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hey im allison
im 14 and i go to WBHS.
i love volley ball and snowboarding and i love spending time with my friends.
im a dork and i love it...and i dont care what you think.
music just so happens to be my life.
i like most music...just as long as it doesnt include a BANJO!...eww.
other then music...my life is dedicated to my bestest friends amber conner rachelle michelle and linnea. they are my reasons for breathing. ive had my heart broken twice by the same guy. and it was just recently. i really want some one to show him how i feel. but im still in deep like with this kidd. i dont regret the things that i do...i regret the things that i didnt do when i had the chance. that would happen to be my motto. tee hee(btw...i use 'tee hee' WAYYYY too much!)i like school. but im not good at it. im ok at it. but im still on 'second string' if you will. finding song quotes or just random takes up most of my time. and i have about 3 notebooks filled up in the last 2 or 3 months. im also eager to get better at drawing. i just really like it. but im not that passionate about it. that is really it for now. tee hee...(see! i told you so!!!)
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so i have a boyfriend. he loves me and tells my im amazing/gorgeous/beautiful and everything a girl loves to hear on a regular basis. we've been together over a year. he says he loves my body. the thing is, i dont love it. at all. i mean yeah i have big boobs but thats about it. im overweight (5'9" about 251 lbs, size 18 pants and 3x shirt). im completely disgusted with my body but somehow he finds me beautiful and almost has me thinking maybe its true. but how do i see myself the way he sees me? i believe that he thinks so but im just like "ugh...why?". he wants me to be self confident but its like i just cant. im ahnee on advicenators if you want a pic (its small though)

sweetie...hes a quality guy. keep him. and if he thinks you are beautiful...then you must be beautiful. no need to be self concious. everyone is different. meaning you have a different body type then what we have so wrongly percieved as beautiful for so long. listen to him. he has to be right.

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recently I've gotten a new atatude(sp?) on life due to the fact i've joined the army and lost 37 pounds, now if that isn't a confidence booster I don't know what is. but anyway i've liked one of my friends for quiet a long time about 2 years now come to think of it, and two days ago I asked her out... unfortunately(sp?) she is going out with someone that she knew in high school and he is off at college but she's back here and quite frankly stuck at home till the spring semester starts. The reason i'm asking this question is that i don't know my chances of he actually calling it of with the guy, btw they have broken up before and their relationship is patchy at best... and going with me. when I left her house two days ago she was really pondering the thought of did she actually like her current bf... and when we hugged and said our goodbyes to eachother I told her that even if she didn't choose to go out with me I was happy I told her and she responded "I'm glad too"*she smiles* the only thing is that i haven't heard from her in two days so i'm a little nervous about the whole thing... exp since we are supposed to hang out today at noon or so... if anyone is still up at this time it'd be a great help to know your thoughts on my stiuation

thankyou

it's atitude

I broke up with myboyfriend of 6 months after things were getting really serious and I felt I just couldn't cope with it all.Even after he cheated on me after a week going out. I have never been scared of commitment in my entire life and thought this guy was the one. But it freaked me out so much, and i couldnt forget the fact that he cheated on me with the same girl that i warned him bout that I hated because the same girl did it to me before. So i decided to break up with him. I really hurt him as he felt the same way and he had just broken up with his gurl for me again.. I dont know if i did the right thing?? Help me please

a guy that cheats...isnt worth your time. you did the right thing hun.
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my boyfriend always checks other girls out on the street, it really bugs me and am scared its cuz he's lookin for someone better? should i be worried? please let me know and do all guys do this , he tells me he loves me but im not so sure cuz it bothers me :( help~

dont worry too much about it. guys do that. they arent looking for something better. you have to look at it like, you are the best thing he's got and he's with you for a reason. so dont worry about it babe. he'll come around.

I'm a 15 y.o. freshman girl and boys don't really talk to me. I'm sort of shy and quiet in class, so I may come off as snobby or unapproachable. I'm only shy and quiet because I'm afraid they don't like me. I don't think I'm ugly or anything, so I dunno. Should I talk to them? What are some good conversation starters? How can I be more outgoing?

i think you should just go up and talk to them. try to make friends and maybe one or two of them will end up liking you. you cant expect something to happen if you dont take matters into your own hands.

have asked this question,but a bit differently.anyways,i've already decided to get a lip ring,so I wanna ask do girls perfer lip rings on
1)the middle
2)the side,if so,which side?
3)snakebites
4)spider

and is there like a meaning if you pierce on the right side?cause my friend said that it is for gays...

and besides that ,could you girls help with suggesting other places beside the lips that you find attractive,and how many a guy should have.

thanks a lot,really appreciate you guys.

SNAKEBITES!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! omfg! those are the hottest things io have ever seen in my entire life!

iam 14 and in the 9th grade and I want to do more than just hug and kiss my boyfriend.Is there any other things that i can do besides hug and kiss my boyfriend?I know that there is sex and iam going to do that if that's the only other thing i can do i just want to get closer and if i do have sex iam already on birth control becouse of my messed up period and iam going to use protection.what can i do besides hug and kiss my boyfriend?

uh...try hand jobs and head. and if you want something done to yourself, have him finger you or eat you out. and a great combo of head and eating out is "69".

ok well..i was with my bf for about a year and a half..and he accused me of calling him all the time..and we broke up and got back together yesterday and then i called him last night to leave him a voice mail to say goodnight..not wanting him to pick up and he didn't so i just left him a voice mail (he was at work) and then he just got done telling me that he wants me to grow up and not to ever call him ever again and he doesn't want to talk to me ever again..and i just dont know what to do..i really love this guy and when we talked yesterday he really loved me to..but what do i do..i really need help! please help me!!

okay, im sorry. but this guy is immature. you should have a guy that anticipates your every call. and appreciates that you are thinking about him. hes not worth it.

Okay well i am bi right? and I am whipped by this one chick, and this boy is whipped by me. what do i do?

i really dont know what to tell you, maybe you should do what your heart tells you. that would probably be best.

Ok well i started going out with this one guy named jonathan.The thing is dat he knows i like somebody else and i know he likes somebody else.Yes it seems wierd but we told each other that since the beggining.Its like we like each other to but it kind of feels wierd to know he dosent only think of me...i know he probably feels da same way but i dont know.I seriously dont think we are going to last.Although i wish it did=/So if you were in my place what would you do??

maybe you should talk to him. ask him if he feels right with this relationship. if you are having second thoughts about this then maybe it wasnt meant to be. you should really talkt to him and see who he has stronger feelings for... you or the other girl. and you need to find that out about yourself too.
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Ok well over the summer i have been hanging ouy with this guy named Pat and like at first i went to his house and we were just like friends but after a while he kinda started holding my hand when we were watching tv and stuff and were not even going out and he is not allowed to date till school starts and im starting to really like him but i no its wrong to do stuff and were not even dating yet but its really hard to tell someone u like to stop. so what should i do please help.

ok swetie
TELL HIM!
he should know
until school starts...
keep it on the DL.
then you should start telling people after about a week of school has gone by
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Me and my boyfriend got in a huge fight over nothing last night. We got eachother so pissed off we decided to break up. I miss him so much. I want him to know that I'm sorry for what I did. The problem is, I don't know what to say to him!! Also, he blocked me on aim, he won't answer my calls, and he won't answer me on myspace. How can I talk to him? We really loved eachother. He already has another girl friend, but I know he's just trying to make me jealous with her. What do I do??

GO TALK TO HIM!!!!! nothing can be worse then losing the love of your life...i should know i just lost mine. if you go appoligize and suck/kiss up and realize that this fight was just stupid then everything can go back to normal. best of luck!!
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ok im 17 and want a kid. ok i do see that its gona be hard and that is probly not best to have a kid yet. but do you think it might help me change my mind bout having a kid if i speak to my boyfriend.
what could the out comes be? im scared if i tell him that he will get worride and leave me. but i dont want to keep something like this from him.
please help me some one.

thanks
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you should tell him. and if he reacts baddly then he wasnt worth your time or your body.
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This kid who might like me sits behind me in one of my classes. I was talking to my friend and I was saying something about him loudly so that he could hear (It was supposed to be a good thing about him) and it came out all wrong and sounded really stupid. Like he's 6'1 or something and what I said made him sound like he was a midget! I was saying the other kid was a midget, not him! But, it came out so that I had said the 6'1 guy was short and weird and the midget was really tall and cool. Then, I wasn't having a good day because of this kid next to him and I was glaring at him then they guy who liked me looked at me and to him it would have looked like I was glaring at him for no reason! The teacher kept calling on me and I answered the wrong question or said the wrong thing about four times! I really don't want him to think I'm some retard now. Do you think he'll still like me? How do I let him know I'm know THAT stupid all the time?!

TELL HIM!!!if he was really worth your time then he would know that NO ONE can make that many mistakes purposly in one class hour.
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17 years old/female.. so this may be kind of long but, I'll try to give you the briefest version.. so there's this guy, let's call him jay. and so like a month ago me and jay spent a lot of time together, and we ended up making out and such. and like we still talked and everything, and saw eachother on weekends, but nothing seemed to progress from that, like we were just friends, but my friends and including myself thought he was totally into me, since I was like kind of into him. well, we stopped talking for a couple of weeks at the beginning of the summer, so I ended up making out with this other guy, lets call him mike, when I was drunk the one night. it didn't mean anything, just an innocent make out, and I still talk to mike, as friends. well like two weeks after that, I ended up seeing jay at a party, and I starting like him again. and since I drank a little too much, I told his best friend, and his other friends, that I really like him and such. well the next night I threw a party, and he ended up coming with his best friend. and everything was going great, we were flirting like usual, and we ended up outside me and him making out again, and I guess my friend had a bit too much too drink, and came outside, and bluntly stated that I had made out with mike. well jay totally flipped and was like "get the f*** off of me" so I was like got off, but was like what's wrong blah blah blah. and he just got so mad and like wouldn't talk to me, so I started drinking with his best friend, and got a little drunk, so started flirting with his friend cody, just to make him jealous. (yeah I know it's not cool that I used his friend, but his friend was totally into it, so whatever.) so jay just got more mad, so my bestfriend talked to him, and was like whats wrong? and he's like nothing, and she's like well like why'd you get mad? do you like her or something? and he's all like I don't know I'm confused. so I started telling him I hate him and such, while holding onto his friend cody, so he ended up getting so mad, and leaving, and told his friend "to go for the gold" (aka get some action)which is so mean, but I know he was just super mad. and like I'm just totally confused, and it's been a week since this happend, and I have no idea what to do. like do I talk to him? and apologize for being a jerk? or do I wait til I see him, which will probably be on this weekend, and talk to him in person? I just don't know what to do. and does it not seem like he likes me, like if he got that mad just because I kissed again, when we weren;t even dating, let alone talking:S? please help :):) thanks in advance.

i think you need to try your hardest to fix what happened before you have to face him again. that would most likely be the most awkward moment of your life if there is still tension between the 2 of you.
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Alright, well there is this one guy that I've been hanging out with, but basically we're only friends so far. Everyone says that he likes me, and I like him, but I'm not sure about his feelings.

I'm not sure if I should make the first move and ask him out, or wait a little longer and see if he does?

well you should make the first move. if you like him and you are comfortable around him then its a good chance that things will happen in your favor!!
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My bf keeps telling me what girls hot, and etc. It lowers myself-esteem. How do I look sexxy, so he looks at me, more then them. How can i plan hard to get, for him to want me more. I just want him to want me still.. we've been together for a year and a half.. so dont go saying breakup. Its not that harsh.

((sorry if you've seen this question twice.. the other one got deleted.. sorry))

well your bf is a shallow dick and he needs to change for you. but if you want advice on how to sex it up a little bit try polos' that button a little lover and a cami that is lower cut so you can show off a little skin. tight pants are always good.(just dont go buying uncomfortable pants that will cut off your circulation!!)i also would NOT recoment short skirts. that might make you seem a little bit slutty. also...dont become an easy little tramp. that will please him for a while but then he will come up with something like you are too loose for me and leace you on the curb. i should know...its happened to my friend and i end up having to deal with her tears. but dont do anything that you are uncomfortable with. that always leads to trouble.
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ok... so im confused... well i've been treated like pure shit when it comes to boyfriends... they all start out amazing but end terribly... i no alot of relationships end badly but this is pretty ridiculous... my last one we were dating for like 5 months... the day he left for vacation he told me he loved me... 9 days later when he got back from mexico he broke up w/ me... he really didnt have a reason... and i havent done anything to make him all of the sudden want to break up.... the only thing he said is he was going into highschool (i already go to the highschool) and it is going to be cross country season (which i thought was a poor excuse becasue i play tennis)... well i know you dont want to read alot.... but seriously i want to talk to some people (ill tell you about myself so maybe you can help me understand y this keeps happening) but basically i really dont understand and im confused becasue i dont know y some guys are like this.. i told myself that they were just stupid and made a mistake... hopfully u can tell me... but before you do i think you need to know about me.... so please respond and ill tell you about me

my only answer for this is guys are dicks. they only know how to be dicks. most of them are just afraid of commitment. some of them dont realise what they have. the rest just dont know what they want. if this has happened to you a lot... then im not trying to be mean when i say this but maybe you just have bad taste in men. this will change whe you find someone who truly loves you and means it when they say this. there is someone out there for you. just try not to end up with someone who doesnt appreciate you.
hope i helped!
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I've been in a committed relationship with my boyfriend for over 3 years now. I suppose to everyone else he's a dog- thats just what I've been told, but it was never the most important thing to me. He has the best personality and he's hilarious. My problem is, I've started fantasizing a lot, and I know its ok to do sometimes, that its normal and all, but I can't stop. I can't stop wishing he had a hot body like some of our friends. When those friends are around, I find myself flirting shamelessly because I'm just overcome with lust! He's said he's going to start working out and that he wants to get fit, be more attractive physically, but he's not very motivated. I want to stop fantasizing- it makes me feel so guilty! I'm starting to pull away from his affection because I can't help but notice his love handles or spare tire or whatever. My body is less than perfect, but its not that bad because I work out and take care of it. Is it wrong of me to feel this way? How do people deal with these feelings???

well if you say that you are commited and you tell people that your commited and you tell him that you are commited...then BE COMMITED! dont be shallow and dump him or any other drastic measures because he doesnt have a 'hot bod' like all of your other friends. if you truly love him then things like that shouldnt bother you.
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if my boyfriend went down on me= with kanker sores what would happan?

uh... im not really sure but you should be searching for something unusuial like a sooer. if any appear see a doctor immediatly. but if not just be careful.
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