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I'm doing a Jazz solo this year and I need some suggestions on songs. I really do not want a new song because those get annoying after awhile, so an older song would be better.

Thanks!

Congrats on the jazz solo by the way. i am a competitive dancer too and i know what its like hearing the same song over and over and over again. (:


anyways.
i think these would be some cool songs.
-believe me im lying by forever the sickest kids.
-what i like about you by the ramones or you can get the verison by lilax.
-must have done something right by relient k
-light and sounds by yellowcard
-memory by sugarcult.
-find a new way by young love.
-kiss me by rediscover.
-hot by avril lavigne.
-i can do better by avril lavigne.


yepp, let me know how everything went(:

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This is a long, somewhat confusing question. I realize that it is a lot of work to figure this out so any serious answers will definately be rated appropriately. I really appreciate any advice.

For the last couple of months, I have had several 'downs' and few 'ups' with this situation. I am being harassed by girls from my school, some are "ex-friends" and others are just people who don't know me. I am wondering what is the most beneficial next step to take.

Involved People (females aged 15 to 17+):

Myself - Usually in a good mood, polite, kind to others, strongly opinionated, willing to stand up for causes which I believe in. Straight A's (with very few exceptions) and a dedicated student. Last summer I went to many parties. Strong willed, self confident and "always dressed up" describes me.

Tracey - One of my best friends, ex-best friends with Annie, used to be good friends with Danielle and Kaya.

Danielle - Last summer we were best friends, she is a "party animal," low grades, jealous of her best friend, Kaya.

Kaya - Danielle's new best friend, many insecurities, low grades, treats people badly to make herself feel better (laughing at overweight people), acts like she is amazing.

Annie - Used to be best friends with Tracey. Follows Danielle and Kaya with whatever they do.

Here is a basic timeline of the sitation for reference, I have all of the recent activity documented carefully on my computer:


November - Danielle and I got in an argument. I was talking to people at our lunch table about how I was worried about her. I also said she is friends with people then just ditches them and that I was thinking I should talk to her about it. It got back to her before I talked to her about it, she got mad and I apologized. She said tons of mean stuff to me so I ended up not talking to her for weeks. I was excluded from everything and always ended up at home doing nothing.

December - Things were great, Annie always told Tracey how much she disliked me (behind my back) but we started to become friends. At the end of the month I was excluded from "secret santa" because of my dispute with Danielle, and everyone (lunch table people) said they didn't want ME making conflict.

January - Conflicts were slightly resolved but Tracey and I noticed we were being excluded from all events and birthday parties. We started to become closer and hang out a lot.

February - Some "tough/druggie" girls attacked me, saying I "dress like a / am a tramp" and I was hit in the back of the head. I walked away from them but everyone was talking about how I "ran away crying." I still do not see why they did this and it is completely unfair. I do not dress out of the ordinary, usually - when I wear a skirt I have long legs so it looks short, but who cares anyways. I always avoid walking that way now.

March - Annie began to get mad because Tracey and I were so close. She started talking behind my back again and to Danielle and Kaya (Annie did not like Kaya at the time). Danielle, Kaya and Annie began to grow closer due to their hate of me. The 3 of them would always make plans infront of Tracey and I and purposely not invite us.

April - Danielle wrote a blog about people she hated, and I said "Honestly, do you consider me one of those people?" In reply, she went crazy and said a ton of mean things about me. She said I shouldn't bother replying because she did not want to start a "bitch fight." I was outraged, and told her to say it to my face. At school she couldn't look at me and was afraid.

April Cont - Kaya stood up for Danielle and said I was "attacking" her. I was just not letting Danielle walk all over me, I no longer wished to be friends with her and immediately stopped talking to them. I told Kaya that it was not her business. One day at lunch, Kaya and I got in a big arguement and she ended up leaving the table.

April Cont - Kaya, Danielle and Annie went to the "tough/druggie" group of girls and told them what was happening. I started to be harassed by these new girls (I will call them the hawks) and they threatened to beat me up. I backed off, feeling overwhelmed. I completely stopped talking to all of those people.

April Cont - At the same time, Tracey told Annie that she felt excluded, so Annie went against her. It was now Danielle/Kaya/Annie against Tracey and I.

May - Danielle tried to start a fight with Tracey over the computer over nothing. Pointless things continued to happen even though we weren't speaking to Danielle. I started talking to Annie and Kaya again (I regret this now) and we were fine together. I tried to be nice and work things out since the whole fight was over very little. I tried to resolve things with the "hawks" but I was still constantly stared at by them at school.

June - Tracey, myself and two of our other friends made a funny video and posted it on facebook. It wasn't about anyone it was just a pointless music video dancing around in big coats. Danielle, Kaya and Annie "copied" our video but tried to "copy our make-up, clothes and moves." They exaggerated everything and acted like completely sluts (I can honestly say that) then told everyone to "say whose is better." It was obnoxious.

June Cont - They began to harass me on MSN but I said "haha yeah you're great at being us. bye!" and blocked them. Kaya was me, Annie was Tracey and Danielle was my other best friend from the video. One day walking along the street after our friend's birthday lunch, Danielle and Kaya rode by on a bike and yelled "ugly ass sluts!" to us. We ignored them. Later on, Annie and Danielle apologized to Tracey and included me in the apology (it was never sent to me) and Tracey "accepted" their apology.

June Cont - Annie and Danielle left for a month long student exchange trip in Europe. Kaya found a new "best friend" (Ellen), whom I used to be friends with last summer but we rarely saw eachother. Kaya and Ellen posted pictures in short skirts and tanktops saying "oh ya.. this is how (my name) stands and dresses" and posted them on facebook. Kaya, Ellen, Danielle and Annie have all been put on "limited profile" for my facebook and cannot see anything except my name and a nearly blank page.

Ellen lives on my street, like a two minute walk away. She has been in many fights and now I am feeling threatened because in my honesty box on facebook, Kaya threatened that if I went to any bonfires or parties this summer that she would fight me or get other people to. Annie and Danielle are gone for three more weeks, but Ellen and Kaya are so close. In addition, they have all of the "hawks" on their side.

I have just been staying home/inside to avoid conflict and I am sick of this harassment. Please help. =(

Wow, i feel your pain.

In my opinion i think you should completely ignore them...dont talk to them, sit somewhere else at lunch dont even bother looking at them. i think you should have a group of best friends...that to you are "true"..that will always have your back because incase kaya, ellen, danielle or annie try to start a fight with you...you will have not only tracey but a couple of people on your side.

another thing, dont hit them..let them hit you first. you shouldn't hit them back anyways. however, you have the right to tell adminstration or authorities that so and so hit you. you could also press charges, which seems to me you most likely will.

dont stay home and try to "avoid" conflict, your gonna be depressed and bored. no no no! its summer, go out and have the best time. who cares if they hate you. everyone has enemies, don't let them "control" your life. dont be afrarid of them.

let me tell you something.
if you start going out in public and having fun, word will get around to them about it...which is good because then they will be like NO! WHAT?????? like they would be shocked, cause right now they probably think that you are scared of them and your hiding from drama. dont be scared, you have to be the stronger one. dont listen to what anyone has to say, just based your opinions on your best judgement!

hope i helped!

-courtney

have more advice? ask(:

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heyy
can anyone tell me what this song is?

http://www.myspace.com/hbreakerclothing

i've looked everywhere
google, letssingit.com, etc.

if you dont go it goes [here are parts of it]
"im just gunna let my life bleed on this letter"
"ill still love you when im gone"
"teardrops paint the faces"
"let my song sing on forever"


thank you :]

When I'm Gone - The Click Five.

one of there best songs, id say!
(:

hope i helped!
-courtney

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I have 2 best friends. Basically we all hang out together, but now that it's summer we all have separate things going on. So my friend, who i'll call P, has a very paranoid and overprotective mom, who i don't understand one bit. she let her go on a plane trip to a different state for a band trip, but won't let her go to the mall. the other night it was about 7:45 maybe 8:00 and we wanted to go see a movie but her mom said it was too late, but after she was gonna sleep over my house. so instead of a movie we wanted to practically walk up my street to get ice cream, so my friend HAD to call her mom to let her know so of course her mom said no b/c it was too late and was gonna be dark and she didn't want her walking home in the dark. so not only does she limit what she can do, but my other best friend and i. we're 15, and she'll be 15 in august. it's not like we're stupid girls who drink, do drugs/smoke, we're smart. we wouldnt leave each other in the middle of the road or something. her mom is so paranoid and my friend never opposes her mom. she's just like okay mom, instead of mom its not even dark out yet nothing is going to happen! if my mom was like that i'd be soo arguing her. should i talk to my friend about this and what should i do?? thanksss so much.

i think you should talk to her and tell her exactly how you feel about all of this.

if your friend, P, is an only child maybe that is why her mother is so paranoid and over protective. i know what it feels like because i for one am an only child and my mother sometimes does the exact same thing but she gives me my space.

another thing, today's world isnt the "best". many people today get rapped etc. and maybe her mom feels that she doesnt want just the two of you going alone for that reason. i mean, i see 11 or 12...but you guys are 15 or going to be 15 and she should have some freedom.

when your talking to your friend, maybe you should tell her to have a talk with her mom and maybe suggest some boundaries. Like maybe i cant go to the movies past so and so time...etc.

but i think you should definately talk to her.
friendship can get messy, but in the end it will be alright(:

hope i helped.

-courtney

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when you shave your bikini line, are you supposed to shave up or down? idk how to not get red bumps!

think about it-

when you shave your legs, do you shave up or down.
if you shave down then you arent really getting rid of any hair, your just probably hurting yourself.

next time try shaving up to reduce bumps(:

hope i helped.
-courtney!(:

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does anybody know any at home ways to get rid of bags under eyes?

you should be well rested, try to get at least eight hours of sleep a night.

what i do sometimes, is that i put on some coverup and then go over it with a little bit of blush. therefore your eyes stand out more.

(: hope i helped.
-courtney

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so i know this girl and she can be a PIMP most of the time. but i love her to death. she is to preety for me and she is a great dancer. should i be her bff or be her bff?
p.s. you should know who this is =]

i think you should be her bff(:

love you gia!(:

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why isn't it healthy to wash your hair everyday?? i do that and i dont see anything wrong with my hair. i'm just womdering

Washing your hair everyday drys your hair out. Also, something to keep in mind is that, lets say someone in your school gets lice. You have a more likely chance to get lice, because lice like clean hair.

So it would be so much better if you washed your hair every other day or so. Don't last a week without washing it or so because then that is just really disgusting. Because then your hair starts smelling and thats just gross!

Hope I helped!

-Courtney

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i want to cut my hair before school and my mom says i can get it cut tomorrow. but im not sure what cut i want. i would like layers or side bangs but i would like to keep the length of my hair. i have long brown hair, here is a picture of me.
http://i109.photobucket.com/albums/n43/laurenboborenx33/8fdb7fb2.jpg

i would like a cut like mary kate and ashley. (either one in this picture)
http://i109.photobucket.com/albums/n43/laurenboborenx33/mka2003-10_jpg.jpg

Emma Roberts.
http://i109.photobucket.com/albums/n43/laurenboborenx33/img_unf_emm.gif

or Lauren Conrad. here...
http://i109.photobucket.com/albums/n43/laurenboborenx33/LC.jpg

or here...
http://i109.photobucket.com/albums/n43/laurenboborenx33/281x211.jpg

what do you think would be the best cut with my hair type(thick) hair color(brown) and how i style it. (needs to be cute so i can have it down for school but be able to put it in a bun for ballet.) thanks in advance!!!

I think the last URL you gave, would look really good on you.
Also, don't thin out your hair. You have naturally thick hair and if you thin it out, you are going to have pieces friz out like crazy.
I am a dancer, yes ballet too, and I have super thick hair. So, please take this from me.
I wanted to get my hair thined, but my hair dresser refused because of the reason above.

I think layers would look good on you. I don't know about the side bangs though. It depends what shape of face you have for the side bangs to look good. I have an oval shape and I know they won't look good. Google it.

Hope I helped!
-Courtney

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do you think this is a good first day of school outfit?

shirt-
http://www.ae.com/web/browse/product.jsp?rcid=clearance&scid=cat90062&sscid=cat90092&navroot=clearance&productId=1307_3030

skirt-
http://www.ae.com/web/browse/product.jsp?rcid=clearance&scid=cat90062&sscid=cat90104&navroot=clearance&productId=1317_1833

shoes-
http://www.zappos.com/n/p/p/7266940/c/3.html

or

http://www.zappos.com/n/p/dp/8244874/c/147.html

purse-
i couldn't find it on the coach website sooo.. http://item.express.ebay.com/Apparel-Accessories_Womens-Handbags-Bags__NEW-COACH-MINI-SIGNATURE-SOHO-HOBO-HANDBAGS-1461-PINK_W0QQitemZ6870195017QQihZ013QQddnZApparelQ20Q26Q20AccessoriesQQadnZWomenQ27sQ20HandbagsQ2cQ20BagsQQcmdZExpressItem

but it's smaller than that..
also the "ae eagle" is more pink than red.
which shoes should i wear/is it a good outfit?? and i was gonna straighten my hairr.. thanksss ;]

The choice of outfit you picked out it cute, but the purse URL, didn't load for me.
I like the first pair of shoes, way better than the sneakers. Especially since your wearing a skirt. I think converse or flats looked awesome with a skirt.

Hope I helped!

-Courtney

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i got a myspace account a couple days ago. i decided i don't want it anymore.

how do i delete it?

-Go to Account Settings
-Then underneath where it says 'NOTE', you will find buttons that say [view my profile] ; [edit my profile] ; [cancel account].
-click [cancel account]
& follow the directions from there!

Hope I helped!
-Courtney

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Is there a code so i can delete my top friends..??
but people can still look at my friends.?
i don`t like having top friends..but i`d like for people to be able to view my friends..

Yes their is.

Follow these steps:
1) Go to the start menu and click ALL PROGRAMS. Go to where it says ACCESSORIES. Click on NOTEPAD.
2)Now copy and paste this code into NOTEPAD.

table table td.text table td.text table table tbody td table, span.btext {padding: 0px; text-transform: lowercase;}

3)Go to edit my profile and go to your layout code. Scroll towards the end of the code and try to find the code that you pasted in the notepad.

4)Once you find it, replace it with this code:

table table td.text table td.text table table tbody td table, span.btext {display: none !important}

MAKE SURE TO ERASE THE OTHER CODE!!!!

..you might have to look harder for the code because some layout sites don't have it the way I wrote it.

If you are still confused. Just let me know & I'll try to explain better.

Anyways, Hope I helped!

-Courtney


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my pregnant sister is trying to find a unique [maybe exotic] MIDDLE name for her baby girl, so far its between Cache[accent over the e] and chenelle....

the babys name will be Alexis [middle name] Smigelski

does anyone have any suggestions for a middle name?? and please dont say anything like nicole or ashley, NO common stuff

haha sry if im sounding mean but i just would like any suggestions that sound good, you can see our taste in names [chenelle, cache] if that helps so ya thanks, ill rate anyone who at least trys lol

~ xsharpiexlovex

My suggestions:
-Kali
-Bridget
-Diem
-Lilian
-Abagail
-Alejandra
-Aubrey
-Audrey
-Ayanna
-Chloe
-Dakota
-Delilah
-Jazlyn
-Kiley
-Keely
-Layla

..Those are only a few.
Go here for choices, and where I found most of those names.
http://www.babynames.org.uk/baby-girl-names.htm

Hope I helped!
-Courtney

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school is starting soon and i really want to improve my make-up. most girls wear eyeliner in my school and i want to, too. but the thing is, i dont know how to put eyeliner on. i only have pencil eyeliner. some say you lift your bottom eye lid down and then put it righ above the bottom lashes, but when i do that some eyeliner actually goes into my eye!!! so is there anybody that can help me?? where do i put it? above the bottom lashes? or under the bottom lashes? please help!! oh and also... maybe some really cool make-up ideas? add some links if possible! i have brown eyes and brown hair. i dont like the colors green or purple. i like red, blue and pink. thanks!

First of all, thats not how you apply eyeliner.

You pull your bottom eye lid down and apply it right under your eye.
Its really complicated to explain.
You have the idea, but no eyeliner should go in your eye. If it does, your not doing it right.

Go here, for step by step process:
http://www.ehow.com/how_157_apply-eyeliner.html

:D

Also, I would recommend black eyeliner, the pencil kind.
Black Eyeliner looks so pretty with brown eyes.

If you need more help, let me know!
Hope I helped!
-Courtney

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i have been searching everywhere on how to do the "messy bun" hairstyle. i know it is just kind of an "i don't care" bun, but whenever i try to do it it turns out all wrong. here are some examples of what i am talking about:

http://static.flickr.com/20/70657747_16822bbda4_m.jpg

http://i.ivillage.com/cosmopolitan/style/org/articles/hair_you/0905bun.jpg

could someone just give me like step-by step instructions on how to create a messy bun?

thanks!

Well, I do my messy buns like the first link.

This is EXACTLY what I do.
-Part my hair on the left side.
-Then I put it in a pony tail.
-I scrunch it with moose and spray it with hair spray.
-Then I take another hair tie and just wrap it around twice.


When you start getting the hang of this, you can start using 1 hair tie, instead of two.

Also, I would recommend getting the
-Garnier Frutis Style Curl Construct Moose [extra strong]
http://www.garnierfructisusa.com/
also, before you use, shake well!

-Garnier Frutis Style Full Control Hairspray [strong]
http://www.garnierfructisusa.com/

you can find it these products in CVS, Walmart, Target etc.

If you need anymore help. Let me know!
-Courtney

--

yes. twist it around make it messy..don't make it too messy cause then it will look bad.
for me, it just comes natually when you twist it.
try it, and if you need additional help, let me know. i dont mind! :D

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i mostly shop at ae, but now im starting to like hollister. if im a small in shirts at american eagle, what will i be at hollister? like are the sizes different or the same? thanks a lot:]

you would probably be the same size in hollister. But the American Eagle jeans, are bigger than the Hollister ones.

Hope I helped!

-Courtney

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So im gonna get a new cell phone this weekend .. i have verizon. idk which phone to get .. cost really isnt an issue. is the razor good? or the chocolate? i wanna get something reallyyy cool that everyones gonna love. any advice is appreciated

In my opinion, I would get the razr. I like it alot. Especially the blue & pink one!
The chocolate is cool too - just not something I would love to have, like the razr!

Hope I helped! :D

-Courtney

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when you have an eyelash curler and you also use mascara, do you put your mascara on then use the eyelash curler? or use the eyelash curler than put your mascara on?

use the mascara and then the eyelash curler :D

Hope I helped!

-Courtney

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I gave my boyfriend my password to my myspace and then we broke up and he changed my password. How can I find out what the password is? He won't tell me!!!!

Ok.
Well, the only thing that i could suggest is, clicking 'forgot your password'.
and let it send you an email, on your new password.

Next time, don't give anyone your password! :]

Hope I helped!

-Courtney

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i need some new music, i like rock, alternative, indie, the stuff like that. Please give me new bands or non common ones. Becuase i already know of a lot of bands so i need new ones.

Jess

-Cartel
-Plain White T's
-Taking Back Sunday
-Death Cab for Cutie
-Weezer
-Blue October
-Augustana
-Pink Spiders
-Snow Patrol
-Fountain of Wayne
-Five for Fighting
-Ok Go
-Third Eye Blind
-Jimmy Eat World
-Franz Ferdinand
-Foo Fighters
-Oasis
-The Postal Service
-Hellogoodbye
-Halifax
-O.A.R.

Hope I gave you some good songs!
:]
If you need anymore, just let me know!
-Courtney

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