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Two boy difficulty..
Okay, so i have a boyfriend of 3, almost 4 months. He is one of the sweetest guys i have come across in a long while, but lately, that has changed. For the past 3 weeks he has barely been hanging out with me, or talking to me. He is apologizing and "trying to fix it" but its just hard to deal with, really hard.
While on the other hand, i have another boy that likes me. That i liked before me and my boyfriend started dating, but i just found out he likes me, about 3 weeks to a month ago. We talk a lot [just as friends for now] and hang out, and i am starting to like him more and more. And he is a lot sweeter to me than even my own boyfriend is at this point, and i feel like i want to be with him.
The catch is, i am my boyfriend's first real girlfriend and he is a junior in highschool, while i am a sophomore, so i would feel bad to be his first broken heart, especially if he really is trying to fix things, and i have no idea what to do.
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you got a good heart. but sometimes a girl has to do what a girl has to do. give the kid 2 more weeks if he dosen't shape up get with the guy YOU like ! good luck :p
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I'd give your relationship a little more time, that is, me assuming that you genuinely liked your boyfriend and were happy with him when you started dating. He could have a real reason for not being able to see you. It could be something is going on at home, it's crunch time at school and he's ultra behind in his work, or something completely personal. In a relationship, or at least, the ones that last a while, you have to be able to give people that breathing room, to not see them all the time. Yeah, it sucks, but it happens. Part of holding on to someone is being able to let them go a little.
As for this new guy, the reason why you should wait before getting together with him, no matter if you stay with your boyfriend or not, is you could be using him to fill up the void caused by your boyfriend's busyness. You found out he liked you as soon as your boyfriend got busier. A lot of you talking to him, egging him on in some ways, was probably your way of getting to feel the attention that your boyfriend has not been giving you. You may or may not actually like this person in a genuine way, and the only way to know that would be to break up with your current boyfriend and wait some time. Think about it. What if something happened to this new guy that made him unable to see you as regularly for an amount of time? Would you immediately leave him or would you give him a chance, wait for him?
If some more time passes and your boyfriend doesn't seem to have fixed anything; you figure that he only can see you very rarely and you're not okay with this, then you can consider moving on.
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Well, think about your happiness first...u being his first girlfriend should not be ure excuse for him. I think that you should sit down and have a heart to heart with your boyfriend. Tell him that things just havent been the same lately and that you are feeling like you guys' relationship is being strained, and may possibly be ending, if you and him dont make the effort. Then, hear his response. If his answer seems heartfelt, try it for like two more weeks, and see if it is alot better and if he's trying. If his response is so that you think its not worth it...i suggest you end it, and then continue talking to the other sweeet guy. If you do end up breaking up with your boyfriend, try not to rush into things with the other guy, that way you ensure that you are over and done with your boyfriend, and that you really want to be with the other.
Hope I helped!
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