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14.f yesturday i found out i have an identicle sister
last night after dinner my mom told me that she had something to tell me. she told me that she gave birth to me and my identicle twin sister. she told me that she couldnt keep oth of us because she was only 18. she didnt want to give both of us up. so she put my tiwn up for adoption before she was even born. i never knew about this only my mom and my grandma knew. they didnt want to brag about it to anyone. my dad knows about it also(my biological dad, he stayed with my mom through everthing and now theyre married!) so my mom told me that the couple that adopted my twin sister had died in a car accident and my mom was notified. and in their will they didnt give my twin to anyone. all it said was ask jennifer who she wants to live with. so jenny told the lawers that she wanted to live with her biological mom. so the lawyers called my mom and told her and my mom said yes. we get to meet jenny on saturday. im really nervous tho, because i dont know if we're alike or if were different and i dont know what to talk to her about. if anyone can give me advice i would be very happy. also im nervous if shell like hate me because my mom chose to put jenny up for adoption and not me. omg im so scared.
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Well all I can say is wow but well maybe the reason that she wanted to live with your mom and you is that so she can meet you and your mom. First be nice to her and be yourself not someone yournot but i cant help you there and also tell her how sorry you are for her for loosing some one that she was so close to her and welcome her to your house ask her if she wants to go somewhere and if she does take her there and buy her some of the stuff but not all so she dosent think that it will always be like this and ask your mom to come with you especially scence you arent old enogh to drive and lay back dont be mad if your mom might seem a little more close to her the first week or so.Then pretty soon things will be back to normal just with another person that you care for in your life!Take it as a learning expereince.
Good Luck And God Be With You
Alyssa
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It will be strange at first for all of you. There isn't to many ways around that! It will be fine though. It won't last long.
Just talk to her about things you like. You will be very surprised at how much you have in common.
It sounds as if she knows the story of her adoption. She may have known it all her life. She may have questions for your parents, which is natural, but she shouldn't blame you for anything. The fact that she chooses to live with you tells me she is probably fine with how things worked out.
Saturday will be an exciting day for your family. It will be great! :)
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i think youll be alright
twins share a natural special bond and dont really get jelious over each other.. they would rather see others suceed and there is an extremely good chance that she is much like you because of your genes and you cant change that even parts or your personality. you just have to understand at first she may take things out on you because she has just lost her only parents she has ever know and shes going through a rough time. just treat her like a sister basically. the more you treat her like extra special the more shes going to get mad because she will think that you think you are better than her which it seems like you dont want to happen. just be open to her like she was a new friend you were meeting
please keep me updated on how things go it seems so interesting!
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I think that everything will be fine. Your Mom couldn't have known which one was going to go where. And anyways, I think that your sister will be even more nervous than you. Not only does she have to meet you, but her Mother and Father all at one time. She also has to move into a new house, with new people, and new customs. I highly doubt that she would want to make a big deal about her leaving and you getting to stay. I think that she will be happy to get to have a real family. Also, I think that because she said that she wanted to live with ber biological mother, that she obviously wont be mad because that was her decision.
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I wish you the best of luck!
_Kelseo_
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First of it's nice to hear that there is still some ppl in this world that have humanity (ur dad stickin wid yah maa) Well anywho I think it is relly great that u'l get to talk to her. Ask her wat she likes and stuff n let her know what you like. Get to know her and talk to her about anything...ya'll blood man. Yeah and ya'll shouldn't fite bout da (the adoption scene) cause ur mum had no idea who wuz who!
Lotz ah love,
JJ
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Wow, that's such an amazing story. It's definitely okay to be nervous. Once you get together I'll bet you'll have a lot to talk about. I think that you'll find that the biggest problem you'll have is that her parents just died. She may not have known that she had a twin either even if she did know she was adopted. She's going to be really sad and uncomfortable and confused. Her life completely changed very unexpectedly and she's going to be living with a family that she doesn't know. You two may be able to unite under those similarities. Meaning, both of your lives just drastically changed and you can find comfort in each other because you know that she's going through something similar to you. I think that things will go better for you if you pretend like she's an exchange student living with you. Show her around and tell her about your family and make her feel more comfortable about her new environment. Her being your sister is a lot to grasp all at once and the sisterly feelings will come with time. Focus on trying to console her and make her feel better. Try to keep her mind off of what happened, but be open to talk to her about anything and everything. It might be hard at first, but after a little time I think that you'll get to be really close. Don't expect that you'll have much in common or that you'll like the same things just because you're twins. Even though she looks like you, she's a completely different person. You can have a lot of fun with coincidences though. I know that everything will work out in not too long. Almost all only children dream of having a brother or sister and all of a sudden you have one! You're really lucky. :)
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This is a very unique situation.
Ultimately, I don't think there is gonna be any problems with her coming to live with you. Identical usually means you look the same, but there may be similarity's *such as hair length, body makeup and so forth*.
Just go into your relationship with her like you would a friend. She is your sister after all, so just treat it like that. Be her friend and be her sister and be nothing less. I am sure everything will be fine between you both. Sure it will be awkward at first, but I am sure in the coarse of time you will be just like sisters, and make up for the lost time you both have had away from each other, and the lost time she had away from your mom. Don't be nervous, be happy!
I hope what I said helped, and I hope that your metting goes well with her. Good luck and I am quite sure everything will be fine!
-Ryan
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