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hey, its marisa. i give pretty good advice so ask away. i've been through a lot in my life soo i will probably be able to relate to a lot of stuff. thanks for reading! feel free to ask any question!

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My best friend is a guy (im a girl) so we like to go places together (movies, mall) and i always sit with him at lunch. I have most of my classes with him (which is great) and trust me, i do have a lot o friends that r girlz too.
So theres this kid and she absolutely hates me (and we used to b friends) but ever since i hung out with Nick, she has been like spreading rumors about me and making things up! Its really annoying. (she is very popular and "perfect" so ppl believez her)
She is trying to make my life a liv in hell. HELP!

just tell everyone who believes her the truth. talk to the girl who is spreading rumors and tell her that its not nice to spread rumors and find out why she is doing it. if its a reason that you can fix, fix it. if you can't, keep telling her that you really don't like it. hopefully she'll stop. if not, you should talk to nick and ask nick to ask the girl to stop. maybe she'll listen to him if not you. talk to nick also and ask nick to help stop the spreading rumors. hope this helps :)

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Well theres this guy that i like...well idk if i do or not...but yeah...i think he likes me too...but we are really good friends and always hang out...so n-e-wayz...he asked me out but idk if i wanna go out with hime b/c that might ruin our friendship...rite? How can i tell him without hurting him?

Well, that is actually happening with me right now. only he didn't ask me out and i'm almost positive the boy likes me. & we are really good friends & i think it'd kinda ruin our friendship also if we did go out. but have you ever heard of the saying, "you can turn friendship into love but not love into friendship?" well, you could try going out with him and if you don't like the way its turning out, you can talk to him and say you'd rather just be friends. or you can talk to him beforehand just in case things get too serious. i hope this helps :)

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Alright I am a really big fan of music i listen to ANYTHING except Country and Gospel and i really am looking for some good new music to listen to. Hear are just some of the people i listen to :Chamillionaire, Hinder, Panic At the Disco, 50 Cent Eminem, DKM, Nickelback,Bone Thugs, Trillville, Metallica, Papa Poach basicaly anything rap rock pop punk i just need some good new songs to download or good old songs that you can never forget you know what i mean? just answer with a few of you fav titles thanks all i'll rate you well if you gimme some good songs old or new.

heyy. i have a decent amount of new songs. i actually just recently discovered these songs. they are all amazing. however, i can only put a limited amount on here. these are the ones i honestly love the best:

best of me- the starting line
my own worst enemy- lit
hurricane- something corporate
cross my heart- the rocket summer
makedamnsure- taking back sunday
as lovers go- dashboard confessional
goodnight, goodnight- hot hot heat
juicy, a lifetime (2 seperate songs)-better than ezra
buttons- pussycat dolls
just the girl- click 5
all fall out boy songs are amazing
bad day- daniel powter
dark blue, bruised, the mixtape (3 diff. songs)- jack's mannequin
over my head & how to save a life- the fray
revolution & 4ever- the veronicas

i know some of these are almost like alternative, but i guess it's good to try new music once and a while. right? hope some of these you'll like.

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What are the whole lyrics to the song that goes "If you had a bad day...take it one down...sing a sad song just to turn it around" I dont even know if that is exactly right. I hope that made sense... LOL...

THANX!

bad day, by daniel powter.
love that song:
Where is the moment we needed the most
You kick up the leaves and the magic is lost
They tell me your blue skies fade to gray
They tell me your passion's gone away
And I don't need no carryin' on

You stand in the line just to hit a new low
You're faking a smile with the coffee you go
You tell me your life's been way off line
You're falling to pieces every time
And I don't need no carryin' on

Because you had a bad day
You're taking one down
You sing a sad song just to turn it around
You say you don't know
You tell me don't lie
You work at a smile and you go for a ride
You had a bad day
The camera don't lie
You're coming back down and you really don't mind
You had a bad day
You had a bad day

Will you need a blue sky holiday?
The point is they laugh at what you say
And I don't need no carryin' on

You had a bad day
You're taking one down
You sing a sad song just to turn it around
You say you don't know
You tell me don't lie
You work at a smile and you go for a ride
You had a bad day
The camera don't lie
You're coming back down and you really don't mind
You had a bad day

(Oooh.. a holiday..)

Sometimes the system goes on the bling
And the whole thing turns out wrong
You might not make it back and you know
That you could be well oh that strong
And I'm not wrong

(yeah...)

So where is the passion when you need it the most
Oh you and I
You kick up the leaves and the magic is lost

Cause you had a bad day
You're taking one down
You sing a sad song just to turn it around
You say you don't know
You tell me don't lie
You work at a smile and you go for a ride
You had a bad day
You've seen what you like
And how does it feel for one more time
You had a bad day
You had a bad day

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My boyfriend is the best person I have ever met he loves church, Me, and his family and I love is personalitiy but he is not all that cut i mean he's cute but not sexy the thing i hate most about him is his eyes and lips there big big but i dont want to break up with him because his mom just died and he need someone to talk to more than ever now cause he is goin through a lot what should I do signed CONFUSED.

you really shouldhn't judge people how the way they look. just like everyone, they were born the way they are. its not like they can choose what eyes and nose and mouth they want before they are born. we all come with what we've got. & we can change it with plastic surgery and learn to work around them in the future. but that's one of the most shallowest things i've ever heard of. especially if you've known him for a long time. so you know the personality. i'd say you should give the poor guy another chance. try to get past his face. try to get to his heart. & only focus on his personality. he seems sweet. think about it. & if he needs help, help him as much as you can. put yourself in his place and think about what he's going through. hard times. people can never go through those hard times alone. he really needs someone. hope it all goes well.

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when i'm with a group of people, i get really shy and i never know what to say. when i'm around just a few people i'm really loud & outgoing. like tonight, after my soccer game we went out to dinner with the team. everyone was laughing and screaming, but i was really shy and not "hyper" as they called it. and those kids are my friends so it's not because i didnt know them. i tried speaking up and being outgoing, but the more i tried to like fit in, the shyer i got. it was so weird. but then again, in school the teachers all yell at me because i never shut up. how come i'm shy around certain people but REALLY loud others? oh, and don't say i don't feel comfortable around them because i do. and how do i step out of my shy zone and become outgoing (to the people i'm shy with.) what are some things to bring up in a conversation and stuff? i really dount know why im like this.

signed,
confused

i have felt the exact same way. for me, i just can't help myself but just change my attitude around certain people, even if they are my friends. i've learned over past experiences that certain people can get small doses of me at a time. so i learn to back off of those people sometimes. but for you, i suggest even if you feel weird trying to fit in, try it. i know it feels embarrassing. maybe you even feel like you're gonna die standing there. i'm sure the people who are talking the most probably embarrass themselves the most. they've probably learned to push themselves and not hold back because if they don't go ahead and talk, they'll be having no progress in their social life. so try to speak up a little more, think about good topics to talk about, something you know you're able to talk about for a while. music, food, tv, movies. those are good subjects. i know for me, i could talk for a long time about itt. you'll eventually get used to it and start being more social and hopefully fit in more. i hope this helps!!!

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I was shaving my legs last night and I got to the back of my upper legs (between the back of my knee and my butt) and it hurt for some reason. It felt like a sore that you've scratched so much its like raw. Well it wasn't really hurting when I went to sleep but all today during school its hurt like when I sat at my desk and stuff and I don't even know what it is and it swelled up. It basically looks like a sore that you've scratched so much and now its in the form of a bump. But I've never scratched there or anything...

2 words. razor burn, hun! i personally don't shave that far up, but i've had experiences where i've done that and it hurts. i suggest that after you shave, use some kind of lotion to moisturize your skin like kind that is made for extremely dry skin. i hope this helps!

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you know how people always say like i wanna be original and stuff but copy other things. its really annoying to me. and i kindove have a habbit of noticing that and like taking action. especially when someone copies my friends. and they are all like "OMG IM SO ORGINAL BLAHH BLAHH" then go and copy. im like wtf man? you know!.. so i dont really know what top do. its bad because i overreact on alot of things. but i really dont understand why people do that.. so help?

thankss! oh & nice info.. *COUGHH*

is this kelly?

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this year, i feel that i have started to change. I notice that my friends are best friends with other people and it's harder for me to understand them. We hardly talk like we used to and everyone seems to not find me as "interesting" as before. what's going on with me?

hey. i can definetly relate to that. a lot of my past best friends whom i still talk to but we are not as close as we used to be. nothing is wrong with you and every girl around the age of 13/14 change. [emotionally and physically.] so don't blame it on yourself and im sure your friends are probably all going through the same changes you are and maybe in a year or so it'll start to get easier with the relationship with your friends. in the meantime, don't rush things and hopefully everything will fall in it's place. you could also maybe try to make some new friends and see if that helps. ;)

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i have this friend named sarah. except i dont think shes my friend anymore and heres why: me and sarah have been friends for quite a few years. but this year theres a problem. all of a sudden sarah becomes literally OBSESSED with this girl named marie. now dont get me wrong, im not one of those girls that gets jelous when my friends have new friendds but... sarah like gives me and my other friend alyssa the details on every moment of marie's life. this is the typical coversation sarah has with us at the lunch table: "OMG, marie is going out with nick! omg i am soo happy! she always liked him! marie is so good at getting boys!" or "MArie calls me up all the time and tells me about nick. oh yeah and we watched a video together yesterday it was so fun" Im sorry but I DONT CARE. and neither does alyssa. sarah never aks me about ME or never has real conversations. its usually just about marie or something else about HER. how can me and alyssa tell sarah in a nice way that we DONT CARE ABOUT FRICKIN MARIE.

heyy. i actually have a friend like that and i can definetly relate. a couple weeks ago she's been hanging out with another girl like every waking moment && she was never really good friends with her before but then suddenly they were best friends. have you tried talking to her at all? i wrote her an email because i have issues with talking to people to their faces about problems. & we eventually talked it out and i just said that i felt really left out. if you already talked to her, and nothing changed, try talking to marie. maybe marie doesn't know whats happening and if you tell marie about sarah, maybe she will let go a little bit and talk to sarah since sarah will most likely listen to marie. hope this helps. :)

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Hey guys, is it true that tanning makes your acne go away? or atleast makes it so you dont see pimples and stuff? Because I noticed how everyone I know who goes tanning has perfect skin, and they where like !yeah tanning hides teen-acne" can anyone tell me if this is true?

Please know what you're talking about.
Thank you.

Heyy. Of what i know, i think tanning is bad because eventually when you are older, too much sun can give you skin cancer. don't believe me? ever see those old ladies with the totally wrinkled skin & its really tan? that's what you're gonna look like in 50 years if you lay out in the sun too much. & fake tanning is even worse. so, if you really want to get skin cancer or some health problem, don't tan. bronzer looks good though...:)

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I am so obssesed with one tree hill and i dont know what to do. Its driving me insane and all i think about is james lafferty lol. What do i do?

Haha. Maybe you should start trying to do new hobbies and it might take your mind off one tree hill. Instead of watching it over and over again, like i said you can try something new. If that doesn't work, I know it sounds crazy, but you can find a way to write a letter to him saying how cool he is?! haha i'm weird. hope this helps :/

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i'm really shy and i keep to myself at school, because i lost a lot of friends last year, and now i feel like a big loser. and i'm also fat, so i feel socially retarded. y'know, y'know. but anyways. i have this friend who isn't shy at at all, but she doesn't invite me to her social events anymore 'cause i never knew what to say. i know it sounds dumb, but i can't be myself, because i'm afraid that if i say things people are going to think that i'm dumb, which is probably true. at home i'm just like the people at school, but that's because i'm comfortable.

so suggestions on how to become myself?

Heyy. I know some people at my school who are like that also. My advice is that try to make a goal to start hanging around people who are really social, funny and happy. Have you ever heard the saying, "you are who your friends are?"
Well, the more you hang around those types of people the more you will be social and happy. It shouldn't matter what you look like. Don't be afraid. I know people who are really talkative and they embarrass themselves all the time because they actually work up the courage to talk. Probably they don't care what others thing about them either. So keep your chin up high and start hanging around people who you think you'd like to act and in a few months, you'll probably find yourself starting to act more like them. Hope all goes well :)

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