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Dropping a phone number
There's a guy I have my eye on in one of my classes in college. I don't know if he sees me that way, but I have exactly one class period (which unfortunately will consist of taking a final, so there's no chance for conversation) left to get him to ask me out on a date (not pursuing a relationship here, just a chance to get to know him better). We spoke briefly a few times, and he's always really friendly. I sit behind him, so its difficult to talk to him, especially since my friend sits right next to me and he always wants to talk through all of our breaks.
Long story short, I was thinking of writing down my phone number with my name and giving it to him either before the final (but then he might read it, and I kind of don't want to be there when he does, its pretty embarrassing), or dropping it on his desk as I leave (but problem with that is he might be finished with the final before me, and I don't want to risk getting him in trouble if the teacher thinks its for cheating).
I don't know if I should do it though. When I hear of other people doing that the first word that comes to mind is desperate, which is honestly what I'm feeling at this moment. I just want him to know that I am interested and available, and he can either take advantage of it or not. I think what keeps him from pursuing me is 1) He thinks I like my friend and 2) I'm not sure how old he is, but he looks way older (23-30?), and if he really is that old he may think I don't want to pursue anything with an old fart like him (I do!, he's the kind of guy that I would hate for me to pass up, he looks like he would be a keeper for sure), I don't know if he is single, but he isn't married: there's no ring.
Anyways, should I do it? (Drop a note on his desk with my name and phone number). And if I should, then before or after the final (remember the pros and cons!)? And what are your opinions of girls that do this? If someone were to do that, would you call them or ignore the note because you thought they were desperate?
Background info:
I haven't done a good job of flirting with him (I have complained during the conversation, and looked down a lot, although I did smile at him a lot, and he smiles back).
I am 18/F
I am pretty and really friendly, so I don't think I've done anything wrong to make a bad impression except for the few complaints about homework).
Thanks so much for reading all this, I will rate accordingly, the more detailed you are, the better =)
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I do NOT think you should do it. You may really want this guy, but if you slip him your number on a piece of paper his impression of this probably won't be a good one. You want him to know that you're available and interested, but you don't want him to think you're desperate. If you do it, and there is any chance, it is highly likely that you will ruin that chance.
If he goes to the same school as you, what makes you think you'll never see him again? If you embarrass yourself to him, seeing him again is a bad thing. If you don't, seeing him again is an opportunity. If you go to a smaller college, it is even more important that you don't do it, because you're much more likely to see him again.
I know you want to do it, but wait it out. If you see him again, go ahead and flirt. Ask him questions about himself (not too much, like a creep), but that will let him know you're interested, or at least put a subtle hint out there to make him wonder. If he's interested in you, that should be enough to peak his interest.
Good luck.
--NoCandy
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I think you should do it. What I was also thinking was if he has a folder or binder or planner that he brings with him, you could tape the note on there when he's not looking and hopefully you won't get caught and he will find it later. If he doesn't have that, then wait until after the test. If you finish before him, casually wait until he is finished and just give it to him at the very end (right when you are about to leave). If he finishes before you- wait until you're done and it's the end of the class and give it to him when you are about to leave.
GOOD LUCK!!!
Ps: you could maybe even write a note so that way it's less embarassing. Ask him out to dinner and discuss the test or something. The worst that can happen is that you get rejected. That's life and you just have to face it. I say go for it- no regrets
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