So, me and my boyfriend are deciding to take it to the next step. and we were talking about fingering and handjob but the thing is i get really wet when we do stuff and i feel like he will be grossed out how to i stop myslef from getting really wet or aviding it when it comes to the moment.
I felt the same way before. But, when the time came I couldn't do anything and I wanted to see what his reaction would be. He kept saying 'your so wet' which got me a little embarrassed but then after he told me it actually turns him on because it makes him feel like he's doing a good job. Guys love it, trust me ! :)
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Okay well let me start off to say im 16 years old and I haven't had a boyfriend in two years after I broke up with a guy after a year relationship. The guy he was and usually what I go after is I guess like a jock you can say, but they always end up being a asshole. However, that's the kind of guys my dad like to see me with too. One whose out going, athletic, and all of that kind of traits. I been told that I'm really pretty not trying to sound concieted, but this goes on with my story. Anyhow there's this guy I went out with a few times. His totally not what I'm use too what so ever his more like the nerdy side I guess you can say. He met my parents today and of course I can tell my dad didn't like him so much. I have fun when I'm with him though and maybe being different is a good thing, but at the same time I feel like I can do better. I don't want to lead this kid on though thinking he has a chance which I don't even know if he might. It's kind of like the movie she's out of my league and that's what I keep telling myself. Maybe I should give him a chance, or what?
Let me give you an insight on this.
I'm now 21. I've always dated the jocks too, mostly the hockey players. I've dated college hockey player and even been together with a few pro hockey players. The thing is, they were assholes like you said. I would always be worried if they were cheating on me and wondered if they really liked me or were in it for other reasons. But, I kept going for them because that's my type.
Well this summer, some guys that is NOT my type came along. I wouldn't say he's a nerd, but he's more of a country boy. Right away I thought, definitely not for me. How can we possibly be together when he's not my type and we don't have much in common? Well, little did I know he was the guy that every girl dreams of; everything I've ever wanted in a guy. At first, I was still hesitant but then I knew he was what I deserved. We've been together for 6 months now and I'm honestly the happiest I've ever been. You may be worried what other people think of you because you may be dating a 'nerd' but all that matters is how YOU feel. With that being said, I'd say you should give him a chance. He could be your prince charming.
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Hey(: im 14/f 8th grade. Well for some reason I like boys younger then me and all shorter. I don;t know why. I kinda feel stalkerish or like its wrong but every boy i have dated except for one has been younger than me and shorter. Also today in my class there where these six graders int there for some reason and one was really cute! like attractive, and I just feel odd about liking someone that young. Even with this litle fifth grade boy who is like my best friend rhianons little brother is cute but you know just little boy cute, but people make fun of me saying aww Jenna your gonna marry michael and they make fun of me. I just wonder do you think im wrong for liking boys younger than me not like the little 5th grader i was talking about but likt 2 years younger? Please help Thanks!(:
Hi sweetie! I have always felt this way too. I'm 21 and have always went for the younger guys. People will always judge you, especially going for a guy younger than you. But that's OK :) It's completely fine. I'm dating a guy who is 18 and he's completely perfect for me. You have to ignore what other people say, if you're happy that's all that matters. Find a guy who will treat you right! Xo!
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I don't know what to do with him! I found out from my bff that my bf made a facebook group thing about our relationshp. I went and red a few things on it and it is personal and nothing anybody should know but us so I told him I knew he had a secret he was keeping from me but not what it was so he would tell me or something but he didn't. i kinda thought that he posted stuff and didn't think it was bad and I wanted to give him chances to say so but he just said he didnt have no secrets so i went back to read the rest and he had made it private only so now it is hidden from me.
I guess what I am asking is if he didn't think this was wrong why did he hide it when i found out? He still denies everything and now i got no proof because i cant see it anymore!!! i have been crying about this and i feel betrayed like he has a secret life on facebook or something! should i stay with him if he isn't going to be honest and still hides things?
Sorry if this is too long!
I'm sorry you're going through this. Tell him you know about the facebook page, and see if he confesses then. If he still lies about having it, then you might want to re-think about dating this guy because obviously he is not telling the truth and would be lying right to your face. Give him a chance to confess when you bring it up and if he lies, in my eyes ..you two would be done!! You'd deserve better then that. I hope this helped you come to a conclusion, if you need any other help don't be shy!
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I'm turning 18 in a few months and I'll be a senior, but I've never had a boyfriend or a real kiss... Does that make me lame? I feel stupid sometimes cause my friends that are juniors have gone way further, and I've never done anything...
hey sweetie! :) that definitely doesn't make you lame don't ever think that about yourself! don't worry about what everyone else has done, do what you want to do. so many people look up to me and say they wish they could be more like me because i'm still a virgin, and i'm so proud of that. if your friends ever make fun of you for never having a boyfriend, or not doing anything with a guy they're not real friends. real friends understand. be happy with yourself, a guy will come along ..hey i know it's hard to wait .. because i'm still waiting for a good guy too but the time will come girlie!! if you need anything else, don't hesitate to ask because i've been through it all!!
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there is a girl at school named bethan,beautiful,intelligent and funny.I really think we could go far into a deep relationship....the thing is im not sure if she likes me to well,i mean we flirt alot all day but doesnt every girl do that.If there is anyway you guys could tell me how to tell if a girl likes you or not that'd be GREAT
I'm not gonna lie .. you're right .. bascially all girls flirt with every guy because it's fun .. right? :)
Sucks for the guys though .. but I think I can help you with this one since I flirt a lot but I can be pretty different around the guy I like.
First off .. if a girl comes off as a bit shy around you and like she doesn't know what to say it can mean she likes you.
If she touches you a lot .. like touches your arm when you two are talking, or always gives you hugs and holds you really tight .. could mean she likes you.
If she avoids eye contact with you .. could mean she likes you :) i do this a lot .. we don't want to seem like we're staring at you & this is an obvious sign. OR she could use a lot of eye contact w/you which could also mean she likes you. If she does one or another ALOT, its a good sign.
If she asks you about what type of girls you like, she likes you. When a girl likes a guy, she wants to know what her chances are and how she stacks up against other girls.
If she asks you for help alot, no matter the situation, could mean she likes you.
All these things are good indications that she could like you, unfortunately all girls are different but I think you have a pretty good chance!
If you need anything else, ask! ♥ LU
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hey im 16 and im a male, girls.....this one is for you, is a guy being to nice to you a good thing or a bad thing, nice to a point where hes a real gentleman, opening doors for you, wlaking you to the door step, paying for your ticket and maybe sometimes dinner, depends on the occasion, is that a turn on or turn off about a guy, i thought it was a turn on???
Hey sweetie, it all depends on if your dating this girl or not. I say this because I find it a bit awkward if a guy were to do this if we were not dating, or if I didn't even have feelings for him. I've had guys where they would buy me dinner when we went out with a group, or would do all these sweet things for me .. but it was pretty awkward for me because I had no feelings for the guy. So it was like ohhkay .. well thanks ... you know?
It also may not be a turn on because the girl may think you're being nice just to get in her pants .. trust me us girls think that alot. She may think you're being nice so later she'll hook up with you, which is what you DON'T want us thinking. Because then it's sort of like .. well thanks for being nice .. but what do you want in return now??
IF you're in a relationship, I definitely think this is acceptable and really sweet :) I would love to find a guy who would do that for me, because nowadays there aren't many out there. Has a girl told you she didn't like it for you to be thinking this? If she isn't appreciating this and you two are in a relationship boooy I don't know about her ..
Have any other questions .. let me know! Good luck ♥ LU
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Hello im 18/f and i recently got engaged! I'm so in love and happy its ridiculous. I was trying to find the perfect song to relate to my situation. Just the excitment of planning a wedding and everything. He is going to be gone for a year in afghanistan though but we plan on getting married when he comes back. Any kind of music really, country, pop, hip-hop i like anything :)
Thanks!
EVERYTIME I CLOSE MY EYES! ♥ BABYFACE FT. MARIAH CAREY.
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hey
mm i was just wondering what scents do guys like on girls??I know odd question but i just wonder what would my bf like lol thanks!
all the perfumes i wear .. i literally have like 50! .. all the guys love :)
the ones they like the most are:
PARIS HILTON
RALPH LAUREN: ROMANCE
CALVIN KLEIN
hope this helps. have a good thanksgiving! ♥ LU
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So I'm 17, and I was just wondering if there's a certain way to kiss a boy or a certain place that would drive him crazy ?
i've found a couple things to drive a guy crazy. :)
1. slightly tease him a bit when your kissing which will make him want more. you can start by giving him a little peck kiss and then look at him and smile and then you can start slowly making out with him and then move down his body to his neck .. which is a very sensitive spot for a guy .. and if you want you can go to his stomach .. and so on. it just depends on where you want to go with it.
2. when you really want to make him go crazy; touch the back of his neck, run your hands through his hair and also touch/rub the inside of his thigh.
i hope this was useful. :) if you have any more questions or you need more help; INBOX!! ♥ LU
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I'm 16 years old and I'm female.
My best friend introduced me to this really cute guy and I think I might like him. But the thing is, he's hooked up a few times and I've never kissed anyone. I'm afraid that if something happens between us and he tries kissing me, I'll look stupid and not know what to do. help please !
hey sweetie:) first, you need to calm down! i know how you're feeling. everyone feels like this the first time their about to kiss someone who is more experienced than them. bascially, you can't mess up just kissing someone! now if you're talking about making out, thats a different story. there's really no way to tell you how to make out with someone, it just happens! i remember the first time i made out with a guy .. he was three years older than me. i was a nervous wreck. before i knew it, it was all over and done with and i didn't even think about anything that people had told me about making out. i don't know if your talking about just kissing or making out! but for a peck kiss, it's just like kissing your mom or dad! nothing too hard about that right? now if your talking about an "open mouth" kiss all you had to do is basically suck on his lower lip a little bit, don't be a leech but enough for him to love it ;) you COULD always tell him that you've never kiss anyone before, and he could teach you! honestly, i'm sure he wouldn't care! he'd probably love teaching you .. that way he doesn't have to be worried if you think he's a bad kisser or not because it's your first time! see where i'm getting at? it's all up to you. i hope this helps, if not .. inbox me again! good luck, you'll be alright :) ♥ LU
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So, there is this guy. I really like him- he is a bit older than me and has a son who doesn't live with him. We have hung out a few times, and every time has led to something sexual (but that doesn't seem like it is all he wants from me).
He tells me that he really likes me, and is blowing up my phone when he wants to. But, other times, I will text him throughout the day only to get a couple short responses or none at all. There have been a couple of times when he asked me to hang out and then "fell asleep".
I am wondering what I have done that is making the guys I am interested in lose interest in me. He says he isn't but, something is up.
it's a guy thing. unfortunately us girls have to get use to things like this. i remember when i use to like my best guy friend and he would always be so short with me when he would text me, but then when he wanted something and i wouldnt answer he would keep calling and if i was with friends, he would want me to leave to go hang out with him. they feel like they can demand us around. you can't let this guy do that to you. you can't allow him to know that you can be pushed around like that. i asked my best friend whats wrong with him while he texts, and why he never seems to want to hang out and he said, "nothings wrong:) what are you talking about!? im fine! and i'd love to hangout, but you never text me and ask so i didn't know you wanted to"
this just goes to show guys are confusing. as for the texts, guys are foolish and don't know that they're making girls feel like that. EVERY girl goes through this. they feel like the guy doesn't care when he's texting because he'll be like .. "yeah .. okay .. lol.." but it's just how they text. nothing to be worried over! the thing i did wrong was kept asking what was wrong, what i did and so on..and this pushed him away because really nothing was wrong. if he tells you he isn't losing interest in you.. he's not! i'd lay low on the sexual things for now.. it'd prove even more that he wants you and not just sex! hope this helped. if you need anything else, inbox! ♥ LU
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Okay, So I'm a senior in high school and he's a sophomore. I know its cradle robbing but we are soo much alike and like each other and to me he's pretty mature. But you know guys always put that show on for girls. My question is Do you think anything is wrong with him being younger than me? I do really like him and we hang out. And all my guy friends love him and want me to say yes.
definately go for it! i went through the same thing also. me and this guy were two years apart and at first i was like ... uhhh are people going to be talking about us? it's always weird at first but then things get better, trust me:) i just didn't care! if he makes you happy, go for it. i talked to my mom about it because i was feeling so insecure and she told me some wise words:
"don't let anyone ruin your happiness, if he puts a smile on your face and butterflies in your stomach, thats all that matter. it's your life- nobody else's :)"
that made me feel alot better. after awhile people won't even notice! they'll just be like .. oh you guys are so cute together! and yeaaaah some people may be like how old is he? but you just have to be confident and say he's a sophomore. honestly, people won't care. now if gilrs start talking about you two - it's just because there jealous ;) good luck! if you need anything else, leave it in the inbox. i know what you're going through ♥ LU
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So I have known this boy for 2 years and ever since the moment I met him there has been a connection with him. We flirt literally every time we are together even if one of us is currently seeing someone else. We have so many things and common and always manage to have a good time. We never dated before but we have both talked about how we have always liked each other it has just never worked out. Also he is a huge flirt and goes out with a lot of girls but somehow I feel its different with me because he always seems generally concerned with how I am and never wants to push me to do anything I don't want but I don't know if I really am different or just another girl. I have recently started college and I know I'm young and I'm still going to meet so many people and I have met/am meeting so many new people but I still think about him all the time. I can really see myself being with him possibly forever but have no way of knowing. I don't feel this strongly about any of the other boys I have dated and I am really scared that we will never end up together. The only problem with me realizing all of this now is that he is at school in South Carolina while I am in Boston so it is very inconvenient and I don't know what to do.
ohhhhmygodddd. this is crazy, i am.. or was in the same situation. i basically fell in love with my best friend. me and him have been friends for about 4 yrs now. everytime we were together everyone would ask if we were dating because we would act like it but that was never the case. i felt the same way you do; he acted different towards me. he was a popular guy and everyone loved him but he seemed generally caring towards me and always made sure i was happy. turns out he was doing that for all the other girls i didn't know about :( now i'm not saying this guy is seeing other girls but you just don't know. i don't want to be a downer AT ALl or have you lose faith, but just be sure of possible situations. i think i fell in love with our friendship and thought we could be more by the way he acted towards me but thats how he was being with every other girl too and when i found that out i was crushed. i really do think you should focus on meeting new people and i'm not saying you have to date any of them! you can still keep in contact with that guy, and ask him what he thinks of your guys situation. ask if he could ever see you two being more. ask him how college is going and if he's met alot of new people, girlsss?!!;) think about this.. are you in love with your friendship and knowing that he was always there for you and having that comfort or are you IN love with him? and can see yourself persuing this relationship. the bad thing i always thought about was what if you dated and broke up and it ruined your friendship? although i do hear that the best relationships are those of best friends! if you can't stop thinking about him and don't want him to get away.. you have to talk to him! don't let him ruin your college experience though. you two are in different states so it may now be difficult to have a relationship. if you were to persue a romantic relationship with him would it make things worse with the long distance? think about all of this before you make any moves:) good luck girl! if you need anything else, i'm here! ♥ LU
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18/f
okay, so i've been talking to this guy for a while like since I was 15. He's an amazing guy, he has a great family, my family adores him, and I really honestly love him. Well, he had a girlfriend that he had been dating since before we even met, but he didn't love her & didnt want to be with her but he didnt know how to tell her. He just didnt want to break her heart. Anyway, while he wsa with his ex he spent every day with me, we talked all the time, we even kissed/held hands/etc... a lot. So techinically he cheated on her. They broke up about two weeks ago, and he told me he wanted to be with me but that he was scared to jump into things too soon after breaking up with his ex. Then when he finally did ask me to be his girlfriend he confessed that he was just scared to date me because he knows how college guys can be and he hangs out with girls a lot and didnt want to date me til he knew for sure he wasnt going to be tempted by them.
But now that we're together, the fact that he cheated on his ex is really starting to bother me even though it was my fault too. Now I'm constantly worried that he'll do the same thing to me. He's away at college but he stays with me on the weekends but i'm constantly worried he'll do something to hurt me... Like last night was the beginning of rush week, and he got really drunk and stopped texting me so I have no idea what he was doing... he usually texts me constantly, its not normal for him to just stop. And I know he wasnt sleeping because when I woke up this morning there was a text from about 3 hours after my last text to him. I don't think he'd do anything to hurt me, but it still bothers me because I've been hurt a lot, and he means the world to me. He hangs out with a couple of girls who are party animals & do drugs and stuff and they like to make out in front of my boyfriend and his roommates... thats pretty tempting, dont you think? It just worries me. I fell for him when I was 16 and now I finally have my opportunity to be his girl, I just don't want to screw it up with being the jealous type... its just really hard.
I havent said anything to him because I dont want to come off like that so soon in our relationship, but I also dont want him to think i'm naive or that he can just walk all over me... Any advice for me?
i honestly know how you feel. i liked my best guy friend, and he had a girlfriend of three years; talk about committment. turns out they ended up breaking up and he tried getting with me. he's a really cute guy don't get me wrong which is why i was really insecure. he would always flirt with other girls in front of me and so i would confront him asking if he liked them and he always said no. well i continued to see this happening so i kept bringing it up; turns out it only pushed him away. if you were to keep being jealous and thinking these things and if you were ever to bring it up with him more than once, he will start to feel annoyed that you don't trust him. i know this because thats how my best friend felt. the only thing you can do is believe that your boyfriend will do no wrong and do nothing to hurt you. you could bring it up with him saying how you feel so insecure but if he reassures you that everythings going to be okay, beleive it. don't keep nagging him about it. most girls do have those feelings though, it is common. we just love something and we are paranoid it's going to be taken away from us by something better that comes along. but he's with you right NOW right :) guess you must be doing something right sweetheart! good luck, don't make the same mistake i did. ♥ LU
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I have a problem where I get attached to boys very easily, if I am talking to them a lot or hook up with them and then it randomly stops I get extremely upset. It's to the point where I'm scared to even start anything with a boy because I know I'll end up getting hurt from it eventually. So there is this boy who just graduated and is now in college who I met and he was trying to hook up with me, but his ex-girlfriend is extremely jealous and said she wanted to beat me up so I told him I couldn't do anything. He told someone he was really into me and they gave him my number, and he kept acting like he liked me this whole night. Then he texted me and we've been talking through texting, on the phone or on facebook atleast twice a day for like 2ish weeks. We both really like taking to each other and I'm worried because I think I"m gunna start liking him, If I already don't. The reason I know that I've become attached is because the other night he was home for the weekend and we were supposed to hang out, we were both at the same place and he was texting me telling me to come hang out with him. We said hi to eachother once but I'm all paranoid about people knowing we're talking because I don't want to get beat up, so I told him I couldn't hang out with him in front of everyone. So then he didnb't know I was watching him, but i saw him leave with his ex-girlfriend and I saw them holding hands and stuff. I texted him and said something about how he lied and then he told me that she kissed him..I wasl ike um wtf? I thought you were just holding hands. Then my friend told me she heard someone say they were going out again. So i flipped shit because the whole time that we had been talking he always said he didn't like her at ALL and that she was obsessed with him and follows him around and stuff, which I know can be true to a point but that night I felt like he was giving some back. So I was being so mean and saying I can't beleive how many times he lied to me and stuff like that. I drank soooo much that night (until I passed out )because I felt completely used and screwed over and i was drunk texting him that night and he was claiming they were nothing, but he was being an ass which he usaully isn't. So the next day I was still upset and tried to admit to myself that we were done and he sent me a really long message on facebook saying sorry and how they aren't together at all she still really likes hiim though. I was really mean in my message back and was explaining how I'm not just someone to hook up with, I'm not a booty call, I'm not thek ind of girl you can have on the side while you have a girlfriend and he was like omg i know i never ever thought that i really like takling to you and then we had like a normal conversation, so i guess we're giong to keep talking. But i KNOW this is bad idea. but the thing about me is i like having a boy to talk too, and i have no one right now except him. How can i continue this and prevent before-hand me getting hurt in the end? cause i know i'm going too, I just want to prevent my sadness now instead of when it happens.
i know exactly how you feel girl! i had the same problem. i liked my best friend and he made me feel like i was the only girl he had feelings for, turns out he was hanging out with 2 other girls too, saying he likes them. BULLSHIT. i had a big talk with him, and we decided that it would be best if we just stayed best friends. it's bad enough feeling jealous and down all the time about guys. of course we still flirt all the time, but thats the furthest it goes. i'd suggest you do the same. back off from him for a little bit, and i'm sure he'll come running back to you:)! like my friend said .. "he knows he's hot, so he's going to go running around trying to hook up with all these girls because he knows he can" and i realized she was right. i wasn't going to be another girl that he KNEW he could have. not that easy! don't give it up to him, tease him a little bit but not too much where he may get annoyed and just move on. you have to stay strong! if you need any other help, i'm always here! i've been through these situations too many times. good luck hun ♥ LU
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name:shelly
age:16
gender:female
my boyfriend && i have been together since 8th grade. but kinda off && on ish situations. 8th grade we were fine. we were together the summer,then high school started. freshman year we were good. wherent together that summer. sophmore year we were off && on the whole year. wherent together that summer. now june 28th @ my birthday party (not my actual birthday) he asked me out again. its summer now but were going into school together as a couple again. we do not go to the same schools anymore. he goes to a tech school && i go to a public school. he is my everything && we have been threw so much together. on our anniversary we got together @ my house i spent all day cooking his favorite foods (spaghetti && meatballs && also taco flavored stuffed shells) i set up outside on a small swing that i have on my porch i put a blanket there so that after we were done eating we could cuddle up together, i had a candle && drink cupz it looked wicked cute all set up! when he came to the swing he saw everything && looked @ me && said everything was amazing && he gave me flowers! he looked @ me && said i appriciate everything you have done for me but im not really that hungry im sorry babe. it was okay that he wasnt hungry but i still felt like shit cuz i was cooking all day, i ended up crying infront of him cuz i didnt know what to do, it hurt me i guess. but it was okay i stopped crying && we just cuddled && talked. it ended up turning out good. now im thinking ahead for next month on what i should do ? anything you can think of?
- thankyou for everything!
awh your such a good girlfriend! that idea was really good (:
anyways i'm guessing you don't want to do the whole food thing again. you could buy him something that will be meaningful to him. i'm not sure what he's into but if he likes sports you could buy him tickets to his favorite team! you could buy him a hat, you could get him a necklace.
one of my good friends did a scavenger hunt for her boyfriend, making him go to different places and then at the end she was standing there with tickets to a concert. it was really cute! you could also have a jar and then put a bunch of notes into there saying things you love about him, quotes that remind you of him, memories you two have together and have him take one out each day and read it.
this involves food, but i think it would be really cute! you could go to a beach or lake or something of that sort, depends on where you live! but bring a blanket and go when the suns about to set and have a little picnic and you can bring candles too!
you two could go somewhere during the day, maybe the zoo or something like that and then at night go somewhere romantic where you can watch the sunset together!
it all depends on what you and your boyfriend like to do. if you don't like any of these ideas leave another question in the inbox saying what you two like to do and maybe i can get a better understand and come up with a better idea!(:
♥ LU
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I'm having a difficult time letting go of my ex. Its been a year since we broke up, but I still love him even though we were mostly just a summer fling and weren't a serious relationship. Now he likes one of my best friends and they're trying to have a relationship. I'm trying to be supportive but it's really taking a toll on me. Its one of the hardest things I've ever had to do.
Well...I've pretty much given up on him coming around and liking me again. I just don't see it happening. But I still love him and can't get over him and I don't know why.
Surprisingly, my question isn't about how to get him back or how to get over him. I mean if you have some advice for that, then I'm definitley open minded to it. But what I'm really looking for is some quotes I might be able to relate to. I love reading quotes that make me feel like I'm not the only one feeling this way. Thanks for your help!
i'm done with blaming myself for something that wasn't even my fault. i'm done with thinking i'm not good enough for you, because the truth is:
you're not good enough for me
you let go, so now its my turn. i can accept that, but when i find happiness, don't decide you love me
i look into his eyes, and i see that same boy i fell in love with, and even though things have changed, i still love you
i'll wait for the day when i forget who you are,
when the sound of your name is old & worn. the days when i forget why i needed you so bad.
don't feel stupid for missing him; even if he treated you like shit. you still had happy memories, & you're always going to miss them...don't try to replace him- because you won't. just get through each day, & eventually it'll get better. i promise. eventually someone will come into your life, & whether or not you realize it, they're going to be something special to you. so don't throw yourself at every guy you see, trying to replace him, or at least the dull memories because you're only going to make yourself see how hard he is to replace. someone better will eventually come along.
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so, im 17/m, my girlfriend (17 too) and I have been going out for almost a year and 3 months now. She's my first girlfriend, but really love her.
A few weeks ago we were on our way back from some back-to-school shopping in the city and she asked me how I felt about having a girlfriend when i was in college, (we're planning on going to different colleges next year and she wasn't sure how to feel either). I freaked out, had a meltdown and told her all kinds of things i had thought about, but never acted on. Like how she's my first girlfriend and how I wasnt 100% sure of how strongly I loved her, since I havent been with anyone else. After getting back to her house, we talked some more and cried alot and decided to just be friends for a while.
I got home, felt terrible and didnt sleep at all that night. I still loved her, she never did anything that annoyed me or made me love her any less. I texted her how horrible I felt that morning and we decided to meet and talk that night.
We were back together again within 24 hours. I had never felt better. Instead of leaving her house crying, i practicaly skipped to my car and happily waved goodbye to her as i drove away. I thought we were all better.
That was a few weeks ago, and now she's telling me that she's afraid to love me because i hurt her feelings when we broke up. She did the same thing when we started going out because her last boyfriend broke up with her and made her feel terrible. Ive been working as hard as i can, spending as much time as i can with her. I guess i cant really blame her because i freaked out so badly, but i want to make us work again!
I'm running out of energy trying to love her and getting no love back. Last night she gave me a handjob and wouldnt even look me in the eyes. i felt so detached...
Is there any way to fix what we have? or was our relationship doomed all along since she's my first? What can i say or do so that she knows i love her even though ive never had anything else?
i know exactly what you're going through. because i put my boyfriend through the same thing.
we all get scared off at times, i think you just freaked out on her because you LOVE her so much, and are scared of the possibility of losing her.
don't break up just because you think that nobody stays with their first love. it does happen. love her unconditionally, treat her like a princess. she does have her guard up though. i'm sure she had it up when she first started dating you, and then slowly let it down but after you broke up with her, it wen't back up again and showed her how vulnerable she really is and how quickly something can be taken away from you that you really love.
give her all the attention like you're doing. she's a girl, we all take time to heal. you hurt her, she is going to be a little sour towards you. talk to her, ask her what you can do to be close again. tell her how you're feeling, let it alllll out on the table boy.
i wouldn't ask her to be doing anything sexual right now. i would work on other things. you can buy her flowers (: we all love those. take her out to dinner. just sit there and cuddle with her and tell her you won't let anything happen to her because she means so much to you.
look her in the eyes and tell her you love her. just be there for her. i know it might get old, but like i said it will take time for her to let her guard down. but it will happen.
good luck! if you need anything else, don't be afraid to come back! ♥ LU
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So me and my really close guy friend used to have a thing and he kinda told me he just wanted to be friends.
Now ,we are extremely close. we hangout everyday,we talk all the time and he kinda makes sexual gestures toward me,and talks about us hooking up...we haven't though since we stopped "talking".
But I still really like him,and we are like best friends but it feels like more to me.
what should i do?
I'm scared to talk to him about it because i don't want him to stop being my friend...
I was considering maybe actually taking his "hookup talk" more seriously and see how that goes.
help!
i'm in a similar situation.
i like my best friend. now he hasn't told me he just wants to be friends but i think he wants to be more of.. friends with benefits.
i kept going back and forth thinking about everything. if i did something with him, that's all we'll ever be. i'll want to be more and he will just want sex.
if i didn't we can still be best friends. and we are. we're closer than ever and we haven't done anything.
i wouldn't do anything sexually with him, if thats what you were thinking. but i would still continue being friends. you don't want to lose him :) i always say, "if he can't be my boyfriend, i still need him as my best friend!"
i hope this helped, if you need anything else, ask away! ♥ LU
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