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Hey! First off, i'm going to start by saying I came here on this site to give people advice. Some people actually don't know the real meaning of advice. They think its the answers they want to hear. But i'm not here for that. I'll give you advice, and it might be something you don't want to hear. But deal with it! You may take my advice or not, its completely up to you and you are not gaurnteed a correct solution.Ok so now that's clear, I'll talk to you more about myself. Hence the username... I play volleyball. It is my passion and basically my life since I've played for about 7 years. Most of my friends say i'm 50/50 tomboy and girly girl. I LOVE sports!! I play volleyball all year round, and then I go to the park during free times to play some soccer, football, hockey, basketball or baseball with my friends. But then again, I could be inside trying on my new Sephora makeup i'd just gotten, or reading the latest Seventeen magazine or even arranging my clothes for school tomorrow.
You can ask me just about anything and i'll be happy to answer it. You can count on a full and detailed answer.
Oh and another thing... I love getting feedback! Even if its a negative comment. It tells me what I need to work on or even what I did correct.
-Volleyball2150
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so my prom is coming up, and i don't have a date. my friend from school told me he would take me, but he's taking someone else. so i was thinking of taking my other friend, whom i really really REALLY like.
the only problem is that he doesn't go to my school, and won't know anybody there. i'd feel weird if i go off to talk to my other friends while he just stands around doing nothing. plus, neither of us dance. so we wouldn't have much to do. anyone have any ideas on what i could do?
find a group with a bunch of NICE guys. guys who will randomly start talking with a guy who is new. when you first meet the group, introduce your date to the guys and then bring up a topic they might have in common. like sports, or music, or cars or something. just get the ball rolling. that way you can go off and talk to your friends while he makes new friends :)
as for dancing.. its prom. who cares how you dance. just get crazy and have a blast. even if you look like a complete dork. there's a group on facebook called- i dont care how ridiculous i look, i'm having a blast. and i think thats a perfect motto. you're probably never going to see the people at prom ever again, so who cares what they might think. you dont have to dance all the time either. dance for a few songs, then go do something else. go out to dinner or bowling or clubbing or whatever floats your boat. even if its just a movie at someone elses house.. or you could even just ditch the group and you and your date could hang out. maybe do something romantic like watch the stars and moon, or have a late picnic with candlelight, or go swimming at night.
also, i think it should be spontaneous. if you just plan everything out, and say something doesnt go right.. you'll get disappointed that it didnt turn out the way you wanted it to. so dont plan. just go with the flow and have fun. its prom.. make it special and make it worth it.
i hope i helped :)
ps: if something does go wrong... just say "hey screw it. i'm not going to let this mess this night up. i'm going to have a kick ass night."
He said he didn't want a serious relationship right now. He said we could still be friends but he didn't really talk to me unless I started it. He said I did nothing wrong and that it was him. Then he hooked up with a slut and doesn't talk to her anymore. Then, he told my friend that he was frustrated that he "found the right girl but doesn't stay with her." Is that me? Does he want me back?
i'd give him some time to cool off. dont talk to him for like a week. just let him cool off and let him think. after a week, talk to him. preferably in person because that makes you a stronger person over the years. then just talk to him. ask him how he feels about this. then tell him how you're feeling. i promise if you guys just talk about it, something will change. for better or for worse, who knows. but if you just sit around and dont do anything... nothing is going to happen. and if nothing happens, you'll start to get sad and depressed.. you dont want that now do you?
nobody can really "tell" you what to do. it has to come from your heart. if youre mad at him, tell him. if you love him and dont want him to go, tell him.
if you take advice from us on specifically what to say, then its not coming from you, which means its fake.
i hope i helped!
idk what to do. i feel like im losing myself like who i worked so hard to become. i was really happy, outgoing, and just things were all around great for me. now i feel more hesitant and lazy but mostly depressed.. it sucks. also it seems like im really only happy when im with my boyfriend but i only get to see him like 3 times a week max. please help! idk what to do but i have to do somthing!
i've been in the same place as you and i think its because you're bored of your life. its like this.. have you ever had a specific meal for more than 1 week straight?? its not good.. you get sick of it and you hate the taste and you just want a variety of foods.. well take that and put it to life terms..
you're probably just living life the exact same for a VERY long time.. you just need a change. major or minor, up to you. just try something new. you'll be surprised at how much it can affect you.
here are some ideas
-cut your hair, new hairstyle, new clothing style, shop somewhere else, listen to new styles of music, rearrange your room, take different classes in school you wouldn't normally take (like art, or music, or business) volunteer in your community, joing different clubs, hang out with people you havent seen in a while, read books if you dont, research some crazy topic, organize an event- like a party, a charity event etc.,
just be creative and find something you dont like or want to change, and then figure out what YOU want to do. not anybody else. but what do YOU want to do?
i hope i helped :)
I have known this guy since idk uhm last year. he and my best friend dated for a really long time though they never talked kissed or anything it just didn't work out.So here my thing i like him kind a lot i swear he is the perfect guy he wants to hang with me he is sweet and makes me laugh and a smart ass and not to perverted yah know how guys are at 14 they all are..anyhoo i know that his personality is kinda awkward or shy or something where doesn't seem like he talks or something,,so if we did date how can i get past that and him be the guy i text and like talking to?? and we just be together no awkwardness or anything? help
yeah just as the other person said, keep the conversations going. after you talk about a topic and someone ends on a single worded note like- "yeah.." or "oh ok" or "i see" that pretty much means the end of the topic. here's a trick- keep the ball rolling. if you feel like a topic has ended or its dull and boring, start a new one. anything really. who cares if its really random or stupid. if he thinks its stupid, just laugh. if you're all serious about it, he might think its weird. but if you laugh, it means good connection. trust me this actually works. i have trouble making friends but recently i've made a lot of new friends. my trick.. talking about something really random.
example- i didnt know anyone in my math class and i got assigned a seat next to this girl. she looked nice and so i just randomly asked her a question and each day i would add something new to our conversations. after 1 month, we would already be talking about guys and what the gossip is etc.
i hope i helped!
i was really good friends with this guy until i started to fancy him a LOT.
i knew he didnt fancy me back cause he kept talking about how he still fancies his ex.
but i just felt like i had to tell him .. so i did.
ever since then we barely talk to eachother. at the beginning we still said hello but now we just completely ignore eachother.
i dont think i can change all that .. it's just that it makes me feel really really bad.. cause i just moved here & he was one of my only friends.. & he seemed to care so much . he always invited me over when i felt homesick etc.... & now its all over.. i thought that i would get over it but i still cry a lot. and its been pretty much half a year now :S
& he also told me that he doesnt fall in love easely & that hes been fancying his ex for 2 years now .. but recently we got this new girl & he keeps checking her out. that really hurts too. i mean he used to check me out & told me im pretty etc..
i dont know i just feel sooo bad about this.
i dont really need help on how to go back to being friends because i dont really see it happening. as i said we barely look at eachother & i've tried to fix everything but it just doesnt work..
a good friend of his told me that i always reacts this way when a girl he doesnt fancy back fancies him. he did the same with another ex of his who is also not over him yet ..
i just wanna get rid of all the pain because i've really fallen for him & i cant seem to get over it. im just sick of crying everytime i'm at a place where we used to hang out or thinking about him all night...
he also sits next to me in philosophie class & it just sucks because he talks to everyone but me.
i just have the feeling that he hates me ..
help?!
ohh boyy i'm in the SAME boat as you...
me and this guy had a thing (we didnt go out) but we had a thing and all of a sudden he just ignores me and i can't get over him.. its been a month and i still cry over him. so dont feel alone, there's lots of people out there who feel the same.
i'm still trying to get over him... here's how i'm doing it. I deleted him out of my brain. I know you dont want to get rid of him and you want to keep the memories.. but its just going to come back and haunt you and make you feel worse.
delete his number, delete any contact information, throw away anything you have that could remind you of him. in class, find someone else to talk to. just pick somebody and start a conversation. it's easy to make friends. just go along with their personality. (example, if somebody is talking about the hockey game, and you're not a hockey fan... go along with it. i'm not telling you to lie.. i'm just telling you to go along with their personality.) then after you get rid of him from your brain.. start over. make new friends, do new activities.. become a whole new person. do something really bizarre and crazy. like fung shui your room. or volunteer at your community. or take up a sport or club.
also, i think music can help you. listen to these songs
-soar- Christina Aguilera
-division- Aly and AJ
-goodbye- Christinia debarge
-hush hush- pussycat dolls-
-girls just want to have fun- Cindi Lauper
- 99 times- Kate Voegele
-beautiful- Lucy Schwartz
-le disko- shiney toy guns
-right back where we started from- Maxine Nightingale
-Shining star- Jump 5
-Stand by me- 4 the cause
-Sweet home alabama- Lynard Skynard
-This will be (everlasting love)- natalie cole
-up- the saturdays
-unwritten- natasha bedingfield
-sunshine- atmosphere
-hollywood- madonna
-rush- aly and aj
-glamourous- fergie
-miami- will smith
-one original thing- cheyenne kimball
-walking on sunshine- aly and aj
- just dance- lady gaga
-pocketful of sunshine- natasha bedingfield
-disturbia- rihanna
-feeling good- michael buble
-here comes the sun- the beatles
those are the songs that make me the happiest. and hopefully they will make you happy too :) try doing something that really makes you happy. like for me- when i dance and sing, i always have a smile on my face and immediatly become happy
good luck :)
Okay so im 17 and my boyfriend is gonna be 18 in a month , his parents are christian , theyre wayyy overly religious . we've been dating for almost a year and we still have to sneak around to even talk to eachother outside of school .They tell him that hes selfish and he's " invading my purity " , personally i find that hillarious. He always says he doesnt even feel like part of the family because of how they treat him , he also has a twin brother who isnt aloud to date either . Its like shes a puppet master and hes the puppet , its truly sad. Heres the kicker , she got pregnant with my boyfriend and his brother when she was 19 , so obviously shes tryin to prevent him from making the same mistakes as she did but in reality shess just making him want to rebel. She's trying to move to cananda and get my boyfriend his citizenship there , they wouldnt move till hes 20 and hes gonna try and move out but he doesnt have a job and i want him to go to college and get a good education but we're afraid if he moves out they wont pay for it , i care about him so much and it seems like he really wants this to , it kills him to live in the same house as this nut job and it kills me to watch him so depressed everyday . Ugh , what should i do ?
Hmm well here's what I can say- don't get involved. If you talk to his mom about this, or influence him
to do something, it's just going to make everything worse and it's going to cause drama. What if he and his mom have a huge fight about this? His mom is going to blame you because she will think that you had something to
do with this. So best bet- stay safe and don't get involved. This is between them and their family. Let them
solve this out. The only thing you can really do is just be there for your boyfriend and try to make him the happiest he can be. Try doing something really nice for him. Like take him
to a surprise dinner. I hope everything goes well for you guys.
Message me if you need ANYTHING else. I mean it :)
-volleyball2150
So my bf has really bad breath. like i call him BBB whne he isn't around because it is so bad. Everyone else knows but him. What do I do about it? He can't smell it so he thinks everyone is kidding with him but my boyfriend's breath is AWFUL!
Help?
well if you guys are comfortable with making you, you could pop in a breath mint your mouth and then when you guys are kissing, just slip the breathmint into his mouth.
or you could ask him if he wants any gum or breathmints or anything, and offer other people around him so it doesnt seem like youre just thinking about his breath.
or what you could do is have a friend type up a survey like thing. something where its like- What is your favorite thing about your bf/gf. What is your least favorite thing about your bf/gf. What could your bf/gf do better in this relationship. What do you pinky promise your bf/gf. How much do you trust your bf/gf. etc etc. ect.
then be like "we should take this survey! it sounds fun!" and then for the spot that says, least favorite thing- you could mention his bad breath. or something like that.
i hope i helped!
I am an 18 year old girl and a senior in high school. I've known this boy, Kevin, since I was little and we've been best friends since freshman year. I've liked him romantically on and off since sophomore year, but he's always had a girlfriend. He broke up with his most recent girlfriend at the end of August, which gave me some hope. Last weekend, a mutual friend told me that, at a party a few weeks ago, he drunkenly told her that he really liked me romantically. My best friend's boyfriend, who was at that party, told me the same. However, I went to a party last night and Kevin completely ignored me, except to ask for a cigarette. Lame, I know. I'm starting to think he doesn't like me after all. Or maybe he did, but his feelings have changed since that party a few weeks ago. What should I do? Should I let it go? Talk to Kevin? If I do talk to him, where do I even begin?
if he told your friend "drunkenly" it probably isn't true.. a lot of people who are drunk say things they don't mean. also, don't trust rumors. a lot of rumors are false.
I think you need to talk to him though. Just casually call him and ask him to hang out sometime. you HAVE to talk to him in person, otherwise its not appropriate. then when you 2 are together, in a place with limited distractions, just ask him. "i heard a rumor that you like me romantically. is that true?"
good luck :)
I've been single for the past couple months... i would rather not get into the subject of why my ex and I broke up because i'm afraid if i start i will never stop.. and believe me..that's not a good thing.
Recently, i met someone new... problem is.. he is going into the navy within the next couple months. I can honestly say he is one of the nicest and most sincere guys I have ever met in my life. And I am definitely not blinded when i say this.. because after my last relationship I think I know by now the difference between when a guy is being real and when he's not.
I guess I'm at the point where i feel somewhat alone...he is going to leave in a couple months..and right now he is the only one keeping me from going insane. my best friend has compromised herself more then i ever imagined and i feel like i don't know her at all anymore. My parent's could care less about my personal life...and really no one seems to understand.
I don't know what to do anymore....
I feel like everytime something good comes into my life, it leaves just as quickly.
please help :(
there's nothing you can really do except appreciate this time with him. you can't pull him out of the navy. you could join the navy, to spend time with him... but thats your choice. you just need to stop worrying about the future, and take things slowly. don't rush into the future. just relax and have fun!
k so I'm 16 female and I am having some boy problems. I am totally ready for a boyfriend and I have liked this guy for a really long time. I have only had one boyfriend for a few weeks and It was a bad experience and I am really ready to move on. The guy that I like keeps giving mixed signals. He acts flirty and stuff and idk if he even knows I like him or not. I have tried everything and he can rarely hang out cause his parents are divorced. I want him to know how I feel but he gets really shy and embarrassed. We have a sweet 16 coming up and I want to know how to act around him to maybe win him over. I just would love to go out with him and I need some advice on how to get him to either like me back or tell me how he feels. Even though sometimes I feel like he likes me, I also feel like there is something holding him back and idk what it could be. HELP! oo we are also pretty good friends if that makes a difference. thank you =]
you need to tell him how you feel. if he cant hang out that much, trying telling him over an email or text or phone call. in life, you need to take risks. if you dont, then how are you to succeed in life and live your life to the fullest??
just tell him!!!
the worst that could happen is that he doesnt like you back, and then you just forget about it and move on. there are plenty of other fishes in the sea :)
Me and my bf have been together for 2 years now.We don't fight much these days but when we do he yelle at me and he really scares me sometimes.He really makes me upset and makes me cry then he says he's sorry and he said i should treat him better and i wont yell at u.He tells his family things that aren't true,but i really love him i dont want to break up
i know you dont want to break up... but maybe he does...
things change. for the good, or for the worse.
all i can really say is to talk with him about it. dont try to hide your feelings. be really open and honest and just ask him why he's yelling so much. remember to keep a calm tone, because if you raise your temper level, so will he. communication is the number one important thing in a relationship, so you just have to discuss this with him.
-good luck!
So I'm 15/f and I have my first boyfriend. We've been going out for about two weeks and I haven't kissed him yet, and neither of us have ever kissed anybody before. I'm pretty nervous, and I'm sure that he is, too, but I'm going over his house in a few days and we're going to be alone, so that will probably be a good time to get my first kiss, and for him to get his. I really don't want to screw anything up, so does anyone have any advice on how to go about this? Thanks so much, I really appreciate it :)
first kisses are soo cute!! i remember mine. ok so what you want to do is RELAX. if you are really tense and jumpy, it will seem really awkward. thats how mine was haha. first of all, i wouldnt recommend to kiss while you 2 are sitting next to each other. my first bf and i were sitting right next to each other and when we tilted our heads, it was really awkward. so i suggest kissing when you are face-to-face. not side by side. secondly, make sure your breath is not stinky. brush your teeth, and eat lots of mints. trust me, guys love minty breaths :) it adds a spice to the kiss. third, you want to close your eyes. if you keep your eyes open, it gets awkward. fourth, the kiss doesnt have to be long. it could just be a peck. maximum 3 seconds. after the kiss, look him in the eyes. after my kiss, my face turned bright red and i looked away. he thought it was cute haha.
just remember, practice makes perfect. my first, second, and even third kiss was awkward. but after the first 3, you get really used to it. and its like eating candy. super easy and sweet :)
-good luck!
i AM a very shy person, and so i like this guy but i dont no if he likes me, he stares at me sometimes, but i dont no if he likes me or not. i dont no wat to do, i dont want to admit my fealings for him cause it jsut so hapends everytime i open up i always get hurt, (which means no, they dont like me) or something like that and i dont want to get hurt again. so wat do i do? please help lilly
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i've always been taught to first get to know the guy. dont jump right into a relationship with him. be friends first and get to know him. it doesnt hurt to say "hi". the worst that could happen is that he goes "hi" and walks away. its not like he's going to point a finger at you and laugh and say "OMG THIS GIRL IS A RETARD!! SHE SAID HI TO ME!!!" haha. so just relax.
take it 1 little baby step at a time...
1. say hi
2. (some people would introduce themselves here, but i normally dont because it sounds too practiced and professional to say "hi, i'm _____") so here- you could make a joke, ask a simple question, or comment on something. just to break the ice a little. nothing too big like "what do you think of the war in iraq?". perhaps something like- "i really like your shirt, where did you get it?"
3. keep the conversation going. dont even stop to think about what you are going to say because that just causes an awkward silence. just keep talking from where you left off. (example- nice shirt-where did you get it?- hollister- i love that store- i like target better- they have cheap things- but they have good things there- i like walmart better- i work at walmart- where do you work. etc. etc. etc. just keep talking
4. NOW you can mention your name. something like "i'm _____ by the way" i wouldn't ask for their name because thats too cheesy. if they dont give it to you- wait until you guys are about to separate and then say "hey whats your name??"
5. go with the flow. i cant really tell you what to say now. just be yourself and talk with the dude. if you're feeling confident, you could say something like "my friends and i are going to a movie tomorrow, we have an extra ticket, do you want to come with?" or "this weekend i'm not doing anything, do you want to hang out?" or you could just simply ask for their number and say "i'm not sure whats happening this weekend, why dont i call you and tell you later?"
again.. just relax and be yourself. dont jump right into saying "i like you and i really want you". take baby steps, baby.
-hope i helped!
Recently, I became good friends with this girl. She's fun and really awesome to hang out with and usually it's hard for me to get along with girls (all the drama, etc). The big problem is, I met her boyfriend who she's been with for many years, and he's perfect. He's all the qualities I want in a guy and he knocks me off my feet. I never fall easily for guys, so when I do, it's serious. He'll flirt with me constantly and one time while we were alone he kind of hinted that he was tired of the relationship. I don't know what to do and how to act around him now. If my new friend found out, it'd be a disaster since we have a whole group of mutual friends now and she'd definitely kill me! What do I do? I'm infatuated with him, but she's been really nice to me. (19/F)
i've been taught that friendships may last forever, but there will always be a relationship that can't go on any longer. you have to pick what's more important to you. I, or anybody else in the world, cant tell you what to do. only you know what to do. but you have to choose which means more to you- love? or friendship?
If you choose love- you're risking your friendship with this girl. think about the consequences. she could be one of those girls who go chaotic when their friend steals their boyfriend, always wanting revenge and doing whatever it takes to hurt you. and also note that you said its hard for you to make girl friends.... if you lose this friend, imagine how hard it is going to be to earn another friend. do you want to risk that? but then again, you could think that your friend will get over it sooner or later and that she will be alright with this.
if you choose friendship- you're risking a guy who could be the one. are you willing to let this guy pass you by, and wonder everyday if he was the one? are you willing to risk love, for a possible lifelong friendship? Remember, there's always plenty of fish in the sea. It just takes patience and time.
here's my advice for you- I'd think about this for a few more days/weeks. no more than a month. think what means more to you, love or friendship? which one are you willing to risk for your own happiness? dont choose something that wont make you happy. do it for you and only you. not for anybody else.
then after you have thought about it, talk to your friend. the number 1 important thing about any relationship (if its friendship, love, family etc.) is communication. if you can't communicate well with your peers, there's no way its going to work out. take this opportunity to test your friendship with her. if she takes it horribly, i don't blame her. but if she takes it good- it could be a sign of a great friendship. so talk it over with her and come up with a possible solution. ask her if its alright. if you were to just say "i like your boyfriend, i'm going to date him without your consent" thats just really mean and rude. you need to ask her if its alright to date him. its respectful and shows character. also, its good for your reputation. if she says no- you should respect her decision and not go behind her back. also, dont completely shut this guy out of your life. keep in touch with him but don't be too flirty and whatnot.
i hope i helped and good luck!!
Ok this might be long but last year i liked this guy and he had gf but i couldnt help myself.So when he found i liked him he started flirting with me and i was head over heels for him and when his gf found outi liked him she freaked out and started talking behind my back and all her friends hated me too but in front of my friends she was all nice and polite.And then like 2 weeks after he had to leave to go to another school he said i was acting like his girlfriend and i wouldnt leave him alone.So now 11 months later im here and i cant let him go .next year i have to go to the same school he went to and then i have to see him everyday.ive tried everything to let him go but i cant. plz help me
It depends on how you were flirting with him. If you were talking to him everyday, calling him cute names like baby, sweetie, hun etc., or even kissing him and hooking up.... then i would agree with him when he says you're acting too much like his girlfriend. HOWEVER, if you're flirting but not too much, like saying flirty things like "I miss seeing you in the hallways" or "We should get together sometime" and occasionally talk to him once in a while, then I think he's overreacting when he says you're acting like his girlfriend. So it all depends on how you were flirting with him.
As for your advice, I think you need to get over him. This happened 11 months ago and you really need to start over a new leaf. IGNORE his girlfriend (or ex-girlfriend?) and apologize. (i know, i know, you might say 'WHAT?!? why would i say sorry?' but its mature and if you don't do it, it just causes more drama and harder to get over it.) When you go to his school, just be totally casual. Don't think about what happened in the past. If you and him talk and he mentions something about what happened, just pretend that you have no clue what he's talking about.
As for getting over him, try getting interested in other guys. It will A- take your mind off of him and B- get him jealous which might make him more attracted to you. (BE CAREFUL NOT TO USE GUYS TO MAKE HIM JEALOUS!!!!!!!!! this is very wrong. there is a BIG difference in getting interested in other guys and making him jealous to allure him to you, and using guys to make him jealous to allure him to you. got it??) So yea, try to get interested in other guys. Or it could even be girls, try to make new friends, hang out with them more which will take your mind off of him. Also, you can take up a hobby. Something that will consume your leisure time. Such as- music, writing, sports, volunteer, extra-curricular activities. (notice- this does not include watching tv, computer, eating, homework etc.)
So thats all i have to say.... GOOD LUCK!!! =D
ps: inbox me for more advice!!
Well i am 15 years old, my boyfriends 15 years old. We both go to the same school. Started going out about 7 months ago + have been since then. We have one of the best fricken relationships i have ever witnessed in my life. I do NOT know what i would be like without him in my life. I love him with all my heart, so much that no one can understand that except me + him. But i have been grounded and havent gotten to see him on the weekends at all for about 3 months now. (Except i see him at school, but still) And usually if that happened with someone else, they would have broken up with me cause they cant wait for me to be ungrounded. But him, no, he has been with me through this all and has stuck with me through it, and still loves me and acts like he always does. And it just makes me so fricken happy that hes like that. Cause of him, i am able to trust people more, and i dont know..i just get this wierd feeling thinking about him all the time..but a good wierd ;) And it feels SO good to know that he loves me and that i have nothing to worry about with him, cause i havent been with him on the weekends cause i usually always am. But in the past, my ex-boyfriends have cheated on me, lied to me, and almost every bad thing you could think of. And thats where i got my trust to dwindle down to almost nothing. So when i met him, (Dominick) I thought this would all happen again and i didnt trust him AT ALL. But once a week or so into our relationship, i got a big wake up call; I realized that he was the only one i could trust and that he was just the right one for me. It was so wierd though, cause i just got this really good feeling and i just realized all this. It was actually kind of cool if you ask me. Like i realized that he was the one i want to spend the rest of my life with + i just love him SO MUCH! But yeah, my real question is..would you call this love? I KNOW im in love but i just wanted some opinoins out there.
Thanks for taking your time to read this + sorry for the length. But thanks ahead of time!
That was such a cute story! no, seriously, i was reading that and i could picture 2 people falling in love and just having a great time together.
You're 15. A teenager. Do you know how many teenagers there are in the world? A LOT. If you take a survey of every teenager in the world and ask them if they think they are in love- about 40% would say Yes they are in Love. But here's the catch.... no teenager actually falls in love. You gave a very detailed description of how you feel about Dominick. If you were to ask a couple (about 22-35 years old) how they feel about each other, they'd come up with maybe 3 sentences. Maximum- 5 sentences. This is because true love cannot be described. You could say things like- I feel happy around them, I can trust them, Weak-in-the-knees etc. etc. etc. But still- thats not love. Do you get my point?
This is what I think, I think you're head-over-heels about Dominick. It could be lust, or love. I've heard a lot of stories about high school relationships lasting until marriage. So who knows, this could be the guy for you.
If you ask me what the best thing about love is, i'd say its unknown and mysterious. You never know what's going to happen next. Its full of surprises. He could break up with you, He could propose to you, He could get you pregnant, He could abuse you, He could give you everything you wanted.
I gave you my opinion on love and here's what i think you should do next. If you honestly care about him, stick with him. Don't do anything stupid and let him know how you feel about him. Also, don't try to plan things and move quickly. Dont start thinking about the future and how you 2 might get married and spend the rest of your lives together. Live in the present time. focus on whats happening right now. Because when you think about the future, everything moves so fast that you won't be able to remember what happened. And you dont want that because memories define life.
Take things slow and easy, and live your life in the present.
I wish you 2 luck!! =)
ps: inbox me for more advice!
hi guyz
1stly i am 16/f
basically i`m confused..i know this guy who i really like & he has not actually said he likes me, even though we have kissed quite a few times ! he was alwayz texting me asking how i am, saying im beautiful, funny ETC and can`t wait until he sees me again & now he doesn`t text me as much. he has still text me but he doesn`t seem as interested in me. does he like me ?? my friend thinks he might want me to make the effort idk i wondered wat you guyz thought
thanx
He likes you that's for sure... But what are you saying back to him?? Are you accepting his compliments? Are you being flirty back to him?
He may have lost interest in you because you're high-maintance. Which means it's too difficult for him to get to know you. So try being flirty back to him. Try sending occasional flirty random texts like- what are you up to cutie?
Play hard-to-get. But not too hard because then he will find it impossible to go out with you. But don't be too aggressive because then it comes off as being slutty/desperate.
I hear it in songs, poems, and in everyday conversations among friends.
What does it mean to "wear your heart on your sleeve?"
I feel dumb for asking.. but anything would be good.
Thanks.
2 definitions-
1- someone who expresses their heart and emotions openly and freely without hiding anything
2- someone who becomes devoted to something too easily or gives their heart away too quickly. They can sometimes be easily upsetted.
I think it's the first one. Just go on www.urbandictionary.com and type it in
There's a guy I have my eye on in one of my classes in college. I don't know if he sees me that way, but I have exactly one class period (which unfortunately will consist of taking a final, so there's no chance for conversation) left to get him to ask me out on a date (not pursuing a relationship here, just a chance to get to know him better). We spoke briefly a few times, and he's always really friendly. I sit behind him, so its difficult to talk to him, especially since my friend sits right next to me and he always wants to talk through all of our breaks.
Long story short, I was thinking of writing down my phone number with my name and giving it to him either before the final (but then he might read it, and I kind of don't want to be there when he does, its pretty embarrassing), or dropping it on his desk as I leave (but problem with that is he might be finished with the final before me, and I don't want to risk getting him in trouble if the teacher thinks its for cheating).
I don't know if I should do it though. When I hear of other people doing that the first word that comes to mind is desperate, which is honestly what I'm feeling at this moment. I just want him to know that I am interested and available, and he can either take advantage of it or not. I think what keeps him from pursuing me is 1) He thinks I like my friend and 2) I'm not sure how old he is, but he looks way older (23-30?), and if he really is that old he may think I don't want to pursue anything with an old fart like him (I do!, he's the kind of guy that I would hate for me to pass up, he looks like he would be a keeper for sure), I don't know if he is single, but he isn't married: there's no ring.
Anyways, should I do it? (Drop a note on his desk with my name and phone number). And if I should, then before or after the final (remember the pros and cons!)? And what are your opinions of girls that do this? If someone were to do that, would you call them or ignore the note because you thought they were desperate?
Background info:
I haven't done a good job of flirting with him (I have complained during the conversation, and looked down a lot, although I did smile at him a lot, and he smiles back).
I am 18/F
I am pretty and really friendly, so I don't think I've done anything wrong to make a bad impression except for the few complaints about homework).
Thanks so much for reading all this, I will rate accordingly, the more detailed you are, the better =)
I think you should do it. What I was also thinking was if he has a folder or binder or planner that he brings with him, you could tape the note on there when he's not looking and hopefully you won't get caught and he will find it later. If he doesn't have that, then wait until after the test. If you finish before him, casually wait until he is finished and just give it to him at the very end (right when you are about to leave). If he finishes before you- wait until you're done and it's the end of the class and give it to him when you are about to leave.
GOOD LUCK!!!
Ps: you could maybe even write a note so that way it's less embarassing. Ask him out to dinner and discuss the test or something. The worst that can happen is that you get rejected. That's life and you just have to face it. I say go for it- no regrets
16/f, sorry if this is a bit long, I appreciate those who take the time to read this and help me :]
So, there is this guy, and he told me he liked me, I told him I liked him, but then a couple days after that he got with his ex girlfriend who basically was just dumped by her boyfriend. the guy and i havent talked for 4 or 5 weeks. [since that happened] he is in one of my classes. math. and i hate that class already.
well on friday, i had to collect homework. and no one was passing it up, so i kind of went down his row [which is right next to mine, and im in the way front, he is like 2 seats behind me in the next row, so awkward. he moved there when we got our seats changed.] but before i got to him, they started passing it up, so then all of the sudden the guy ... we'll call him bob.. leans on his desk and says something like, "[my name] would you mind taking this--" or "[my name] will you do me a favor and--" i've been wanting him to talk to me, but i felt like he was being an asshole so i cut him off and snatched it out of his hand. [with attitude i guess] and then bob was like "thank you" [i think kind of sarcastically. or surprised.]
anyways, that happened and then i've been having wierd dreams involving him [nothing sexual, dont worry hahaha] just like dreams that I'm trying to get him to notice me. or talk to me. or break up with his girlfriend. who doesn't deserve him because she always told people ho annoying he was. and not that bob deserves anyone because i REALLY like/liked him.
sometimes i feel like he's looking at me in math. and when i talk to someone who sits behind him, i feel like he tries to make eye contact with me, and when we do make eye contact, i break away frist really quickly, or he does. and we were put in groups on friday [the day i snatched the paper from him] and he was right next to me [in his group] and i think he was listening to me talk to my group or trying to get my attention because whenever this guy in his group asked me a question, he would look at me and our eyes met and it was so intense. like. i don't even now how to explain it.
and ontop of that, i think i like this freshman now. but i still like bob. im so lost and confused and i can't get bob off of my mind. and sometimes the new guy i like comes into my mind. but not really. wow im so confused. what should i do? talk to bob? I DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO, I AM SO LOST. someone please help me :[ thank you.
wowwa weewa.... that was quite a story there haha
well it seems to me that bob wants to get your attention. Here's what i would do, try to act nicer to bob and see what his reactions are. if he becomes more flirtatious or interested- stick with him and get to know him more. If he starts to act like an asshole again- forget him. boys are werid. no girl in the world can interpret what guys are thinking, so dont feel alone.
as for the freshman kid, try to become his friend first than to just get into the relationship at once. then if he seems to respond in a well mannered tone- keep talking to him and occasionally send out flirtatious signals. but not too much. you want him to chase you. play a little hard to get but not too hard.
get it??
bob= be more nicer and analyze his reactions
freshman= friends with occasional flirts.
then after a while, you have to see which one is better for you. if none of them work, find another guy