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I DONT CARE!!
i have this friend named sarah. except i dont think shes my friend anymore and heres why: me and sarah have been friends for quite a few years. but this year theres a problem. all of a sudden sarah becomes literally OBSESSED with this girl named marie. now dont get me wrong, im not one of those girls that gets jelous when my friends have new friendds but... sarah like gives me and my other friend alyssa the details on every moment of marie's life. this is the typical coversation sarah has with us at the lunch table: "OMG, marie is going out with nick! omg i am soo happy! she always liked him! marie is so good at getting boys!" or "MArie calls me up all the time and tells me about nick. oh yeah and we watched a video together yesterday it was so fun" Im sorry but I DONT CARE. and neither does alyssa. sarah never aks me about ME or never has real conversations. its usually just about marie or something else about HER. how can me and alyssa tell sarah in a nice way that we DONT CARE ABOUT FRICKIN MARIE.
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it depends mostly on your personality.
Show you true feelings. I usually advise AGAINST being all "tell her about you feelings" cause that's pointless advice, we both know we won't do that. otherwise we would've have any relationship trouble.
whenever she talks about marie. You can ignore her, mutter "that's nice." or "whatever." show how you really feel about these conversations about marie. or even better, change the subject whenever she tries to turn it towards Marie. especially talk about something you did. something that involves you and not marie.
make her understand that your her friend too. and that you have a life too.
if that doesn't work, you can always risk it a bit and try to "give her a taste of her own medicine" for example when she talks about marie. you and alyssa talk about something you two did. it's not meant to be spiteful. it's meant for her to understand that you don't care.
but i don't really recommend the second one. i might do it with my friends if that happens. but i don't know what kind of friends you have, so i don't know whether it would be effective or not.
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heyy. i actually have a friend like that and i can definetly relate. a couple weeks ago she's been hanging out with another girl like every waking moment && she was never really good friends with her before but then suddenly they were best friends. have you tried talking to her at all? i wrote her an email because i have issues with talking to people to their faces about problems. & we eventually talked it out and i just said that i felt really left out. if you already talked to her, and nothing changed, try talking to marie. maybe marie doesn't know whats happening and if you tell marie about sarah, maybe she will let go a little bit and talk to sarah since sarah will most likely listen to marie. hope this helps. :)
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So your friend is talking about a girl that's not in your group of friends? How does that work?
Do you even know marie or anything? you should tell your friend that..that you don't really know marie and you don't want to hear things about her.
You should start the conversations. Tell her about something that happened to you to distract her. If all the conversations are still about her, just don't talk to her anymore. You can also try to talk about sarah and ask how her day was to get the conversation somewhere else.
if you are really annoyed maybe
you and alyssa should make new friends.
when sarah starts up a conversation about marie..suggest that you dont want to talk about her. maybe that could work?
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