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Q: 14/female
I'm always jealous of other girls because I I know that their so much prettier than me. I'm even jealous of my friends. One of my friends is like so perfect: shes pretty, all the boys are like in love with her.. her life is just perfect all together. and i am SOO jealous! I reallly want to get over it but i dont know how. I'm constantly comparing myself to other people .. and i think that brings down my self-esteem.
i just want to stop being jealous because it just makes me feel worse about myself..

how do i stop being jealous? and is there anyone else out there who feels the same way ?

When i was younger, i used to feel that way too. Stop comparing yourself wid others. How can other people love you if you can't even love yourself? You have to look for positive traits on yourself and be proud of it. Do you have nice hair? Then let your hair down.
There is one more thing, remember that one shouldnt judge a book by its cover. Be careful to always be kind and maintain a great personality.

Q: I had to work today for the huge boxing day sale at our store. My shift started a 8 in the morning. For the first 6 hours things were going well, but the last hour of my shift was a nightmare. My boss called me to the back and told me to finish pricing some items on the shelf that hadnt been marked down yet. Then she drilled me about why the work hadnt been finished on christmas eve. I told her that it had been extremely busy with customers and that one of the staplers broke down that we were using to tag onto the clothing. She didnt buy it and said " oh so thats your explanation? " She asked me what I did about the stapler and I told her I talked to one of the managers and then she asked for her name and what she told me. It was like she didnt believe me or something. I was really upset because I worked my ass of on Christmas Eve and she thinks I was slacking off. There was no way I could have got all the work done with the volume of customers we had that day that needed to be served. She also blasted me for pricing something wrong by one little digit and said it was a "huge" mistake and could cost the department a lot of money.
Now I'm worried I'm going to get canned. I've only been with the store for up to two months and so far I've been an excellent employee, i've never phoned in sick and have showed up for all my shifts with enthuisam and am a hard worker.
Should I be worried? I have two days off and I'm hoping she'll calm down.
She also said that she wasnt just singling me out and that she was mad at some other girls who workd Xmas eve as well. And do you think she was being a little unfair to me?
thanks

Tsk, im sorry about what happened. Personally, I think she was just PMS-ing or you just caught her in a bad day. There are 2 days rest, and i think she has enough time to calm down. When you go back to work, still apologize to her for what happened.
Good Luck!

Q: my boyfriend dont trust me as much as he should but i dont do anything wrong..i dont talk to other guys and i dont flirt...i just go to school do my work and nothing else..but every time i get home and call him we argue about what happened in school..can someone please help me and tell me what i can do to prove to him he can trust me or help him trust me?????

First of all, find out about the reasons for your arguments. if they are just too simple, tell him, there is nothing to worry about. If you really did something bad, apologize. But then, you should also ask him because he might have a problem with something. Maybe, you can work it out and everything will be fine.

Q: Ok there is this girl and she always stares at me and it really bothers me. i no she doesnt like me and i really dont care its not like i like her. so in gym when we were playin a game she took my assignment book and rote your ugly in it and ripped a lot of pages. should i tell on her? or would it just provoke her more?

You can talk to her and ask her what's wrong. It's possible that she has a problem with you, then try to fix it. Do what you can do. You can befriend the girl to understand more about her. You can also talk to her friends about the incident.

Q: so recently there was this guy on my bus and he is know gone for a couple of months for harrassing me and my friends. well he has a twin brother and sister. well his brother has a criminal back ground (such as convicted of attempted murder and that stuff) confirmed by the police and his mother. i was at school the other day waiting for the bus afterschool and i was hanging out with some friends and it looked as if his brother was walking straight towards me and i kinda freaked out a little bit and then like he turned a little and was right behind my friend i was talking to and played a gun shooting noise on his cell phone and looked straight at me. He looked me straight in the eyes and my friends were all like ummm... okay? and i was terrified. As soon as he turned the corner i got up and ran to the nearest adult and just stood there. I know i should of went to our school officer but i wasn't thinking clearly. That monday when we got back to school i went to our school officer about it and she did nothing. I mean wasn't she supposed to do something about it? What can I do?

First, either talk to higher authority or talk to the guy's mom. She'll know what to do.

Q: Ok...
there is this guy that i like. and i he doesn't know that i like him at all. and i hunt with him. and were just friends. and i love him very much. how should i drop hints to him that i like him a lot. or what should i do????

First thing you gotta do, tell him how you feel. You may never know, maybe he likes you too. And i may guarantee you will feel better because you are not hiding anymore. If he starts acting weird, or is trying to avoid you, act as if you don't notice it and still be yourself, then, you can ask him what is wrong.
You can drop hints too. Then, he will be left feeling confused and asking himself if you like him. You can greet him everyday. Talk to him most of the time about stuff. Help him with homework, or even give him advice.

Q: I always blush whenever I'm talking to someone.. even if i'm not embarassed at all. Like I could even just be talking to a friend, or my mom, and I could start blushing for no reason. How do I stop this?

Blushing is natural. You can't stop it. Just be yourself and act as if you don't notice anything. If someone points it out, tell him / her "Yes, I know.." and then laugh..!

Q: I was kind of with this guy for about 8 monthes. We broke up about 2 motnhes ago because he was cheating on me. He has not tried to contact me in any way, and neither have I. I still think about him almost every day and miss him, although I'm pretty sure he has a new girlfriend. Because it's the new year coming up, I want this year to start off well and I kind of want to get closure with him, or at least try to be friends (he doesn't go to my school so I never see him)
A) Do you think this is a good idea?
B) if so, how should I initiate a conversation?

Please help me, I am so confused
thanks!

Hey, i know it's really hard after a relationship. You'll miss a guy and stuff...
But trust me, you will stop missing him. You have to get busy in other stuff and such.
First thing you gotta do, Get busy in other things. Spend more time with your friends or more time alone. Join clubs. Get a hobby. Start a project. Learn new stuff. Do everything to be busy, and then you'll stop missing him. You will get him out of your mind. If you're comfortable being alone, it will be easier for you to start talking to him.
If you want, you can talk to him and start a conversation. talk about music, friends, school...
Be close friends before you can get "intimate" again.

Q: Our school always does Culture fest..it's a thing that the students do in the evening at our school..it's all about culture..students make food and people come and try it all out..pretty cool..but we need a quote/saying for it. It doesn't have to ryme or anything.
thanks a bunch!

Here are some I have gathered:

Culture is the widening of the mind and the spirit.

Culture is roughly anything we do and the monkeys don't.

Every view of the world that becomes extinct, every culture that disappears, diminishes a possibility of life.

Why don't you try searching the internet for more?

Q: My guy friend and I are both 17 and we've known each other for about 11 years now. He a good friend and everything but sometimes he says things too me that really hurt my feelings.

The other day he was at my house and we got bored and decided to go to star bucks. Well I had just gotten out of the shower so I just had my hair up in a bun and I had very little make-up on. As we were leaving he turned to me and said, "You're going out like THAT?" So I was like, "Yeah, why?" Then he told me that he thought I could have atleast tried to make and effort to look good. How mean is that?

He also feels the need to tell me when I need to start working out again, when my hair needs to be re done, he even tells me that I "look like shit" when I'm sick.

It's great that he feels that comfortable around me and all, but a lot of stuff he says is really mean and makes me feel like crap.

What am I supposed to do?

Hey, you know that only means two things. First, he's really concerned about how you look. Second, he really doesn't like the way you look however you look. Well, whenever he tells stuff like that, look in the mirror, fix yourself and also tell him that it is really rude the way he says it. Tell him you appreciate his sincerity, but sometimes it can seem pretty rude. Try not to get in an argument. You don't want your friendship to go tumbling down because of a simple thing like that.
If you are shy enough to confront him, ask someone to talk to him for you, like a common friend, his sibling, a teacher or a parent.