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i just told my friend im bi
i just told one of my best friends kelly im bi and now she is acting weird around me. I imed her and shes like ummm hi and im like whats wrong and then she says well idk how to act around u anymore, and im really hurt, she treats me like im not wanted, not intentional, but it still hurts, what do i do be honest
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If she is letting the fact you are a "bi" ruin your frienship, she might not be worth it. You are still the same person as you were before. Make sure she knows that.
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maybe she thinks you like her since ur bi. say this to her: if you think i have a crush on you i don't so you don't need to act diferent around me i'm still the same person.
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Tell her that just because your bi doesn't mean that it should change things. Maybe she feels that you like her in a different way now. Besta Luck
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Okay listen girlfriend...Might be hard to take in at once, but obviously she wasnt ya friend for real....b/c if she was why is she acting this way? Theres isnt a reason for her to do that..ok yea it might've been a shock to her but it had to be hard for you too! You've gone this long & never hit on her (right) so why is she worried? you should probably joke around with her & be like "ur safe! your not my type"..you dont gotta use those words exactly..My best friend on 3 years just told me the same about her! We still have sleep overs & all that good stuff.I've never thought anything different of her. If you need to talk get at me! Im all ears!!
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If she's not comfortable with you being bi, then sit down and tell her there's nothing wrong with you, and you're just like you've always been. But if she wants to stop hanging with you just cause your bi, then is she really you're friend?
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well it seems she can't accept you the way you are so you could tell her if she doesnt like you that way it's her problem and you could stop talking to her.
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She's going the be uncomfortable around you for a small amount of time. This is something for the both of you to get used to. Maybe she's afraid that you'll fall in love with her, or that you'll try something with her, and she's not that way so she doesn't want anything to ruin the friendship. Reassure her that you aren't into her like that (unless of course you are, then I don't know what to say) tell her how you feel. Tell her you know it's not intentional, but that you feel like you're no longer wanted, that you feel really hurt now. And if you can't trust your best friend with something like this, who can you trust. Tell her in a note or in IM, or face to face if you don't want anyone else to see/hear what you say... what you told us. Just let her know how you feel, and that you aren't any different. That you were still bisexual before you told your friend, but at that time you felt couragous enough to come out. There's not really much more I can say. I heard about a friend who I had thought was straight (until she met this other girl and they were hanging out a lot) that she was bi, and I acted the same around her. Most likely your friend was either brought up to be a homophobe, or your friend is afraid you're going to like put the moves on her. Just let her know that it isn't like that. Sorry if my advice isn't that good. Hope it did help though. Good luck with your friend :-)
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You need to talk to her about it and tell her that it doesnt change the fact that shes your best friend and its still the same you just talk
to her thats the best you can do if she cant accept that your a bi thats her problem not yours you havent done anything wrong
roxie
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I just admitted to my parents and close friends that I myself was Bisexual. Alot of people acted werid around me. It's human nature, when things change and people don't like it. Your friend might also be worried that you may like her. But if you don't then you need to tell her that and mabye she will understand, hopfully she will. Good Luck
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anyone who treats you in that way are just what they claim you are. dont ever listen to negative comments your friends may say about your sexual orientation. if you friend cannot cope with the fact that you do have different sexual views than her, shes no real friend. make sure to tell her how she's making you feel, even if it makes you feel very vulnerable. if she still doesnt accept it, dont waste your time on her anymore. good luck!
-Jenny
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You've already been honest with her once, be honest again and tell her you dont like how shes acting now.
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You have to talk to her. Tell her you're not a different person than you were before, she can act the exact same way around you. If she continues her behavior, maybe you need to find a new friend who accepts the person that you are. I hope I helped. Send me something if you need to. ♥ Kristen
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she prolly thinks you want HER!!! reassure her that she isn't your type it's just that you needed to confide in someone and that she's your best friend so you figured she'd understand.
~ANGE
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Well i would probably feel a little bit wierd around my friend if she just told me she was bi. You got to know thats the outcome i mean give her time to think about this sort of stuff i mean give her space after about a week just confront her and let her know that you wouldnt ever ever like her like that that would be to wierd cuz u guys r like best friends-trix
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Your friend shouldn't treat you like that. Just because you are bisexual, it doesn't mean you have changed completely. You need to talk to her and tell her that she needs to act the same as she did, before you told her that you were bisexual. Just talk to her and tell her how you feel about the way she treats you. Hope I helped :)
-Karen
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She might not know how to take the news. Some people just don't feel right around people like this because of what they see and hear about them.
Tell her that you feel unwanted, and you know she's not doing it on purpose. Ask her to tell you how she really feels about this, because she may not want to hang with you anymore. A good friend will like you for who you are, but she may just be adjusting from shock or something, so give it some time before you question her. Hope everything works out!
*Diamyn*
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Just forget her or talk to her about it. Tell her to act the same and to act as though you never told her this.
♥ Michelle
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