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Ask me a question. I like giving advice. If you don't like the advice I give, or the opinion I have, it's fine.

Sometimes you can't get through to people no matter how long and hard you try.

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I am 15 and my best friend is 18 he just went off to collage today and last night he said he loved me and wanted to be with me. But he has a GF and he said he loves her more, but that he really wants to be with me and I really want to be with him more then anything right now and its been this way for around 8 months us both having these feelings. What do I do

Hmmm...
He says he loves you, but has a girlfriend? And it doesn't seem like he'd be willing to leave his girlfriend for you (based on the "But he has a GF and he said he loves her more..").
Sounds like this kid needs to sort through his feelings. There's nothing really you can do because this is all on him. He needs to figure out what he wants because right now he sounds very confused.
Maybe he knows he loves you, but he's not sure it's something more than friendship. So when he told you, he was just trying it out, searching for how he feels. You two are best friends, so you probably talk a lot. Maybe he's unsure of whether that connection should be taken a step further.

If he decides that he should stay with his girlfriend, that's ok. You two should still stay friends. Because at the end of the day, it's much better to have a strong, lasting friendship than a shaky boyfriend-girlfriend deal.

15/f
ok well iv known my best friend for three years and since i met her i really like her alot and well i think i really like her like as in love that i want to be with her. i dont know wether i like girls or not caz i think im straight but not sure caz of my best friend but i dont know wether to tell her i might love her or not caz i dont want to lose her as a friend
should i tell her i love her and would like to be with her even tho shes not bi? can u help

Well, you're just trying to figure things out. That's okay at our age.

What I would do is just think about this. Determine if this is an intense sisterly love, or something more.
If you come to find that you have strong feelings for her, then I suggest sitting down with her and telling her that you might be a lesbian or bisexual. I wouldn't bring up your feelings for her until this news has sunk in. Give her a little time before you tell her that you have a crush on her.
If she is truly your friend, then there is no reason for her to freak out if you decide to let her know. If she doesn't share your feelings, that's okay. She's still a great friend right? I know it might hurt a little, but just keep her there. You have a great friendship here, and if things don't turn out the way you wanted (ie she just wants to stay friends), that's fine. It won't be the end of the world, I promise.

Good luck! Let me know how things work out. I'm here if you need me.

my friend is annoying and, like if he gets really annoying and i call him retarted or a d#*k head and then he goes "how am i retarted?" or "how am i a d#*k head?" and then im stuck so can anyone help me come up with a good comeback, a comeback for any situation would be good if you want, thanks

btw were both in grade eightand were guys
and pleaz dont be sayin stuff like your to young to be swearing and stuff like that because nearly every kid i know swears and not all of them are as old as me

Honestly kid, why fight fire with fire? I know you're a guy and all so maybe you think that's what guys are "supposed to do". Well, I'd say a more mature approach would be to just ignore him. And if your friend is so annoying, why are you friends with him?

And by the way, if you can't even spell the words your using ("retarted" is spelled incorrectly), then you probably shouldn't be using them in the first place hun. Besides, retarded is a mental illness, not an insult.

I am not going to tell you that you are too young to swear, but by asking this question, you've proven that you are probably not mature enough to swear. I'm not saying that mature people should swear (I'm mature and I don't). But I am saying that you shouldn't swear just because "nearly every kid you know swears".

i have an absolutely beautiful perfect best friend ha. and my closest guy friend is her boyfriend. they are perfect for eachother! hes my neighbor, and we hang out alot. but trust me we are NOTHING more than friends. we USED to like eachother, but were way over that and she knows.hes a GREAT friend that i can trust with all my heart too. so i dont ever want our friendship to end. i dont know if i should get any closer with him because i dont want to make her mad that we talk alot. but when we talk it about her or one of the guys i like. it doesnt seem to bother her but i hope one dy me and her friendship doesnt get torn apart because of it.
should i remain as close to him as i am now?

I'd say yes stay close to him. There is nothing wrong with girls being friends with guys. Just because a girl and guy talk, that doesn't mean they like each other.
I think you are just jumping to conclusions here by thinking that your friend will get mad if you and her boyfriend talk. Are you worried about her confronting you about anything? Honestly sweetie, your best friend (emphasis on "best") shouldn't feel threatened by you. Because true friends would never make a move on each others' boyfriends.
However, I notice the part where you said "it doesnt seem to bother her but i hope one dy me and her friendship doesnt get torn apart because of it". Are you expecting the friendship to get torn apart? Sometimes if you expect something bad to happen, it just might because you have your guard up and are just waiting for attack. If you think that she might flip out, then maybe you realize that you are getting "too close". I am definitely not saying back off completely since he is a good friend of yours, just be considerate of your best friend.
But like I said before, guys and girls can be friends. Just relax and don't freak out about it be mistaken for something else, and you'll be fine.

so i had this best friend
i was with her all the time
we were really close
but she started being a really bad friend
and this huge thing happened
and we completly stopped being friends
she never even apologized or anything or even try to be my friend again
not that we could be friends even if we wanted to
actually if we realllyy did im sure we could
but the other day she came whne i was hanging out with my other friend
if wouldnt normally be okay but nothing bad happened
we still arent friends
but everyone says she misses me
today i found something we made
and just started crying
i really wanna be her friend again
but i don't even know how to go about it
or if i can even trust her

Something like this happened to me. I lost one of my best friends in the whole world. I miss her a lot. I don't know what happened to us. The fight was about something totally stupid anyways. I think the main problem for it not getting any better was that nobody tried to fix it. I tried once, but then just dropped it when it didn't work out. But if I were to try again, it could still be fixed. No matter how long ago it was, there's always time to fix it. It's never too late. Me and her could still be friends. And so can you and your ex-best friend.

What I'm telling you is that you should just call her up. Tell her how you feel. If you miss her as much as she seems to miss you, just try. Please. It's never too late.

This question made me realize that people can't just sit around regretting the past. We have got to forgive and forget. You were best friends with this person. There's still a chance. There's always a chance. Call her up. Just talk to her. About anything. It doesn't even have to be about whatever happened to you two. In fact, it probably shouldn't at first. Just ask how she's doing, how she's been. Reach out to her. There's plenty of time for opening up later. The first step is communication.

I'm not saying at all that it should all be up to you to fix this. But sometimes, you just have to step up and be the bigger person. Sometimes, people need somebody else to make the move before they react. She's probably feeling the same way you are. Distant, not sure if she can trust you. After all, a fight involves to people. And we, being only human, often forget how the other person is feeling. So, it sometimes pays just to step into another's shoes. Take a look at things from her perspective. Empathy really really helps.

But like I said, all you need to do is make one phone call. Just one. I doubt that she'd say something rude or anything. Just try. You've got to try. It doesn't matter if you end up talking about absolutely nothing either. Just any communication whatsoever is key.

I wish you all the luck in the world. I know how you feel and what you are going through. It may seem scary or nerve-wracking to call this person up, but what have you got to lose?
So good luck. Let me know if you need anymore advice, or just want someone to talk to. I'm here.

Ok, well after a long and complicated story streching out for months, me and a 'friend' are barely friends.

We used to be best friends, now we'll rarely talk on the internet, and if we do it's forced and awkward.

Anyway, I try and move on, and I will admit she's not as petty as she used to be.

However she still has this constant need to show me I'm not welcome in her friendship group (Who were my friends at one point, and a few of them were friends with me before her) as well as try and compete with me over who has more friends.

In a few days there is a meet up with a few people, because a couple of people from town are in our town. People they know have been invited and I was one of them, as well as my now "distant" friend.

Anyway cut to the chase, my "distant" friend invited randoms from her friendship group. Most, who dislike me a lot. Now I don't think I'm THAT special, and her sole purpose in life is to make uncomfortable, however at the same time it makes me wonder what her intentions are. Only one of her friends has spoken to these girls from out of town, only a couple of times. She doesn't really like one of them either. Distant friend's other friends have never even spoken to her before. It makes me wonder why she would invite randoms to a special gathering held for 2 people.

Also, she keeps banging on how her friendship group are going to have a super special awesome sleepover party, and how much fun they're going to have, and keeps hinting and making it obvious that me not being invited is a big thing. Even if we change topics, she'll go back to this "awesome sleepover" and she keeps asking if I'm still going to the meet up.

Basically, she's trying to intimidate me out of going to the meet up. And it's sort of working. I was pretty excited to go, but because all these people who dislike me are going, I'm bummed out and don't want to go. Even if I did go, the whole day would be spent in awkwardness and I wouldn't have fun.

So my question, should I fall for her tactics and stay home, or should I suck it up, go to annoy her and spend the day awkward and misrable?

I understand totally where you are coming from because I've been there. I get exactly how you feel, trust me.

I went through something very similar to your problem. And you know what I've learned? That it's so much better just to not care what she says or does. Because it really won't matter five, ten years down the road. When you're older and look back at this, will it really matter to you what some petty girl did to you in high school? (I'm assuming you are either middle school or high school)
Honestly, what you have to do is just go to this thing and have a good time. But don't go to "annoy her and spend the day awkward and misrable". Go to enjoy yourself with your friends. It doesn't matter that she's invited "randoms" to this thing. Can't you all just get along with each other? What helps me is to not automatically assume that the person is out to get me or is only doing something to annoy me. Because, really even if she is, that doesn't matter. That just shows that she isn't a big enough person to just move on from all those petty arguments. Therefore, you need to be the bigger person and display that it doesn't bother you. She'll leave you alone once she gets this. And if she feels that she needs to continuously brag about her amazing sleepover, well then she seems to have some self-esteem issues. She's only treating you this way to feel better about herself.

Don't "fall for her tactics". She doesn't have any, because you shouldn't be assuming she's out to get you. And don't just "suck it up" and go just to annoy her. That won't solve anything if you go with that attitude.

Good luck! I hope all goes well for you.

Okay Me and my bff are reallllyyy close we go everywhere together almost always think the same things and like finish each others sentences and have sooo much alike.Before we would talk the wholee day since like 12 all the way to 12 am like n total we would talk 4-6 hrs but know like we dont tak that much we talk like 20 minutes the whole day.And im always the one that has to call her for we can talk and if she calls me she calls me until like 4pm and she keeps saying shes busy and we only talk 20 minutes ten she ends up saying always i have to go..umm take bath idont know like if making it up soo are we fading away or does she want time off help!!

People change. Times change. Etc.
It's no big deal that you aren't talking 4 hours a day. Honestly, I'd get tired of talking to my best friend that long every day (and I love her to death). Sometimes, people do need breaks from each other.
I really don't think it's anything personal against you. She probably just wants some time apart from you. I wouldn't freak out just yet, let her have her space. It's definitely not that you're losing her or anything.
Just relax sweetie. Maybe try hanging with some other friends? Just because she doesn't want to talk with you for hours on end everyday doesn't mean it's the end of the world (or your social life). Try just making other plans with different people.
Sometimes when I'm talking with my best friend, I occasionally just plain run out of things to say. It doesn't mean that I hate her or am done being her friend. All it is is that maybe I'm tired, or we're just talking about the same old stuff that we go over again and again every single day. So, I just need a break. Everybody needs a break from people sometimes. I bet you even might be needing a break from your best friend just like she needs a break from you. It's not like you two are cutting ties with each other. You're still best friends I'm sure.

So step back, take a breather, enjoy your summer.

EDIT: For a week? That's not a long time sweetie. Relax. You guys are still talking to each other, it's not at all like you've stopped being friends. You should definitely not make a big deal out it, unless you two completely stop talking for say 2 months straight. Then we'd have a problem.

Yesterday I lost my best friend. I thought of him as my brother. He was living with me in my condo for maybe 8 months with me and my boyfriend. For the past two months I had been charging him rent because things are getting really hard with money and originally he was living here for free. Free as in he didn't even have to buy his own food. He was going through a tough time and I let him in my home. Him and my boyfriend and me had a really close relationship since high school, but then he seemed to get really into his girlfriend who he had been with for 9 months and he proposed to. He started to seem like he was more interested in her than us. He even actually told me straight to my face that he cared about her more than me and my boyfriend, and that really hurt because I see him as my brother. What happened was in the past few weeks we have been at eachothers throats, mostly him and my boyfriend. My boyfriend has a bit of a bossy personality (that he is going to counseling for and getting better) and my friend has a more of a calm but a bit of an ego driven attitude. I also was having some conflicts with him because he was bringing his girlfriend over just about everyday to spend the night and I felt like my home was being invaded and I had no peace. He also would keep telling me, "I have rights as a renter now". He would get mad if I tried to set any rules down in my house and said I was not being fair. We also got in a fight because he wanted his rent money to go directly to bills, in the matter of that he would be paying for them, and I told him no. I said I am in charge of the utilities, its my house. This came up because he thought he could leave lights on and do whatever he wants around the house.

I saw this going on and I decided that maybe it was best if I tell him that the roomate situation was not working out. In my mind, if I would have let him stay it would have ruined all of our friendships. So I told him that it was not working out anymore, I was not kicking him out, I just wanted to give him a notice that maybe it was time to just move on soon for the sake of keeping our friendships and not ruining them, which was obviously happening. When I told him this and how I felt everything seemed fine, like it was going to work out and I was gonna keep my friendship and him and my boyfriend would work on theirs. But just yesterday, he told me that this is all my fault, that I should have stood up to my boyfriend and stopped him from what he thought was bossing him around. I feel like those were their problems that I should not get into. Then he told me he was leaving and stopped talking to me. I texted his girlfriend and asked what was going on and she told me "he realizes what lousy people you are and you treat him like crap and he is going to be alot happier when he is out. he is not your friend anymore." I freaked out and started crying for hours. That is exactly what I was trying to prevent was losing a friend. I feel like I lost my best friend and brother over something that was not worth it. I keep trying to talk to him to fix things but he does not want to. I don't know what to do, I feel like he really does care about his girlfriend more than me, and I don't know if I was the one who messed up or what. I feel lost and I don't know what to do, I just want my brother back and I don't know how to get him back or talk to him or anything. He is not completely moved out yet, so he will be coming back, but I don't know if I should try to talk to him or what. I don't know how to deal with this.

If I were you, I'd give him a little time. Sometimes, things are said in the heat of the moment that people really don't mean. His girlfriend shouldn't have texted you that mean explanation, but I bet that if asked in a few weeks why your friend moved out, the answer would be much nicer and calmer.
Honestly, I don't think that you've completely lost a friend. I believe that all he needs right now is a cooling off period. So, I wouldn't try to stop him from moving out or even try talking to him for that matter. At least for a few days or possibly weeks. Then you can talk it out calmly. If you don't wait long enough, it could turn into another angry argument. Just relax and wait it out. It's too soon to tell right now sweetie.
I know it seems like a long time to wait, but trust me on this one: People sometimes need some time. I learned that the hard way, and hopefully you won't have to.
Though a good friend over the years, this guy was taking advantage of you. I totally agree with you that the right thing to do to salvage your friendship was to end the living arrangement deal. And you know what? You did save your friendship. Can you imagine how much it would have been ripped apart by constant fighting over rent and bringing girlfriends home? Now you guys have space apart, and maybe that was part of the problem: too much time together. This idea has given you some much-needed breathing space.
In all fairness, it's perfectly normal for him to care strongly for his girlfriend. He shouldn't have said right to your face that he prefers her over you guys, because honestly I don't think that's true. It's not that he loves her more, it's that he loves her differently than you. You're like his sister, she's his lover. You two both have a special place in his heart.
Knowing that, remember that good strong friendships usually last forever. That being said, I think that given a little time, this rift between you two will be nothing more than a learning experience for you both.
Good luck, I really hope all works out for you.

I have this friend. She is amazing dont get me wrong, but she has another friend. I am not mentioning any names. She tries to hang out with both of us but when we are together her other friend always pushes me out of the way. Now everytime i want to hang out with her i have to hang out with her and her other friend or i dont hang out with her at all. What should i do? should i back off and let her other friend take over our friend ship? i dont know.. Help me!

I've been through this same thing hundreds of times sweetie. It sucks, I know. I just remember the first couple of times I handled it totally wrong. I tried to push the other girl right back. Let me tell you one thing: that doesn't work. I wish so many times that I could go back and act civil towards her, so now hopefully you'll take this advice and use it:
When you're hanging out with your friend and this other girl, act totally friendly as if nothing's wrong. Try being friends with this girl instead of automatically hating her because she's pulling your friend away.
And sometimes, you should let her pull your friend away for alone time. Just give them some space without disappearing completely. What I mean is, pull yourself away..don't let her push you. See what I mean? You have the control, but don't get bossy with it.
I really hope this works out for you, keep me updated!

i blocked my friend on aim now i regret it how do i unblock him

-Go under Buddy List Setup
-Right-Click your friend's screenname
-On the bottom of the list of options that appears, there should be the option "Unblock Buddy"
-Click "Unblock Buddy"

Problem solved =]

one of my close friends (lets call her friend A) has been hanging around with this other friend (lets call her friend B) whos...i feel bad saying this about her cause i'm friends with her too but...easy. shes never like had sex (i dont think) but she always gets drunk and makes out or gives handjobs to any guy thats there at the moment. and it pisses me of that so many guys call her the "perfect party whore" and i don't like them saying that because she's my friend although its true. now friend A has gotten closer to her and now friend A is starting to go out with friend B most weekends and they invite guys over and get drunk and who knows what they're doing. basically friend A is turning friend B into a slut. i feel so bad saying this but its the truth. my friends are all turning this way and i don't know what to do because i don't want guys taking advantage of them and stuff. what do i do?

Everybody changes, maybe not this drastically but maybe your friend is just trying to find herself. I don't think she's a bad person at all, she's just making bad choices. I think it's great that you are concerned about her.

What I would do is just try hanging out with her more. Invite her out on the weekends and just concentrate on being her friend. I wouldn't bring up the topic of friend B at all or confront her about her partying because this could make her feel cornered and personally attacked. And nobody wants that, right?
I wouldn't hang out with her every single weekend because you don't want to isolate her completely from friend B: that would make you seem overbearing and controlling. What I mean is try making more plans to protect her a little from friend B.

Good luck, I hope your friend will be alright.

I need to make some friends. I used to have friends last year, but this year (sophmore), I just can't seem to make any or hang out with anyone. I stopped caring about my hair and myspace and facebook...stuff like that. Could that be a reason that people have stopped liking me? I just need to know a way to make friends and stand out from all the people like me. I don't want to be like everyone else and I want the girls that I sometimes hang out with to like me. These girls are the kind that guys think are sooo "hot" and "can't wait til they turn 18." They hang out with skater boys (i'm jealous) and are really really pretty.
My life pretty much just sucks in general :)
But help, if you can!

Sometimes we can all feel as though there's nobody to turn too. Everyone goes through it at some point. So remember, you're not alone. That's very important and comforting to know.

I really doubt that not caring about hair and facebook had any effect on this situation whatsoever. And if it did, then people who dropped you because of such superficial things aren't worth your time at all sweetie.

I think what's making you feel even worse is that you keep comparing yourself to other girls. You aren't them, and why would you want to be? You're already YOU and that's a pretty awesome person to be. =]

Once you can find it inside you to love yourself, you will see that others love you too. Because they do already, but I think you're just not ready to open your eyes and see it.
"No one can make you feel inferior without your consent."

You aren't a loser, remember that.
Feel better!

Okay, so i'm Jewish but like I don't go to the temple or like anything. so my friends were talking about religion and had the Jewish religion all wrong so i cleared it up and they were like whats the Jewish bible called and i said i didn't know. and this other girl whos not Jewish goes oh..its called a Torah spellin..so anyway they go well your not a Jew your a fake Jew your no Jew JUNO get it like Jew NO. yeah, well i was just gonna shrug it off but my other friend blew up at them and told them to knock it of and i was like guys just stop but they won't. I'm not that affended but a lot of my family died in consintration camps and there making fun of me for being something that i can't help.

am i right to be a little mad over this?

It sounds to me that they're not making fun of you because you're Jewish, they're making fun of you because they don't believe you are Jewish. There's a difference there, so I think you're getting offended for the wrong reason.
You should be offended that they are calling you a liar, which is what they are doing. Clearly, you are Jewish and you are telling the truth so they're being immature for calling you names like Juno just because they don't believe you are Jewish.
So I'd say be a little upset that they are calling you a liar, but remember that they aren't making fun of you for being Jewish. And then if you are a little upset for their behavior, remember they are just immature and aren't worth a second thought.

My gf iss moving, and I also like this other girl at school, and she said she likes me. So when my gf moves away, should I get together with the one that I like?

When your girlfriend moves away, are you two breaking up? Or better question to ask, are you two already broken up? Because it isn't fair to her that you are sitting there waiting for her to go so you can get together with someone else. Girls aren't "Plan B"s.
Anyways, give it time if you actually cared about your girlfriend. If you didn't really actually care about her, which is the vibe I'm getting from this question, then sure by all means go for "Plan B".

Please don't ever refer to girls as back-up plans. It's very rude in my opinion.

EDIT: Thanks for the rating. So if I don't tell you what you want to hear you're just going to rate me low? That's real nice kid. If you want to think of girls as disposable, by all means go on ahead. I'm not going to tell you what you want to hear because it isn't right. I have my opinion and you have yours.

i asked a question earlier saying i'd lost my best friend and my other friends too, people thought that we got in a fight or somehting..

i just realized that my bestfriend is a bitch and always has been, and she did a little thing that was just the last straw.. my other friends and i just grew apart and some try to talk to me and make me happy again but just nothing seems to work. i've gone to so many psychiatrists in the past and i take anti-depressants and nothing seems to work. i feel hopeless. seriously, the only thing getting me through everyday is my pets and photography..

any other suggestions that jkust might help??

i really need it. i have a good family and seeing my family out you'd think that i have a good life but i'm dying inside and i just keep bottling it up and hurting myself..

Wow, it's like we have the same life. Honey, I totally understand exactly where you're coming from honestly. Like, the exact same thing happened to me with my friends and right now I'm going through a rough time too.
Talking to a counselor or psychiatrist again could truly be beneficial to you. Honestly, once I had to go to therapy and it didn't really seem to help. But then I decided to try it again and I really felt so much better. Sometimes, you just have to try it again. Also, I suggest maybe talking to your family if you haven't already. Like really open up to them. When you don't have any of your friends on your side, it helps to at least have your family behind you 110%.
And I'm here if you want to talk or need more advice. Trust me, I've been there. Feel free to inbox me or email at xlovexx463@aim.com
Good luck sweetie.

ok so it is almost the end of my freshmen year in highschoool and i basically have only two friends about a month ago it wasnt like that.. me and my freinds got in a huge fight and now we are basically not friends anymore. i am now freinds with these two girls i love to death the fight wouldnt have been such a big deal if i had other friends to fall back on but i spent most of this year not trying to make new friends but sticking with the ones i had so my question is next year do you think i will be able to make alot of new friends or do u think everyone will already have there own groups i feel like its useless to try to make friends this year because i hate people in my classses and the year is almost over ? do u think i caan start again fresh next year?

It's never too early to start making friends. Why not start this year? If you go up to a nice group of people looking for friendship, I doubt they'd just throw you out right off the bat lol. There are so many opportunities for building relationships in high school such as sports and clubs. Try joining a few (if you haven't already) and just be as friendly as possible. Remember: You are all there to have fun so no real pressure. And don't automatically assume people won't like you (chances are it's usually not the case).
If you're still upset (not saying you are but if you are...) about what happened with your old friends, just bit by bit let go. I've been in this situation before with like aftermaths of friend fights, and I'm now starting to get over it and move on so I know where you are coming from. Just remember that the people who hurt you and can't see what a great person you are aren't worth your time. It's true, trust me.
Basically what I'm saying is: don't let the past affect your future negatively. It isn't useless to try and make friends, and it's definitely possible! Part of high school is meeting people and building relationships and chances are that's what everyone else is trying to do too. So no worries. =]
Good luck honey, I'm sure you'll do fine!

The past month i have been suffering relationships with all of my friends....first im being blamed 4 everything when it isnt even my fault and they just dont seem 2 want 2 b around me....please give me advice!!!

Okay, take a step back and breathe. It isn't your fault sweetie. People change and grow apart. Maybe some of your friends are going through a rough time in their lives and they need someone to blame. Sometimes when people feel vulnerable, they lash out at someone who they feel intimidated by or jealous of. That's just one possibility that it could be; I'm not there witnessing this firsthand so I'm totally going from my own past experiences.
It isn't fair that it has to be you, but show them that you are a good supportive friend (without being pushy or obnoxious). No matter what the reason for them acting like this is, you need to continue being there for them.
However, if this continues to the point where they totally disrespect you and shun you completely despite your efforts, are they worth it? Do what you can to keep it together, but there comes a point where enough is enough.
I really hope you can work it out with your friends. I totally understand and am here if you have any more problems. Good luck!

I don't belong to a group in high school, I'm a floater. I'm just nice to everyone. I don't have a best friend anymore and I don't have a group of kids that I hang out with on a regular basis. I've never gone on a trip with my friends, I don't go shopping with them, I don't talk to anyone on the phone.

I'm outgoing, nice, and I can make anyone laugh. I play volleyball, I used to be a cheerleader for my school, and I'm in several clubs. I try to strike up conversation but it never lasts long. Everyone seems to have their best friends already and they're not willing to take me in. If I want to do something, I have to make the plans, and most of the time everyone else already has plans. I hate it. My mom constantly reminds me that I'm always alone.

I just want to fit in.
What should I do?

First of all, try and get out of the mindset that nobody wants to take you in. You can't expect to meet someone and instantly become best friends. But, with a little time and once they get to know you, I'm sure people will want to be best friends with you. Just don't push it, you know? Instead of always trying to make the plans, sit back and enjoy being alone sometimes. It sounds to me like you are already doing all the right things: you're social, in a lot of clubs, and talk to people. Just keep that going, but maybe step down a level. Let people come to you.
I hope it all works out for you. Good luck! =]

I dated this girl named jessica for about to mounts and she got pragent with our baby and she was 19 years old and when she told her mom and dad thay told her it was me and the baby or them and she told me it was over and she had to get rid of the baby and now we are talking again kinda and every time we see each other we want to get back togeather but she alway talks about her mom and dad so i was just wondering what should i do about this im 17 years old and i am a mal

Family is very important and she chose to keep the peace with her parents. It's a very sad decision to have to make, but in this case it was necessary. Now after seeing you again and talking once more, it's completely natural for her to bring up her parents and you should be supportive of her.
If you two want to get back together after all this, you'd need to make sure it is okay with her family. Without their support, it could get real messy. She might start feeling vulnerable and upset if she can't turn to her parents. That wouldn't be the best thing for you two. If her parents still don't want you two together, I'm sorry but you have to respect their wishes.
My advice would be either try and gain back her parents trust, or better yet wait a few more years so things can cool down a little more. I'm sorry you had to go through this heartbreak.
Best of luck, I hope it all works out.

Ok So... I have this friend. Her and I have been friends for like 5-6 years. The thing is...We were like a group of 6, then we narrowed down to a group of 3 for various reasons. I always knew I wasn't her best friend... but I thought that I was at least her next best friend. You know it was always her me and the other girl hanging and talking and helping each other etc. I mean we have been through thick and thin you know what I mean. So her friendship with her best friend...we'll call her L, started getting rough...it was getting rough for like, well since we all started being friends that shit has been rough. Anyway, it went up and down and the progressively got worse. So her and L got into it, and then she stoped talking to me. Slowly at first and then for good for like 2 months. Then she called me out of the blue one day and was acting like nothing happened and she had been calling me the whole time. So I was like what happened? SO I told her how I felt and we decided that some bogus shit like that wasn't going to happen again. So i thought. Now Her and L get into it like a year later, and she stops talking to me AGAIN. I hadn't heard from her since Christmas until about 3 days ago. Now let me not forget to mention. Between Christmas and 3 days ago she did send me 3 text messages. She sent me a happy new year, a happy birthday and one other message...I think merry christmas. That was it. Nothing extra. Even when I tried to get more out of her. So she hit's me up on myspace Like 2 days ago after she called me and says, "WTF, (what the fu**) You deleted me from your top friends and you aren't answering my calls."
Now mind you... she hasn't been blowing up my phone. She called me ONE DAY like 5 times in a row...When she left a message she didn't say oh I'm sorry I havent called you...she just said "call me back, bye." Since Christmas I had been trying to call her and get in contact with her for like 2-4 weeks before I gave up (via: Mysapce,Phone Calls, Text Messages). I even contacted her MOM dude!...So my thing is like...In my heart, the friendship is really important to me and I really want to work it out. She and that group were the best friends that I ever had. We had so many experiences together and I really love them. At the same time though, I deserve better treatment. I am a good friend, I am always there when I can be and I am loyal and do good by people, feel me? So, if she is willing to work stuff out, do you all think I should give it a 3rd try? and let this be the last? or do you think I should just be like fuck it and know that she is a fair weather friend and just leave it at that and don't even try to work it out.
Thank you for your patience but I really had to give the background for it to make sense.
Peace

Honestly, I think you should move on and find a new group to hang out with. This girl seems to be trying to make it look like it's your fault that she's not talking to you. That's not cool. People who do that are insecure about themselves, so they take it out on their friends for some reason.
From what I understand, she claims that she tried to call you and you never called back, even though you know for a fact that you tried to call her but she wouldn't pick up. This girl is taking advantage of you. She seems to have it in her head that you are going to crawl back to her no matter what she puts you through. Friends are supposed to be there for each other no matter what, but that's a little ridiculous.
You've clearly been a good friend to her, but this doesn't seem worth it. You do deserve better treatment. You need friends who will care for you the same way you care for them. I would carefully separate yourself from this girl and make some new friends.
Best of luck!

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