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getting your bestfriend taken away.
I have this friend. She is amazing dont get me wrong, but she has another friend. I am not mentioning any names. She tries to hang out with both of us but when we are together her other friend always pushes me out of the way. Now everytime i want to hang out with her i have to hang out with her and her other friend or i dont hang out with her at all. What should i do? should i back off and let her other friend take over our friend ship? i dont know.. Help me!
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No, no no. I think your friend is trying to get you guys all to be friends, because she likes you both so much, shes hoping you both will also become good friends. Her other best friend just probably doesn't want to lose your best friend as a friend. she probably feels in ways the same way you do. Try just getting to know her friend.
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Now you know that is not the right thing to do!!! You cannot let this other girl get between you and your friend. Explain to your friend that you just want some "us" time. You feel a little jealous when she hangs out with this other girl all the time. Tell her that you think your friendship is suffering because you two don't get to just hang out together anymore. Don't even bring the other girl in it. It will all just turn into a mess.
Hope that helped!!
XXD
Love,
Lys
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Hey, my name is Faith42 and I think I can help !
Don't let her other friend take over your friendship
you been her friend first! You should realy talk to
her about how you feel! It's not fair for her to
hang around with her all the time! Ask, her if it
would be ok if she hanged out with you a day , then
with her a day, then you can all hangout a day!
Thats what I would do! If she doesn't agree !
Stop hanging around with her for awhile she will
figure out that she is missing out on her friendship
with you!
I hope I helped!
Faith42:)
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alright girly. big situation and i really no how u feel. the same exact thing has been happening to me for the last 5 months on and on and on. Take my advice and dont give up. thats what i did and im regreting it with my whole heart. let her know how you feel or it will drag on and on and you will end up being way more hurt than u shud be. i did the wrong thing and im still paying for it. trust me on this one.
i hope it works out, but no matter what remember that even if it takes really long and even if its hard, if shez really your friend it'll be worth the pain in the end if you hold on to her.
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I've been through this same thing hundreds of times sweetie. It sucks, I know. I just remember the first couple of times I handled it totally wrong. I tried to push the other girl right back. Let me tell you one thing: that doesn't work. I wish so many times that I could go back and act civil towards her, so now hopefully you'll take this advice and use it:
When you're hanging out with your friend and this other girl, act totally friendly as if nothing's wrong. Try being friends with this girl instead of automatically hating her because she's pulling your friend away.
And sometimes, you should let her pull your friend away for alone time. Just give them some space without disappearing completely. What I mean is, pull yourself away..don't let her push you. See what I mean? You have the control, but don't get bossy with it.
I really hope this works out for you, keep me updated!
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I think that you shouldn't stand by and let that other girl take away your bestfriend and your friendship. I think that you should let that other girl know that she cannot control your bestfriend and that she should stop pushing you out of the picture. If that doesn't work talk to your bestfriend alone about it and see what she thinks.
hope that works ;]
yours,
Michelle Monster <3
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