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old best friend
so i had this best friend
i was with her all the time
we were really close
but she started being a really bad friend
and this huge thing happened
and we completly stopped being friends
she never even apologized or anything or even try to be my friend again
not that we could be friends even if we wanted to
actually if we realllyy did im sure we could
but the other day she came whne i was hanging out with my other friend
if wouldnt normally be okay but nothing bad happened
we still arent friends
but everyone says she misses me
today i found something we made
and just started crying
i really wanna be her friend again
but i don't even know how to go about it
or if i can even trust her
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Something like this happened to me. I lost one of my best friends in the whole world. I miss her a lot. I don't know what happened to us. The fight was about something totally stupid anyways. I think the main problem for it not getting any better was that nobody tried to fix it. I tried once, but then just dropped it when it didn't work out. But if I were to try again, it could still be fixed. No matter how long ago it was, there's always time to fix it. It's never too late. Me and her could still be friends. And so can you and your ex-best friend.
What I'm telling you is that you should just call her up. Tell her how you feel. If you miss her as much as she seems to miss you, just try. Please. It's never too late.
This question made me realize that people can't just sit around regretting the past. We have got to forgive and forget. You were best friends with this person. There's still a chance. There's always a chance. Call her up. Just talk to her. About anything. It doesn't even have to be about whatever happened to you two. In fact, it probably shouldn't at first. Just ask how she's doing, how she's been. Reach out to her. There's plenty of time for opening up later. The first step is communication.
I'm not saying at all that it should all be up to you to fix this. But sometimes, you just have to step up and be the bigger person. Sometimes, people need somebody else to make the move before they react. She's probably feeling the same way you are. Distant, not sure if she can trust you. After all, a fight involves to people. And we, being only human, often forget how the other person is feeling. So, it sometimes pays just to step into another's shoes. Take a look at things from her perspective. Empathy really really helps.
But like I said, all you need to do is make one phone call. Just one. I doubt that she'd say something rude or anything. Just try. You've got to try. It doesn't matter if you end up talking about absolutely nothing either. Just any communication whatsoever is key.
I wish you all the luck in the world. I know how you feel and what you are going through. It may seem scary or nerve-wracking to call this person up, but what have you got to lose?
So good luck. Let me know if you need anymore advice, or just want someone to talk to. I'm here.
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Talk to her. If the two of you are both hurting-- either you need to make a friendship work, or gather closure from the friendship being over. Be the bigger person, make the call, knock on her door. Do it alone, and do it nicely and stay honest. Tell her that it's going to be hard to trust her, and explain why.
Good luck.
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