queen_of_beauty94's advice column

Being Shy is a problem. A BIG problem to me atleast. I havent always been like this. I used to be in the "popular" croud and do everything they would. When highschool hit i am no longer friends with any of them. I can't even go up to any of them and say a word. Its killing me. Its making me lack in friends and i miss all of them.

Help me please! What can i do to be back with them?
What can i do to just talk to anyone!

When Im with my boyfriend, Im all open with him till im around his friends. Then I just sit there. They think i dont like them and thats not it. Im just WAYY TOO SHYY!

i comment well to if you help me!

what you need to do is just talk!talk to strangers!like if you see a girl with a cute top tell her that her top is cute.then you could get use to not being shy.are you could practice speaking.all you need to do is be your self.tell hilarious jokes to everybody.all you need to do is dont think about being shy.go hang out with your old friends!tell them do you want to go to the mall sometime are hang out?
hope i helped!

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i need some cute love quotes for my portfolio for school. it's a project on what we love most about life..and of course...i chose love..but the thing is i cannot find any cute love quotes..please help..
i rate 5's for good quotes or sites to the quotes

thanks =]

"You don't love a woman because she is beautiful, but she is beautiful because you love her."

"If you love somebody, set them free. If they return, they were always yours. If they don't, they never were."

"A lawful kiss is never worth a stolen one."

"I married the first man I ever kissed. When I tell this to my children, they just about throw up."

"Love builds bridges where there are none."

"Friendship often ends in love; but love in friendship - never."

"The best proof of love is trust."

"Love takes off masks that we fear we cannot live without and know we cannot live within."

"We are all born for love. It is the principle of existence, and its only end."

"A kiss can be a comma, a question mark or an exclamation point. That's basic spelling that every woman ought to know."

"Love can sometimes be magic. But magic can sometimes...just be an illusion."

"There's always room for love; You just have to move a few things around."

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I have a friend that lives in my appartment complex. She's always phoning me and asks if she can borrow one of my DVD's. I always say yes because I own lots and she's pretty good about returning.
Well I just got two movies from my dad, Willy Wonka and The Fog. She asked me already if she could borrow them and I told as soon as I finished watching them.
She just phoned me about a half hour ago and asked if she could borrow one of my movies. I told her sure. When she came over I told her she could watch anything except for those two movies that I hadnt watched yet. Then she got mad and said" well then I guess I won't be borrowing anything because those are the ones I wanted to watch". Then she left!!
I felt angry, like she's just using me to watch my movies. If she was a true friend wouldnt she have at least stayed for a visit to chat?
Am I overreacting or was that down right rude?

you were not overreacting are rude.she is the one who is just being a bitch....lol.srry.i really think you should NOT be her friend if shes going to use you for all kinds of things!
your always going to have fake friends in life,but it is very rare to find that one great true friend:)my advie to you is stay away from her and just ignore her.
&hearts:

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i heard somewhere that when you have your period you could lose weight..is that true?? cus that'd be pretty awesome haha =)

thanks!!

that is like so NOT true!

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I am 17 and I was bulimic for about four or five months and went from five-foot-six-and-a-half inches at 115 pounds to 95 pounds. I have not told anyone, and will not, so please don't ask me to, but I am back up to 110 - 112 pounds and pretty much graze throughout the day so I don't throw up. I mostly snack on white bread, fruit, potatoes, and cereal in large portions, but want to stop and eat a healthy, more balanced diet. The problem is, I am not sure what a healthy weight should be. Charts say I am too skinny, but I don't believe it because I know girls in the media are thinner than me and they seem fine. I want to be as small a weight as possible without being unhealthy. I skipped my period Oct. - Dec., but did get it in January. I have not lost any weight since then though, and I should have gotten my period about a week ago but didn't. I don't understand, it is so confusing, can you help me?

For most women, a healthy weight is one that allows regular menstruation, and is maintainable and sustainable when taking in a healthy, balanced eating plan. If the only way to attain a certain weight is by severely restricting your eating, that weight is not the healthiest, most natural weight for your body.

As far as a healthy weight for you is concerned, it's impossible to determine this based on your letter alone. Your diet is lacking many, many important nutrients. You don't seem to be getting calcium, vitamins D, K, B-6, and B-12, and may be getting little zinc, magnesium, and possibly iron. Depending on the cereal you are eating, you are getting little to no essential fatty acids. It also appears that you aren't taking in enough foods to provide your body with adequate complete protein. Some vitamin and mineral deficiencies take time to develop, but you are starting to see the effects of inadequate nutrition by the lack of your period. Many young women deny or severely limit their need for dietary fat; however, our bodies must have some fat to absorb vitamins A, D, E and K, assimilate calcium into our bones, and manufacture sex hormones such as estrogen. Women need estrogen to keep their bones strong and get their period. The amenorrhea is a clue that your body isn't making sufficient estrogen. If this continues, it can put your bones at risk for developing osteoporosis. You don't have to be an "old lady" for this to happen — it is seen in women in their twenties who have an eating disorder.

It was courageous of you to write in about your situation. It sounds as though you are still troubled, however, even though the purging has stopped. Not getting your period is a huge red flag that something is not right with your body. Amenorrhea (loss of periods) can happen if your weight is very low, especially if your body fat is too low, or if your diet is too low in fat. There can be other contributing factors, such as excessive exercise (which you didn't mention), so the low body fat/dietary fat could be the more likely possibilities in your case.

It's essential that you expand the variety in your diet; otherwise, you will experience negative physical results from a lack of nutrients. Eating from all food groups everyday is required to keep us healthy! This may sound like a daunting process, but if you break it down to small, manageable goals, even small bites, you could have a better chance for success. Try adding one new food at a time to your daily regimen. You can perhaps start with a good source of protein: fish, poultry, meat, or eggs. Once you are able to do this, you can add milk or yogurt to your cereal. It will help to satisfy your hunger, and provide much needed calcium in your eating plan. It may also help you to keep the amount of cereal you eat within a reasonable amount, instead of filling up on it at the expense of other nutritious foods. Next, you may want to add vegetables, one at a time. If you feel more comfortable snacking during the day instead of having full meals, that's fine. You can keep a few baby carrots, for example, in a small plastic bag in your backpack for easy access. In order to make room for a wider variety of foods, you may find the need to cut back on the amount of some of the foods you are currently eating. It would probably be a big help to have the guidance of a registered dietitian, doctor, or nurse knowledgeable in nutrition to help guide you.

Although you don't want to tell anyone about your situation, it really is the first step in dealing with your issues. Ignoring the situation doesn't make it go away. You stated that you want to be as small as possible. It would be to your benefit to discuss your thoughts and feelings about your body with a trusted adult. Perhaps there is a parent, religious leader, guidance counselor, teacher, doctor, nurse, or other relative that you could talk with and trust who can help put your body image in perspective. Addressing self-esteem is important in dealing with eating problems. If you see your worth only in terms of a low body weight, you aren't being fair to yourself — you are not recognizing all the positive attributes you possess. You may understand this on a logical level, but not on a feeling or emotional level. But it's great if you can take the risk.

Many celebrities — models, movie stars, and others — are incredibly thin and have recently told their own stories of the drastic measures they've taken to achieve an unrealistically low weight. Sometimes they smoke heavily, use drugs, and starve themselves to achieve a certain look. Make-up artists and film retouching hide the negative effects of these harmful behaviors. Comparing yourself to them doesn't make sense and isn't healthy.

Were you ever under a doctor's care? You can start with the school nurse or guidance counselor to get a check-up to see if you are okay. You have taken an important first step by describing what's going on here. As much as you are not interested, and as difficult as it can be, the next step is to tell someone in your life (if it's hard to talk, you can show them this letter to start).

Good luck

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what is a good hair dye that is cheap and last up about 5 to6 weeks...thanx

garnier

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hey i just got a guitar for chirstmas. i want to learn how to play. does anybody know of any good books or tapes or cds or anything i can buy to use to get better on my own? i can already read music. thanks

http://www.guitarforbeginners.com/

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Can somebody please explain the difference of being a democrat, and republican?
And say you vote for bush that make you a democrat ot republican. If you voted for Kerry you'd be? i'd love to know this, and please explain this an easy way, im only 13 and pretty, slow, lol.

dem·o·crat
An advocate of democracy.
Democrat A member of the Democratic Party.

re·pub·li·can
Of, relating to, or characteristic of a republic.
Favoring a republic as the best form of government.
Republican Of, relating to, characteristic of, or belonging to the Republican Party of the United States

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I've got some fat on my stomach and inner thighs. What are some specific exercises that I can do to get rid of the fat? Thanks! I rate high!

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what are some things that i could do to flatten my lower stomach?

Lying Leg Raises
Firstly ensure that your legs are slightly bent throughout this exercise.
• Lie on your back with your hands, palms down under your buttocks.
• Raise your legs about 12 inches off the floor and hold them there.
• Make sure the base of your spine is pressed against the floor (this will ensure that your back has the correct support).
• Now trying to use just your lower abs, tilt your pelvis and raise your legs a further 6 inches.
• Hold for a few seconds then return to your original position.
• Keep going with this exercise until you can feel it in your abs.

Reverse Crunch
• Lying on your back on the floor, hold onto a table leg to help keep your torso against the floor throughout the exercise.
• Keep the knees slightly bent.
• Pull your pelvis and legs up slowly so that your knees are above your chest.
• Slowly return to beginning position.

Cross-Knee Crunches
The Cross-Knee Crunch is a slight variation on the regular crunch (which you can find out about along with the sit-up at Sit Ups and Crunches).
• Like ab crunches, you start by lying on the floor with your knees bent.
• Instead of crunching forwards and backwards you should crunch diagonally so that you try to move each shoulder toward the opposite hip, moving shoulders alternately.
• At the top position, one shoulder and one hip should be off the ground.
• Ensure every crunch is done slowly to get the maximum benefit.

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i`m shy when it comes to guys and i hate to watch other girls flirting with the guy i like .. how do i overcome that kind of thing?

just be yourself and tell a guy whats up?
guys like it for some strange reason when a chick says whats up to him.

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Ok. I recently bought my first pair of Converse. They are Chuck Taylor Premiere All Star, Low, and I was wondering if I am supposed to wear socks with them. If it helps, I'm a girl.

ofcourse

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does anybody know where to get a cute trucker hat for girls real cheap anywhere?

kthx

-cami

these hats are adorable

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i need some make up tips. 13/f and i love makeup but want some other ways to put it on but not look like i tried to hard because i am going to where it to school every day. If this helps * 13/f light brown hair brown eyes long oval face big nose perfect shaped eyebrown thin upper lip lower lip normal size great attitude i want to shine* and be noticed *much love i rate!!!
p.s. websited helpful!!!!*****

http://make-up.lifetips.com/

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i need to know what is the best kind of make up..
i'm alleric to cover girl

I honestly think MAC is one of the #1 best make-up in the world.

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Does anyone know of an eyeliner that is waterproof and wont smudge?

-Thanks.

Maybelline Great Wear Waterproof Eyeliner
I applied it underneath my bottom eyelashes and on the crease of my lid.The eyeliner glided on beautifully. It didn't drag the skin and wasn't so creamy that it smudged everywhere. Very good texture and gave a precise finish, which you can blend if you want for a smoky look, or leave it as it is for a defined bright-eyed look. It looked good and looked very natural. I've fallen into the trap of buying harsh black eyeliners because I have very dark eyes and eyelashes anyway, but brown looks more natural and less 'made-up', even if your eyelashes are black.

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13/m whats some good screen names for aim thanks

love_trasher101

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Hey guys, I wanted to know what kind of hair products make your hair sleek and shiny, won't weigh it down and conceals dead ends? Thanks. I'm open to all opinions =)

Herbal Essences Rainforest Flowers works very very very good.
it leaves your hair smeeling and feeling wonderful.

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