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Are me and my bff fading away or do we just need time off each other?
Okay Me and my bff are reallllyyy close we go everywhere together almost always think the same things and like finish each others sentences and have sooo much alike.Before we would talk the wholee day since like 12 all the way to 12 am like n total we would talk 4-6 hrs but know like we dont tak that much we talk like 20 minutes the whole day.And im always the one that has to call her for we can talk and if she calls me she calls me until like 4pm and she keeps saying shes busy and we only talk 20 minutes ten she ends up saying always i have to go..umm take bath idont know like if making it up soo are we fading away or does she want time off help!!
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Maybe give some free advice about: Friendship?
take this from someboday who has had a bff for 10 years. during school we spent everyday, monday thru saturday (sometimes sunday), 7:50 a.m. (when her mom took us to school) to usually around 8:30 p.m. (when one of our parents picked us up from work or classes or clubs), together, talking, laughing, and bugging eachother. not that we didn't love eachother, but when you spand 9 months like that for 10 years, you start to be more like sisters, sisters laugh AND fight AND don't ALWAYS wish to be around eachother.
moral of the story: don't take it personally if your best friend doesn't want to talk for hours and hours or makes some excuses to stop talking. she probably does just want some time to breathe and don't force her to keep talking or become too clingy. she probably just wants some time to think of herself or maybe she really IS busy and it might be kind of to muster uo the energy to do everything. take this time to do things on your own or get to know your other friends a little better. i'm sure if you were such good friends and so much alike, your friendship just won't fade away. just give your friend some space. it'll be okay, just don't worry so much. give her rookm to breather. hope that helps.
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People change. Times change. Etc.
It's no big deal that you aren't talking 4 hours a day. Honestly, I'd get tired of talking to my best friend that long every day (and I love her to death). Sometimes, people do need breaks from each other.
I really don't think it's anything personal against you. She probably just wants some time apart from you. I wouldn't freak out just yet, let her have her space. It's definitely not that you're losing her or anything.
Just relax sweetie. Maybe try hanging with some other friends? Just because she doesn't want to talk with you for hours on end everyday doesn't mean it's the end of the world (or your social life). Try just making other plans with different people.
Sometimes when I'm talking with my best friend, I occasionally just plain run out of things to say. It doesn't mean that I hate her or am done being her friend. All it is is that maybe I'm tired, or we're just talking about the same old stuff that we go over again and again every single day. So, I just need a break. Everybody needs a break from people sometimes. I bet you even might be needing a break from your best friend just like she needs a break from you. It's not like you two are cutting ties with each other. You're still best friends I'm sure.
So step back, take a breather, enjoy your summer.
EDIT: For a week? That's not a long time sweetie. Relax. You guys are still talking to each other, it's not at all like you've stopped being friends. You should definitely not make a big deal out it, unless you two completely stop talking for say 2 months straight. Then we'd have a problem.
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