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No friends at all.
So I'm 15, a freshman girl in high school, and despite the fact that's there's 1,000+ kids in my school, I don't have any friends. I don't get why. I talk to people who are my acquaintances, but I know I don't say too much because I'm afraid they'll think I'm annoying. I do raise my hand a lot in class, and I'm trying to stop, but is that annoying? Sometimes, I joke around with people that I talk to more, but is that annoying too? I get straight As, and I guess I'm somewhat decent looking. A girl in my Spanish class said I'm pretty, but I think she was saying that to make me feel better. Why doesn't anyone like me? I did drama and I'm on my track team and in a youth group. I met lots of new people, but no new friends. Everyone's just really clique-y and I don't fit in. The same girl who's in my Spanish class is in my art class, (which is after Spanish) and we walk together. We never say anything. I don't think she really likes me, she just doesn't want to walk alone. A lot of times, one of her friends will come up and talk to her, so I have to go ahead. It seems like people only talk to me when they want something, whether it's help with homework, to borrow something, etc. I always feel so awkward in gym because I just hang around these girls, but we're not friends, so I just stand there. Last year, I had friends. Over the summer, I did a camp, and there was a younger girl who was the sister of this guy I talked to. I found out from her that he thought I was really annoying and that another guy though I "stalked" him when I didn't even talk to him that much. This summer, I don't have anyone to hang out with, and I'm not doing the camp again because I'm not friends with anyone, and it's too late to join anyway. What am I do doing wrong?
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You are intelligent. That makes you different.
Just by your post, its evident. You are clear and concise, and don't throw in a bunch of random slang or insert lots of "LOL"s or use abbreviations like "BFF!", etc.
Track, drama, etc? You are probably in good shape and relatively attractive in addition to being intelligent. This means that the guys are intimidated by you, and the girls too, to a degree. They don't know how to interact with you and everyone around you probably thinks you think they are stupid. Its a pretty normal assumption at your age.
Talk more. Thats probably the best advice people can give you. You withdraw. You wait for people to come to you. Can't do that if you want friends. Be more outgoing and show people you can relax a bit and usually that helps. If you don't know how to interact, do it anyway. You can only get better with practice.
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Aw hun,
I had the same problem when I was in school. It sounds like you let your insecurity get the best of you. If other people don't like you don't worry about it ;) Just keep being yourself and don't worry about what you might be and what they might think. There are lots of folks out there that would love to be your friend you just sometimes have to look for them.
Good luck!
BahaiMa22
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i understand how you feel completely, im a freshman and switched into a highschool the begining of the year and only new a few people. i understand how you feel and how you think you are annoying others, i can relate to that. whenever im talking to people that i recently met, i act very bubbly and happy and i sometimes feel they think im annoying them. i still only have a few friends..its hard to make friends if you always feel you are doing something wrong. try to be yourself and dont care if others think your annoying, its their loss. forget about them, meet new people and try to be talkative. it is hard though, because sometimes you may not be sure of what to say to them. try asking them questions, the thing people love to talk about the most is the themsleves. and then hopefully theyll ask about you. hang in there, the year is almost over. and for the camp thing, i can relate to that too. im having this huge camp issue myself and i know how you feel. if you dont want to go back to that camp, try another camp. go in and be friendly and try to be talkative and be yourself. hope i helped:]good luck!
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the only thing your doing wrong is not putting in the effort. If your on the track team your around people everyday find someone that you like go up to them and start aconvo wether its about track,school, or...FOOD lol anyway, then if they introduce you to there friends then you got FRIENDSS! haha but you sometimes have to ask THEM to hang out. You can't always expect people to make the plans with you when they hardly know you. Some people find what you were doing annoying but a lot don't. So what if 2 guys thought you were anoying..it was probally cuz you hung out with his sister. but who cares?! do what ever YOU want and have fun. If you have to change who you are just to get firends...is it really worth it?
hope i helped
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