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a friendship turning into something more
m/18
recently I've gotten a new atatude(sp?) on life due to the fact i've joined the army and lost 37 pounds, now if that isn't a confidence booster I don't know what is. but anyway i've liked one of my friends for quiet a long time about 2 years now come to think of it, and two days ago I asked her out... unfortunately(sp?) she is going out with someone that she knew in high school and he is off at college but she's back here and quite frankly stuck at home till the spring semester starts. The reason i'm asking this question is that i don't know my chances of he actually calling it of with the guy, btw they have broken up before and their relationship is patchy at best... and going with me. when I left her house two days ago she was really pondering the thought of did she actually like her current bf... and when we hugged and said our goodbyes to eachother I told her that even if she didn't choose to go out with me I was happy I told her and she responded "I'm glad too"*she smiles* the only thing is that i haven't heard from her in two days so i'm a little nervous about the whole thing... exp since we are supposed to hang out today at noon or so... if anyone is still up at this time it'd be a great help to know your thoughts on my stiuation
thankyou
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I think you should take things slow. Let her decide for herself. She already knows that you like her.
And just a personal opinion, when she said "I'm glad too" , it means that she's glad to have you as a friend. Yeap. She smiled cos she's glad she has you as a good friend.
It's relatively easy to get a girl to like you. Just be very nice and caring towards her. Simple.
Reply to your feedback: Haha, yeah you're right; it isnt simple.
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it's atitude
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Well I would try not to worry about it all that much. She might be confused, or feel that she can't do anything with you due to her on again/off again relationship with this other guy. I'd just take it as a friendship with her, and leave the ball in her court. If she changes her mind, she'll let you know if she's interested.
Besides, if you are in the Army now, I'd avoid relationships with people 'back home', unless there is enough of a connection that if something were to develop relationship-wise the woman would be willing to chase you around the world everytime you come up on orders. Otherwise, it'll be an awkward long-distance relationship /shrug. In my 4 years in the Army, I only saw this kind of thing work once or twice, and that was between high-school sweethearts who got married. Every other time, things fell apart.
Your 18, single, and in the military - do what everyone else does. Go out locally where you are stationed and meet single people you dont have to fly or take a bus to see. You dont have to write this girl off, but I wouldnt get your hopes up for anything more than being friends.
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