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my bestfriends boyfriend
My bestfriends boyfriend is comming on to me and me and him have a past because we were about to date but then my bestfriend hooked up with him instead.At first i was mad but eventualy i got over it.well they have been going out for 9 months and now he told me he has feelings for me and wants to be with me but he still goes out with my bestfriend and i like him to but i dont want to hurt my bestfriend.please help me and what should i do.
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Im not sure what do but if I were you I would tell her what he said she may not believe you but it would probally be the right thing to do
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This guy sounds like a sleaze. Don't, I repeat, DON'T give in to him! Friendship should ALWAYS come before any boy. If you do something with this guy, then he's the guy who cheats on his girlfriend, and you're the whore he does it with. Talk to your best friend- she needs to know what he's up to.
Now, when she dumps him (which she very well should!) and you've waited long enough to let them get over each other, and you still have feelings for him, then is the time to try something with him. Just be warned that if you do date him, there's a chance that he'll cheat on you too.
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this is really hard because if you tell your bestfriend and he denies it when she confronts him, she may be mad at you. maybe if she heard him telling you this. maybe you could tell her and then call him and get him to say it. but i don't think you should date him. your friendship is way too precious to ruin over this guy. i hope i could be of help and good luck!
<3~*KaYlA*~
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Well if you don't want to hurt your best friend, then you should definitely wait until they break up because friends come before guys and wouldn't you be sad and hurt if she did that to you? Just tell your best friend's boyfriend that you can't be with him until your best friend breaks up with him because it wouldn't be fair to her. Tell him to stop "coming" on to you and that you aren't interested. If he does like you, then he should understand and will respect your choice and will wait. Hope I helped :)
-Karen
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You should wait for ur bffs bf to break up with them and he ask you out you also should respect ur bffs feelings you want NO boy to EVER get in between you guys (happened to me and believe me you DONT wanna go thru what i did!) sounds like you really care for your friend so just lay back and try to find another available guy try to put this guy aside I kno its hard but it'll only b the way you both wont get hurt.
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Even though you like him and vice versa, I think you should respect your friend feelings. If shes your best friend, you wouldnt want to hurt her. If she would find out about you and him, then things could be disasterous. In the long run, a friendship is way better that any boy. Hope my advice helps! Let me know what happens!
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Think a minute...if the boy is doing this to your friend, how long will it take him to do it to you? If you go with this boy, you will probably lose your friend but have the boy. Then when he moves on, you won't have the boy OR the friend. So my advice is tell the boy to shove off and then rat him out to your friend...gently. It may be that sh'e just as tired of him and may want to move on, too. In some cases (rarely), friends' exes are not off limits-if your friend suggests it! (hey, it's been done. I set my ex up with my best friend and they eventually got married. The 3 of us stayed friends and it all worked out)
So decide who is more important to you in the long run and remember, guys only have enough blood in their bodies to think with one head at a time!
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This might sound harsh, but I definitely don't think you should do anything with this guy. Never let a boy come between you and your friend.
If he's coming on to you behind her back, there's no telling what else he'll do behind your back if you guys were to hook up.
But for the moment, try to refuse him and tell him that you're not interested anymore. Tell him you don't wanna hurt your best friend. Since they're going out for so long, it's definitely gonna hurt your friend.
Don't tell your friend anything yet- unless he keeps annoying you.
Hope it works out!
*Diamyn*
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