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i just told one of my best friends kelly im bi and now she is acting weird around me. I imed her and shes like ummm hi and im like whats wrong and then she says well idk how to act around u anymore, and im really hurt, she treats me like im not wanted, not intentional, but it still hurts, what do i do be honest

She might not know how to take the news. Some people just don't feel right around people like this because of what they see and hear about them.
Tell her that you feel unwanted, and you know she's not doing it on purpose. Ask her to tell you how she really feels about this, because she may not want to hang with you anymore. A good friend will like you for who you are, but she may just be adjusting from shock or something, so give it some time before you question her. Hope everything works out!
*Diamyn*

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Ok well i have these two bff's in the world and they'd never do n e thing to hurt me! So one of my bff's has another friend witch is totally fine. But me and my other bff dont like her she tries to take her away and ruin our friendship. And she act's like she doesnt even know us in public. So today we got in a fight and now she's all pissed @ me. Wut shood i do?

Well, I would say to dump this girl, but, give it one more chance, and tell her that if she keeps acting crazy like this, you'll end the friendship- and you mean it. If she is really a friend, then she'll come around to her senses.
Good luck!

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well let me tell u the whole story well it all happened today. well i went to the theater with my friend and her family and stuff well we waited for her mom,dad,sister, and brother and when they got there he just kept looking at me. well when the movie finish we went outside and stuff and i notice he was still looking at me of course i was blushing and felt funny!! well me and my friend left with her aunt to my friends house well we got locked out and stuff so we waited for her mom and family to come well like an hour later they came and her brother kept looking at me and yea i thought he was hot.well they were cleaning thier house and every time he passed thru my friends room he always look and stuff well we went to a gig (a party for rockers)well we got there and me and him started talking to each other and then my friend went out to hear the band and me and him just sat and talk thats when he took out a bottle cap saying if it lands heads we are just friends but if it land tail we have to make out i was cool with it and we made out alot and i ask him was he just making out with me for fun or because he liked me and he said noo am no doing it for fun and i dont understud what he said but i think he said i like you or i love you and after he said that he kiss me in the cheack and we just started talking again and we tried to hold hands but we didn't want any body to see us we did hold hands but just for a while. now i really like this guy but am not sure if i should tell my friend?? And i dont know if i should start a real rlationship with him??

hmmmm...i think he definitely has feelings for you, but just to be sure, wait a while before telling your friend or before starting a relationship. Just to double-check that he really is interested.
Going out with your best friends brother, i don't think is really that bad.
But once you are sure you feel comfortable and this guy's for real, then you can tell your friend and see what she says. If she agrees, then you can move on to the relationship thing.
But if she disagrees, there must be a good reason because she lives with him, and maybe she'll know something about him that you don't(he's a player..etc) but he sounds like fair game, so good luck. I hope I helped you any:)
*Diamyn*

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My bestfriends boyfriend is comming on to me and me and him have a past because we were about to date but then my bestfriend hooked up with him instead.At first i was mad but eventualy i got over it.well they have been going out for 9 months and now he told me he has feelings for me and wants to be with me but he still goes out with my bestfriend and i like him to but i dont want to hurt my bestfriend.please help me and what should i do.

This might sound harsh, but I definitely don't think you should do anything with this guy. Never let a boy come between you and your friend.
If he's coming on to you behind her back, there's no telling what else he'll do behind your back if you guys were to hook up.
But for the moment, try to refuse him and tell him that you're not interested anymore. Tell him you don't wanna hurt your best friend. Since they're going out for so long, it's definitely gonna hurt your friend.
Don't tell your friend anything yet- unless he keeps annoying you.
Hope it works out!
*Diamyn*

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Every time someone says I wanna go to Mardi Gras, I'm always like "ME TOO!" but the truth is, I don't know exactly what its for and what you do there. I've only seen clips of people partying on the street... I think it would be fun, but what is it your doing and is it some type of celebration of some sort? It looks fun, but what is it?

Well, since I'm from La, I can tell you from experience.
It's a really fun and loud train of floats which certain people ride on called krewes, i think.
they throw out beautiful pearls(beads) and you scream and wave your hands and get their attention to catch the prettiest beads. At some parades, they throw teddy bears and coconuts and if you know someone or really catch their attention, you get something special, like roses and such. It's really fun and you HAVE to go there. Hope I helped you with the details.
*Diamyn*

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sorry this is long.
okay. this girl, tegan, lives with my family. she's only been here 3 weeks and she's already like a sister to me. problem: she likes my boyfriend josh. she is always saying how awesome he is and how he is realy good looking and stuff. and today she was going on about how jealous she is. she keeps saying she wants a guy just like josh! i really really like him. i am not giving him up! i tried setting her up with another guy and for 3 days she was all 'dan this, dan that' and saying how much she likes him. but then she dumped him and is going on about josh again. i tried talking to her but she is all like 'i'm just mucking around' but i can tell she isn't.

HELP!

:( Liking your best friend's b/f is not cool.
I would definitely watch her becuz the moment you and your guy split, she'll be all over him like grass on the ground. but since you already tried hooking her up w/another guy, and that didn't work, I think you and her need to have a heart-to-heart talk. I think you really need to straighten this out b4 something bad happens. Hope I helped some.
~Diamyn~

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my good friend, ill call her jenny, has this boyfriend, ill call him scott, and they were going out for about 6 months. Jenny told scott she was not loving him as much and Scott broke up with her. Jenny was so upset and wouldnt stop crying. They got back together and a few times he has made her cry again. I tell her to dump him now before she gets hurt agian but she says "i thought if i was happy, you would be happy for me, but i guess thats too much to ask" so i tell her "i want to see you happy and every time he makes you cry, your not happy and you just need to end it with him" she wont though and im afraid of how something bad happened to her. The first time they broke up she wouldnt eat for about 4 days and she got a bad rash all over her body. HELP!!

:( i know you wanna help, but it seems like she needs someone else in this. Maybe her mom, or a school counselor. It was normal heartbreak until she started harming herself. Then that means they've both gone too far. She definitely needs help. Keep supporting her, and get someone else to help. Hope everything works out okay. Feel free to come back if you need anything.
~Diamyn~

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My best friend never beleives me she always beleives her mom or ... ANYONE exept me, then i yelled at her because she is my best friend and is sopposed to beleive me, so she got really sad and i feel bad for me making her sad and her not beleiving me. what should i do i need to know now

let her know you're sorry but explain that you didn't feel it was right for her not to trust you. if I were her, i would feel bad too:(
but i hope i helped you any.

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ok so i have a friend and shes been dating this guy for a couple months. well first problem is that her parents hate him. they go to church together and shes not even allowed to sit by him. the thing is they have been dating behind her parents back and the parents keep finding out and she gets in trouble and they hate him more. well the thing is.. they always find ways to get together behind everyones back and first they made out and thats ok but then he fingered her on a church van. he keeps wanting her to go farther and shes a Christian and this whole thing is pulling her away from God, i dont think she even cares. he keeps hurting her (emotionally) and i dont want to see her go through this. ive tried talking to her but i really cant get through to her. i dont want her to go too far but he is pressuring her. sorry its long but i need advice.

When you talked to her, did you tell her everything that was on your mind? If you don't want your best friend to fall into a bad lifestyle, which he is definitely leading her into, then you have to get your point across. But sometimes, all you can do is watch, try to help, and be there for her when he lets her go and she falls. Hope it works out.

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my friend's boyfriend flirts with like every girl he sees. i always tell her and she was like "oh, it's ok. he's not sesrious." and i'm like yeah he is! he ALWAYS does it! Not just that, but she ruined her relationshp with her best friend to go out with him. none of her friends like him and they totally dont approve of them "dating" he's always hanging on her in school and he wont leave her alone sometimes, and then other times he refuses to talk to her because he is busy flirting with other girls. she's making a mess and i don't want her to. i'm trying to help her, what should i do?

hmmm.. i had a b/f who flirted, but stopped when we hooked up. Flirters are supposed to stop when they're in a relationship. But if he's ruining things and all that, i think you should help her out and find her another b/f. It might hurt, but he's toxic, and poisioning their relationship and friendship.Hope i helped some:D

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I'm not a person that opens up to people usually. There is an acquaintance that I've had in my life for over 6 years that recently started becoming my best friend. We would spend every waking hour together for about 6 months. It was so great. She did get annoying sometimes, but that happens with all consistancy I believe. She had two good friends before her and I really became good friends.

Here's a little background about us. She is more into the fashion scene, while I'm more into the music scene. Somewhere we meet in the middle. I usually dislike people who are into fashion and showing themselves. But she is different. She has some kind of hippy-like quality inside her.

One of her friends was moving, so she moved in with that girl for about a month, to help her packup. We almost didn't talk at all after constantly being together for 6 months. After a month had gone by, she said she was going to drive across the country with them and help them unpack. After about 2 weeks of that, she decided to move in with them 3,000 miles away.

[[Her reason is to get away from her parents and grow up. But she's moving in with people that are 2 years younger than her and way too wild to let her mature into an adult and not a partying adolescent wanna-be adult]]

I'm moving into the country soon, so my chances of making new friends are going to be even more slim. Her family is moving about 5 minutes away from me though. She's leaving behind her childhood friend and myself to follow dreams I know she is still too immature to accomplish.

She has come back for a month to get her stuff and say goodbye. Should I release her back to the fashion-hungered, immature group that she was in before? ... Or do I fight to keep her here and keep the best friend that I came to know and love?

ooh.. i believe you should definitely try to tell her whats on your mind. I don't blame you for wanting her to stay. This is not a case of friends growing apart.
Fight with all you have, because she might be making a mistake if she hasn't thought about it good enough.
Hope things work out.

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k.. there's this new girl at our school named jackie.. i introduced her to all my friends.. including one named kaci. kaci's been trying so hard to make her jackie's best friend or whatever.. but anyway.. kaci says she tells me everything.. and she will always tell me anything that's bothering her.. well jackie was over at my house today and kaci called her.

you see. . kaci went out with my best friend's boyfriend like a year ago.. we all think kaci still lieks him but yea.. eric (ex) has a rep on being disloyal.. he called kaci telling her to come over anytime and he's sure his mom won't mind.. kaci goes "jackie, don't tell jami (me) or i'm gonna be mad at you".. i feel like i have to tell my best friend but i don't want jackie mad at me and kaci mad at jackie.. what am i supposed to do? help!!! sorry if it's confusing.. but i'll rate for anything

you are in a jam. sorry if ANY of this sounds rude, but if you and your best friend(who you wanna tell) are really good friends and you trust her, then i believe you should tell her because it sounds like kaci likes to hide things. But just make sure no one gets hurt.
hope it works out!

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Me & my friends played a prank on this girl in my school that was picking on me, and she turned us in. Yesterday, I wasn't in school and the guidance conselor called all my friends down to the office, turns out EVERYONE was sayen I did it, even my best friends. I did do most of it, but not all of it. & I admitted to it. Are they real friends?

oh that REALLY sux. they took advantage of the fact that you weren't there to defend yourself, and it was then your 1 word against theirs(more than 1)
They are definitely not real friends, because even if it meant getting one of you in trouble, a real friend would have taken the blame or said it wasn't true that you did the whole thing.

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theres this girl that has been following me around since 7th grade she never talks or when she can you can't hear her.I dont like feeling like I have a shodow its emberassing when I talk to people and they try and talk to her but she just wont talk. Its the most annoying feeling so thats why i dont even enjoy lunch anymore id rather go to my next class. even if i say to someone "i need to tell you something in private" and walk away she still follows me. Shes the shyest person EVER and i would feel bad hurting her feelings. BUT I CANT TAKE IT ANY LONGER. pleaseee help i'll rate 5's
thanks

oh.. she sounds so lonely:(
try to sit and talk with her and tell her that she has to start meeting new people, becuz what would she do if you changed schools or something?
let her know in a easy way that she's kind of annoying... let her down gently, though.
tell your friends to be nice to her and help her talk. hope it works out! :)

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I need some help. Ok, back at my old school, me and this girl Ashley used to be best friends. She also had another best friend named Nelly, but me and Nelly never hanged out. Now, we all started a new school. Me and Nelly went to the same school, but Ashley didn't. We're even in the same class! So gradually, we became best friends. But now Ashley is totally jealous. Since me and Nelly are in the same class, of course we're going to start talking. But she doesn't understand that. What should I do? Thanx.

You have to get it through her head. Sit down and talk to her. You don't wanna lose a really good friend, so try to get her to see. Prove your point that people in the same class are bound to start talking sometime, and also let her know that you guys haven't forgot about her.
Hope i helped.

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ok well i kinda did stuff with this guy and afterwards we were like never not fighting and it was the gayest stuff too! okay well he like stoped talking to me and then i was like why are you being such an ass to me and he was like cause you are a bitch. and he just wont talk to me and i really want to talk to him and golly! it just makes me mad and i dont know if i should just be like you know what i dont care anymore or if i should keep trying to get him to talk to me.. cause i really do care! GAH!
any suggestions?

well, something's obviously wrong w/him.
it might hurt a little, but i don't think you should try to talk sense into someone who doesn't seem to care about you anymore. But don't worry, you'll find someone wayyyy better than him. Sooner or later:D

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Ok so I have these 2 best friends, they are always soo clingly, they do everything together and i hate it!!! Like one day I came to school we were all cool and everything, the next day they were mad at me for no reason!! Then the next day I went to ask them what was wrong and the "leader" of the two (one of them follows her every move) said they were just kidding! I was so upset. They always talk about me behind my back too. They even tell me they call me abd names behind my back. I'm not even mean to them!!I'm not like jealous or anything it's just i'm the third wheel and i want things to go back to the way they were b4 all this drama... (middle school drama) and I really need help I am stuck and I have no clue what to do!! PLEASE HELP ME!! I need help fast!!!!(i rate high)
Thank you!!!

i know how you feel:(
i think your friends have decided amongst themselves that they no longer need you or something. No matter how bad you want things to back to the way it was, you have to do just like them and move on, because you don't want friends like these anymore.
I hope you find some better friends because you deserve better.

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There is this guy I like that he knows I like him.Today he was near me during the first 2 class periods and every time we look at each other we either smile or do small talk.I really like him and he sweet and so smart.Well today when we were going off to 7th period he was beside me and said "you want me to ask you something?" And i was like No then i went to class and I've been thinking bout it all days.I'm just wondering if he likes me then how can I approach him or what can I say?PLZ help and thank you!!!

maybe when you're talking one day, you could bring up the subject of relationships. make sure you put him in in by asking something like"how long was your longest relationship" or
anything that would let him get the idea of what you're trying to say. hope i helped any!:)

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I was best friends with Kelly since 7th grade. We're in 9th now and we're still pretty good friends, not best friends but close. Well, she tells me all of her secrets and I never tell them. She says all the time to me and everybody else that I'm her most trustworthy friend, and she tells me that Brittany is very dishonest and lies to her alot. Anyways, Kelly did something really bad and she told me and Brittany and acouple of other people about it and made us promise not to tell. Her secret got out (one that everybody gossips about) and one girl, Julie, (who doesnt like me) tells Kelly that I told everybody the secret. I honestly didn't tell anybody. Now Kelly won't even talk to me, she won't even let me explain to her that I didn't tell anybody. She won't talk to me about it at all. Do you think that she's just not a good enough friend to even try to hold onto, or should I keep trying to tell her the truth? Ill rate if you ask :o) thanks

I think she's a good friend because she really trusted you. i wouldn't kick her to the curb anytime soon. But i would definitely do something about this Julie character. She's something else.
You should keep trying to talk to her. You can't blame her for not trusting anyone right now. How would you feel if someone told your secret and you didn't know who?
Hope everything works out. Good luck.

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i like this guy and hes hott and we friends we talk alot and sit by each other he waits for me when i get out of classes but i mean we huged before and held hands but not to be
serious ...but im i don't if he is what should i do ?
should i ask him if he likes me or something i need som ideas or anthing

i think the signs are obvious. whenever a guy would wait for me at school and stuff like that, he usually wound up amitting his feelings to me not much later.especially if he saw another guy liked me too. but my point is, i am pretty sure he does like you.
but just to be sure, i think you should ask him. it doesn't have to be a direct question- if it helps, you could beat around the bush until he gets it.

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