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friend has changed..
one of my close friends (lets call her friend A) has been hanging around with this other friend (lets call her friend B) whos...i feel bad saying this about her cause i'm friends with her too but...easy. shes never like had sex (i dont think) but she always gets drunk and makes out or gives handjobs to any guy thats there at the moment. and it pisses me of that so many guys call her the "perfect party whore" and i don't like them saying that because she's my friend although its true. now friend A has gotten closer to her and now friend A is starting to go out with friend B most weekends and they invite guys over and get drunk and who knows what they're doing. basically friend A is turning friend B into a slut. i feel so bad saying this but its the truth. my friends are all turning this way and i don't know what to do because i don't want guys taking advantage of them and stuff. what do i do?
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What do you do?
First off, go find a copy of south park season 8. Ask your friend to come over, and watch the episode entitled "Stupid Spoiled Whore"
As goofy as that sounds, its actually pretty effective. Its an episode that ridicules people who think its "Cool" to be sluts. And it does so quite effectively.
Second... well I would say talk to them, but you probably honestly don't have the ability to tell them what they really need to hear. They need to hear it from a guy who isnt a horny teen.
Guys "like" girls who put out and date and respect girls who don't. Yeah, the guys loving having you around when you are a slut. It means they get laid, or whatever sexual equivalent your age group is up to at the moment. It also means that once they get what they want, the sluts are nothing to them.
Unfortunately, this wont work coming from you. They'll just say that you're jealous of the attention and a prude and whatnot. Thats how children work. They agree that something is "cool" and so they can do it without worrying or thinking about it because they have the approval of their peers.
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I understand your concern =[ It sucks but the truth is that people choose their own paths. Definately bring it up to them how you feel. Luckily they aren't having sex so that's a start. Otherwise, maybe you can go to the party with them and keep them in check (i used to have this friend who would hook up with guys even though she was taken I pretty much played babysitter).. it's annoying but if you love em enough you probably wouldnt mind
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Everybody changes, maybe not this drastically but maybe your friend is just trying to find herself. I don't think she's a bad person at all, she's just making bad choices. I think it's great that you are concerned about her.
What I would do is just try hanging out with her more. Invite her out on the weekends and just concentrate on being her friend. I wouldn't bring up the topic of friend B at all or confront her about her partying because this could make her feel cornered and personally attacked. And nobody wants that, right?
I wouldn't hang out with her every single weekend because you don't want to isolate her completely from friend B: that would make you seem overbearing and controlling. What I mean is try making more plans to protect her a little from friend B.
Good luck, I hope your friend will be alright.
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