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is it best 2 talk to my boyfriend about having a baby
ok im 17 and want a kid. ok i do see that its gona be hard and that is probly not best to have a kid yet. but do you think it might help me change my mind bout having a kid if i speak to my boyfriend.
what could the out comes be? im scared if i tell him that he will get worride and leave me. but i dont want to keep something like this from him.
please help me some one.
thanks
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you should talk to him. if he truly loves you he wont leave you. if he wants a kid he will tell u, or maybe he wants to wait till your older, or maybe he just doesnt want kids. if he leaves u telling him u want a kid then he is not worth it at all. dont like demand a kid, just suggest it.. hope i helped
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If you cant talk to the person your planning on having a baby with about either having the baby or not then your not ready. So yes talk to your boyfriend, I doubt he will leave you just because a conversation, not like your pregnant yet right?
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well, since he's only your boyfriend and you're only 17 and not even married yet, I think telling him you want to have a kid would only scare him, and you don't want to do that. it's really your choice... if you wan't to tell him then no one's stopping you, but i think you shouldn't tell him. if you don't want to keep this to yourself, then tell your friends sweetie.
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you should tell him. and if he reacts baddly then he wasnt worth your time or your body.
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Honestly most of us are given that want to nurture a child, to admire and all that, so dont beat yourself over for wanting. However, seventeen is very young,and babies cost money,lots of time, and more money!!! Eduacation is power, and eventually money....career, you know..having a baby b4 you finish that can really stress you out. Some guys love to stay bachelors, and very few guys think that having a child at that age or younger wont cramp thier style. While the boyfriend might sa yes now....u dont want him to resent you, and I dont want you to resent him..if things go wrong. They're so many risks, and your reputation will be tainted. AND here is a big one (at least to me) lets just say you have a child and ypu and your boyfriend break up, not many men your age or college age, want to start seeing a female with a child..they are to much of a punk to accept the responsibility for drama that might come. You also have to be careful becuse a child watches everything yo do, so partying and goin on dates will be a compromised situation for u..believe Iknow, my sister, at 19 thought she was sooo in love and had a baby, she loves him to death,(he is now 7), but juggling a job, bills, added babysitting fees, sitting down and doing homework, and then on top of that dealing with your chiold's mouth...believe whe I say that is stress you dont need!!! Hope I helped
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Just tell your boyfriend that not to take it like that it has to happen but you just want to know if he's okay with what you want,discuss it have him say his version, and that his opinion matters to you so that's why you came to him to speak about it.The outs may be that you will have to spend a lot of time taking care of the baby,not have time for you to enjoy life like a normal teenager,you will have to get a job to maintain the baby,most mom's that had kids at a young age dropped out of school to devote their life to their baby,only few don't but it's very hard though since they have homeworks,projects or to study for exams,have to come home, and take care of their child.So think about this very well.
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I personally think that 17 is too young for children. My cousin's 16, and she's like, 4 months pregnant. I'm not disappointed in her, I'm happy for her, but I'm kinda ashamed that she didn't wait til she was older. Anyways, I'd talk to your boyfriend about it & see what he wants, but even if he does want kids, I'd wait a few more years. No teenager is physically or mentally stable to handle a child.
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No, you don't.
You will have no life for a pretty long time. While all of your friends are out, you'll be home with the baby, or payig a bunch to a babysitter.
And if you don't do that, then you will dump the baby on your parents. They already raised yu. They do't want more kids.
PLEASE wait to have a baby.
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Wow. You're way to young to have a baby. I'm not even kidding. You should want what's best for your child, & having a teenage mother, & a father that may not stick around is definitely not good. Anyway, if you have your mind set on the matter, you should definitely talk to your boyfriend about it. I hope you make the right choice. [:
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