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Nothing of a love life
When it comes to guys I always rush things. After that, one of two things happens:
One:
I find out that the guy is nothing like I expected. Most of the time it just turn out that he's a immature pervert and his charm and humor are an act. I don't take time to REALLY get to know a guy so I don't find out how they really are until we're close. After that, I completely loose interest (duh) and break it off with them.
Two:
It gets too serious and they are too in to me. It freaks me out because I either won't be ready for it or I won't want it. I just want to date and have fun. Nothing too serious that makes me want to "think of the future" with him. I guess me rushing things makes the guy think that I do want that? So again, I then break it off.
I always find myself in one of the two situations and after a month or so (most of the time less) I'm guyless and moving on to another one. Most of my friends know this about me and lecture me about it all the time but I have no idea how to fix it. I know it happens but I don't know how to keep it from happening.
It's like a routine for me. Meet a guy, go out, break up after a few weeks (because of the above said reasons), and meet another. How can I keep this from always happening?
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You should subject yourself to long and unsatisfactory relationships with guys that don't make you happy. Have a stream of screaming kids and spend most of your time fighting.
On the other hand, you could stop worrying about it and wait until you meet someone that you are really comfortable with.
The choice is yours.
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say i need to get to know you first before we actually go out.
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Are you my past-self? I say that because that's how i was before one year. And worse! Only one week relationships!!!Not any more!How?
I understood that being with someone just like that is ok but not with every boy. With a boy that wants this thing too... That doesn't want serious things. So, the best solution is to get know every boy better get know his caracter and then doing something with him.
That's what i did. But after this "success" i understood that it is better having something serious. It's a differend thing! If you are ready to feel it and have it of course!!!
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Hi There. I think the worst things about relationships is that eventually they all come to an end. If you finally find the one, the idea is to get married and stay with your soul mate, right? So it takes some shopping around to find the guy you're looking for.
I'm not sure that relationships you're not satisfied with are ending abruptly. It sucks if you're stuck in a cycle like this, but it shows you have self confidence to assert yourself in a situation where you aren't happy. There's nothing sadder than the 'I can't do any better than him' syndrome so give yourself some credit that you're smart enough to move past guys that can't fulfill your desires.
When it comes to the individual problems, I think there are a couple of things to consider:
To the problem where boys are immature perverts, sometimes you have to dig a little with guys. I'm going on a limb here and assuming you're on the younger side, and guys in their teens and twenties can put on quite an act because they are self conscious or uncomfortable with letting you know how they really feel and what's on their mind. So they play immature games and put on a show because that's what they think you want to see. Now I'm not saying it's okay for some guy to get fresh with you or act like a jerk. All I'm saying is sometimes you have to spend some quality time with a guy to find out what's going on in that head of his.
With the problem of guys wanting to rush your relationships, I think it's important to be upfront about your expectations. Let him know you don't want something serious. If he has half a braincell he will respect your boundaries. If things are meant to work out then it will happen naturally and you won't feel like you're missing out on anything making a commitment.
Best of luck, and just have fun and let things happen as they will.
Anne Nonimous
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Dear Broken Love,
You can keep all of the above from happening by not attaching yourself to these people. First thing is first, you don't want anything serious at the moment so don't make yourself believe that you do when these guys put the charm on you. Make sure everyone knows that your just out to have a good time and that you are not willing to make a commitment at the moment. When you find the right person, you will know when it's your moment to settle down. Stop fussing. Your young. Enjoy yourself and just let go. If that one guy happens to come across your path, you decide what move you want to make. It's your life, you make your own decisions when it comes to your future. Good luck!
♥ Miss Moo
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