I finally updated my picture, I thought it was time for an update on it so I picked my favorite picture. After all, my previous picture was almost 2 and a half years old!
My name is Ryan. And I will answer most everything you want to ask to the best of my God given ability.But I will not sugar coat any answer and I will give MY advice. I don't care about my ratings, so don't think giving me a 1 for an answer you don't want to hear will scare me. And if you already know what you should do about a sitaution, don't come to us here at advicenators asking for a second opinion. And here below is a list of questions you should NOT ask on advicenators. Granted some of them may vary and be acceptable, but overall don't ask the below questions on Advicenators.
**Don't ask questions like "OMG i heard this song on the radio with "insert pointless pop lyrics here" and i wanna know what it is so what is it! Thanks!! I rate 5sssss! hearts". This question can be simply googled with the lyrics, or you need only ask a friend
**Don't ask "ok so there is the hott guy/gal in my class and he/she like got me a *insert gift or simple trinket here* do you think he/she likes me?" This is the most common question here on this website sadly. Unless it is vitally important and actually pertains to a feeling of true feelings, don't ask it. This is most asked by teens. And what teens need to learn is "love" is not thinking a guy/girl is sweet and hott and nice. I know love, and it is so far from all those things. Remember Cicero when he said "Out of all the emotions, love is the most violent. Love is madness."
**"Ok so me and my boyfriend had sex last night and we like used no protection omg he came in me do you think i am pregnant?" Ugh. Stupid teens and their hormones. IF YOU HAVE SEX YOU ALWAYS RUN THE RISK OF PREGNANCY, UNLESS YOUR STERILE. And if you don't know anything about sex, you shouldn't be doing it. Even if you "love" your partner, half the time this is a disallusion and you will end up hurt. Sex is for marriage.
**Or asking what's "in" for fashion, or what they should wear out tonight. Or what is "cute" and what looks good. Pick and choose for yourself what you like, think for yourself instead of trying to let other people do it for you. Stand up and be yourself.
These are the most common questions I have seen on Advicenators. Now there are a few questions that are very good questions and deserve the 3 rating and the best answer possible. But they are usually blocked out with the kinds of questions listed above. If you want to ask something, check the following off that I am listing.
1.Does the question pertain to anything important or trivial?
2.Is proper grammar used?
3.Is the question long and in one paragraph?
4.Is it a question that you yourself can answer?
5.Is there enough detail?
Following those 5 guidelines, you can write a good 3 point answer. That about wraps it up.
I spend alot of time online and here on advicenators, so if you ever need anything then just send something in my inbox or IM me. I'm not opposed to helping people at all, in fact I love doing it. I just want some people to wake up from asking a stupid question.
Thank you all for your time.
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So, its my birthday, on july 20th. and i'm super excited. I guess. I mean i'm not having a party this year, and so my mom says i can get whateverrr i wanntt. like anythinggg.
but i already have alot of stuff. lol
this is what i havee..
-cell phone [whem my contracts up in september im getting one of those choclate phones] so ya dont need a cell phone.
-i dont need clothes. as weird as that sounds, i havent even worn half of my summer clothes yet.
-i have an ipod nano, its pink. so i dont need one of those.
-i just got a puppy a few months ago.
-i have a digital camera.
-i have wayyy too much make up.
-i have my own computer.
-i have my own flat screen tv in my room.
-i have lots of expensive jewerly.
-i have a pool, in my backyard, [i got that a few years ago for my bday..] and its huge. so dont need that
-i have a trampoline, which isnt old.
-i have a slide for my pool.
i mean i honestly have like everythinggg. what else is there? what would you want for your bday??? (link)
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Ask simply for money, cold hard dead presidents.
That way you can simply put money back for whenever you need it. You already got more than enough stuff (I got half of your stuff and I bought all of it myself) so why ask for more when you can simply ask for cash to have for whenever?
Enjoy your birthday.
-Ryan
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What would you do iuf you hurt someone's feelings (someone in your family) and you apologize but they don't want to forgive you? (link)
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Move on. If they won't listen to you and won't accept the fact that you're sorry, all you can do is move on and let them live knowing you offered your apologies and they rejected it.
-Ryan
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my daughter married into a family that has babyed her from day one. she now has 3 children. she and kids live with inlaws. only time we hear from my daughter is when she wants something. the inlaws babysat these kids since they were born. now they are feeling like they are being taken advantage of. the mother inlaw and sister inlaw are giving my husband and i a hard time. they want us to babysit more. mind you we love the children but mother in law and sister inlaw do not have jobs. my husband and i have full time jobs 40+ hours a week. they want us to quit our jobs to babysit. we can't do that. we sometimes work weekends too.
they call us bad grandparents because we don't baby sit. when my children were growing up i didn't dare ask my parents to take the kids. i felt i had them so i should have them with me. only time my parents took the kids was when they asked for them, because they worked too. the mother in law told my daughter that she will do everything possible to keep those kids from my husband and i if something was to ever happen to my daughter and son in law. she is doing this because we don't babysit the kids. if we call off work to babysit we will lose our jobs. my daughter doesn't bring the kids over for a visit when we can see them. the only time we get to see the kids is if we babysit. so we don't get to see the kids because we have to make a living. is the mother inlaw right or am i right?
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It sounds like you have a terrible daughter. No child should deny the right for their parents to see their children. My great uncle never saw his grandchildren because his sons wanted his money and when he wouldn't give it, they wouldn't let him see them.
You can't take off work and it is foolhardy to try and make the effort when your job is at stake. They have no job and all the time in the world. While babysitting is a painstaking and time consuming job, the in-laws have all the time in the world to do it.
They aren't being taken advantage of at all. They chose to baby your daughter and take care of everything themselves and for them to expect you to help babysit while balancing 40 hour+ jobs is unrealistic. And downright impossible if you were to quit your job.
You don't have the luxury of time like they do. Therefore, they really have no reason to be mad or upset. Yes they are babysitting, but it sounds they are just being lazy. Not to mention the fact that your daughter is distant anyway and only comes around when she needs something. It's bad parenting and unfortunately, there probably isn't much you can do.
You're right in every sense, plain and simple. Hopefully your daughter will atleast come around enough to let you see your grand children..and hopefully the mother in law learns more sense.
-Ryan
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im tired of living in this place called hell, tired of listenin 2 people say ima fail. feeling nothing but depresion getting deeper, walking on a death mountain feel it getting steeper. if they push me 2 the edge then im gon trip, fall over n die but they wont give a shit. all i hear is ppl screaming in my ear, tryna back up but they keep gettin near.
tired of staying up n crying all night, tired of listening 2 these people fight. tired of rushing 2 my room after skool, tired of hearin people call me a fool.
im sick n tired of people sayin this n that, tired of people sayin "i got ya back" tired of people makin promises that they dnt keep, tired of wakin up cryin in my sleep. im tired of yellin 24/7, i need 2 get saved so i can go 2 heaven. people ask me where am i goin? i reply="hell if i dnt change my ways", im bout 2 pack my bags n go my seperate ways. sick of that woman telling me that she loves me when she know she lying,said she hated holli but when she left she started crying. tired of these tricks n crabs jumping around like they somebody, tired of seein these crackheads take ova my sista body. she not answerin her fone now she gon missin,wanted by the po again she shouldve listened. im not worried-i dnt care any more, tired of hittin n screamin now im sore.
cant wait til i leave this place called hell, just waitin til its my turn 2 chill in jail.
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So what advice are you asking for...?
Because all I see is a botched poem.
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Okay so i got grounded last thursday because i got caught drinking & lying. My cell phones taken away and im grounded. my parents said im grounded until i "earn their trust back" how am i suppose to earn trust back if i cant leave the house? any suggestions? I'll rate =) (link)
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The number one thing to do to get their trust back is to never drink or lie like you did ever again.
Be the good child and be so intentionally. Yeah their trust for you is probably lower than rock bottom, but it isn't damned yet.
In time their trust with you will be regained if you can show your responsible enough not to do it again. Like I said, be the good child and be it intentionally, because anything faulty will NOT get you trust back.
I hope I helped and good luck,
-Ryan
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Dear Ryan,
I am your averge 15-year-old girl who lives with her single mother. Recently I got a new boyfriend who I have been hoping to date for a long time. Since it was a dream for a long time, it took me around 2 days to set into reality that my dream had come true. Once that had happened, I finally told my mother. She reacted in a way that was unexpected. She actully got angry at me for keeping that secret from her. Now she doesn't trust me with my boyfriend and I cannot go out on a date with him.
How can I get my mother to relize that I was just waiting a bit to tell people, not that I was keeping a secret. How will I get her trust?
She wont listen to me and it bothers me.
-Angered Child (link)
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I just realized this was still in here...
Thanks Hannah for writing this. It got worked out fine with me and Amber didn't it?
Lol.
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Is a Tomatoe a fruit or a veggie cause I really need to no know my dad and I are fighting over wich one it is I say that it is a fruit am I right? Please answer my question as soon as possible thanks-from ? (link)
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It is technically a fruit.
But the U.S. gov and other governments classify it as a vegetable for economic reasons.
Naturally, it is a fruit.
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ITS LONG BUT PLEASE READ!
i'm a 15 yr old girl
this JUST happen.. i came home and EVERYTHING.. and i mean EVERYTHING in my room was completely rearranged, reorganized, stuffed in random places, moved across the room, just everything was completely wrong in my room. We just had new housekeepers come for their first day and all i could do was cry at the sight of my room. I really did.. i just cried, it's already late enough and it was going to take me so long to fix my room and put it back to normal. My mom apparently LOVES the new maids ??? i told her to come upstairs and i showed her how everything was wrong. all she said was "they just wanted to make it look clean" LAKDJFKSJ... there are no words for me to describe how upset i am.. am i over reacting??
the only reason i feel so upset is because my room is MY place.. it's the only place i EVER feel comfortable, i don't even like when my family walks in my room, it's just MINE and it wasn't even messy in the first place its just like the housekeepers had the sudden urge to throw random stuff into empty shoe boxes and put them under my bed ...??? so i've spent the past HOUR re-doing my room... i'm not even kidding, i told my mom that i don't want them to clean my room and that i will do it from now on and apparently she won't let me do that because she doesn't think i'll actually clean up...how do i show her that i don't need a maid? and am i over reacting?? (link)
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I can understand your frustration, but you are overreacting just a little bit.
It was their first day and they made a mistake, that is perfectly understandable. Just let them know not to move things around in your room. They can clean in your room, just tell them not to move things around because that is the way you like it and don't want it changed. Simple as that.
It is your room, and how it is organized should be left to you. Their job is to clean, not redecorate.
Lol, I hope I helped and you get everything reorganized!
-Ryan
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a few days ago i went to the movies with my guy and girl friends. at the time i had a boyfriend, while the movie was going me and my boyfriend started pashing, my mum walked in saw us and by my hair dragged me out of the cinema, when we got home she tells me that i'm not allowed to
out anymore, i start yelling at her she starts yelling at me in the end i ran away 2 one of my friends house.
MY MUM FOUND ME AND NOW IS NOT LETTING ME DO ANYTHING.
can any1 help me please (link)
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You freaking ran away, do you expect your mom to let you do anything anymore?
The whole thing with your boyfriend, I will just say that is probably a shocker to your mom. But running away over it? What good did that do?
You ran away, and you can only deal with your mistakes through time. Your mom will let you out again, but it won't be for a very long time. And all you can do is wait.
Please make better decisions next time and think ahead.
-Ryan
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my mom used to get drunk. a lot. she only admitted to two of the numerous occassions, and then she started to blame sleeping pills for her "acting weird". she said she'd stop buying wine. she did for maybe 2 months, then started again. the thing is I'M the only one who knows shes drunk! my sister always comes up with excuses (shes defensive) and my mom just denies it. today she bought more wine (she was tipsy before she bought it though) and i asked her to not buy it because she said she wouldnt. she did anyway and so i ignored her, and then she got angry and asked whats wrong and i told her and she started saying crap like "stop acting like your better than me. I am the parent, YOU are the child. you are not better than anyone else. i am the parent. you do not check on me. you are the child." how do i get her to STOP?! (link)
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I would suggest professional help.
If your mom truly cares for you, she will listen. You need to get a professional person involved to try and work this out. And you make sure to bring it up with your mom. Don't be timid about it, make a stand and let her know she needs to stop otherwise nothing will be right.
And I cannot stand it when a parents says they are right on the sole grounds they got lucky pick in the age pool and happen to be older and the parent. That isn't a reason, it's an excuse. She has proven she can't be the responsible one and stop drinking and your sister has proved she can't stand up to actually help her mother. You need to stand up and take charge and get everything together. Let your feelings on this be heard and do not be silenced.
And most certainly, do not run away. That would show you are no better than your mother or sister by just running away and ignoring the problem. Make a stand and let your mother know everything and how you hate her drinking. And do NOT be quiet about it or let her dictate this.
First make your stand, and if your mom won't listen, get some professional help. And if she still won't listen, involve someone higher up to make her listen, and your sister to.
I can't tell you anything else on your other family issues and problems. All I can say is be strong and show perservierance. I will most certainly pray for you and I hope the words I have written, are able to make a difference.
-Ryan
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last night after dinner my mom told me that she had something to tell me. she told me that she gave birth to me and my identicle twin sister. she told me that she couldnt keep oth of us because she was only 18. she didnt want to give both of us up. so she put my tiwn up for adoption before she was even born. i never knew about this only my mom and my grandma knew. they didnt want to brag about it to anyone. my dad knows about it also(my biological dad, he stayed with my mom through everthing and now theyre married!) so my mom told me that the couple that adopted my twin sister had died in a car accident and my mom was notified. and in their will they didnt give my twin to anyone. all it said was ask jennifer who she wants to live with. so jenny told the lawers that she wanted to live with her biological mom. so the lawyers called my mom and told her and my mom said yes. we get to meet jenny on saturday. im really nervous tho, because i dont know if we're alike or if were different and i dont know what to talk to her about. if anyone can give me advice i would be very happy. also im nervous if shell like hate me because my mom chose to put jenny up for adoption and not me. omg im so scared. (link)
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This is a very unique situation.
Ultimately, I don't think there is gonna be any problems with her coming to live with you. Identical usually means you look the same, but there may be similarity's *such as hair length, body makeup and so forth*.
Just go into your relationship with her like you would a friend. She is your sister after all, so just treat it like that. Be her friend and be her sister and be nothing less. I am sure everything will be fine between you both. Sure it will be awkward at first, but I am sure in the coarse of time you will be just like sisters, and make up for the lost time you both have had away from each other, and the lost time she had away from your mom. Don't be nervous, be happy!
I hope what I said helped, and I hope that your metting goes well with her. Good luck and I am quite sure everything will be fine!
-Ryan
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Am I justified in being angry when my mom calls me an ignorant slut because she wasn't understanding something I was trying to explain to her? I don't mean to sound whiney, but I'm really sick of these degrading comments she directs at me when she messes something up, makes a mistake, or doesn't understand something. I don't know what to do about this. Any advice?
Thanks (link)
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Yes, you have a right to be angry.
I would put more ignorance on your mother, since she couldn't even let you finish something you were trying to explain.
-Ryan
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So basicly sense I was little ive been vergbaly and physicly abused.. and I really cant take it anymore I have gotten to the point i feel so low about myself I could crawl in a corner and hide for ever. I have reported my parents and so have other people but nothing has happend. What should I do now?
Someday something will happen and no one will be able to fix it. Im scared (link)
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As with what everyone else said, you need to tell the police, friends, school counciler, whoever AGAIN. And don't let up until something is done. Because if they won't respond once, the only thing that will get them to respond is persistance, or if something very bad happens.
Percerverance and persistance and something will be done.
I hope this helps and something is done soon. You are in my prayers.
-Ryan
P.S. If you need anything else, please feel free to leave something in my inbox.
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Alot of people smoke weed. Even my boyfriend used to but i made him quit. Even my parents do. For some reason i dont like weed. Ive never really tried it. But knowing my parents do it makes me think bad about them. It makes me think why do they do it but they are supposed to set a good example. Most of my friends do it too. I guess im just a good girl. But my boyfriend tries to convince me that theres nothing wrong with it. And i never agree and i dont think its right. Its a drug and im ashamed of everyone that does it. I dont know why though. Is there somthing wrong with me? anything will help! but please dont leave me rude comments.
Love-KMR (link)
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Conformity is never good, ever. I admire you for being able to say no to pressures around you and stay away from it. There is absolutelty NOTHING wrong with you about not liking it and not smoking it. In the long run it will and does hurt you through loss of memory and a whole host of psychological affects that are never good.
Keep your beliefs and don't do it. There is absolutely nothing beneficial from smoking weed and you should just stay away from it. Your not weird and there is nothing wrong with you for not doing it, and remember that!
Joshua 1:9- Be strong and courageous, do not be terrified, for the Lord your God is with you all the time.
I hope this helps you.
-Ryan
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I'm 17 and a senior and I have a serious problem with my dad. I have an older brother who doesn't live at home any more, but when he did, he wasn't exactly the best student. I remember every time interums or report cards would come out, I would hide up in my room listening to him crying as my dad screamed at him. I don't know everything that my dad did, because I never saw it, but I only remember my mom sticking up for him ONCE. He would always tell anyone who would listen what a loser my brother was and how he would never amount to anything. The first time I got a C in math was when I was in the 10th grade. My dad screamed at me and then told me to get out of his face because he didn't want to look at me anymore. He gets pissed off at little things, has thrown chairs across the room and has no clear desire whatsoever to control his anger. He has never hit my mom, little sister or me but he yells a lot and my mom hardly ever says anything to him. He's trying to force me to go to the college he wants me to go to by threatening not to give me any financial support. For a while, I was cutting myself because he made me feel so worthless, but I haven't done so in over two years because my mom walked in on me once. She doesn't believe me when I say I think I'm really depressed. My brother was diagnosed with chronic depression and my dad flipped when he found out because he doesn't believe in psychology, which is the field I want to go into. I really hate him and am sick of putting up with him and I don't know what to do. (link)
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I think your dad has some mental issues himself. He has already proven he isn't going to listen to you. Spend as much time as you can out of the house. Take up a sport or some kind of extra curriculare activity to stay away from home. Find comfort in your friends and next time he does start yelling, make a stand. Get everyone in your house to make a stand againts his yelling and let him know what he is doing is wrong and your sick of it. Your dad shouldn't be doing any of that, and it's downright terrible that he is...
I don't know what all I should say, but I said what I thought would be good to say. I really hope what I said helps you in some way and something can be done about this. I really do.
I'll pray for you
-Ryan
P.S. If you need anything else or someone to talk to..IM me at (AIM) Alpha0mega345 or drop something in my inbox.
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my dad can be so mean sometimes he yells really loud and when he gets mad he throws and breaks stuff and it really scares me. i feel bad because i dont know if i love him or not and i feel like everything is my fault!! i dont know what to do please help! (link)
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Hey listen, it's not your fault. Your dad might just have some kind of issue and he may see you as the only way to vent his anger and frustration if he has something going on behind the scenes. When he does this again you should try and remain calm then and show him even if you is going to mad and causes destruction your not going to get upset over it. Let him do this and when he is done say "I love you dad" then walk off and find something to calm yourself down with if your still upset. You should be calm when he does do it though and show some maturity, even in the face of what is happening.
Hope this helps and you are able to get something done with your dad.
-Ryan
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Ok...So, I go to conciling and im on Medication. But, I still don't feel happy. I'm always down and I never want to do anything. I like being alone, always. And I try to change myself but it just keeps getting worse. Yes, I cut, But im really not a bad person. My family is dieing to get me to change and be like one of my friends. They told me that they wished I was like her....Any advice on how to change my ways and make my parents proud?? (link)
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First off, don't do what your parents want, they want you to be someone your not. They want you to change who you are to be like someone else, and that isn't right. Next you need to stop cutting yourself, because that is going to only lead to worse things. Yeah it is probably going to be hard but you can do it if you really apply yourself. As to make yourself happy, do the things you used to like to do, even if you don't like to do them anymore, and try and build happiness from doing the things you once were happy to do. Don't change yourself for anyone but you, be who you are and let everyone know that is who you are, you.
I hope this helps and you feel better.
I will pray for you.
-Ryan
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hey. just to let you guys know. this was posted on louisianaisforlovers account but i have asked her perrmission and she said i can use her account to ask my question. i am a 12 year old female and i live in a REALLY small town that probably has about 500 to 600 people living in it. & my parents are WAY to overprotective. i mean take actually today for example i was at the local hangout and about 15 to 20 people were going play basketball at a schools playground just down the road. with 2 of these people being at least 16. and we all have cell phones. & i called to see if i go & i named all the people going. well she said no. and i aasked why. and she told me thats it dangerous. WTF? i mean theres 20 people there. hooly s**t im not freaking 8 years old. and when i got home i was mad so i walked up the stairs pounding my feet on them & she called me down and said yea im sure they're were 20 people going. and i was like mom i named the people. what do you think im lying. and she said i only do it because i care. but i mean. i never get to do the stuff EVERYBODY else is doing. and i always have to make up some lame excuse why i cant go. ugh. i need help!. pleasee im deperate (link)
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Well, find out exactly why she is being so overprotective. She needs to atleast give you a valid reason for you not being able to go. I'm sorry but "because it is dangerous" isn't a very good excuse when your going somewhere with 20 people, 2 of them being old enough to have some responsiblity over the others, to a place right down the road from where you are. You need to tell her your getting older and your old enough now to be able to go more places, and especially getting to go places where there is an abundance of friends you obviously know very well. You also need to tell her this in a calm matter, and if she still disagree's, pursue the conversation, let her know how frustrated you are with all this overprotectiveness and keep telling her about it and to give you more freedom and responsibility. Be honest about it and keep at it.
I hope this helped and and your mom eases up a bit.
-Ryan
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My older brother is living with us now. Im the youngest one of the family so i still live at home. Any way. Me and my dad use to go places all the time together, like, he use to take me shopping at the mall take me golfing with him and do fun junk like that. Now all he wants to do is shove me off into a corner while he takes donnie golfing, and everything else he use to do with me and my brother treats me like crap!!!! I am getting sick of being left out!! How Should i deal with it?????
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Heck no you shouldn't deal with it! I can understand a LITTLE bit why your dad would prefer to take your older brother out instead of you (dad's have a thing with their sons doing stuff with their oldest, trust me my dad is kinda the same way *I'm the oldest in my family by 3 years to my sister*). But that is NO reason for him to just brush you aside to do things with your older brother. Try and reason with your dad, tell him about all the fun times you used to have and tell him how you would just love to go with him again. Also whenever you know he is going someplace, always ask to go. If he is gonna just refuse you going like everytime (maybe saying "Well me and Donnie were gonna go..." or "Sorry but this is something me and Donnie were gonna do..") then you know what, he doesn't deserve your company. If he is going to be that way then let him know how much it is killing you not being able to go and being brushed aside. Let him know that and if he still doesn't want to let you go. Then just forget it, you can find alot better of a time on your own than with a dad who could care less if you went or not.
Now about your brother...Either ignore him (which may or may not work), find ways to ignore him, let him know your really hurting from it, or try and get some kind of parental help (if your dad won't step into help you on this one, then he is just a inconsiderate father who doesn't really deserve to be called your father).
Also try and hang out more with your friends, that will give you something to do and you won't be left out (maybe not in the same way being left out with your dad, but you won't be left out with your friends). Try and find things to occupy your time.
Hey I hope I helped and that things get alot better for you!
If you need anything else, drop something in my inbox (again, lol)!
-Ryan
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hey im 14/f my mom thinks that i have been having sex latley because i have alot of guy friends. I told her that im not but she doesn't beleive me. It gets kinda annoying i say i have a stomach ache and shes like u could be pregnant. Im like no i couldn't. But how do i get her 2 trust me around guys? And how can i convince her the im not having sex? I was guna go and get a test at the doctors. but she always says we dont have time. or w/e my moms 30. Please help me... i rate high 4 good answers! (link)
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Wow your mom seems to not be very trusting if she is just going to automatically assume that. It seems like parents are trying to draw clearer lines between friendship between the opposite sexes.
However though, take this into mind...Your mom is 30, that means when she had you, she was 16. Think about it for a second, she may just trying to be a bit protective because she is just afraid that you may follow in her footsteps and make the mistakes she mad when she was your age.
However with this she may be taking it a tad too far. She shouldn't really have a problem with you having alot of guy friends because as you said, they're just friends and shouldn't assume just because you have lots of guy friends your having sex with them.
Talk to her and let her know your not having sex with your guy friends because as you said, you aren't. Keep drilling it in her head that your not, give her reasons to trust you and exploit every opportunity to show to her your trustworthy.
Hope this helps and she lightens up a bit with the trust!
-Ryan
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