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What comes first? I am Sarah. I have been around since 4.14.88, meaning I am an Aries. Brandon and I have been together since 7.12.04 and got engaged 12.15.04. We live in a beautiful house in Tehachapi, Ca with our three cats; Zoe, Mallie, and Sophie. I somehow graduated class of 2005 with a 3.9 GPA. I plan to become a cosmetologist and plan on attending school next fall in Paso Robles, Ca. I would like to open a salon and a clothing boutique. I sound so creative and put together.
Updates:
-We are getting married May 24th!
- I am pregnant. The baby is due December 18th!
♥ Sarah

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hey im 15/f. I was wondering if there is anything to help with like energy boost. I know that there are energy drinks but those dont really work for me. See im always like falling asleep during school or whatever im doing. I'm always tired i have no energy and i just dont want to do anything. I dont eat breakfast because i never really have time. I get enough sleep. I'm just always tired like i can sleep an entire day. But still be tired. And i have no motivation to do anything. Even sometimes when i eat breakfast it doesn't help. Is there anything i can do to help me increase my energy level and not be so tired? Plezz help thanks.

~ Ashley ~

Dear Sleepy,
Make sure you are sleeping up to 8 hours and going to bed around the same time each night. Not following a schedule can mess you up, also if you sleep more than 8 hours each night, you may wake up groggy the next morning due to too much sleep. When you have slept more than 8 hours your body is used to sleeping so you wake up, yet your body isn't ready to, in which could cause sleepiness. I wouldn't recommend drinking so many energy drinks. Its not good for you and could cause you to stay up later than usual yet be tired the next day. You also must eat 3 meals a day, breakfast is most important because it prepares you for the rest of the day. Im not trying to be a health freak here but ever since I found out I was pregnant, I got right on top of these subjects and knocked them out. They are all very important. I hope I helped. Good luck!
♥ Miss Moo

Another thing, if none of this helps, you should visit your family doctor. You may have mono in which causes those symptoms.

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Okay here it is. Im the popular girl in school, and alot of guys think im hot. Oh yah,and please dont answer this if you are just going to say im a bitch or something.Yes,i am hot and pretty and im pretty much use to all the boys wanting me. But there is this girl in my school,a wannabe me. She got the exact same haircut as mine the other day!Can you say:BITCH!!! i know! Anyway,theres this HOTT guy and he barley knows her but he thinks she is hot.GRRR. This is a major problem if you are me! I dont share! Does any one know what i can do to you know well...get him away from her?Im so mad! Shes ugly but im not going to lie,has a nice body.I know people say you dont like someone because of there looks but,i mean come on! One thing i dont do is lie,and beleive me im not lieing SHES UGLY. Sad to day,for her anyway,a few people think so too. Im going to get this guy no matter how much it takes no matter how much clevage because people!, I had a dream that one day ugly people and pretty people(*Me*) do not mix! And i need your help. Maybe you think im concieded so what,if you are too you will probably be able to help! Thanks!I Rate!!!HIGH! ANSWER FAST! Time is wasting :/

Dear Clueless,
Do me a huge favor and reread everything you just wrote. Now, take a look at your life in 5 years and imagine how much this will all matter. Your attitude is disgusting. I was rude to people in high school but I had issues. Normal people don't think the way that you do. You need to take a good look at yourself because when school is over, all those people that you made fun of will go on with there lives and forget about you and you my friend, you will still be the same. Nobody wants to be the bitch, ok? Do you want this guy to like you? Change your attitude and priorities. Guys do not want to deal with someone that will give them hell 24/7. About the haircut, did you ever look at it like maybe this girl likes how your hair looked so she went and did the same thing? Another thing, do you think your the only person on earth with that hair cut? Once you made your way around the entire world, then get back to me. Otherwise, please change your attitude towards things. Good luck!
♥ Miss Moo

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I have a friend that lives in my appartment complex. She's always phoning me and asks if she can borrow one of my DVD's. I always say yes because I own lots and she's pretty good about returning.
Well I just got two movies from my dad, Willy Wonka and The Fog. She asked me already if she could borrow them and I told as soon as I finished watching them.
She just phoned me about a half hour ago and asked if she could borrow one of my movies. I told her sure. When she came over I told her she could watch anything except for those two movies that I hadnt watched yet. Then she got mad and said" well then I guess I won't be borrowing anything because those are the ones I wanted to watch". Then she left!!
I felt angry, like she's just using me to watch my movies. If she was a true friend wouldnt she have at least stayed for a visit to chat?
Am I overreacting or was that down right rude?

Dear Loaner,
That was rude. As a friend, does she ever hang out with you outside of your apartment complex with other friends? Does she ever call to chat? If not, then there is a good chance that she is using you. If she returns your things in good enough time, that is friend material. Keep that in mind. You should call her back over to your place and work out your differences. Tell her why you wouldn't loan her those two movies. Those are your movies and its your right to watch them before anyone else. Tell her how you feel about your friendship and see what her response is. Good luck and please note that Willy Wonka wasn't the greatest, I prefer the classic. Loan that one to her. Ha! Really, good luck with that.
♥ Miss Moo

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Im very mad at my bf... what can i do to relieve this anger??

Dear Angry,
What are you angry about? Talk to your boyfriend about it. Understand what made you angry and try to resolve the problem with him. If that doesn't help, yelling at him might work. Good luck!
♥ Miss Moo

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hi lately i have been so stressed. I'll start with my boyfriend. Ok well i never see him maybe every 2 weeks i see him if im lucky twice. He flirts with other girls and admitts it to me. Hes constantly wanting to do sexual stuff. Then there is my friend who im trying to keep her away from her ex boyfriend beacsue hes a bad influence. and i get headaches alot. im soo stressed and i dont know how to get rid of all this. its really hard please help and soon!
--jess

Dear Stressed,
I have the same problem. Not only do I worry about my problems; but I worry about everyone elses. You need to stop and just worry about yourself. Your friend can take care of herself. If she wants to get rid of her bad influence boyfriend, then she will. You cannot make her. She has to deal with her own issues. Doing all this will cut your stress in half. Now, your problems. Lets see, your boyfriend flirts and admits it, and constantly wants to do sexual acts with you. Lets put two and two together. Your boyfriend is not a winner. I recommend you losing this dud and finding a guy that respects you and how you feel. You can do a lot better, girl. Good luck and please stop stressing. Have fun!
♥ Miss Moo

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A friend of mine offered to teach me how to play the guitar. He knows I don't have much money and because me and my friends are always helping him out with his business, he told me that he would teach me for free. At first he was really nice and was patient. But when I had my third lesson he YELLED at me and said "YOURE NOT LISTENING TO ME". This was because I told him I wanted to look at my quitar book to see how to play a cord instead of having him move my fingers with his. (this has made me uncomfortable). He is married and I think sometimes he tries to come on to me. He also can get really inpatient with me when I can't play cords right.
I really want to learn to play the quitar but he just makes me so nervous and I'm almost a little afraid of him. I'm only staying with him because of the money issue, and also it would hurt a lot of my friends if I quit because they say what a nice guy he is to teach me for free.
What should I do?

Dear Uncomfortable,
Ok. The main thing here is that you are uncomfortable and that is what is important. Forget what your friends think about this person, they are not in your situation and being that they are your friends, they should understand. I recommend stopping your lessons. I know that you have money difficulties, a lot of people do; but it's not worth the chance at getting hurt over. You might want to confide in an adult, maybe a parent or teacher? Have someone come to your lessons with you. If your teacher is not comfortable with that, that is a sure sign that something is up. Please do not go to your lessons alone, or quit and figure something else out. Your safety is so important. Good luck and let me know!
♥ Miss Moo

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Ok, this question is what i'd probally call an original.

its actually quite simple

a while back i was dating this black kid ( and i saw black bc this was a main problem )and he was freidns with my brother, and so he was over my house often, and my mother knew him

we started going out, things progressed, and my mother found out, she said things like he just wanted to get in my pants, hes a street kid, he doesnt' get good grades, and alot more things, but even though my motehr said she wasn't racist i felt she was ( she also said that my rep could get ruined )

i didn't really care what people thought bc i loved him, but eventually he moved away, and i had a rough time

main point : my mother ( finally ) bought me thongs in the summer 05 =]

i likeed thmm alot and everything, but my mother ''heard stores'' about me and him, and then one day she came in my room and took them..

at first i was confused, and i still am
she NEVER told me why she took them.which made me extremley pissed

its been MONTHs now, and i even asked for them back probally 2 months ago..and she said no!

it really pisses me off, its hard to explain

do you think theres a way to get my mother to give them back? its hard to konw bc i don't know why she took them
anything would be apprecited though

thanks in advance

Dear Mom Confused,
I get the feeling that your Mom took your panties away because she might think that thongs are a sexual choice of underwear. I dont know what you and your ex did; but I am guessing that it is sexual? Your Mom is not ready to hear that you are a sexual person or that you have grown up. Taking the thongs away probably made her feel in control and taking them away from you meant something to her, obviously. She might think that if she can take your thongs away then she can rid you of a sexual act. That is what I am guessing. You might want to have a personal talk with your Mom, depending how close the two of you are and tell her how you feel. You should also let her in on some things that are going on with you in your life. Expect her to have questions, if your not comfortable explaining, then tell her; but you might want to let her know some things. It might make her feel better to know that she is still apart of your life. Good luck and I hope you get your underwear back.
♥ Miss Moo

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i heard somewhere that when you have your period you could lose weight..is that true?? cus that'd be pretty awesome haha =)

thanks!!

Dear Period,
I have never heard of losing wait during that special time of the month. Some girls get bloated, in which others might mistake for weight gain? Eating chocolate and food that contains salt is a period craving and consuming too much might cause a bit of weight. If it were true that you lost weight during your period, I think more women would welcome that time of the month. Hope I helped.
♥ Miss Moo

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For some reason when a boy looks into my eyes when they talk to me I get SO scared and look away! I don't know why, but it makes me feel weird and awkward!!! When my family went out to lunch with my crushes family, i sat next to him and when he talked to me he looked me in the eyes. My face got hot and I blushed and I looked away. IS this normal and how can I fix it?!

Dear Scared Eyes,
That is so normal. That happens when you feel something for someone you like or someone that you are too shy to be around. That happens to a lot of us. Trust me. When my fiance and I first got together, It was hard for me to look him straight in the eyes. Over time, with me getting to know him and he getting to know me, I grew more comfortable around him. Of course now it's no problem. Over time, it will go away. Just get to know the guy and you will be looking into his eyes in no time. Good luck!
♥ Miss Moo

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Ok so i havw this freind. and we always say that we are going out... its a joke but sometimes we will touch e/o and stuff. my other freinds do the same. so, today she touched me like kinda near my vagina area and i think i got horny and all excited. does this mean i'm a lezbian? does it mean we are lezbians? please answer.. i'll rate fives!

Dear Am I?,
I would guess not; but you should be asking yourself that question. You are young, I am sure and just experimenting. It happens. When someone touches you in a personal way, your going to get excited unless you really dislike the person. Your curious so don't assume your something that your not unless you know for sure that you are. That causes too much confusion. Just have fun. Happy holidays!
♥ Miss Moo

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So recently I've been waking up and finding that on my legs/arms, random bruises are appearing on my body. I'm at the point that I cheak my arms and legs before I go to bed & think back to if I hit anything. Im wondering if this could be a sign for anything that I should be worried about medically, or maybe I'm just paranoid? Thanks & I'll rate.

Dear Bruised,
You need to make an appointment with a Doctor. If you have found that you are not waking up in the middle of the night and sleepwalking or hitting things in your sleep, you might have something wrong with you medically. Be safe and get it checked out. Good luck. Happy holidays.
♥ Miss Moo

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Ohk i notcie this big time do you?

When people say they are tottaly in love with boyfriend/girlfriend. for exmaple on myspace in the about me section people say yes im in love with my wonderful boyfirned/girlfriend or they have tons of pictures and him/her the first one on your top eight. But as soon they break up all words and pictures gone .. like he/she fell off the face of the earth.

Is thatplaying around with the words love in anyway? like i still have my ex boyfriends picture up on my myspace and we broke up 7months ago.

thanks

Dear Love Confused,
Most people think that they are in love, even when they or not or they could even be in love. People post pictures of themselves and of the people they potentially love because they want everyone in the world to see how happy they are. When you break up with that person, that doesn't mean that they never loved them because they dropped their pictures; it's just that they don't want to deal with looking at that person on a day to day basis. Love hurts sometimes, expecially when it ends. You and your ex are friends, right? I thought so. It might not be that exact situation for everyone else. Get my drift. Happy holidays.
♥ Miss Moo

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All of my friends and family tell me that I am beautiful, and so pretty. But when I look in the mirror, I am like.."eww." I can't take it anymore, I feel disgusted at myself. When I first meet people, they go, "wow you are beautiful!" I don't know if they are telling the truth or not. I have had people come up to me and ask if I model. But when I look in the mirror, I just don't see it. I have a boyfriend, he is wonderful, but he never tells me that I am beautiful. I went to a dance with him and he calls me up after and says, "hey, sorry I forgot to say you looked really nice tonight." and well he never said I look pretty or anything. I just don't know what to do. Is there any way to gain confidence on your looks? I am very outgoing..but sometimes I get so self conscious that I feel like I just want to go home and stay in the house. I am pretty popular at my school so I know it isn't a social disorder thing, because I have no problem with making friends. I just am so self conscious. Does anybody know of a way to stop being this way?
-14/F

Dear Beautiful,
You have to feel beautiful within yourself to make you beautiful. The most beautiful girls can have bad self-esteem issues and not believe in their true beauty and could look ugly to others because of their low personality. Pick yourself up from off of the groud and feel confident in yourself. Look in the mirror each morning and say to yourself "I am beautiful". It will make you feel confident throughout the day. You have to have it within yourself first to actually play the part. Your beautiful and you know it. Go and show it off.
♥ Miss Moo

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what is the best kind of litter to use..that is not expensive...thanx

Dear Kitty Litter,
Since we have had our cats, I have noticed that the cheap kitty litter is always the worst. One time we got this kitty litter that was on sell for like $2 and we brought it home and it wasn't the sand texture at all, it looked like rabbit pellets and it made the cat poop stink even worse. You might have to splurge along with the rest of us when it comes to litter. We use Fresh Step, which can range anywhere from $7.99-$16.00. You can also reduce your need at buying more litter by making sure you clean up they're messes everyday. I hope I helped. Happy Holidays!
♥ Miss Moo

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ok, so i have a crush on this guy, and i dont know if he likes me. lately i have had this crazy idea that maybe if i tell him how i feel he will be ok with it. (note; last year he had a crush on me, and then me being me, i blew it with him.)i dont know what to do, i really like him, and i have this crazy idea that if i tell him that i'm sorry and i miss him, and i still want to be friends at least, he might say ok. please help
i dont know what to do about him and i am just like really confused

Dear Confused,
What is so confusing? You like him, he used to like you? You do the math. If you like him so much don't blow it a second time and let him slip through your fingers. Grab a hold of him and tell him how you feel. It's the only way to go. He doesn't feel the same? Lose him. He wasn't worth it to begin with. Good luck!
♥ Miss Moo

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right so my freind peirced her ear with a third hole by herself using a needle yesterday. it looks fine today. i want a belly button peircin, but my mom will never let me. should i ask my freind to do it for me? what are some safety measures i should take?

Dear Belly Button,
Have you even asked your Mom? So, she said no? Then do not do it. Wait a little bit. Do not, I repeat do not let your friend do it. If your going to do it behind your Mom's back you might as well have it done professionaly. You could get an infection if you have your friend do it. Make a mature decesion. Happy Holidays!
♥ Miss Moo

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i keep on trying to upload a pic but it won't let me. it tells me that the pic is bigger than 15k, even though i have shrunk it on paint. how to i get in on my column? thx in advance!

Dear Picture Stuck,
This helped me. Go to www.photobucket.com and make an account. It's real simple. Upload your picture there than once it's uploaded, come back and type in the website under URL picture of you. I hope I helped. Good luck!
♥ Miss Moo

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Suddenly this year I feel like everything bad is just piling up into one huge mess and won't go away. Like PSAT scores, my Dad's death a few years ago (I now miss him more than ever), crush complications not working out, grades... things like that. It's making me feel gloomy and sad and even my friend told me for the past month I've seemed kind of sad off and on. I'm not in depression or depressed or whatever, but... What are some things that can help me clear this all up and what are some ways to get me to feel better?

Dear Sad,
Yes. This happens to all of us, sweetheart. You cannot make it dissapear without time. Time heals most things. I have found that it helps to look towards your future. Imagine yourself within the next year or two. Will you be stressed about the same things you are stressed about now? No, didn't think so. That means that it won't really matter within time. You will have other concerns. About your Dad. You will never stop missing him. That is something in life that we all must face and I am truely sorry that you have had to face it in such an early time of your life. It will make your stronger as you get older and it should make you feel better to know that he is safe now. He is in peace and in a better place. Here is an idea. When you are stressed or not feeling too great, look to your Dad for guidance. Talk to him. I hope I helped. Happy Holidays!
♥ Miss Moo

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After you put toothpaste on a pimple, is it supposed to tingle? Does that mean its working?

Dear Toothpaste Burn,
Wow. What a question. I don't even have to think about this one. Ha! Yes, of course it's supposed to tingle. Does it tingle when you brush your teeth? The reason you put toothpaste on a pimple is to reduce redness and to dry that sucker out. Have fun!
♥ Miss Moo

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When it comes to guys I always rush things. After that, one of two things happens:


One:
I find out that the guy is nothing like I expected. Most of the time it just turn out that he's a immature pervert and his charm and humor are an act. I don't take time to REALLY get to know a guy so I don't find out how they really are until we're close. After that, I completely loose interest (duh) and break it off with them.


Two:
It gets too serious and they are too in to me. It freaks me out because I either won't be ready for it or I won't want it. I just want to date and have fun. Nothing too serious that makes me want to "think of the future" with him. I guess me rushing things makes the guy think that I do want that? So again, I then break it off.


I always find myself in one of the two situations and after a month or so (most of the time less) I'm guyless and moving on to another one. Most of my friends know this about me and lecture me about it all the time but I have no idea how to fix it. I know it happens but I don't know how to keep it from happening.


It's like a routine for me. Meet a guy, go out, break up after a few weeks (because of the above said reasons), and meet another. How can I keep this from always happening?

Dear Broken Love,
You can keep all of the above from happening by not attaching yourself to these people. First thing is first, you don't want anything serious at the moment so don't make yourself believe that you do when these guys put the charm on you. Make sure everyone knows that your just out to have a good time and that you are not willing to make a commitment at the moment. When you find the right person, you will know when it's your moment to settle down. Stop fussing. Your young. Enjoy yourself and just let go. If that one guy happens to come across your path, you decide what move you want to make. It's your life, you make your own decisions when it comes to your future. Good luck!
♥ Miss Moo

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