so today i was walking in the halls and i see my best friend walking with her boyfriend and one of our mutual friends. (this is really rare- i NEVER see my best friend in school.) she had her back turned to me but when he saw me, she turned around and gave me a really big smile and a "hey!" ...then before i could get a word in, turned right back to the other people she was with and ignored me. and she says im her bestbest friend.
i only see her once every week or two outside of school and sometimes dont even talk at nighttime. we used to be like sisters a few years ago, im'ing for a few hours everyday and hanging every chance we got. but since she got a boyfriend (its been 6 months) i've been left wondering if the title "best friends" really means anything anymore.
what do you think?
thanks so much.
i know exactly how you feel, EXACTLY.
this has happened to me, acutally i'm still going through it but it is getting better. it was with my best guy friend. we use to hang out ALL the time, i could tell him everything until he got a girlfriend and only would hang out with her and pretty much let our friendship go downhill. i missed him, so much. i didn't admit it to anyone though and i never did text him or call him anymore because i always thought if he wanted to talk or see me he would text or call first. but turns out, i was so wrong. you have to communicate! your friend probably has no idea you're feeling like this. i know my best friend didn't. after three years, i finally had the courage to just let it all out and tell him i miss him and that i feel really hurt that he doesn't call me anymore to hang out or just to talk. he had no idea i was feeling like this, he felt horrible. he said that whenever i need him, or whenever i want to see him to never be shy and just give him a call.
so i pretty much missed out on three years of our friendship. yeah i saw him here and there but it was just a "hey" and it was nothing like we use to be. he was the only guy i could ever trust and tell everything to, he was the one i could wear no make-up around and act like a complete dork and he would still call me his best friend. just call her or tell her you want to talk to her in person and let it all out. tell her you miss your friendship, ask what happened to you two. seriously pour your heart out to her. she probably is so clueless that you feel like this and doesnt want to hurt you in any way! she'll never know if you dont say something. i use to doubt the word "best friend" too, and i felt like i couldnt even call him my best friend but no matter what, i know he'll always be there now and i'm just glad he reasured me of that.
it is hard, i use to cry all the time because i missed him and felt like i was just replaced by his girlfriend but i told him how i was feeling and want to know what he said? "linds no matter what, just know that i got you. i would do anything for you. i love you, always rememeber that because it'll never change. you really are my best friend" and hearing that....made me cry so hard but this time it was because of happiness. don't make assumptions that she's ignoring you. please talk to her! i don't want you to lose your friendship, learn from me! everything will work out.
if you need anything else, don't be afraid! ♥ LU
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Its been awhile since me and troy my best friend have seen each other, and we made plans to hang out. We have know each other for 5 years and we have been unseperable since then; until I moved 5 moths ago to attend UC San Diego. He lives in La and he wanted to pay me a visit yesterday. He arrived early in the morning, luckily, we are getting ready for finals so we didn't have class and my room mates were gone for the weekend. When he arrived, it was weird, but it felt like it always did, i had butterflies in my stomach and when he hugged me i felt like the world had disappeared, and it was just me and him in this universe. He laughed and wanted to go inside. I showed him the apartment, went grocery shopping to make some breakfast and we hold hands, it was weird because he had a girlfriend, I tried not to think about it and I just enjoyed his company. When we arrived back we cooked, he made waffles and eggs and i made hash browns and bacon. It was the cutest thing ever. I have never felt that comfortable with him. We talked for hours and hours, and when silences would occur we would just laugh and start new conversation. Once it got late, I sighed. I didn't want him to leave, it had been a while since were together, He noticed and gave me one of his bear like hugs. I was his perfect size, my head fit perfectly under his chin, I wrapped my arms around him and he gently put his chin on the top of my head. After couple of minutes, I looked up and stared into his deep brown eyes, His eyes were full of sincerity and love, he pulled a little forward and his lips were inches away from mine. I couldn't resist and reached for his lips and gave him a tiny peck. I broke away from his arms even though I never wanted to leave his embrace. He pulled me to him once again and kissed me. he tasted so sweet, I let him search my mouth with his lips. His kiss grew passionate and before you know it we were both grasping for air. he led me to my room and we continued to make love. That morning, i woke up in his arms, I smiled at him and he reached for me. he told me he wasn't going to let go.... he left a couple of minutes ago, I miss him terribly. i don't know what to do... I need advice do you think he will leave his girlfriend to be with me? umm.. His girlfriend is my friend. I know it will hurt her a lot. But I'm hurting... am i being selfish?
OHHHH MYYYYYYYY!! this is so cute :)
isn't that feeling great, knowing you have someone like that there for you? the same thing pretty much happened to me too. i loved my best friend, and he also had a girlfriend. Everytime i'm with him, i can't resist him. We ended up hooking up while him and his girlfriend were on a break, and well i hoped that he would eventually break things off with his girlfriend and come to realize that it was me who he really wanted. The sad part, two and a half years later and they're still together. I really really hope that the outcome is different for you. I know what you're going through, it's like people don't understand, at all. Many people would think that your best friend is a bad guy for cheating on his girlfriend like that but i'm sure he is not at all. My best friend, god i know he is the sweetest guy ever and treats his girlfriend like a princess and deep down, he is a great guy. He is still my best friend. I can't tell you if he will leave his girlfriend but you need to communicate with him. Ask him what his intentions are, ask him if what happened meant as much to him as it did to you. Ask him whats going on with him and his current girlfriend. Please talk to him, i do NOT want you to get hurt like i got hurt. I'm still dealing with everything, and even though at the time it was the best feeling in the world, i am now miserable. I don't want to scare you at all, but you just need to communicate otherwise you will never know. Good luck hun, i really hope things work out for the best. If you feel like you need to talk about it more, feel free to e-mail me ♥ LU
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Well , I was in a relationship for a year & 3 months ... he Broke up with me 5 months ago .. Me and this guy Jason have gotten really close over the months and we're like the BEST 0F FRiENDS , we know everything about each other . Well he dated this girl for a year & 8 months , she broke up with him I believe in the begining of October fest. My bestfriend dated my ex in August and that killed me [ ofcourse we're not friends anymore! ] -- Well n-e ways ... Me and Jason hang all the time , well our feelings [ both ] are kinda growing more than " best friends " . I really don't wanna hurt Liana [ his ex ] but she broke up with him .. I know how it feels but I think it hurt me way worse because I was still in love with Justin [ my ex ] and wanted to be with him . I don't know what to do , I ALWAYS think of someone else before me .. that's just who I am . I'm scared to let my feels grow for my bestfriend but I can't help it either . I don't want to hurt anyone but my mom says I need to put me first ... but I don't wanna step on anyone . Jason [ the best friend ] wants to gradually evolve into somthing more , am I wrong for going along ? Please be honest .
honestly, your not wrong at all for going along. i understand where you're coming from though because i always think of others before myself too but that didn't get me very far in life. i realized that i had to go after what i wanted, and whats best for myself and screw everyone else. that might sound harsh but im being serious. she broke up with him anyways, and so she couldn't possibly be mad at you if you and jason did end up dating. you don't want to go on wondering your whole life what could have been with you and jason, you have to take the risk :) listen to your mommy when she says you need to put yourself first because she is right. don't care what other people think, it's your life and don't let anyone live it but you! best of luck to you ♥ LU
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SORRY SO LONG, BUT I WOULD REALLY APPRECIATE IT IF YOU COULD HELP!
im 18/f, my best friend is 17/m.
keep in mind i've never had a boyfriend...
anyways we've been best friends for about three and a half years now. its a complicated situation. we tell each other alot, and he helps me through everything and i'm always there for him. he has a girlfriend of two and a half years. i did fall for him, and never did move on, but really nobody knows that! anyways we don't really hang out at each other's houses alot. when we see each other it's at my cousins because he is their neighbor (my girl cousin is 18, boy is 16) and me and her are like best friends! and him and my boy cousin are really close too! so thats why like when im over there he will come see me and we'll all hang out! of course he's been over to my house, but it's mostly when its me and my cousins and him and my family is completely in love with him, they want me to go out with him which is not possible obviously because he has a girlfriend!! the annoying thing is that my family won't stop bugging me about him. one time he came over when my parents were at a wedding and well my brother is 21 so he is moved out with his fiancee but he came over to get something and me and him were laying in my bed just watching tv and my brother called my whole family and they were like OoOoh what were you two doing!! and i was like oh my god seriously, we're just friends. get over it, HE HAS A GIRLFRIEND! i hate having him over because my family always bugs him about me, and every time i mention him they're like ooooooh ;] and im just like wow seriously, we're just best friends and they're always like you wish he was your boyfriend. i want him to come over, just him i feel weird having my parents here. i want my privacy, but i feel like if we're in my room and i shut my door they will suspect something is going on! we flirt, im not going to lie but nothing past the limit. i just dont know what to do! i can't get it through their head. maybe they're just not use to me having a boy over because i've never had an actual boyfriend. and it gets annoying when they always ask me when i'm going to have one and they're on my case when i talk about my best friend. he wants to hang out this weekend and on saturday my parents are going to a halloween party across the street, so i could have him over but i don't want it to be awkward if they like come home and we're laying in my bed, just watching a movie or something! and he doesn't really like having people at his house because he has four other brothers and sisters so it does get hectic. what do you guys think i should do in this situtaion. anything will help, thanks [:
tell your parents that you're just best friends. i use to have this problem. but i just didn't care anymore! finally my parents realized that nothing was going on between us after he was over at my house alot. have your best friend talk to your parents [: have him tell them that your really close, but only friends. tell your parents there is no way anything could be going on between you two because he has a girlfriend and tell them to stop worrying about you getting a boyfriend. no boyfriend, no probelms right [: need anything else drop one in the inbox! ♥ LU
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17 female!
im in 12th grade. and in school, i talk to the hockey boys alot :) i dont know why but im just attracted to them. well i have these two boys nick and ben in two of my classes. they both have girlfriends. in our third hour nicks girlfriend is in our class with us but i dont really talk to them in there but our last hour they are always yelling my last name and stuff. and like today they were like COME HERE! and then i was like what and bens like i have to ask you something. and i was like what? and hes like will you go out with me and i just start laughing and hes like no im serious im like yeah thats why your going out with your girlfriend. and hes like no i dumped her. i know he was joking but then nick is like well if he wasnt going out with her would you go out with him? i probably would but i was like no! hahaha and then its freezing in that class, and i asked nick if i could wear his hockey jacket during class and ben is like noo dont let her she makes me want to kill myself because she wont go out with me. like jokingly. but then he gave it to me and ben walked away and i took his pencil back to my "lab table" with me and sat down. well all of a sudden i hear ben go, where is my pencil!! and then, he comes up from behind me and wraps his arms around me and takes me off of my seat. and when we line up at the door at the end of class and talk, ben was just staring at me. and i was like what are you doing! and i pushed his face the other way. and when us three were walking they were like hey hold hands with me, and i was in the middle and bens like i'll take front and you take back nick and they start laughing. they are always like you going to hangout with us today? and im like ummm no! because i always think they're joking around. i never know when they are being totally serious and i dont want to make a fool of myself...but i dont want to make them think i dont like them you know.
do you think they are serious about anything they say or do!?
thanks so much
heyy girlie. funny thing, this kinda happened to me too. my boyfriend plays hockey & his name is ben too haha but anyways before we were going out he was always messing around with me, calling me buddy and after awhile i was thinking, im actually starting to fall for this boy. i asked him to hangout with me and some of my friends and after that, everything went from there :) if your interested in ben, i wouldnt try to ruin him and his girlfriend's relationship, but hangout with him in a group of people, see how he acts around you! you NEVER know what boys are thinking they are so hard to read. but if you dont give it a shot, you'll never know!
♥ lindsaylu
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ok so my friend is this boy named dustin i dont like him let me get that strait but he does like my sister and i encorege him to ask her out and stuff but when he finnaly did she said no and now its been 3 weeks since then and he hasent emailed me and he wasent at school today and i just wonder if its because she said no and he might be really hurt about it i will admit he is extremly cute and his sister said that no girl has ever told him no what do you guys think do you think he is grouded or sick or somthing or do you think its because he is just so sad about my sister he talks about her all the time and i think its safe to say that he likes my sister more than any other girl he has liked before i just want to know what you guys think
well honestly; he might be a little hurt still, but i think he was just sick the day he was gone or had something going on like an appointment. as for not e-mailing you, maybe he just feels stupid because your sister said no. try e-mailing him or talking to him about it and see how he feels :)
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My friend, Jayelle (16) is very into drugs and although I have been friends with her for three years, I'm way different than her. I'm not into that and no one can influence me to do so. However, she's ruining her life and she doesn't care and slowly she's trying to drag me with her.
Her parents don't know that she uses drugs and I don't see how. She's always high and she has drugs in her room. They're clueless. I don't feel comftrable being around her anymore and I have talked to her about it but it goes in one ear and out the other so I stoped trying.
She got upset with me because I did not want to hang out with her because of it and I honestly did not feel guilty for it.
Here's the problem. Both Jayelle & I got invited to a college party but I would not go because they're crazy and I did not want anything bad to happen but she still decided to go. She called me at 2 in the morning asking me to come pick her up. I'm also 16 and I don't have a car of my own so there was no way I could leave. I felt really bad because I knew she was in deep trouble. High, drunk and with a bunch of older guys. I freaked out so I called her older sister who is 18. She acted calm and went and picked her up. I got a phone call from Jayelle the next day cursing me out and blaming me for getting grounded. I felt really bad but I honestly don't feel like it's my fault.
Even though I don't want to be friends with her because of the things she does, I still don't want anything bad to happen to her. Her mother found her drugs and basically cursed me out for it because I didn't go with her to the party and "protect" her. I was shocked.. hearing that from an adult! My mom took my side and is proud of me for not following into her footsteps but there is a part of me that feels horrible. What do I do. Thank you so much!!
this actually happened to me a while ago with one of my best friends. ive never done a drug in my life and i dont care what anyone says but my friend started getting high and smoking cigarettes. well she wouldnt tell me because she knew i would get sooo mad so i always found out for someone else. i sat down and talked to her, i said seriously if your gonna keep doing that i cant be friends with you. im just looking out for you because i care about you so much and i dont want you to get into trouble. and she hasnt done it since..ever since i talk to her about it. i know that you did the right thing sweetie and honestly you did nothing wrong and should not feel bad about anything that happened. its a good thing that you didnt get involved. talk to her, and if she keeps doing this stuff; id take a break from her.
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ok here's the thing imm really sad right now :(
please dont get mad at me but could you actually give a real answer that you would do if you were in this position
ok since i was like 4 i was friends with this girl named britney. wen my family moved away from them we grew further apart
but wen i was like 12 and she was like 14 she started getting more friends then she stopped hanging out with me
but she still thinks everything is ok
i dont know why but its almost like i hate her
she just i guess wants to act mature and she always hangs out with my sister and doesnt even say anything to me
wenever we do talk she just asks about my sister and doesnt really care about me
please ive cried every night because of it and i really need advice!!!
hey girlie. well trust me ive been through alot with friends and the best thing you could do is TALK TO HER! she wont know how your feeling if you dont say something to her. tell her that you miss how things were between you two and how you feel left out because all she wants to do now is hangout with your sister. ask her if she wants to do something, i dont think she realizes what your going through because she doesnt see it. if she still doesnt understand or all she wants to do is hangout with your sister; you dont need somebody like that in your life. hang out with the people that mean the most to YOU and make you happy :) instead of worrying about people that make you cry at night. i know it will be hard seeing her hanging out with your sister but in the end it will all work out. if you need anything else be sure to let me know; goodluck
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im a girl im 13.i grew up with all brothers and only boy cousins.im very rough w/ every1.i have mainly guy friends.ive never had a bf.i just really wana bf.but im ''one of the guys''.they dont think of me as girlfriend material.yes i wear really baggy pants but tight shirts.i snowboard.i wana bethought of as more girly. ~help me~
hii hunnie! well as you can see im a HUGE girly girl so i think i can help you with this one. find some girls that you could hangout with, try and stay away from the guys a little bit i mean you can still talk to them and hangout occassionally but not like all the time. treat yourself to a makeover, wear some makeup do your hair different, wear it down more if you dont already! maybe wear girlier pants!? i hangout with guys all the time so they always see me as just a friend too, and ive never had a boyfriend and people are always like your joking right? but having a boyfriend is alot of work you always have to worry about what they're doing and stuff. but anyways do what i said and if you still need more advice you can ask me and i'll give you more tips or you could IM me on AIM and i'll talk to you more. goodluck babe ♥
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I'm having a sleepover soon, its not a big one or anything, only a couple of friends. Its just, they're new girls at school and i dont know them very well, so i dont want it to be awkward. Does anyone know any good things to do at sleepovers so we wont get bored?
hey sweetie! you could..
♥ rent some movies
♥ call people *boys* lol
♥ gossip/talk
♥ sing/dance..be goofy!
♥ EAT! or make stuff then eat it! haha
♥ go on the computer?
♥ read magazines
♥ do each others nails, hair, etc.
well if you need anymore ideas let me know hun! hope everything goes well and just have fun!
♥ always--KristenLynn
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I have this friend, known her forever. Shes turning out to be really mean, and its gettin me down.
This summer, we spent EVERY DAY together. Never ever missed a day. When we got back to school, she paid no attention to me. I talk to her on the computer these days and she tells me im fat, ugly, slutty, fat,fat,fat,fat,fat!!
And it gets me down, because im not fat. she gets others to hate me
But then.. Im so nice I go back to forgiving her!!
I cant stop myself!! What do I do!?!!?
sweetie i dont know how old you are but im like 16 and trust me ..i can tell you girls are such bitches and thats pretty much why i have more guy friends than girls :) they dont cause so much drama and they are just more fun to be around! now with your friend..this kind of happened to me..this girl was my bestfriend and we hungout so much then in my 10th grade year..we went back to school and she wouldnt talk to me..she would act like she was so much better than me and she was just trying to be "popular" and she started drinking and shit..well i just decided to make new friends..and blow her off since she didnt seem to care. we are no longer friends..and i like it MUCH better this way because now i have two best friends..that i just met this year and they are awesome. my advice is lose this girl..i mean why would you wanna be friend with someone that calls you fat and ugly? tell her to fuck off..and then go make new friends! hangout with your guy friends! :) well hope i helped sweetie! if you need anything else be sure to let me know.
♥ Kristen
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Me and this guy are friends I like him and everyone says he likes me He helps me with a lot of things and he stares at me Im really the only girl that he talks to and his best friend always says that he likes me and things like that but I dont know if hes joking and plus my friends say that he likes me too Do you think he likes me because I cant tell im really slow when it comes to these things lol
Hun, of course he like you! And i can tell he does because from the things ive been hearing you tell me..those are all signs! The big one is he stares at you and helps you with alot of things. Plus his friend and YOUR friends are always telling you that he likes you. Im pretty sure nobody is joking about this either! If they were..wow fuck them. But im pretty sure that he likes you! You could always talk to him yourself and ask how he feels about you if you really want to know for sure! Hope everything works out babe.
♥ Kristen
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my boyfriend is really shy && i never know like what to talk about..any ideas?
does he play any sports? you could talk about that! haha umm talk about what you two should do on the weekend..what he likes and stuff. i mean once you start something up then he will get more comfortable with talking..just get a topic that he likes and start talking about it then he will start talking more..trust me! be all crazy and hyper and he will then lol i know how this goes!! hope everything works out sweetie..if you need anything else leave one in the inbox!!
♥ Kristen
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So i spent the night at my friends house.
Her brother and I were watching a movie.
He got up to get something to drink.
I put my feet on the sofa,then he came back he didnt move my feet instead he grabed a pillow and layed on me.
Then later on her grabed my hands.
Awhile after that,i was on him.
As in he was siting down,and my legs were over his.
He out his face on mine.
As if,he wanted me to kiss him.
But i just huged him.
Later after everyone fell alseep,he kissed my on my forehead.
We talked a bit,then he stole my pillow.
So i was forced to get up and sit on the floor and take my pillow back.
He didnt let me have it back,so instead i layed down with him.
He held my hand,kissed are hands.
And kissed me couple more times on my forehead.
Then fell alseep.
Next day,It was like nothing happened.
Im confused,i mean did he just want someone to lay on and hold hands?
Please,dont delete.
Im not sure,what to think.
lol aw that sounds like a fun night ;) but i think he was kind of embarassed and confused..maybe he does have feelings for you but like since your friends with his sister..its sort of weird you know? one time my brothers friend and i madeout and then..like a couple days later we didnt talk so it was kind of weird. but thats a different story hah! umm i would talk to him about it and see what he was feeling and why he was flirting and doing all that stuff with you..obviously he has something for you tho! hope everything works out for the best hun! if you need anything else be sure to let me kno
♥ Kristen
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16/F.
My 2 best friends have been going out since the summer (don't worry, it's a guy/girl....) I'm really happy for them & all, but sometimes it gets annoying, because whenever I do get to spend time with either one of them (since they're constantly with each other), we always end up discussing the person's bf / gf. They are always asking, "So what does he/she say about me??" & I always end up having to spill the juicy, mushy details of all the "oh she/he's so hot" & all that. I feel less like their friend & more like their spy now! It really makes me feel used. So, my question is... is it wrong for me to want them / encourage them to break up (I know that seems kind of selfish, but....) or what am I supposed to do about this? I rate 5's for non-crap answers. ;)
im in this situation alot and it bugs the crap outta me. one of my friends is always talking about her boyfriend and im thinking GOSH SHUT UP i dont want to hear about your boyfriend anymore! lol yeah i know sounds mean but as you know it does get annoying. what you should do is the next time you hang out with either or both of them you have to tell them how your feeling, tell them its okay if they ask you something once in awhile but not everytime. tell them you feel excluded. trust me the best thing you could do for this situation is talk to them it will make things better and if they are true friends they will understand. otherwise you could like roll your eyes everytime they say something haha sounds kinda mean but they might get a clue that your getting annoyed. well hope all goes well hun and if you need anything else let me know!
♥ Kristen
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Ok..well I've been going out with this guy and only a fewp people know, and i didnt want them to know bc when everyone knows then people start to screw up everything and can cause us to break up, so one of my friends asked me if i was going out with this one guy and i said no and named somebody else even tho i was going out with that guy and i lied to him for 3 months and i finally told him and now he pretty much hates me, i've been giving him space, is there anything else i can do?
aww sweetie if your love for each other is strong enough nothing is going to break that bond between you two! first off i would give your boyfirned some space like you did, let him calm down then go over to his house or have him come over to yours and just talk about it one on one. tell him why you said that and just apologize. if he loves you enough he will forgive you. i hope everything works out..let me know how it goes! if you need anything else leave one in the inbox
♥ Kristen
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Hey everyone. Well for New Years me and my one friend want to get drunk. Well, not drunk with alcohol but like maybe a caffeine high...play it safe. What are some drinks that have a lot of caffeine in them or any other drinks that get you really hyper...almost as if you were truley drunk. haha Thanks for the advice!
um well the only thing i can think of is any sort of energy drink or mountain dew lOl. hope i helped
♥ Kristen
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14/female
I'm always jealous of other girls because I I know that their so much prettier than me. I'm even jealous of my friends. One of my friends is like so perfect: shes pretty, all the boys are like in love with her.. her life is just perfect all together. and i am SOO jealous! I reallly want to get over it but i dont know how. I'm constantly comparing myself to other people .. and i think that brings down my self-esteem.
i just want to stop being jealous because it just makes me feel worse about myself..
how do i stop being jealous? and is there anyone else out there who feels the same way ?
aww sweetie! jealously is a tough thing..i know exactly how you feel! i feel that way all the time..but you cant let it get to you! every girl has their flaws, but guess what? nobody pays attention to them..trust me! there is always gonna be someone out there that you think is better than you, but i bet there are girls out there that are jealous of you! you have to bring up your self-confidence. tell yourself that your beautiful and believe it! it may sound cheesy but it will work =) do something nice for yourself go shopping get new clothes do your makeup different or your hair! boys are jerks and sometimes only go for the looks. but a smile can go a thousand miles sweetheart! i bet you are a gorgeous girl, dont get down on yourself! hope i helped and if ya need anything eles make sure to leave it in the inbox
♥ Kristen
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