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do I go or not?
Ok, well after a long and complicated story streching out for months, me and a 'friend' are barely friends.
We used to be best friends, now we'll rarely talk on the internet, and if we do it's forced and awkward.
Anyway, I try and move on, and I will admit she's not as petty as she used to be.
However she still has this constant need to show me I'm not welcome in her friendship group (Who were my friends at one point, and a few of them were friends with me before her) as well as try and compete with me over who has more friends.
In a few days there is a meet up with a few people, because a couple of people from town are in our town. People they know have been invited and I was one of them, as well as my now "distant" friend.
Anyway cut to the chase, my "distant" friend invited randoms from her friendship group. Most, who dislike me a lot. Now I don't think I'm THAT special, and her sole purpose in life is to make uncomfortable, however at the same time it makes me wonder what her intentions are. Only one of her friends has spoken to these girls from out of town, only a couple of times. She doesn't really like one of them either. Distant friend's other friends have never even spoken to her before. It makes me wonder why she would invite randoms to a special gathering held for 2 people.
Also, she keeps banging on how her friendship group are going to have a super special awesome sleepover party, and how much fun they're going to have, and keeps hinting and making it obvious that me not being invited is a big thing. Even if we change topics, she'll go back to this "awesome sleepover" and she keeps asking if I'm still going to the meet up.
Basically, she's trying to intimidate me out of going to the meet up. And it's sort of working. I was pretty excited to go, but because all these people who dislike me are going, I'm bummed out and don't want to go. Even if I did go, the whole day would be spent in awkwardness and I wouldn't have fun.
So my question, should I fall for her tactics and stay home, or should I suck it up, go to annoy her and spend the day awkward and misrable?
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Well, I'm kinda in the same situation, and the first thing I have to say is do not let her ruin your fun! You want to see these friends, not her. Spend time with them, and you don't have to pay attention to her. If they say anything that upsets you, don't let it show, because that's what they want. I can tell you can't wait to see these friends, so why let this brat ruin it for you? How long will they be in town? Because if it's not too late maybe you could plan something without this girl and her friends? All I can say is don't let one girl (and her friends) let the joy of ruining your time. These girls don't even know who you're meeting up with, so I really don't get the point of them going. Whatever these girls say, don't let it bug you! You're there to catch up with old friends and the last thing you want to do is have a bad time because of what others say.
Good luck, and have fun!
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I have to say I really do agree with the last person that answered this.
That girl is a bitch. No if's, and's, or but's. She's rude.
I've been in that situation as well, and like the last person said, don't put yourself at her level.
She's an ugly person. I don't care about her outer appearance. Her personality is nasty.
You shouldn't let her stop you from having a good time. I did let people stop me from doing things that I loved to do and I'll always regret it a little in my heart for allowing someone so insignificant to have that kind of power over me.
Hang in there, and go have a good time.
Ignore her trying to bring you down or make you feel bad or whatever she's trying to do.
Also, like the other person said, try not to think of it as directed at you. Even if she is directing it at you, try not to think of it that way.
You do your thing and live your life and be as happy as you can possibly be, and try your best not to worry about people like her.
Trust me, it's taken me such a long time to get to the point that I am at now, and I wish I had someone there to help me through it.
Go have some fun with your friends from out of town!
And you know what, if you really feel that uncomfortable and you find yourself not being able to have any fun while your there, you can always go home. You don't have to stay.
Your not forced to do anything that you do not want to do. And it doesn't matter why you want to go home or what they are going to think or say about you. Because that nasty, rude girl is going to say and do things whether it is true or not.
Enjoy life, don't like someone so pathetic mess things up for you. I know that sounds corny but seriously.
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I understand totally where you are coming from because I've been there. I get exactly how you feel, trust me.
I went through something very similar to your problem. And you know what I've learned? That it's so much better just to not care what she says or does. Because it really won't matter five, ten years down the road. When you're older and look back at this, will it really matter to you what some petty girl did to you in high school? (I'm assuming you are either middle school or high school)
Honestly, what you have to do is just go to this thing and have a good time. But don't go to "annoy her and spend the day awkward and misrable". Go to enjoy yourself with your friends. It doesn't matter that she's invited "randoms" to this thing. Can't you all just get along with each other? What helps me is to not automatically assume that the person is out to get me or is only doing something to annoy me. Because, really even if she is, that doesn't matter. That just shows that she isn't a big enough person to just move on from all those petty arguments. Therefore, you need to be the bigger person and display that it doesn't bother you. She'll leave you alone once she gets this. And if she feels that she needs to continuously brag about her amazing sleepover, well then she seems to have some self-esteem issues. She's only treating you this way to feel better about herself.
Don't "fall for her tactics". She doesn't have any, because you shouldn't be assuming she's out to get you. And don't just "suck it up" and go just to annoy her. That won't solve anything if you go with that attitude.
Good luck! I hope all goes well for you.
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