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A follower
theres this girl that has been following me around since 7th grade she never talks or when she can you can't hear her.I dont like feeling like I have a shodow its emberassing when I talk to people and they try and talk to her but she just wont talk. Its the most annoying feeling so thats why i dont even enjoy lunch anymore id rather go to my next class. even if i say to someone "i need to tell you something in private" and walk away she still follows me. Shes the shyest person EVER and i would feel bad hurting her feelings. BUT I CANT TAKE IT ANY LONGER. pleaseee help i'll rate 5's
thanks
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Maybe give some free advice about: Friendship?
Ok be like " listen i dont want to hurt your feelings but you never talk and its sorta like i have a shadow because you follow me everywhere and i cant ever have a minute to myself or just with my friends...you seem like a nice person but could you please find someone else to follow around..." i hope i helped...good luck...
~Katie Leigh~
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ok.. so even if you are scared to tell her just tell her! You can't live with someone always being behind your back. Or if you don't tell her to stop following you then whenever you have a boyfriend or you have fallen in love and you need some privacy she won't let you so tell her now! Hope my advice helps.
-xxmizzpreciousxx
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You may not just want to "try to be nice", because you should really talk to her. I'm sure she'll talk to you if you talk to her. (whether you could hear her or not)
To make her comfortable you have to speak to her and ask her questions. Don't just ignore her and talk to her every once in a while. Introduce her to more people because she'll become more comfortable. And when she waits with you by the door and stuff, so you're not jusut both standing there, ask her some questions and just talk to her...
I'm like that in my school too. I mean I'm like REALLY quiet...and don't ever make fun of that girl (not saying that you do) but just be like..."well why dont you try talking to her." if someone asks you why she doesn't talk.
I'm like that too though...for real. Like at home I'm loud and crazy but in school I'm just...not myself. And it's hard to be outgoing.
She probably has social anxiety disorder which isn't that eay to get over..I know because I have it. Or maybe she's had a traumatic experience which is why she is so quiet.
But seriously, take the initiative to talk to her. I'm totally not kidding. It would help her out in the long run adn make things better for you too.
Oh, I have an idea...write her a note in the class where she sits next to you...and just say whatever in the note. You'll be passing notes and then you could just bring it up (not in a mean way) but why shes so quiet. Don't ask her "why dont you talk?" because she wouldn't like that..I know. Just be like "hey (then put her name) why are you so quiet/shy?"
Then you'll get to the bottom of this and have a better understanding of it...seriously though you should do that.
_-*Me*-_
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well maybe you should try talking to her seriously.. maybe she has mental problem or something i dunno..but really try to figure this girl out cause thats a lil strange..and makes it more strange cause she's a 10th grader..so um just ask her questions if your able to talk to her like why she follow you and stuff..and like maybe shes a really outgoing girl at home or something and act different and probably really cool and like you..maybe you could chill wit her for a day and see if she's any different..i hope i helped..~*DEZ*~ ThugGirl041790
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Whoa...That must be really annoying. I understand you don't want to hurt her feelings, but what else can you do? You have to tell her the truth. Say it to her nicely, and if she still follows you, your going to have to be more aggressive. Or you two can be friends and try to boost her self-esteem, or whatever issues she has. Invite her out with your friends, make her be more social then maybe she could make friends on her own and leave you alone. I don't know if any of this will help, but I wish you good luck!
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wow shes a stalker lol. If you dont want to be mean, then just make it obvious that you dont want her following you around all the time. Try to talk to her about it or just ignore her lol.
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oh.. she sounds so lonely:(
try to sit and talk with her and tell her that she has to start meeting new people, becuz what would she do if you changed schools or something?
let her know in a easy way that she's kind of annoying... let her down gently, though.
tell your friends to be nice to her and help her talk. hope it works out! :)
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oh man ... sorry to hear that. i think tryign to talk to her is a good thing. and if someone wants to talk to you in private and she starts to follow you, just say oh can you stay here a minute i have to talk to him/her. and if she still doesnt listen start to get a little attitude. if she doesnt listen by then you scream! but it shoudlnt go that far. just keep tryin to talk to her and try to let her know she can talk to you. make her feel comfortable. i know it can be annoying but jsut give it one last shot!
xo briana
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