your parent or guardian to allow you to because you arnt legal.... and think of it where are you going to live?does he have a job that can support you....what if you have children? will you be able to support them? and how long do you think it is gunnna last?
and when your 21 and want to have a girls night out u'll b married or you will have CHILDREN!!!!
]
im sry if u dont like my answer but im only tryin 2 help......i do think 14 is very young 2 get engaged....i no ur really in love w/ him and yes was ur anwser but all im sayin is that u shood at least wait until ur 18 and he's 20....because if u really love him and vice versa he'll wait 2....and i dont think it will work out now cause eventually....both of u will get hit w/ the fact that u'll be waking up next 2 the same person everyday......and if ur parents r'nt ok w/ u getting married then think of the finacial problem......the only possible jobs wood or cood be babysittin......store employees.....waitresses and waitors....and other stuff ......and if that's the case, the issue of phsyical activity will come up and sooner then u think u'll have a baby which will prevent u from presueing ur education ....which will led 2 a very bad job for both of u cause u wont even have college degrees.....plus w/ one person workin and the other taking care of the baby 1 will be so overwelmed that u'll divorce...........but i dont no u and ur situation so im not the best source 4 advice......but all im sayin is a lot can happen if u get married now(statistics show bad things)....and that i think u shood wait if u guys are really that serious.........if u decide 2 not go through w/ it then he'll understand if he loves u that much 2 propose.............these r only suggestions.......hope i helped and sry this was really long........
]
im engaged with my boyfriend and we're both 15. i dont think you're too young. we're just lucky that we found the guys who we want to spend the rest of our lives with. hope i helped. if you need anything just leave one in my inbox.
]
I know it's seems like your in deep love right now, but it's not the wisest decision to be angaged at y'alls age. You two have so much more growning, learning, and experiencing to still do. There's no need to rush it. That's okay to have a serious relationship at your age if you both can handle it, but it's not really practical to be engaged. Instead, you could each have 'promise rings' like to promise to always care and respect and be there for each other. It's still meaningful but no quite as drastic. What's meant to be will always find a way. There's no reason you two can't just continue to be together for right now. Save the engaged thing for when you've graduated high scool or even college and have a job and are finacnial stable. I know it seems like a long time, but you have your whole life to spend with the one you love. Plus, I know it doesn't seem like it, but you're so young and there might be someone else out there. You never know. Also, the mere fact that you are questioning shows that you aren't quite sure yourself or ready. Just talk to your boyfriend and tell him that you'd love to marry him, IN THE FUTURE. and suggest the promise ring idea. Just give things time to go down their natural path. :)
]
yes you are to young to be engaged, in fact you shud'nt even be thinking of love at such a young age. if anything you might be in 'lust' with him, or puppy love, you see being so young our minds change alot, we change our taste so many times. i mean its a fun idea to think your in love, just dont take it 2 seriously.... hope i helped
please rate
Alexandra x3
]
Yes, you're too young. But most likely it won't work out any, NO offence, but my friend got "engaged" when she was 13 or 14 and they broke up like a month later. Technically, you have to wait four years at least until you can get married, in most states. And once he's 18, it will be illegal for him to sleep with you, I think. Or is that 21...hmm. Anyway, yes, I think you're way too young.
~laura~
]
In a word, yes.
By the time you can actually get legally married, there's a pretty big chance you will not be together anymore. There's also the chance that he will move away for college and you may not even see him for a while.
In theory though, if you both stay with it, it could work. However, you are both too young to be tied down so early. Go out and experience life! There is so much you don't know about love. Pledge yourself now, and you will never know. I hate to use the word "experiment", because that makes me sound like I'm telling you to go out and have lesbian sex or something. But, you do need to try other thigns with other people at this point in time.
You're too young to be worried about love, let alone settling down. Why settle down before you ever get shaken up? It doesn't matter your mental age; you could be the Socrates of our time. YOU ARE TOO YOUNG.
Besides, the guy is 16. If he's serious, he seriously doesn't understand what he just asked of you. Especially if you end up pregnant, and you have to get married, and move out. I doubt he can land a job to support the both of you and a child. When you turned 16 you'd have to drop out to get a job...and I don't see a family working out with the parents working at a supermarket or something.
I think I've gotten a little ahead of myself. You are not engaged. You will most likely not be engaged to this guy when you get older. I say, do not worry about it.
]
I think your definitly TOO YOUNG.
Your only 14, you still have time, it's probably just s teenage romance.
What do your parents say????
Maybe if you guys are still together 3-4 years from now, then it probably isn't a teenage relationship.
Besides 2 years from now it'll be illegal for you guys to be having sex. or maybe thats just if you aren't married.
Marriage will add a LOT of stress, and your what in 8th, 9th, maybe 10th grade. Your much too young, at the LEAST wait till your senior year.
Good Luck with him, and I hope you atleast consider this, because I assume what I've written is something you don't wanna here.
]
ok, legally you are. i'm fifteen, personally i don't think so. you guys just have to wait four years (for you to be 18) before you can get married. that might be too long, but you know what, i really hope it works out for you guys. thats wicked sweet! seriously, thats like made my day.
it might be difficult for you guys because your so young. like, i can't imagine being engaged at such an young age. but because you say you really love him, and obviously he really loves you, i think you guys can make it.
just like don't be all together shocked if he was like just kidding or something assinine like that. hey i'll bet your bf is amazing, but boys are boys and well, for the most part, stupid.
best of luck to you!
]
Congrats! I do think you're a little too young though. Not to sound cliche, but if he really loves you he'll wait. I think 16 is a better age for you (if you can't wait until you're 18). You'll need your parents input on this, however. Good lucK!
]
More Questions: |