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is she just using me?
I have a friend that lives in my appartment complex. She's always phoning me and asks if she can borrow one of my DVD's. I always say yes because I own lots and she's pretty good about returning.
Well I just got two movies from my dad, Willy Wonka and The Fog. She asked me already if she could borrow them and I told as soon as I finished watching them.
She just phoned me about a half hour ago and asked if she could borrow one of my movies. I told her sure. When she came over I told her she could watch anything except for those two movies that I hadnt watched yet. Then she got mad and said" well then I guess I won't be borrowing anything because those are the ones I wanted to watch". Then she left!!
I felt angry, like she's just using me to watch my movies. If she was a true friend wouldnt she have at least stayed for a visit to chat?
Am I overreacting or was that down right rude?
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I think it is that time of the month. She may be in a difficult spot right now. Just talk to her, if she is this great, and wonderful person you say, she will listen.
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That was down right rude she is a fake friend. Because if she was a true friend she would waited for you to finish with the movies. BUt if you like her that much you should try watching them with her like friend should be friendly. Or just stop talking to her chances are shes going to find someone else or call you up tommorow and ask you the same question besides you dont want a friend who is going to use you for the things youn got because a true friend is going to stick by you no matter what. wether you have or dont have. and she is just using you for what you have. and you want a friend who is going to stick by you through thick or thin. best of luck. but if this continues dont allow her to be your friend. because you could just end up getting hurt because as soon as you stop or were to stop getting dvds shell stop being your friend and if you let her continue shell ask for more and more and then shell continue to get madder and madder when you dont give her what she wants. Also who knows she could be talking about you and just pretending. my advice is to set some bounderies (limits) and if she does go along cut her loose just keep the peace with a friendly hi and bye. good luck
-attractive
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Dear Loaner,
That was rude. As a friend, does she ever hang out with you outside of your apartment complex with other friends? Does she ever call to chat? If not, then there is a good chance that she is using you. If she returns your things in good enough time, that is friend material. Keep that in mind. You should call her back over to your place and work out your differences. Tell her why you wouldn't loan her those two movies. Those are your movies and its your right to watch them before anyone else. Tell her how you feel about your friendship and see what her response is. Good luck and please note that Willy Wonka wasn't the greatest, I prefer the classic. Loan that one to her. Ha! Really, good luck with that.
♥ Miss Moo
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that was definitely rude. she had no right to do that to you when you are always being nice and lending her your movies. if she really wanted to watch it and you hadn't watched it yet, she could spend a few dollars at a local blockbuster.
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you were not overreacting are rude.she is the one who is just being a bitch....lol.srry.i really think you should NOT be her friend if shes going to use you for all kinds of things!
your always going to have fake friends in life,but it is very rare to find that one great true friend:)my advie to you is stay away from her and just ignore her.
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I don't see how you were out of line, at all. I would have been outrageously pissed. :D
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What did you do to overreact? Because you felt angry about someone being completely unreasonable? It's in my opinon that people acting this way definitely calls for a little anger. As to an explanation, clearly there was a gap in communication somewhere. She must not have heard you say she couldn't borrow those movies, or for some reason assumed it would be okay.
I suppose she is using you, but that sounds harsh. She's not using you for money or attention/feelings or anything, it's just to borrow dvds. Do you two talk about anything besides dvds and borrowing them? If not, then I wouldn't say she's using you in a sense that she's taking advantage of your friendship for her own gain. In that case, I wouldn't even say you had a friendship to use. You're just being neighborly and she's biting your head off for it.
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I think that was rude. Maybe you can ask her to watch a movie with you. Tell her that you havent seen those, and you were about to watch them and maybe she would like to stay. I think she might want something more from borrowing ? or maybe she is PMSing...idk..you have to talk to her...
GoodLuck
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ha.. she is rude.. i have a friend like that... but she just acts like that when she is PMSing haaah
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