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jealousy..
14/female
I'm always jealous of other girls because I I know that their so much prettier than me. I'm even jealous of my friends. One of my friends is like so perfect: shes pretty, all the boys are like in love with her.. her life is just perfect all together. and i am SOO jealous! I reallly want to get over it but i dont know how. I'm constantly comparing myself to other people .. and i think that brings down my self-esteem.
i just want to stop being jealous because it just makes me feel worse about myself..
how do i stop being jealous? and is there anyone else out there who feels the same way ?
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The same thing is with me, my friend is really pretty and all the boys like her, and sometimes I am so jealous. But to get over it just go in the mirror and say to yourself I am pretty. Just say that everyday and you will feel better and then try to go out with ppl you think likes you or have a chance with.
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Diamond
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what you need to do is be confident and dont worry about looks.thats the most biggest issue about young girls in america.tons of people in america feel the same way you do,weather there to fat are to skinny are their nose is to big.anyways looks are not important.so just dont think about whats on the outside.
hope i helped you!<3
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whats wrong with you?.lol looks arent everything you know. and just incase you havent heard this enough times i would just like to tell you that real beauty is inside a person. and honestly i dont think you should be jealous of your friends. no ones seen the future...who knows maybe in the future you will be the one who gets all the attension. focus on the important things and try to stay possitive and confident.
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hey, well i even have a friend who is like this. if you put on make-up, it makes you look much prettier. but i am not saying to go gothic or anything. the secret to make-up is to amke it look you're not wearing any. you could also change your wardrobe style. but still act yourself. that is the most important part. i am pretty sure this will work because i have done this before and i have had 2 boyfriends in a month, 7 guys ask me out, and my friend compliment my clothes!!!
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It's normal to feel this way at your age. Most adolescent girls don't have the confidence of older woman because they havent figured out the powerful combination of traits that sets them apart from others. By this I mean personality, body, and attitude.
For example, I may not be the skinniest or in best shape but I try to wear clothes that flatter my body. I color my hair with blond and dark brown streaks that gets me noticed and looks attractive on me. I also try to use humour and have a unique laugh that I know people will remember me by.
Jealousy is born out of anger and our own insecurity, and we can deal with it by being honest with ourselves.
Think of your friends and what they see in YOU, and what keeps them coming back to you. I'm sure it's not what your insecure about.
Also remember that everyone no matter how together or outwordly beautiful they seem has problems and things that make them jealous of others. Even the most beautiful and famous people in the world have insecurities. Take Britney Spears and Jennifer Anniston. They are both beautiful and rich but have personal problems of their own.
I hope I have helped. Remember to try to stay positive and think about what i've said!
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OMGosh! Hunnnie, yes there are many people that feel the same way as you! You should never compare yourself to anyone else!!! Everyone has there own look and personality! If we all looked the same then life would suck! If guys dont like you for ur additude, or personality then they are not worth it! Jealousy is something every girl and boy goes through this and they are all going to need advice. do what you can if guys dont like who u are on the outside then they are not needed! **let me no what heppends**
Signed
Advice101
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When i was younger, i used to feel that way too. Stop comparing yourself wid others. How can other people love you if you can't even love yourself? You have to look for positive traits on yourself and be proud of it. Do you have nice hair? Then let your hair down.
There is one more thing, remember that one shouldnt judge a book by its cover. Be careful to always be kind and maintain a great personality.
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Dear Jealous,
I know how you feel. Actually, you = me. I know EXACTLY how you feel. One of my close friends is SO pretty (and has the body of an 18 year old, though she's only 14). All the guys are ALWAYS paying attention to her and ... ugh! Yeah.
"I'm constantly comparing myself to other people .. and i think that brings down my self-esteem."
It brings down your self-esteem. However, I can't preach to you about it, I'm no better.
I'm VERY close with my boyfriend, and really, he's helped me SO much through this all. Whenever I have doubts about myself, I simply confide in him. He makes me feel better about myself. Although I still have many, many faults, and always will, and I may never be totally satisfied with how I look, he makes me feel much better.
Take good care of yourself. Exercise (healthilly), eat right, take care of your skin, nails, and hair. Try something new and fun that your pretty friends haven't done. I do that all the time.
I regurally dye my hair. Why? I'm no moron. [ok, that's a matter of opinion..] But I'm not a freak with 500 tattoos and 30 abnormal piercings. I do it because it is something that sets me apart. My hair and my eyes are probably my best features [that and my right earlobe ;)]. Because my hair is really one of the only things I truly like about myself, I enhance that with fun colors. I wear a small bit of makeup to enhance my eyes. My eyes are a dark green/gray color (with a hint of blue) and they have the reflections that you see on a lake when the wind's blowing just a little and the sun is shining on the little waves. I use black eyeliner only on half of my eyelid (bottom), starting in the middle and going to the corner. My boyfriend likes it, he was the one who suggested it. He said it brings out my eyes.
Find a super good friend who isn't going to bring you down. A guy is good for this because... well, they're not "pretty." My two best friends in the whole world are guys. I have two female friends, but we're not as close. Guys are a little less mean than girls... though that's an opinion also.
Look, you're beautiful. I KNOW you are. You are a special, unique, beautiful girl who is holding back her full potential because of a friend who is gorgeous and knows it. I'm the same way.
Don't lose heart, you are not alone.
-FunnyCide
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well dear, all i can say is be your self n dont try to be anyone else but you. one day you will be swept off your feet by the perfect person who loves you for you n not for what you look like or who you try to be. yeah ur friends may be prettier so you say, but looks arent everything n shouldnt be based on looks anyways. the best way to get over this is just take it one day at a time n try not to compare yourself to others. im sure theres something very unique about you n not your friends n if so they should be the jealous ones n this situation. hope i helped
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aww! jealousy is a bitch! everyone gets jealous! including me! its so easy to be jealous of the things you want... but cant have! you know what... im sure that there are plenty of things that people are jealous of you for! your gorgeous smile, your sense of humor, your fashion sense... etc... honestly there is going to be someone out there prettier then you, richer then you, or gets more guys then you... but hey~ thats the same for everyone... instead of dwelling on what you don't have... focus on what is good about yourself! HARD... i know! people especailly girls are never going to stop comparing themselves to others.. but focus on your good qualaties, and for your friend... im sure theres bad things about her to. nobodys perfect! so focus on what matters! good luck
xOxO, aL
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Yes I feel the same way!! My BEST FRIEND is really pretty, skinnier then me, and has a boyfriend. Her life is like perfect and she gets everything she wants.
I'm really jelous of her but even though I'm not perfect I still know I have a lot of friends and people love me for who I am!!
Dont be jelous because if you are you always will be. It makes you less confident in yourself. I used to think a lot of people hated me, until I thought of all the people that love me. After I switched schools I made a lot more friends. So all I have to say is think positive about yourself, don't think about all the bad things that are wrong with you. (No offense..if there was any taken) And don't think negative.
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hey i know how you feel..ive felt that way before..its all normal. stop comparing yourself to others..we all have something to offer, ya know? looks are nice, but its not the whole 'package.' Its not enough to have someone like you because of looks..although your friend has a lot of guys liking her..i bet a lot of them just like her for looks. so she probably has some trouble deciphering whether they truly like her or iff its jus because of looks. I dont have the looks ,..but i have other things. to get over jealousy focus on what you do have. like personality..i bet you have a great personality. ive been told im extremely sexy when it comes to personality lol..which is awesome! so just look at what youu have ..and keep in mind the guys will come to you also..you have to be patient.. I get jealous of the really pretty girls..but then i thgink of how it must be to have guys liking them just because of looks and how it must be to have to go through the whole thing where guys like them just for looks.
there will always be someone out there with nice eyes..or a better body..or something..you gota just keep in mind we are all special and unique
-melissa
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Honestly everyone feels jealous at some point of their lives of someone else. =] It's just normal, you have to be. My mom was telling me last night, she was always jealous of her older sister because she got good grades, she was great in sports, & she was popular. But in the end she never had a family and jumped around from marriage to marriage. When my mom had a good steady marriage and stayed with the same man (my dad) for 34 years so far. & She said she had this huge conversation with her sister because my mother was saying how she used to be jealous of her, and my mothers sister told her, she's always been jealous of my mothers firm relationship with my dad. I, of course, have felt this way too! When I went to the Yellowcard concert with my friend, my mom gave me the exact same money that my friend had, so I wouldn't overbuy anything to make her jealous, but @ the concert, she hid an extra 20 dollars & bought herself a t shirt. I know this isn't exactly the same, but I was so jealous because the day after the concert she wore her shirt to school & i couldn't show off that I went to the Yellowcard concert.
+ This year I had to start a new highschool & made the best friends EVER. =] But, sometimes I think they're WAY too good for me, because they're rich, pretty, & EXTREMELY nice. But I don't look at it as a bad thing, of course I have good qualities too, I'm nice, sometimes funny, & always opptimistic. You just have to pick out things you like about yourself when comparing yourself to others. You may have something that they're jealous of you, that they don't have. =] Just think of it like that, I'm sure there's something.
♥ naimee
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AWW!! its ok... i feel the same exact way!!DOnt look at your flaws look at you high point .... other than looks.... I gareentee u have an awsome personality!!! let it out !!! Thats what i did!!! i became the funny girl adn i was excepted with my friends!!! Then i stopped looking at my flaws... look at there flaws!!! there is bownd to be at least 1!!!
Jealousy is something all teenage girls have to deal with and i think that this is the best way to get over it !!!
Hope i helped
Askme247
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aww sweetie! jealously is a tough thing..i know exactly how you feel! i feel that way all the time..but you cant let it get to you! every girl has their flaws, but guess what? nobody pays attention to them..trust me! there is always gonna be someone out there that you think is better than you, but i bet there are girls out there that are jealous of you! you have to bring up your self-confidence. tell yourself that your beautiful and believe it! it may sound cheesy but it will work =) do something nice for yourself go shopping get new clothes do your makeup different or your hair! boys are jerks and sometimes only go for the looks. but a smile can go a thousand miles sweetheart! i bet you are a gorgeous girl, dont get down on yourself! hope i helped and if ya need anything eles make sure to leave it in the inbox
♥ Kristen
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