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Taking me for granted? A bit lengthy...sorry.
Okay, so I've been with my guy 15 months, and it's been sheer bliss until lately. My stress level went up because music is taking over my life at the moment. I hardly ever see him as it is. Lately, he's been pissing me off. The problem is, I'm not totally sure why I'm so mad at him.
I want to SCREAM at him, and I never yell at anyone. He sprang this whole "I want to talk to you about the future of our relationship" thing on me on tuesday. (However, he told me I had no right to be nervous, there was no possibility I'd end up in tears, and he wasn't breaking up with me or anything remotely ike that.) He told me to call after play practice (I got the lead, so major stress there) so I did, and the line was busy. Then he told me to call after practice yesterday so we could talk. I called - he wasn't there. Today, he left for his friend's house 'cause they're doing this whole winterfest thing or whatever. He's gone all weekend.
He PROMISED me we'd talk about this and get rid of some stress before my college audition (saturday), and so far, we haven't talked about it.
He's causing me all sorts of stress I don't need, not to mention the fact that he's never quite...reliable. He never calls anymore (and if he does, I'm never there. He seems to call when he knows I'll be gone, and then never calls back when my parents tell him I'll be home.)I'm sick of chasing him with phonecalls.
The thing of it is, I honestly think he's under the impression that I'll stick with him no matter what he does (or doesn't do). I'm thinking of talking to him and telling him that though I love him with all my heart, if he continues to take me for granted like this, I will break it off. I can't handle boyfriend stress on top of everything else.
I tried to stay away from relationships, but I couldn't get rid of my quickly developing crush on him.
So what's your advice? What do I do? Do I talk to him and tell him he's taking me for granted? Do I scream at him the way I want to? I can advise everyone except myself dealing with matters of the heart, so I need someone to help me out.
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there is a point when in every reationship you feel like biting someones head off. But 15 months is a long time. Don't give up. You might be on your period or something, just calm down, take some midol, and stick in a tampon. It will all settle over.
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dude try to talk to him first...and if that doesnt work scream and throw a fit! If he loves you like he should be then it wont matter and he will understand. Since you are stressed and he shouldnt be giving you more then you alreayd have i say just let him hear about it. if you dont tell him how you feel it can only get worse.
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Scream at him, let it flow.
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Whoa! He IS causing you added stress that you really don't need right now. And we all know stress can lead to hair loss, weight gain(so I've heard) and all kinds of bad things.
But even though you care for him lots and lots, you really don't need this.
Talk to him face to face and tell him exactly whats on your mind and heart. tell him you feel that he doesn't realize what he has and you both seem too busy for each other right now. If he's a good guy, he'll understand and realize his mistakes-if it is a mistake. Tell him that you need alone time right now. If he tries to make you stay with him, tell him that you NEED space right now.
Or if you wanna break it off for good, tell him that too. No matter how hard it is, you have to say whats on your mind, because he can't read it.
Hope everything works out! Good luck!
*Diamyn*
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Well, i would break up with him. Or talk to him about it. Go to his house oneday unexpectedly. You might see somthing you dont want to. You should defenatly talk to him about it. Dont scream it will only make matters worst.
♥ Michelle
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