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best friend..? not so much.
so today i was walking in the halls and i see my best friend walking with her boyfriend and one of our mutual friends. (this is really rare- i NEVER see my best friend in school.) she had her back turned to me but when he saw me, she turned around and gave me a really big smile and a "hey!" ...then before i could get a word in, turned right back to the other people she was with and ignored me. and she says im her bestbest friend.
i only see her once every week or two outside of school and sometimes dont even talk at nighttime. we used to be like sisters a few years ago, im'ing for a few hours everyday and hanging every chance we got. but since she got a boyfriend (its been 6 months) i've been left wondering if the title "best friends" really means anything anymore.
what do you think?
thanks so much.
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Hi, I believe when a man enters any females life things change. Sometimes they don't really notice it, and sometimes they do. So perhaps she doesn't realize what she is doing, maybe give her a call or email her about how you miss your friendship. If she knows, then she probable feels that you two are changing, growing apart(?). If this is so, it's probable because she feels she's growing up when you're not because of her so called "bf". In this case, she's not a real friend. Or if this is a serious boyfriend, she's lost in translation... Deep inlove and uncouncious of reality around her. Living in her own dream land.
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i know exactly how you feel, EXACTLY.
this has happened to me, acutally i'm still going through it but it is getting better. it was with my best guy friend. we use to hang out ALL the time, i could tell him everything until he got a girlfriend and only would hang out with her and pretty much let our friendship go downhill. i missed him, so much. i didn't admit it to anyone though and i never did text him or call him anymore because i always thought if he wanted to talk or see me he would text or call first. but turns out, i was so wrong. you have to communicate! your friend probably has no idea you're feeling like this. i know my best friend didn't. after three years, i finally had the courage to just let it all out and tell him i miss him and that i feel really hurt that he doesn't call me anymore to hang out or just to talk. he had no idea i was feeling like this, he felt horrible. he said that whenever i need him, or whenever i want to see him to never be shy and just give him a call.
so i pretty much missed out on three years of our friendship. yeah i saw him here and there but it was just a "hey" and it was nothing like we use to be. he was the only guy i could ever trust and tell everything to, he was the one i could wear no make-up around and act like a complete dork and he would still call me his best friend. just call her or tell her you want to talk to her in person and let it all out. tell her you miss your friendship, ask what happened to you two. seriously pour your heart out to her. she probably is so clueless that you feel like this and doesnt want to hurt you in any way! she'll never know if you dont say something. i use to doubt the word "best friend" too, and i felt like i couldnt even call him my best friend but no matter what, i know he'll always be there now and i'm just glad he reasured me of that.
it is hard, i use to cry all the time because i missed him and felt like i was just replaced by his girlfriend but i told him how i was feeling and want to know what he said? "linds no matter what, just know that i got you. i would do anything for you. i love you, always rememeber that because it'll never change. you really are my best friend" and hearing that....made me cry so hard but this time it was because of happiness. don't make assumptions that she's ignoring you. please talk to her! i don't want you to lose your friendship, learn from me! everything will work out.
if you need anything else, don't be afraid! ♥ LU
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