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i really like this guy and we're hanging out in a few days. he wants me to choose what we're gonna do but i have no idea what to do. does anyone know of some fun things/places to do/go? i need helpp :(
oh by the way im 16.
go karting...movies....laser tag...bowling...eating...
so i like this guy and this guy likes me. we've been talking for a couple months and finally expressed our feelings over the weekend. i was thrilled. we planned a date and when i called him to confirm times and such the next day he said that he can't be in a relationship right now. i know he still likes me but what does it mean that he can't be in a relationship right now? what are reasons that a guy would say that?
he might not be sure of his feelings right now, ask him to explain himself...wait for him to come to you, because it sounded like he second guessed himself after he told you he liked u...talk to him then take a step back, have him take the initiative
So Ill try to make this as short as I can, but I've liked this guy name Jamie for a while. Like a year and a halff. He liked me back for a while also and we kind of hooked up and were supposed to go on a date. but ever since then it never went any further because he said he thought my "pussy smelt" but just because hes never done things like that with other girls before and he thought it was "weird" so he randomly started ignoring me even though he was always reallyyy nice. Well after a longg time and fights and ignoring etc. we started talking like normal againn, and he even started calling me alot and stuff. But then, randomly on the phone he's like " Oh, well I gtg, well not really but, I want to" so I said okayy? fine byee. After that we were talking a lott on msnn, and he was flirting with me and stuff and being really nice. And I told him I liked him and he said :O I thought you liked sam? (This other guy I liked). So I told him yeah but he keeps calling me and stuff and I liek guys that are hard to get (half as a joke half not)much after that and he stopped talking as much on msn. And when I saw him on the city bus he just smiled? when I said hi.When I asked him about it he said oh sorry I didnt mean to ignore you, I smiled? With my sleeve over my mouth. I dont know if he was joking or what? Do you have any advice on thiss? Or anything you think about it all would help, thanks :).
no offense, but this guy sounds like a jerk, u should have stopped talking to himmafter he insulted ure "lower region"...he sounds wishy washy and he is playing games with you....I suggest, if he does something else, tell him off, and stop talking to him...maybe he'll even come around if you stop giving him the time of day for while...make him miss you, cuz jerks dont deerve u
Hope I helped
XOXOXO
Ugh... GUY PROBLEMS... AGAIN. Haha. Well i will keep it short bc i myself hate reading long ones. Well i like this guy who is a friend. We talk a lot on myspace and aim. He's always the one to say hi first and stuff. Idk i kind of get the vibe he likes me but i'm not sure. we talk in person too but not so much lately. I really like him. Ok but some girl from another school asked him to her sadies. Ugh the little slut. Haha not really a slut. Ok so how do you think i can win him. Or just get him to like me. Are there any techniques to hinting i like him? HELPPPP
ok, so its not so much about winning him, because i think u already have him hooked, its just about putting yourself out there. You want to put ureself in a posistion where you are the one he is thinking about when he is alone. When you see him, talk to him, walk by him and flash a gorgeus smile, its the little things that get boys' minds wrapped around you. Put yourself out there a little. You want him wanting you...if you really like him...fight for him girl...continue doing what your doing on myspace and aim. Dont so much focus on "winning", focus on keeping him, and more
Hope I helped!
okay so
this guy (not my boyfriend...though we act like we're going out) when we're together...well we're all over each other. like ill sit in his lap and he'll have his arms around me...we tease each other and talk to each other in baby voices...hold each others hands everywhere, lean our heads on each other, rub eachothers legs, give each other massages, kiss... yada yada.
and im sooooooo happy.
theres just one issue.
like
when we're leaving
like
we just leave
we say bye, see you (whenever)
or what ever
but like
it just seems so unfriendly!
like
a hug would be nice
how can i make him see that??? without asking him, i dont wanna seem over clingy and stuff since we "arent going out"
well it wouldnt seem clingy if you bring it up in a casual random coversation, but a more subtle and less nerve racking approach would be to make the first move, like give him a hug or smile at him before he leaves...but before u talk to him, you need to find out how he feels about you guys' relationship. Like maybe if he feels like you guys are just friends with benefits then he wont see the need to be sincere in saying good bye...however, I think that making the first move like hugging b4 saying goodbye...if he does it back and seems like he likes that, then keep doing what ure doing...if he seems to pull back, either go back to normal or talk to him about it
Hope I helped
i have this really good friend and i was wondering how can i flirt with him? or just drop some hints without telling him to his face, also when the time is right i was thinking of giving him a note saying how i feel about him but like what would i write? and would that be a good idea? i never done this before please help, thanks
16/f
Well, to flirt with him make it a gradual process, so if he does not feel the same way its not a flat out disappointment for you. Like do a little at first: maybe touching his arm, horsing around by jumping on his back, talk to him on the phone, make flirty jokes. Then if he doenst resist, start maybe leaning your head on his shoulders, hugging him closely, making jokes that could be interpreted as flirting or not, . And keep on progressing, then when you get really close to him, and able to be really comfortable with each other, and you think he's taking the bait, ask HIM (not you first) how he feels about you, and you may even volunteer some of your feeligns on him. I hope all goes well. I am actually doing it now, and its all about trial and error, gradually egetting forward and blunt. I think I'm doing good so far...so I have faith you will end up with your friend if that is what you want
Hope I helped
hey
ive had sex like, 10 times with my bf and he sticks his penis really deep in and so it feels really good, except for when he uses a glove. is it weird for it to feel kinda itchy? also, when we do oral we wanna spice it up. what are some styles so that its more fun and naughty?
Ummm, its not necessarily for you to itching in any kind of way after sex. For the spicing it up, I heard that having sex in the shower and giving him head will excite and give you a new way of pleasure, be flexible and bold, try any new ideas, grab a cosmopolitan mag, they def. have ideas
my boyfriend and i have been going out for almost two months, and i used to really like him. i had liked him for almost a year and then once we got together (maybe after a month or so) all of my stronger feelings for him just faded away. i was positive that i was in love with him when we were just friends, but now i can barely stand him at times. it seems like i can't even flirt with other boys and that sometimes bothers me. i feel like i was waiting for just so long and then once i finally got it, i wasn't into it anymore. this has really been bothing me because i don't know if i should break up with him or just wait and see. i'm his first "official" girlfriend and i'm afraid i'll crush him if i break up with him. please help me!!! what should i do??
Just because he hasnt had a girlfriend before does not mean you should spare him a break up, its your happiness hun, maybe the fact that you wanted him for so long it became your gaol, and once you reached it it doesnt seem as appealing. I say if you dont like him, its time to break up, but if there is a still a chance, talk to him and give him a little bit longer. It sounds like you want to be free again, go for what you think you need
14/f
k well i kinda have 2 questions here.
1:
like me and my friend dante got really close this year as friends but just friends and i'm always laying on him when i'm tired like just putting my head on his shoulder. i mean i'm just really comfortable around him.but is that wierd though because we are just friends?
2:
this guy i'm talking to right now, steven, is a really sweet guy and we both like eachother but were not going out just yet because he just got out of a realationship and wants a break. well taht's what he told me. i only get to see him in the morning so i kinda want to know how to be more flirtatious and alittle more forward without seeming awkward you know?
thank you so much =]
1. no its not weird at all, every girl needs a friend that she can be so comfortable around that she can be affectionate with without hving an agenda. You know the kind that you can lay on top of without anythought, just because. The kind you can be close with without feelings. Just don't lose that
ok so im a 15 year old girl and for two years idk
why but i think girls are hot i can't help but look at there bodies and stuff and i actually have and internet girlfriend but i know i like guys to but they don't really you know make me happy sexually i mean i can see myself doing it with a girl and a boy together but i can't with just a boy and idk why i need total help . i know for years ive been tryin to hide that i think girls are hotter than guys but know that im about to be 16 i want to figure out my sexuality and have it out in the open so i can start looking for that special someone so any advice will be greatly appreciated thanks in advance .
Sorry to break it to you hunny but I think you are a lesbian, thats ok, but i think your still stuck on guys because that is what you are taught is natural, but dont fight the feeling if you've felt this way for years now. Because your obviously confused I want you, as slutty as this seems, to go on a random date with a guy... dont be too forward but get pretty far, if you think it is too weird and you are sure that guys are not for you, then by all means, be happy with you know you are. In the words of Chris Crocker: " Love yourself, know yourself, because who else knows you better than you." I hope everything works out. Be yourself. BUt first find out who that is. Hope I helped XOXOXOX
ok i'm going to start off here ...ok i loss my virginity in sep. to this really cute sweet guy.((he's my bff cousin)) and we've had sex together 3 times and out of all this time he never told me that he had a girlfriend my bff and him live together ... to make a longggggg story short he broke up with his gf like a couple of weeks ago and before that i gave him a love letter telling him how i feel about him. but anyways now since he's single he havent said any thing about the letter but i go over there almost every weekend and the tension is there im very shy around him and he know that i love him and i just wanna pounce on him sooo bad ...ok hes single now but i wanna be his girl friend badly... how do i tell him verbaly that i do ... p.s i have his number but never calls ...o yeah he called me umm monday but i was in the shower i diddnt call back help me i really love him
ok, so this sounds like this could work in your favor. Dont go too much longer without talking about the love letter. You need to know how he feels about you...not just reasong his actions and body languages but hearing him say it. I've been in this situation, and waited almost two weeks before i or him brought it up, because I was nervous, like I'm guessing you are, beause you dont know waht he is really going to say. But I did it subtlely. i told him that I knew that he read it, and that i knew that he knew that he had to say something about it eventually (yes I made it sound confusing on purpose, to make it a lighter atmosphere). Anyway he got the picture, and i let him bring it up...no matter what exactly he says, you have to hear him say what he feels. I loved the guy too, so i know how you feel. BUt you have to confront him...about him having sex w/you and having a girlfriend and then breaking up with her, and where that leaves you guys. With my situation, I talked with him on the phone the same day he read it, and he never brought it up. So you have to take the initiative. I hope he says what you hope that he says. I hope I helped!
Ok so is the show comming back on?! I mean come on you can't just leave it at Blair decideing not to leave!!
ALSO, i'm reading the prequel and Only in Your Dreams
so don't give away info that are after the book or in the prequel
so i need to know how many books are in the series. i think someone told me there were like only 12 but in the back of the prequel it says that she is starting up again. but i don't know...
please answer!
The new episode will come back in the middle of April....like the 15th or something
so i have like 5 really ugly pimple scars on my face.. they are scabby and brown/purpleish and i was wondering what i can put on them to minimize the appereance of them
ok, if you dont want to spend the money on PRoactiv, then get Clean and Clear acne spot treatment, you can get the whole package with the face wash, or just get the gel tube...it reduces the look of acne (i use it personaly and it does work) or if its simply just the scars and not actually the acne that is the problem, then you can get Neutrogena Visibly Clear foaming cleanser the brown and white tubish bottle brightens skin and evens your skin tone and softens your skin immediately (ive used it too, but it takes awhile)
Hope i helped!
Okay, so i have a boyfriend of 3, almost 4 months. He is one of the sweetest guys i have come across in a long while, but lately, that has changed. For the past 3 weeks he has barely been hanging out with me, or talking to me. He is apologizing and "trying to fix it" but its just hard to deal with, really hard.
While on the other hand, i have another boy that likes me. That i liked before me and my boyfriend started dating, but i just found out he likes me, about 3 weeks to a month ago. We talk a lot [just as friends for now] and hang out, and i am starting to like him more and more. And he is a lot sweeter to me than even my own boyfriend is at this point, and i feel like i want to be with him.
The catch is, i am my boyfriend's first real girlfriend and he is a junior in highschool, while i am a sophomore, so i would feel bad to be his first broken heart, especially if he really is trying to fix things, and i have no idea what to do.
Well, think about your happiness first...u being his first girlfriend should not be ure excuse for him. I think that you should sit down and have a heart to heart with your boyfriend. Tell him that things just havent been the same lately and that you are feeling like you guys' relationship is being strained, and may possibly be ending, if you and him dont make the effort. Then, hear his response. If his answer seems heartfelt, try it for like two more weeks, and see if it is alot better and if he's trying. If his response is so that you think its not worth it...i suggest you end it, and then continue talking to the other sweeet guy. If you do end up breaking up with your boyfriend, try not to rush into things with the other guy, that way you ensure that you are over and done with your boyfriend, and that you really want to be with the other.
Hope I helped!
for some reason, it never fails, after sex i get a bad urinary tract infection. my mother is beginning to wonder why i keep getting these out of the blue. is there anything that can prevent this?
I think you should see a doctor, or if you want it to be anonymous, google a nearby hospital, get a random woman doctor's bio, and get the email (I know this sounds stupid, but it will work.). Email the doctor, and see what she says. THat way, she will give you an unbiased opinion on what is the problem and how to solve it. Till then, you may want to obstain from sex until you find the reason.
Hope this helps
17 female!
im in 12th grade. and in school, i talk to the hockey boys alot :) i dont know why but im just attracted to them. well i have these two boys nick and ben in two of my classes. they both have girlfriends. in our third hour nicks girlfriend is in our class with us but i dont really talk to them in there but our last hour they are always yelling my last name and stuff. and like today they were like COME HERE! and then i was like what and bens like i have to ask you something. and i was like what? and hes like will you go out with me and i just start laughing and hes like no im serious im like yeah thats why your going out with your girlfriend. and hes like no i dumped her. i know he was joking but then nick is like well if he wasnt going out with her would you go out with him? i probably would but i was like no! hahaha and then its freezing in that class, and i asked nick if i could wear his hockey jacket during class and ben is like noo dont let her she makes me want to kill myself because she wont go out with me. like jokingly. but then he gave it to me and ben walked away and i took his pencil back to my "lab table" with me and sat down. well all of a sudden i hear ben go, where is my pencil!! and then, he comes up from behind me and wraps his arms around me and takes me off of my seat. and when we line up at the door at the end of class and talk, ben was just staring at me. and i was like what are you doing! and i pushed his face the other way. and when us three were walking they were like hey hold hands with me, and i was in the middle and bens like i'll take front and you take back nick and they start laughing. they are always like you going to hangout with us today? and im like ummm no! because i always think they're joking around. i never know when they are being totally serious and i dont want to make a fool of myself...but i dont want to make them think i dont like them you know.
do you think they are serious about anything they say or do!?
thanks so much
It honestly sounds like at least one of them is serious. The question you have to ask yourself is: are they naturally flirty, and do they flirt with other girls like they do with you. If you like them, and want to know if one of them are serious, one day, try taking to joke farther. Play along with them, and see how far you guys will get. If they are just joking, by the time you take the joke farther, they will let you know (verbally or by expression) whether they are joking. If they get serious, or take the joke even farther, then I think at least ben is serious. Then again, maybe they are just attracted to you, and like flirting. But dont push them away. Play along, and see where it takes you.
hope i helped
ooook so there is this guy. i met him in 2006 and ever since, he's all i've thought of. everything in my life i do to impress him or whatnot. hes one of my close friends and he knows i used to like him, although im sure he knows i still do. whenever im with him i just feel...happy. i feel like life is perfect and like i never want to go home. and when im not with him, i feel crappy. i feel self-conscious, depressed, etc. did i mention he goes to another school and i only see him like once every 3 weeks? so, as you can expect thats a lot of time feeling depressed and crappy.
i want my life to move on. usually about once a month i try to get a life of my own and make other friends and try not thinking about him. but it never works and im beginning to think it never will. so this is where i turn to advicenators. i need help. im sick of feeling depressed, im sick of not having my own life, im sick of my crappy friends who never want to talk about real-life problems, im just sick of the life i claim to live.
any thoughts?
funny thing is, I am kinda in the same situation, exvept i live 50 miles away from him, and I see him every weekend. But its not that i feel depressed when I'm not around him, but I just dont feel like talking to a whole lot of other people. So this is what you should do....win win situation: continue being around him whenever you can, since he makes you feel happy, but during the time that you are not with him, it is important to make a concious and hard effort to strike up conversations with other people (girls and es. guys). That way you are occupied, and you will start to feel better about yourself. Find other ways to occupy yourself. And another big suggestion (if you dont dothis already) start talking on the phone with the guy that you only see once every three weeks. Its easier to be away from someone if you keep in close contact during the week...whether it be phone, email, myspace, facebook, etc.
It will get easier....but only if you believe it will
I hope everything works out
XOXO
btw and if you are religious (cuz I am) ....try praying
my boyfriend used to be the one to care more and like me more and everything so he used to tell me to care more and now im the one who is overcaring and telling him i love him..he used to tell me he loves me and now doesnt anymore because he says i take it too seriously..how do i get him to do nice things for me again and show me again that he DOES care..please help me im so hurt. =[
Well, since he is your boyfriend, you should def. talk to him abotu how you are feeling. But dont sit down and talk tooo solemnly, so he wont think that you are backing him into a corner. You should stop telling him you love him as much, and back off just a little. That way, if he does still care, he will pick up the slack. Maybe he wants to be the one to do that stuff. Act like you dont care. But still be a good girlfriend. Its possble. I really hope you save relationship.
XOXO
So i want to get my boyfriend (13) something for christmas. Not to expensive ($20). any ideas? i've already ruled out video games, cologne, and clothes. i really appreciate it your help. We've been going out for about 3 monthes and he said he'll like what ever i get him but i dont want to get him something stupid =P
PS- i was thinking a movie. any good movies?
you can get him a tie....or better yet get him a gift card to a video game store, or his favorite store. Put like $10-20 on it, and a nice heartfelt card. Thats the best, thats what i got my boy friend.
Hope you take my advice
XOXOXO
whats the difference between loving someone and being in love with them?
Good example ummm, the boy I like and am also good friends with. I love him. And not just as a friend, I honestly love him, but I am not in love him. I think it is more that you are in love with someone, when it is mutual. Like if me and the boy I like ever end up together, it will be then when i fall in lvoe with him. Also, it is better to love someone first on your own, because you can fall in and out of love with someone. And when you do , if you loved them first it is easier to part ways, and be somewhat satisfied .I hope i answered your question.
XOXO