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My best guy friend
My guy friend and I are both 17 and we've known each other for about 11 years now. He a good friend and everything but sometimes he says things too me that really hurt my feelings.
The other day he was at my house and we got bored and decided to go to star bucks. Well I had just gotten out of the shower so I just had my hair up in a bun and I had very little make-up on. As we were leaving he turned to me and said, "You're going out like THAT?" So I was like, "Yeah, why?" Then he told me that he thought I could have atleast tried to make and effort to look good. How mean is that?
He also feels the need to tell me when I need to start working out again, when my hair needs to be re done, he even tells me that I "look like shit" when I'm sick.
It's great that he feels that comfortable around me and all, but a lot of stuff he says is really mean and makes me feel like crap.
What am I supposed to do?
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well if you say yall are bestfriends you should be able to tell him how you feel when he talks down to you like that n that it hurts your feelings when he says things like that. maybe hes not aware of him doing this but he still shouldnt do it. no one likes being hurt like that by a friend b/c its upsetting. so i would tell him how you feel or if still says these things say things back to him that wont make him feel good n maybe he will realize how it feels to be talked down too
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Hey, you know that only means two things. First, he's really concerned about how you look. Second, he really doesn't like the way you look however you look. Well, whenever he tells stuff like that, look in the mirror, fix yourself and also tell him that it is really rude the way he says it. Tell him you appreciate his sincerity, but sometimes it can seem pretty rude. Try not to get in an argument. You don't want your friendship to go tumbling down because of a simple thing like that.
If you are shy enough to confront him, ask someone to talk to him for you, like a common friend, his sibling, a teacher or a parent.
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What are you supposed to do?
Tell him those things make you feel like crap...
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I've had friends who have been like that towards me, and I've been like that towards my friends. You guys have been friends for so long that he's so comphortable with you saying things like that he doesn't suspect it to hurt you because he's just use to it and says it without thinking too much into it. There's different ways I've experianced it being handled. Holding it in and letting it all burst out at once which can become emotional, ignoring it completely and have it lead to nothing except feeling like crap, or actually sitting him down and talking to him and be like I love you, and you're my best friend but I just wanted to let you know there's some tension and it's bothering me so I just want to talk about it so it can be set straigt. You do that you'll be even closer than before. Trust me.
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Hey hun, i have fiends like that too and it gets on my nurve. It's like if you don't have anything nice to say dont say it at all. You can tell him to just shut up and stop being so rude. And if he has a problem being seen with you because of the way you look than he should get a life.
xO. jessica
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I think that you should tell him how it makes you fell cuz that is pretty mean to say that to a really good friend. If he doesnt relize it soon he is just plain stupid no offense
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Woah. What a jackass. Confront him. Tell him it really hurts you. He might be joking, but that's just a little bit toooo far. Tell him how he makes you feel and maybe it'll hit him how mean he was. He'll realize it soon.
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You're supposed to tell him how you feel about him telling you how he feels about you.
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