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Her reputation was reuined.
I was best friends with Kelly since 7th grade. We're in 9th now and we're still pretty good friends, not best friends but close. Well, she tells me all of her secrets and I never tell them. She says all the time to me and everybody else that I'm her most trustworthy friend, and she tells me that Brittany is very dishonest and lies to her alot. Anyways, Kelly did something really bad and she told me and Brittany and acouple of other people about it and made us promise not to tell. Her secret got out (one that everybody gossips about) and one girl, Julie, (who doesnt like me) tells Kelly that I told everybody the secret. I honestly didn't tell anybody. Now Kelly won't even talk to me, she won't even let me explain to her that I didn't tell anybody. She won't talk to me about it at all. Do you think that she's just not a good enough friend to even try to hold onto, or should I keep trying to tell her the truth? Ill rate if you ask :o) thanks
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hmm. if your friend kelly hasn't gotten over the fact that she'll believe people that she isn't really friends with. then i would say you lost your friend ship along time ago if she'll believe them instead of you. if you honestly didn't tell her secrets then dont wory about it. because its whats inside that counts and if she gives up and says hey listen bitch im sorry for everything. then say aright.. but if she doesn't caugh up. id try to let it slide and see how she makes out wiht out u.. and if she cant make out with out you.. she'll run to you.
and if u run to her if shes ur friend shell let you in!
-- x A Ma nda *
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whats the secret?!
and if she doesnt believe you, dont stress. just wait and sooner or later, if you are as trustworthy as you say, she will realize what julie did and that she should trust you!
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hey. kelly sounds like a good friend to me. she trusted you and needed someone to blame and that julie girl gave her an excuse to blame it on you. i think that you should try and talk to her about it, write an e-mail, call her, or write a letter. but when you do so, dont tell her that its julies fault, cause then she might think that your trying to get out of it. so try your best to get her trust back, but give her some space and time so that she can think about it. dont give up on her though. however, you should do something about julie. shes the one who got you and kelly in trouble. try to think of a way to get her back, but not come down to her level, which seems very low. i hope that all works out. be patient, she'll come back if shes a good friend. show her that you care, it will make her feel better.
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Sounds like she's really hurt you!
Why don't you sit down and write her a letter.
If she won't talk to you then write down how you are feeling and tell her you are sorry for her secret getting out but that it wasn't you that told.
People find it really easy to ignore someone talking to them but it's incredibly hard to ignore a letter!!
Hope everything works out for you.
Mel
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I think she's a good friend because she really trusted you. i wouldn't kick her to the curb anytime soon. But i would definitely do something about this Julie character. She's something else.
You should keep trying to talk to her. You can't blame her for not trusting anyone right now. How would you feel if someone told your secret and you didn't know who?
Hope everything works out. Good luck.
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it seems like you care about kelly alotso you do need to be patient and persistant, but you need to go up to julie and ask her why she blamed you for something you didnt do, honestly tht sounds like a cover up, and remember, if kelly wont let you talk to her then she dosent trust you as much as she said, you cant just be her most trustworthy frienda and then one person says something so she wont pay attention to you anymore,she isnt worth your time if you cant believe in her and she cant believe in you MY ADVICE:Talk to Julie, Try to explain to Kelly, and if that dosent work, give up on her, she isnt worth your friendship
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what i would do is keep trying. patience on getting her back as a friend shows that you really care. i would keep doing it.
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Well how was your friendship before all of this? if it was generally good and you didnt have a lot of problems with her..i would give her the benefit of the doubt and let her calm down. If you have had problems with her in the past..then i would think about hanging out with other people. Try talking to her on AIM...or on the phone..or in person..even a letter. Just ask her to hear you out! Maybe after she listens to you she'll realize she was jumping to conclusions. Tell her to trust that your telling the truth because your her best friend! After you tell her everything you wanted to say..leave her be for awhile so she can reflect and have time to think. Let her come to YOU. If she doesnt..then shes not a true friend. But i think she will eventually.
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I hope everything goes well
-melissa-
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Well what I dont get is why would she not believe you?? You have been an honest friend since the beginning. Still try to explain everything whether its in the form of a note, email, IM, letter...whatever! I think and hope that she'll come to her senses and realize that you have been keeping her secrets forever and that Julie is lying! Keep being a good friend and I hope everything goes well!! Oh and if after a while, she still doesnt believe you..just forget it! But for now I think you should try to tell her that julie is a lyer and stuff..
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