My boyfriend loves sex! I do to, don't get me wrong, but it's hard to enjoy it when it's so painful, and sadly my boyfriend loves the painful stuff. We did anal one time and I was practically screaming in pain and crying the moment it started. Not once, even when I was crying and trying to hold in the screams of pain did he stop or ask if I was alright. After that he promised he wouldn't put me through that again, but we've done it twice since then and it was the same everytime.
Then there's the "Blowjob"... I throw up every time. After he's finished I run to the bathroom to throw up what he's done to me, and he just watches me throw up from the bedroom like he's watching tv and my pain is nothing to him. I love him so so much but I don't want to have to be in pain to please him.
I've had a similar situation when it comes to pain during sex ...
Just recently when my boyfriend and I would have sex it would be so painful. I would try to hold it back just to please him. The last time we did it though I started crying because the pain was so bad. My boyfriend immediately stopped and said 'I can't do it anymore, hearing you cry kills me, I'm not having sex w/you again until we can figure out why you're having pain'
That's what a good boyfriend would say. Now, I'm not saying your boyfriend isn't necessarily good because I don't know him, but this does concern me. If he loved you and cared, I believe he would stop instantly and try to comfort you after the pain you've went through.
Also, how come you're throwing up after giving a blow job? Are you letting him cum in your mouth? If you are, YOU DON'T NEED TO!! Don't let a man force you to do anything. I don't know if he is forcing you to do something, but it's not healthy at all if he is. Put yourself first, I've been in your situation. Have a talk with your boyfriend and tell him how you're feeling. If he still doesn't care and still wants to have sex and wants you to give him BJ's ... there's a red flag right there ...
Think about what I've said. If you need anything else just inbox me! Remember, you come first.
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For about three weeks my vagina has been very itchy and irritated. I figured it was just irritated from sex so I would often use this cream that I had used from a previous yeast infection. Well, the irritation contiued and then I discovered I had a light greenish discharge, but not all the time. I used a yeast infection test and it said I had a yeast infection. I inserted the medicine for the yeast infection on two days ago but today I noticed the greenish discharge.
Is this just from the yeast infection or is it something that I should be worried about?
Thank you!
weird .. i had the same thing happen to me. i would get a light green discharge but it wouldn't happen all the time and i went in to the doctors for a physical and i asked about having a yeast infection because i thought it may be one but i've never had one before. she took a test and it turns out i had a yeast AND bacterial infection. she gave me 2 different medications. one was a pill for the yeast infection - just one pill and the other was a pill i had to take two times a day for a week.
i'd go to the doctor, have them test you and see what they say because it could be something more than a yeast infection as mine was. i was also tested for chlamydia and ghonorrhea (sp?) and they both came back negative. it sounds like we have the same thing so you're best bet would be to go to a doctor so they can prescribe you with the right medication.
if you have any other questions, feel free to ask!
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i usually don't have a lot of discharge, and its always clear. well today after school i went to the bathroom and i had soo much it was like creamy and wet and disgusting. nothing hurts down there and i'm not having sex but i do get fingered, but ive been getting fingered by the same guy for awhilee. so i dont think thats it. so heres the embarrasing part, i'm like farting out of my vagina alot...if that makes any sense, and i feel it all wet and gross so has this happened to anyone before? and what is it what does it mean?
the discharge ... ooooh its crappy isn't it? i have the same thing, alot of it and i actually went to the doctor to see if it was normal to have that much and she said yes and then i asked if there was anything i could do to prevent from having SO much, and unfortunately there is nothing :( it's basically just your body cleaning itself and us girls just have to deal with it. ♥ LU
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Umm im fourteen and idk what to do i want to have sex but i just dont know how? also i dont know if i should shve..
hey i'm not sure if this is a guy or girl, but i'm guessing you're a girl? alright i'm just going to tell you right now, 14 is a young age to be losing your virginity and i'm not going to tell you not to do it but i do want to make sure you think clearly about EVERYTHING before doing it, okay? it probably will hurt, and if you decide to do it i hope it's with someone you really love :) and please be smart and use protection. so it's kind of hard explaining exactly how to do it, but you shouldn't have to worry about it because the guy should guide you through everything he is the one putting it in haha. shaving is a personal preference, but personally i would do it. you will have to continue shaving afterwards though because the hair does grow back thicker. it's kind of a pain, but i think it's well worth it! i am so SORRY if this was a guy, if it is let me know haha and if you have any other questions don't be shy to come back and ask! ♥ LU
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Over the summer, this guy and i were friends with benefits. i know friends with benefits are never a good thing but anyway.. a friend of mine told me he had been dating someone. So i stopped talking to him to get him out of the picture. Well, i haven't talked to him in about 2 months and he texted me tonight saying that he missed me and how he wanted me to come over soon. I don't miss him, just doing things with him. I asked him about his girlfriend and he just said "yeaaah we can keep it between us" so i said umm ill think about it. so should i do it? i don't know the girl at all that hes dating so i wouldnt feel bad at all about that.
okay i know many people have answered this but this is like exactly what i have been going through for a long time now. this guy, we hooked up but didn't have sex or anything. well i've always liked him but he has a girlfriend of two and a half years. he has always wanted to hook up with me, and of course i wanted to because i can't resist the damn kid, but in my mind i knew that it wasn't right. i was stuck inbetween. i know what your thinking, if he wants to why not? right? thats what i was thinking too, if he is willing to and i don't like his girlfriend anyway then who cares. but then i realized i couldn't let myself do it anymore. i asked him why he was still with her if he was trying to hook up with me still and he said he would feel too bad breaking up with her and all this bullshit which in my head meant..RED FLAG. i also ended up telling him i couldn't do anything while he was going out with her, even though i wanted to SO bad and so he told her he wanted to go on a break with her. he then thought he could get with me, and again i had doubts because i knew what was running through his mind, and that was hooking up with me and then getting back with his girl. i wasn't going to put myself through that, i even told him that i couldn't do anything while they were on a break and he said why not? and i told him because i don't want to be put in that situation, and he didn't understand which clearly meant there was going to be nothing more between us, and he just wanted to mess around with me. that was not okay with me, at all. everytime i see him, i can't resist him but i have to know that i'm better than that. i'm not going to just let someone use me, i'm not going to give him what he wants. he wants me and her and you know what, i'm going to show him he cant have two things at once. honestly, i don't want you to get hurt like i did. i'm still trying to deal with the whole situation, i know what your going through. i know what it feels like being stuck inbetween. it's like your heart knows that its wrong but your mind is telling you its okay, and that you should do it. if you want to talk about anything else, or more of your situation don't be scared to e-mail me at: lindsayluxo@yahoo.com
goodluck sweetie, i know you'll make the right decision. be smart and strong :) ♥ LU
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im 15 and have had regular periods for my entire life...well time of having them..whatever you get it. so i just started my 2nd pack or the Yaz birth control and my period is now just a little blood and some weird brownish discharge..help? is it becuase of yaz? is it bad?
your period is going to be a little abnormal while first taking the birth control. i was on birth control for two years and now i'm going to be switching to yaz also and the doctor said there may be some spotting and my period will most likely be irregular. your body is getting use to the birth control, and it will take some time to regulate. if you have any other questions, feel free to ask ♥ LU
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I don't know if anyone in particular is good with "sex" questions but.. i have a slight problem in that department. I've been with my boy for 4 years now but only have been having sex for 1.5 yrs of it. The problem is.. he doesn't last long at all, but he used too. Any tips as what to do? We intend on getting married but I can't if sex just isn't fun. Is that low to say?!.. Anyhow, I hope you can give some kind of advice. Thanks.
ohhhh noo :( this is not fun for you. to tell you the truth, men want it bad, they want it now and they burn out fast. guys have a wider range of things to think about and things that can turn them on such as face, body, voice, and smell. if you guys do foreplay beforehand, you might want to stop doing that from now on. i mean, he is already excited when you do that so when it's actually have time to have sex, he doesn't last very long. i've never had this problem but i know my friend and her boy did, sad thing is one time he lasted two minutes haha, but he told her it was because he was just really horny. i understand on the getting married part, it would be extremely hard. i don't think it's a low thing to say, we all want a good sex life and if your boy isn't fulfilling that i know it's a problem. is there something you two are doing different now than you were before when he could last longer? i'm sorry i couldn't help you much on how to make him last longer, but i tried my best and i hoped it helped you out somewhat. if you need anything else, you know i'm always here to help ♥ LU
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i had a cold sore when i was in 5th grade. now i am in college and have never had one. i know that cold sores are a class of herpes so my question is do i have it? and if i do is it going to come back?
cold sores are pretty common and alot of people do get them. the first symptoms of cold sores may include pain around your mouth and on your lips, a fever, a sore throat, or swollen glands in your neck or other parts of the body. after the blisters appear, the cold sores usually break open, leak a clear fluid, and then crust over and disappear after several days to 2 weeks. however the herpes simplex virus that causes cold sores cannot be cured. after you get infected, the virus stays in your body for the rest of your life. if you get cold sores often, treatment can reduce the number of cold sores you get and how severe they are. After you have been infected with the virus, there is no sure way to prevent more cold sores. But there are some things you can do to reduce your number of outbreaks and prevent spreading the virus. avoid the things that trigger your cold sores, such as stress and colds or the flu. always use lip balm and sunscreen on your face. too much sunlight can cause cold sores to flare. try to avoid sharing towels, silverware, toothbrushes, or other objects that a person with a cold sore may have used. when you have a cold sore, make sure to wash your hands often, and try not to touch your sore. this can help keep you from spreading the virus to your eyes or genital area or to other people. so as you can see, you may or may not get another cold sore but it is possible since you had one before. hope i helped ♥ LU
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Hey, so im 15 and im a female.
i've had sex once like about 6 months ago.
i kinda regret my first time. but im was over that and everything is good. lol.
sooo, what i need some advice on is that im going to homecoming with this guy in which ive known since i was like 11 or 12 and who i trust with just about anythinggg! and hes a good guy i guess you can say that. me and him are really good friends and he thinks im gorgeous and he says he likes me or w.e and i really like him, and we've hooked up before (not sex, but like other sexual things) and stuff like that. and we were talking about homecoming and he was saying that we were gna have sex after, and i just laughed about it and never offically agreed, but do you think i should? i mean i know im ready for sex, but i wanna have a relationship with him and i want him to take me seriously. but i also wanna have sex, its been a pretty long time. lmao.. help?!!!!
thanks everyone!
im same situationnnn girlie! i've been best friends with this guy for five years and just last weekend we were talking about sex. he is the only boy i can trust, the only boy who actually knows everything about me and still loves me for who i am. i really don't know what to do. i've been losing sleep over this. i want to have sex with him obviously because i do love him but i don't want it to mess up our friendship. i'm also scared that if we do have sex i'm going to start really loving him and i'm scared he's just going to think of me as a best friend, with benefits. i would talk to him, tell him how you feel. ask what would happen if you did have sex, tell him your scared because you feel you would develop strong feelings for him and see what his response is to that. ask if he would ever think of you as more than just a friend! communication is the key to any friendship or relationship [: if you do end up having sex remember to be safe! good luck hun, let me know how things go! ♥ LU
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Please help me hun!
i had sex with theis guy i BEARLY know at a party the other night! im only 13 and its the most stupid choice i have EVER made but now i have a feeling im pregnant! i dont know what to do..how to tell my mum or where to go to get a pregnancy test done! i have skipped a period and have been feeling really sick! plese help me!
oxox beth
p.s- do u have msn? if u do add me
beth.k@hotmail.com
well i think you should tell you mom for sure. just sit her down and say okay mom, i know this is not what you would want to hear but we need to talk about something. explain to her that you know you were wrong doing this but it happened, and there is nothing you can now. as for the pregnancy test, im sure you can just get them at like a wal-mart, drug store type thing :] it may make a difference if he was wearing a condom, but you still have a good chance if you skipped your period already and arent feeling too well! please please please do me a favor and talk to your mom about it. she will be mad that her 13 year old daughter had sex, but she will want to help you!
i dont have msn, but i do have aim!?
let me know if you need anything else ♥
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hey! i am not yet 18 but my boyfriend and i have been talking about having sex soon in the safest possible way. i dont want to bring this up with my mom (i do talk to her about things but i dont think she would understand this one.. and im not asking about how to tell her) but im just wondering any other ways i could let her get me birth control. for example... my period is irregular so i asked to use it to make it more regular so it doesnt just surprise me.. any other ideas would be great!!
thanks!
hey :) well i have been on birth control for about two years now. i just told my mom, "my periods are really bad and heavy and so can we please go to the doctor to see what they can do for me" and so we did! the doctor told me that you dont get as bad cramps and you are on a time schedule so you know exactly when your going to get your period! this was before i started having sex, but now i can also be safe too! if you need any more ways, let me know
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All right I guess I need some help I heard my girlfriend say that I don't know how to flirt with her or she isn't use to how I flirt with her. My question is anyone care to give me advice and on hitting her engine up? I'm great at oral but how do I get her there so she will let me do that?
i lovee when my boyfriend kisses me on the neck, and throws me on the bed. but doesnt exactly try to do things right away. i mean its kinda hard to know because all girls are different, but if you have AIM my screename is yeah ur the onex so hit me up on that, and we can talk about it more.
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i know 14-w/e yr old guys only think about sex (supposedly)
does a guy thats in 8th grade (13-14) only think aboout sex?? i think its kind of young (and disturbing) but idk.
my cousin is in 6th grade and his friends told him about a porn site, and he was looking at some naughty stuff haha. so yes it is normal in 8th grade and im 12th grade right now, and i know thats still what guys think about.
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how do i get rid of a hicky
ive had two on my neck at once and let me tell ya it was a PAIN. my friends told me to do the spoon in a freezer thing, but i think it was too late. im pretty sure you should do that like RIGHT when you get it. cover up is like magic, it works soo good. somebody told me toothpaste but ya know im not so sure about that one :)
lindsaylu
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i had sex for the first time about 2 weeks ago. at the time i was not on birth control, and he was wearing a condom, but it ended up breaking and he had his penis in me without a condom for about 5 minutes. the next day i immediately started taking birth control. the day after i started taking it i got my period, and it has been about 8 days and i still sort of have it on and off. i am worried because my period has always been normal, i usually get it for 5 days then it goes away so now im worried. could i be pregnant? is it because of the birth control? someone please fill me in
your not pregnant♥ since you got your period and the birth control can mess up your period a little bit in the beginning. if you have any questions about birth control let me know!
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im about to be 16 my voice has changed and everything and puberty is hitting me hard...how do i get my dick to grow??
boy, i dont think you can :)
sorry hun.
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Why are guys so embarassed to admit their virgins in like, highschool?
guys like to be all manly and tough. they think that they have to have sex to look cool and experienced and so they can tell there buddies oh yeah i fucked this chick! trust me i know this stuff. i have an older brother and im around guys all the time haha. ♥
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ok so a couple of weeks ago i was at the movies with a couple of friends. one of which i really like. so we started making out and "feeling" on each other. then he undid my belt and i sort of kicked him. and he was like "oh sorry is that too far?" and i said i dunno. so he
re-did my belt (it was the cutest thing ever) and we proceded with the "kissing and feeling". im 14. so my question is...should i have let him into my pants and such?
since you didnt want to at the moment then that was probably the best thing. you dont want any regrets do you? plus then he would know that he can get far with you. get to know him and then start going farther and farther slower not just all at the same time! but when you feel YOU are ready to do this then go right ahead =) because its not like its a bad thing! just dont go all the way and have sex with him and you will be safe but i wouldnt rush anything hunnie! goodluck with everything
♥ always -Kristen
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Is it just a myth that you can masturbate too much?
If it isn't, what are the consequences of it?
How much is too much?
I'd appreciate real medical answers instead of just guesses or rumors, but I'll take anything. If it makes a difference, the question is for someone m/21. Websites would be great. Thanks.
NOPE! masturbate away! lol its fine :]
♥ always--KristenLynn
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this may seem like a dumb question but i heard someone talking about it.
lets say you use a public bathroom & you're a girl. if there's sperm anywhere near the toilet, on the seat, in the toilet itself, is it possible to get pregnant?? if you were juss using the bathroom??
thanks!!
NoPE! lol we acutally just learned about this in health class..but yeah you cant so dont worry about it!
♥ Kristen
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