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i AM a very shy person, and so i like this guy but i dont no if he likes me, he stares at me sometimes, but i dont no if he likes me or not. i dont no wat to do, i dont want to admit my fealings for him cause it jsut so hapends everytime i open up i always get hurt, (which means no, they dont like me) or something like that and i dont want to get hurt again. so wat do i do? please help lilly
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My friend Jack has a great answer on how to tell if a guy likes you:
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As for what you should do about it, go for it! Well, there are 2 major options you can go about to solve this problem:
1. Be blunt about it.
2. Be shy about it.
I highly suggest being blunt about it, and either asking him if he's into you too, or simply asking him out yourself. Guys like when girls show confidence, and there's no better way to show you're confident than walking up to a guy and asking him out!
Or, you can go the other route and be shy about it, possibly doing nothing to show him you're interested in him. Sometimes, people who use this method drop subtle hints such as smiling [which is common in girls and doesn't always show you're into a guy] or having a friend ask if he's into you [this only shows that you're too shy to do it yourself]. This option is really kind of stupid, and is used all too much...
As I always say:
Life is WAY too short to not take chances and risks once in a while. Why sit around wondering what could've been, what would've been and what should've been, when you can answer all of those questions and then some by being honest and telling a boy how you really feel about him?
-Laura (17-f)
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i've always been taught to first get to know the guy. dont jump right into a relationship with him. be friends first and get to know him. it doesnt hurt to say "hi". the worst that could happen is that he goes "hi" and walks away. its not like he's going to point a finger at you and laugh and say "OMG THIS GIRL IS A RETARD!! SHE SAID HI TO ME!!!" haha. so just relax.
take it 1 little baby step at a time...
1. say hi
2. (some people would introduce themselves here, but i normally dont because it sounds too practiced and professional to say "hi, i'm _____") so here- you could make a joke, ask a simple question, or comment on something. just to break the ice a little. nothing too big like "what do you think of the war in iraq?". perhaps something like- "i really like your shirt, where did you get it?"
3. keep the conversation going. dont even stop to think about what you are going to say because that just causes an awkward silence. just keep talking from where you left off. (example- nice shirt-where did you get it?- hollister- i love that store- i like target better- they have cheap things- but they have good things there- i like walmart better- i work at walmart- where do you work. etc. etc. etc. just keep talking
4. NOW you can mention your name. something like "i'm _____ by the way" i wouldn't ask for their name because thats too cheesy. if they dont give it to you- wait until you guys are about to separate and then say "hey whats your name??"
5. go with the flow. i cant really tell you what to say now. just be yourself and talk with the dude. if you're feeling confident, you could say something like "my friends and i are going to a movie tomorrow, we have an extra ticket, do you want to come with?" or "this weekend i'm not doing anything, do you want to hang out?" or you could just simply ask for their number and say "i'm not sure whats happening this weekend, why dont i call you and tell you later?"
again.. just relax and be yourself. dont jump right into saying "i like you and i really want you". take baby steps, baby.
-hope i helped!
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