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Ok this might be long but last year i liked this guy and he had gf but i couldnt help myself.So when he found i liked him he started flirting with me and i was head over heels for him and when his gf found outi liked him she freaked out and started talking behind my back and all her friends hated me too but in front of my friends she was all nice and polite.And then like 2 weeks after he had to leave to go to another school he said i was acting like his girlfriend and i wouldnt leave him alone.So now 11 months later im here and i cant let him go .next year i have to go to the same school he went to and then i have to see him everyday.ive tried everything to let him go but i cant. plz help me
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it is high school and your still young. i know this must be hard, we have all encountered similar situations. but the best thing i can say is to leave your options more open. you never know. when you go into this other school you might meet someone new. you should be open into talking and meeting new guys. it seems like this guy has alot of drama behind him. and you dont need that. so new school, new boys, dont chase your old feelings again. you can start over. new new new:]]
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I have found, firsthand, that the best way to get over a gut is to do the following:
Step 1: Have a really good cry.
- When my boyfriend and I broke up, I was super upset (like words cannot describe how bad I felt). But I told myself that I wasn't going to let it flip my entire world upside down. So I let myself have one really good cry, and then I told myself I'm going to start moving on. Which brings me to...
Step 2: Friends = lifesavers.
- Go to the mall and buy yourself something nice (don't over spend, though. Just something small, but nice. Like a new outfit or purse!) Or go see a movie, or out to dinner or something! Don't mope around your house all day doing nothing.
Step 3: Talk about it.
- It feels SO good to let it all out. Sit down with somebody you trust (for me, it was my mom) and just spill your heart out. Again, don't let it ruin your life or impact you too much.
Step 4: Move ON!
- Stop talking to him for a while (you need to give yourself time to get OVER him). Don't stalk his Facebook, spend time with other people, and don't even waste time TALKING about him.
Honestly, it's going to take time, and it's going to be hard, but once you get over him you will feel SO much better. I promise you that this guy is NOT worth wasting all of your time on, and that there are plenty of other fish in the sea. Go out and find a new guy that treats you right and is WORTH your time. Forget about this guy ASAP. You're young and have plenty of time for guys. And, as one of my favorite books puts it: The first boy is always the hardest.
Best of luck! :)
-Laura (17-f)
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first off, you should really think about what kind of guy he really is - a complete dick. He had a girlfriend, yet still decided to toy with your feelings? What kind of guy would do that, think about how unfair he was to do that behind his girlfriends back, imagine you were her - how much of a prick is he? A BIG ONE...and he isn't worth your time , especially if he can't treat a girl right.
You may like him, and I can't say get over him, because I obviously can't tell you HOW. But don't give him he satisfaction of letting him know you still like and you're not over him - it just boosts his ego more, and makes him feel big. The more you realise how horrible he is, the easier you will lose those feelings for him.
Delete him off you myspace,facebook etc, msn, aim, phone number etc. Don't give yourself reasons to think about him. You need to start becoming strong, and you need to realise, you can live without him, he's just a boy, who obviously isnt worth it if he can't see what a good person you are.
So what if you have to go to the same school as him, he will be furthest thing on your mind when you start school. There will be plenty other people to get to know, especially this summer, you never know what's going to happen. If he really cared about you, he would of said so. So dont waste on your time who doesnt deserve it. Cut off allways of communication with him, and just try to be around your friends for support
Hope I have helped,
and thankyou for inbox question
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I am sorry about your situation.
I would really try to talk to him about how you feel and explain to him it's been hard because you have feelings for him, and you'd may want to ask how to make the friendship work.
You can't help you fall in love with, you can't control your emotions.
The only thing you can try doing is talking to him. If he doesn't want to listen, then he isn't worth your time. I know right now in the moment he sounds like he is, but in my opinion he is trying to get over you.
If it all fails, I would definitely go out and meet new guys. You're going to a new school, so it's likely you'll find way better guys than him.
It does take awhile to get over a guy. I know it takes time. But 11 months is a lot. If he isn't coming around after a year then it's time to move on. I honestly would assume you don't want to wait around for him for that long or longer, so you should let him see what he lost, and start seeing new guys.
Good luck on your situation.
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He seems kind of like...a jerk, to be honest. I really hope you don't go out with him or anything! Being in the same school with the guy you like SUCKS i know. Just try to avoid him in school, and maybe take a diff hallway so you dont see him. If he tries to talk to you, just be casual and nice.. but don't flirt! From your story, I get the impression he's not really into commitment and is a big flirt. You'll get over him, trust me! In the next school, you'll be so busy getting used to everything and meeting people (and other guys!) he'll be less and less on your mind.
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It depends on how you were flirting with him. If you were talking to him everyday, calling him cute names like baby, sweetie, hun etc., or even kissing him and hooking up.... then i would agree with him when he says you're acting too much like his girlfriend. HOWEVER, if you're flirting but not too much, like saying flirty things like "I miss seeing you in the hallways" or "We should get together sometime" and occasionally talk to him once in a while, then I think he's overreacting when he says you're acting like his girlfriend. So it all depends on how you were flirting with him.
As for your advice, I think you need to get over him. This happened 11 months ago and you really need to start over a new leaf. IGNORE his girlfriend (or ex-girlfriend?) and apologize. (i know, i know, you might say 'WHAT?!? why would i say sorry?' but its mature and if you don't do it, it just causes more drama and harder to get over it.) When you go to his school, just be totally casual. Don't think about what happened in the past. If you and him talk and he mentions something about what happened, just pretend that you have no clue what he's talking about.
As for getting over him, try getting interested in other guys. It will A- take your mind off of him and B- get him jealous which might make him more attracted to you. (BE CAREFUL NOT TO USE GUYS TO MAKE HIM JEALOUS!!!!!!!!! this is very wrong. there is a BIG difference in getting interested in other guys and making him jealous to allure him to you, and using guys to make him jealous to allure him to you. got it??) So yea, try to get interested in other guys. Or it could even be girls, try to make new friends, hang out with them more which will take your mind off of him. Also, you can take up a hobby. Something that will consume your leisure time. Such as- music, writing, sports, volunteer, extra-curricular activities. (notice- this does not include watching tv, computer, eating, homework etc.)
So thats all i have to say.... GOOD LUCK!!! =D
ps: inbox me for more advice!!
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