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my mom used to get drunk. a lot. she only admitted to two of the numerous occassions, and then she started to blame sleeping pills for her "acting weird". she said she'd stop buying wine. she did for maybe 2 months, then started again. the thing is I'M the only one who knows shes drunk! my sister always comes up with excuses (shes defensive) and my mom just denies it. today she bought more wine (she was tipsy before she bought it though) and i asked her to not buy it because she said she wouldnt. she did anyway and so i ignored her, and then she got angry and asked whats wrong and i told her and she started saying crap like "stop acting like your better than me. I am the parent, YOU are the child. you are not better than anyone else. i am the parent. you do not check on me. you are the child." how do i get her to STOP?!
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It sounds like you're in a major situation and I'm afraid that you need another adult to help you. Does your school have a guidence counsler? If it does, I highly suggest that you go talk to him/her about this problem. If you're scared to, don't be. I've been to guidance many many times and everything is 100% confidential.
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i was sorda in the same situation as you..except when my dad drank he would get all crazy and crap and like beat me and my sisters and brothers and my mom..and the thing is you cant really tell your mom to stop..maybe you could show your mom that you really care about her and maybe give her a reality check..im sorry if this wasnt the adivice you were looking for but i hope things go a lot better for you!!
xoxo
Sammi
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id ont know what to tell you on how to get her to stop cause my situation might have been different then yours is and i dont know your whole story... but my mom used to be an alcoholic and a drug addict so i know how you feel so if you ever need someone to talk to please feel free to email me or something i cant offer you my advice for this yet but i can def. give you someone to talk to who understands.
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Al-Anon/Alateen exists to help people whose lives are affected by someone else's drinking. Check out their site, or call them at 1-888-425-2666 (1-888-4AL-ANON). They can definitely help you.
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well it sounds like shes an acoholic...and from living with about 3 of them i know exactly how u feel. Theres really nothing you can do acoholics can only stop when they want to. My dad was an acoholic and my moms ex-boyfriend my grandma was and my uncle is..so i know what your going threw. maybe just sitting down and trying to make her see what your going threw. But really they only stop if they want to maybe if she sees how bad it hurts you then she will stop.
I hope i helped a little.
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I would suggest professional help.
If your mom truly cares for you, she will listen. You need to get a professional person involved to try and work this out. And you make sure to bring it up with your mom. Don't be timid about it, make a stand and let her know she needs to stop otherwise nothing will be right.
And I cannot stand it when a parents says they are right on the sole grounds they got lucky pick in the age pool and happen to be older and the parent. That isn't a reason, it's an excuse. She has proven she can't be the responsible one and stop drinking and your sister has proved she can't stand up to actually help her mother. You need to stand up and take charge and get everything together. Let your feelings on this be heard and do not be silenced.
And most certainly, do not run away. That would show you are no better than your mother or sister by just running away and ignoring the problem. Make a stand and let your mother know everything and how you hate her drinking. And do NOT be quiet about it or let her dictate this.
First make your stand, and if your mom won't listen, get some professional help. And if she still won't listen, involve someone higher up to make her listen, and your sister to.
I can't tell you anything else on your other family issues and problems. All I can say is be strong and show perservierance. I will most certainly pray for you and I hope the words I have written, are able to make a difference.
-Ryan
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